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insanelypurpleprincess

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #180 on: July 23, 2014, 02:27:59 pm »

^ He's way too picky for his own good. And he like my shobe's friend but jail bait pa that time.. But now she isn't anymore! Too bad they live in 2 different countries.


At least he's consistent on that end. Heard about the same thing, too... jtansanco being too picky (with good reason naman, I believe!). Wow! She's now ready, so hopefully, ito na! I am sure he's more than ready to do another cross Atlantic move, if ever!

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Miss. Pancake: I think, the point there is, only walk away when you mean it. IF and WHEN a guy knows that you don't just walk away for a dramatic effect and I am sure you will be taken seriously. However, when walking away seems to be the regular stipend, for sure it will backfire!

slickchick

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #181 on: July 23, 2014, 02:33:07 pm »
@sacred cow: srsly? you just walk away? just like that? wow.

Kunwari sa rel, it gets really complicated, tas on the verge of break up na talaga. tas the girl initiates it, ofcourse halfheartedly (yes, some girls talaga stupid at impulsive. truth is, napapalambing lang at nagjijinarts). you just walk away just like that? i believe kasi, if the gf is just so-so, talagang wala lang sa guy. kayang kaya talaga iwan at kalimutan. but what if mahal mo talaga and you think (eto corny) shes the one, titiisin niyo parin to save your egos and pride.. still walk away to avoid the mala john lloyd drama? seryoso talaga? ganun?

one more thing, medyo prevalent kasi yung ganyang attitude sa boys, that girls never unberstand.. you think may instances din na when theyre finally alone, nagreregret ang boys sa pagwwalk away nila at nalet go nila yung girl (assuming na talaga namang mahal niya at importante sa kanya). kasi kahit andami daming girls diyan sa paligid, naniniwala naman akong hindi lahat parepareho, may times din bang maiiyak yun or mababaliw (hehe) sa pagkamiss sa babae o mabobother if nakamove on na ba si girl or may iba na or kung depressed na at ano na ginagawa. may mga instances bang ganyan sa buhay ng isang lalake?

or masyado ako nagpapaniwala sa mga novels at movies? Haha

sis nixiquita, if i may just join the conversation, perhaps what sacred cow is trying to address is your point na the girl wants a breakup just because of her being impulsive and yung nagpapalambing/nagpapahabol lang... i'm also a girl and i'm aware of this tactic..  ;) kaya lang, if we ladies really love our men and want to solve a relationship problem, it might be a better solution if we discuss the problem openly/head-on with our guys in a diplomatic and level-headed manner of course... hindi yung magda-drama din tayo and initiate a false half-hearted breakup which could backfire on us and which we would later regret... when you do walk-away and initiate a break up be sure you are decided on it, hindi yung nagpapahabol lang tayo.. now if we are willing to discuss the problem (instead of initiating a false break up) but the guy is not willing to cooperate, that is a different issue.. it takes two to tango and same holds true in a relationship... just my opinion sis...  :)
« Last Edit: July 23, 2014, 02:36:21 pm by slickchick »

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #182 on: July 23, 2014, 02:34:22 pm »
honestly I dunno..pero sa tingin ko hindi pareho kasi hindi naman usually nananakot ang guys na makipagbreak nang hindi seryoso/fully decided, gawain ng babae yung ganun..kung lalake ka at magiinitiate ka nang break up, panindigan mo. though initiating 'no contact' is good for both sexes to 'move on' not a move to get your ex back

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #183 on: July 23, 2014, 02:37:03 pm »
slickchick nailed it :)

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #184 on: July 23, 2014, 02:53:39 pm »
actually i dont do it naman. Kasi belief ko rin, hindi masosolve ang problema ng paggiveup at break agad. Actually its my guy, his typical line is "Tama na, kawawa ka na, dami mo na reklamo" which i know now is just a sugarcoated way of him just wanting to leave na. :p dun kasi talaga ako badtrip, kasi andali dali for him bitiwan lahat at magwalkaway.

atlhough yung drama re pahabol palambing ng girls, common talaga. guilty din talaga ako, except sa break up, kasi ibang level na yun. Siguro in a joking way, oo, i do it. But more of pangkulit or asar lang like "Pag di mo ko binilhan ng icecream, break na tayo!" Ganon. Haha!

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #185 on: July 23, 2014, 03:08:14 pm »
so, why do you think he wants out na?

