Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[VainDoll]

How do i cheer up my bf na burn out sa work?

[nixiquita]

^youre the one who should know that, youre the gf. hehe kidding

most guys would probably tell you that a good massage leading to great sex, would do it. haha

[VainDoll]

^ thank you! We thats a nice advice! Last week kasi ako yung puro rant sa work. Siya naman this week. Though pareho kami work diff place lang kami. Tama, next time we see each other as much as possible di na namin pagusapan.

^^ sis haha! Oo sex naman talaga pang pawala ng stress lol

Gusto ko sana siya dalan ng food or isurprise sundo, ang toxic lang pumunta sa Makati nakakaiyak magcommute haha! Magkaiba pa kami ng shift kaya effort kaming dalawa magkita.

[simang]

How do i cheer up my bf na burn out sa work?

Ahh, my boyfriend is almost always burned out sa trabaho. Never naman sya nagrarant sa akin about it but i make it a point na pag magkasama kami we never talk about work, or kung may kwento sya, makikinig lang ako, konting follow up questions and that's it, happy thoughts a ulit. Normally i'd ask kung anong gusto nya for dinner and dessert, mga ganun, tas yun ipeprepare ko when he comes over.

Depende din how your bf is eh, pero usually pag gusto nila magrelax, gusto nila yung totally relaxed talaga yung tipong walang gagawin tatambay lang.

[VainDoll]

^thank you sis! Hindi ko naisip yan sis na iwasan pagusapan ang work pag magkasama kami. My bad! Anyway, hopefully next time pag nagkita kami i'll be able to make him feel better naman.

[nixiquita]

sa ex ko, nagdadala ako food para di na niya need magluto or prepare. then magdadala din ako movies na pwede namin panuorin together. syempre pati yung snacks namin while watching dala ko na rin. hehe

[Miss.Pancake]

Ako dinadala ko siya sa mga favorite places namin na kainan or tambayan. Tapos nililibre ko siya. Pero pinaka fave niya pag nabuburnout siya is to have wine with me

[sacred cow]

Well to be fair, no one imposes to us girls na pagtyagaan ang mga lalaking malalaki ang tyan. That's actually our decision to stick with them. Ibig sabihin we can also decide na 'magsawa' once hindi na sila kasing attractive nung simula. For guys, mas pinipili lang nila the latter. So it's not really a double standard thing. Magkaiba lang talaga ang pinapahalagahan ng mga lalaki at babae, so you can't really say na one standard is also applicable to the other. Kase to begin with, men and women are different.

this! kala naman kasi ng ibang babae lugi sila pagdating sa ganun..eh bakit madami rin namang babae na kahit walang kwenta ugali pero pinagtiyatiyagaan ng lalake dahil lang sa maganda itsura

[jtansanco]

How do i cheer up my bf na burn out sa work?

Cook him dinner. Give him a long passionate kiss unexpectedly to pump up his adrenaline and tell him how much you love him... Wait, I think I watch to much movies.. Haha

[summerchic]

How do i cheer up my bf na burn out sa work?

Give him a massage sis or mag mini getaway kayo for the weekend 

[killbill]

Ano ba pwede naming gawin mga girls pag ang significant other eh nababawasan na ang effort / sweetness kasi busy sa work / hobby na hindi kami nagmumukhang nagger?

[simang]

Ano ba pwede naming gawin mga girls pag ang significant other eh nababawasan na ang effort / sweetness kasi busy sa work / hobby na hindi kami nagmumukhang nagger?

Let me share to you sis what works for me and my guy. My guy usually is very stressed sa work. Kanina lang while we were facetiming he asked if he can sleep already since inaantok na sya. We were only talking for less than 5 mins siguro tapos crappy signal pa. I told him okay, rest well, we said our goodnights and then hung up. Normally when that happens, i let him have his alone time. What I appreciate very much is that when i let him have his way like that, without me being all praning and tantrum-y, he would usually get back to me with more affection. He'd even say thank you for not getting mad kahit halos di na kami nakapagusap. Tapos ayun, once okay na sya back to normal na kami and i never bring any nega vibes up.

Naimagine ko lang if i was my old self, i'd probably throw tantrums pag sinabi nya na matutulog na sya after 5mins of talking. Hahaha.

I forgot where i read this one but it said that men don't respond to nagging. They respond to no contact. So siguro magpamiss ka lang din ng konti instead of confronting him about your issues. Haha. maybe it will work

Also, when you really want to confront him about him as in tell him your issues verbally, say positive things. Instead of saying "di mo na ko tinetext like before", say something like "you make me smile when you text me". You're meaning the same thing -- na gusto mo magtext kayo, pero the approach is different. Mas may meaning sa lalaki kapag you appreciate the things he does or can do instead of telling them what they don't or can't do

[killbill]

^ why men love bitches sis 😉

[Miss.Pancake]

Really? men love b*tches? I thought they just get easily attracted to them Or bitches touches them first then Good girls get them last.

[simang]

^^oh there. Ahaha now i remember.

^in the book, a 'b****' was defined not in the literal sense

[killbill]

B babe
I in
T total
C control of
H herself

[nixiquita]

^^^^^gustong gusto ko yung shinare ni sis simang dami ko napulot na lessons. sana kasing mature mo rin ako hehe

[Miss.Pancake]

B babe
I in
T total
C control of
H herself

^^oh there. Ahaha now i remember.

^in the book, a 'b****' was defined not in the literal sense

Oh okay. now i get it and now i remember. haha

[killbill]

Thanks sis simang.

[Girltalker2]

Let me share to you sis what works for me and my guy. My guy usually is very stressed sa work. Kanina lang while we were facetiming he asked if he can sleep already since inaantok na sya. We were only talking for less than 5 mins siguro tapos crappy signal pa. I told him okay, rest well, we said our goodnights and then hung up. Normally when that happens, i let him have his alone time. What I appreciate very much is that when i let him have his way like that, without me being all praning and tantrum-y, he would usually get back to me with more affection. He'd even say thank you for not getting mad kahit halos di na kami nakapagusap. Tapos ayun, once okay na sya back to normal na kami and i never bring any nega vibes up.

You brought up a good point sis. Napansin ko din ito now, na medyo mature nako. OK lang if he is tired/sleepy. LDR din kami now for a couple of weeks because of work.

And ang closing ko sa kanya is - "Ok, will let you sleep as it is already kinda late. Good night my love, rest well, etc etc I miss talking to you.  Miss you. "  hehe  Haba ng mga good nights haha   

Naimagine ko lang if i was my old self, i'd probably throw tantrums pag sinabi nya na matutulog na sya after 5mins of talking. Hahaha.

I guess this goes with age or practice?  I really don't know, in my case, it probably goes with age. May times kasi na marami akong gusto sabihin, di ko naman masabi lahat. Pero by the time na magkita na kami, makakalimutan ko na. So minsan ang hirap. Most especially kung LDR kayo. But one has to learn how to control. But then again, kapag nagkita naman kayo, di naman maubos ang pag uusapan ninyo, nakauwi ka na at lahat, ang dami mo parin tinetext sa kanya 

Kahit kapag may arguments kayo.  Sometimes it is best to stay calm,  kahit marami kang gusto sabihin, best to remain silent until you cool down yourself para di naman sobrang mga masasakit na salita ang mabitawan mo.