Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[kukii]

Sis haba naman ng hair mo. Ikaw na!

Ayaw mo na ba sa kanya? 

HAHAHA hindi naman napadami lang siguro yung gayumang napainom ko sakanya dati chos.
Shempre andun pa din yung feelings hindi naman in just 2 months wala na agad, hindi ko lang alam kung makikipagbalikan pa ko o hindi na. Nakakalito kasi parang sudden change of heart si kuyey biglang andyan na ulit 

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ The bigger question in my head is... why did you even break up with the dude to begin with? You must have good reason, otherwise, you're clearly in a tight spot. Kasi if talagang you put your foot down na tapos na, di ka na sana nagbobother to find out what his recent gestures mean. Parang you want it to mean something. So what do you want ba talaga?

[kukii]

^Nakapagdecide na ko na papanindigan ko nalang yung break up. Baka nga tama si Miss.Pancake na nasanay lang siya sa ganon kaya biglang paramdam siya. Thanks for replying though

[Miss.Pancake]

@kukii - decided ka na ba dyan sis? Sweet sweet naman pala ng BF mo.

[melle17]

^Nakapagdecide na ko na papanindigan ko nalang yung break up. Baka nga tama si Miss.Pancake na nasanay lang siya sa ganon kaya biglang paramdam siya. Thanks for replying though

sis eh what if naman he really wants you back? don't you think he deserves another chance? i believe you should talk to him muna then decide from there if you really want to ditch him with finality...

just my opinion...

[nixiquita]

^its either napressure siya at nakulitan OR yung sinabi mo ngang siguro hindi wife materiak si gf sakanya, so escape agad nung nabring up yung topic.

may mga ganung guys kasi magisip, gf material lang si gf but not pangkasal or pangwife talaga.

[slickchick]

^ so ang follow up question sis (and to the other sis and bros here), what makes a woman wife material or gf material lang?

[nixiquita]

Depends on the guy. His needs, his lifestyle, his situation. Depende talaga. Ive knows guys talaga na wala naman balak asawahin yung gf, just gf. This is a little more prevalent on younger couples.

[Miss.Pancake]

Depends on the guy. His needs, his lifestyle, his situation. Depende talaga. Ive knows guys talaga na wala naman balak asawahin yung gf, just gf. This is a little more prevalent on younger couples.

I totally agree. Some women and men alike don't like commitments nowadays. They say they're trying to be practical lang? Whatever the reason behind it, they truly exist.

[VainDoll]

May kilala akong ganyan. They've been together since college. Si guy naman seryoso kay girl. Kaya lang si girl makulit na 1 yr na nagpaparinig ba gusto na nya magsettle down. Si guy naman medyo parang di pa ready nasa YOLO stage pa. Ayu nakipagbreak si girl. Si guy naman depress depress pero parang wala namn siya balak na magpropose para magkabalikan sila. Siguro 4 years na sila

[jtansanco]

@purple princes - I doubt any girl can adjust to my lifestyle. I'm good at what I do when I'm alone so getting a girlfriend is a slim chance these days. I tried in the PH and TW but found no one. Might as well try finding one here. Haha

@little princess - I didn't say I like her! She was the one who assumed! Hahaha! She'll always be a jail bait. Btw, her parents are so strict! HAHA XD

[budzwhiz]

Bat ganyan kayong mga lalake? Kayo na nga ang nagkamali, pero dahil kami ang nagreact ng hindi maganda, kami pa rin ang mali.

[Miss.Pancake]

^hahaha! Dami kong tawa sa tanong na yan. Yan din tanong ko palagi. Dahil nagreact ako mali na ako agad. Ako pa dapat magsorry kasi nagreact ako sa maling ginawa niya. Kaloka. hahaha

[jtansanco]

^ Cuz guys in general don't like being "wrong" or I think it's like that for everyone. Accepting guilt is just no so manly..

[little_princess]

^^^because guys don't like it when girls are "palengkera" or "nagger" and if the approach is not good, it constitutes to that.

^ WTF? You told me you liked her! Bugged me throughout my honeymoon about her details hahaha and she's not a jailbait anymore!!

[nixiquita]

i have a question for guys:

why are boys sonattracted to girls they cant have? i mean, they sort of put these girls on a pedestal and daydream about her all day long and regard as their dream girl slash perfect girl. its like their adoration and reverence is of another level.

connected to this, why do guys tend to love girls "more" kapag hindi sila ganon kamahal ng babae? when the girl is obviously hands down so inlove and so smitten sa guy, the guy would exert so little effort na lang to show the love. but when the girl is a little more independent and not so showy sa affection, the guy would act alot sweet and thoughtful.

is that how it really should be? hayaan ang lalake mageffort at magsumamo? tas si girl chill lang?

although i know its supposed to be a give and take scenario, or yung balanced lang. But ive seen this happen and still see this happening alot around me. When the girl is not so sweet and malambing, mas mahal siya ng lalake at mas maeffort and all. Pag si girl ang maeffort, si guy ang chill at kampante. WHY?

[simang]

^i guess that's just how men are naturally wired. They like the chase, so if a girl is all over him already, it lessens the fun, and usually that's what guys are after -- fun and excitement. Kung wala yun, expect him to be bored.

Ako i believe that a man is willing to do everything to make his girl happy -- bring her to dates, surprise her, those romantic stuff. Pero once ang babae na ang gumagawa ng lahat ng yan, the guy will feel less manly. Kase that's his job eh. That's her role as the man in the relationship. If you do manly stuff for him (pay during dates, bisitahin sya sa bahay, give him bonggang gifts), he will feel na less na ang responsibility nya sayo.

If you treat your man like a man, he will return the favor and treat you like a woman. He will shower you with attention, with love, with chivalrous stuff. Ganun lang yun. Let the men do their job. Our role is to appreciate them. And the more we do that, mas gaganahan sila to act more manly for us.

[nixiquita]

^so i guess thats how it really is then.

[simang]

^also, a guy friend told me before na pag nararamdaman nya na masyado na clingy at effortful gf nya sa kanya, she comes off as "desperate". Mas lumalabas ang insecurities, so yeah, turn off.

Some girls kase feeling nila that being all over their guy, spending ALL their time with them, and giving them literally everything will make them stay. Most of the times it's the opposite that happens eh. Guys would eventually feel smothered and less manly.

[jtansanco]

i have a question for guys:

why are boys sonattracted to girls they cant have? i mean, they sort of put these girls on a pedestal and daydream about her all day long and regard as their dream girl slash perfect girl. its like their adoration and reverence is of another level.

connected to this, why do guys tend to love girls "more" kapag hindi sila ganon kamahal ng babae? when the girl is obviously hands down so inlove and so smitten sa guy, the guy would exert so little effort na lang to show the love. but when the girl is a little more independent and not so showy sa affection, the guy would act alot sweet and thoughtful.

is that how it really should be? hayaan ang lalake mageffort at magsumamo? tas si girl chill lang?

although i know its supposed to be a give and take scenario, or yung balanced lang. But ive seen this happen and still see this happening alot around me. When the girl is not so sweet and malambing, mas mahal siya ng lalake at mas maeffort and all. Pag si girl ang maeffort, si guy ang chill at kampante. WHY?

It's the chase.. It's the challenge.. It's like trying to achieve a goal.

It's the same with money. Would you be happy earning P50k/month vs P500k/month? Would a guy like me be happy going for a "common" girl vs a "dream" girl? It's normal to put a higher standard/bar because it makes us work harder for it.