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #186 on: July 23, 2014, 03:20:43 pm »
Ako? Youre asking me? Hehe.

if ako, i think id list several reasons.
-clingy ako at needy, i always want to be with and talk to him. Cant help it, siya stress reliever ko
-madami daw ako demands at expectations na impossible, napepressure siya. Actually, minomotivate ko lang magwork siya at magsikap. Although sometimes harsh nga ako. Kasi di umeepek yung simple motivation lang
-mareklamo ako at maarte daw. Mga mababaw na rants lang naman
-hindi siya open at legal sa side ng family ko :(
-selosa ako at posessive but not in a paranoid way naman, more of nagpapalambing levels lang
-cinocontrol ko yung vices niya, i want him to lessen his drinking and yosi and pagmumura. --Hence, nababawasan din time niya with friends. Icocompare niya kasi nung single siya, eh malamang kasi may gf na siya
-ayaw ko sa ibang friends niya, mga BI kasi at userfriendly, inaabuso lang siya
-ang kulit kulit kulit ko

there syempre in the long run, naiipon. Nakakasakal.

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #187 on: July 23, 2014, 03:58:12 pm »
Naisip ko nga sis ^ maybe in the future, when id read that post/list again id be so disgusted with myself.. Why i put up with all that sh!t for years and why i allowed myself to be treated that way.

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #188 on: July 23, 2014, 04:19:29 pm »
^wow ibang level!!!! Totoo pala mga ganyan! TBH, i know i have a possesive-stalker streak din in me, pero mild na mild compare diyan! Haha

Kasi once natry ko ma yung casually mapadaan kuno sa tapat ng place ni guy at night to check out what hes up to.

kukii

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #189 on: July 23, 2014, 05:59:20 pm »
Question:

I recently broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. Hindi siya yung John Lloyd type na hahabulin ka. Yung pakikipagbreak ko sakanya decided na and hindi para magpahabol or magpalambing lang.

He never contacted/texted/visited/called me from that day (which is what I expected from him) until just yesterday biglang nag text ng "Kumain ka na ba? Eat on time :)" mga ganyan pati kumpleto pagbati mula umaga hanggang gabi like what he used to do nung kami pa. Hindi ko pa nirereplyan diretso delete lang. Anong ibig sabihin neto?

simang

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #190 on: July 23, 2014, 08:17:55 pm »
Ako? Youre asking me? Hehe.

if ako, i think id list several reasons.
-clingy ako at needy, i always want to be with and talk to him. Cant help it, siya stress reliever ko
-madami daw ako demands at expectations na impossible, napepressure siya. Actually, minomotivate ko lang magwork siya at magsikap. Although sometimes harsh nga ako. Kasi di umeepek yung simple motivation lang
-mareklamo ako at maarte daw. Mga mababaw na rants lang naman
-hindi siya open at legal sa side ng family ko :(
-selosa ako at posessive but not in a paranoid way naman, more of nagpapalambing levels lang
-cinocontrol ko yung vices niya, i want him to lessen his drinking and yosi and pagmumura. --Hence, nababawasan din time niya with friends. Icocompare niya kasi nung single siya, eh malamang kasi may gf na siya
-ayaw ko sa ibang friends niya, mga BI kasi at userfriendly, inaabuso lang siya
-ang kulit kulit kulit ko

there syempre in the long run, naiipon. Nakakasakal.

As I was reading your posts re: this partner of yours, it seems like you never really understood what your guy needed in the relationship. You may say you loved him completely, pero based sa complains nya about you, you are trying to make him into someone you want to love and be with. Posible kase na oo, gusto mo sya, pero may idea ka of this one person who you think is best to love, and dahil gusto mo sya, you tried to make him fit your idea of a partner. I know you know that's not healthy. Pwede mo sabihin gusto mo lang sya mag improve, pero you can never really impose change to anyone. Kahit na maganda ang intentions mo, to make him better, na magsikap sya, na wag sya magbisyo, lalo sya magreresist if pinipilit mo syang baguhin lahat yan. Lalo na kase nararamdaman na he's no good kung ipapaalala mo sa kanya everytime na indeed, he's no good. Kahit naman yata sino, mapupuno sa ganyang sistema.

Also, try to put yourself in your guy's shoes. If he tells you to stay away from your friends, just because they's influencing you negatively, how would you feel? Imagine being friends with them your whole life and then suddenly someone asked you to stay away from them. You know your friends better. In your case, hindi kaya nagiging judgmental ka lang sa mga kaibigan nya?

Also, as a supportive woman, you don't take away the life of your man so he can spend time with you. Natawa ako sa statement mo -- eh malamang kase may gf na sya. Now that is just mean and irrational. Bago kayo nagkakilala, may buhay sya without you. Don't expect him to leave all that just because you're together. Being in a relationship with you is going to be an expansion of his life, of his experiences. You're never going to be his whole world, you're just a part of it, a significant one at that.

Also, yung mga mababaw na rants lang naman for you, yun nga usually ang ayaw ng mga lalaki. Ang liit na bagay irereklamo mo pa. Anyway, ang dami kong nasulat haha kase na-sad ako how the relationship went. Obviously, you deserve better. Kase you want him to be better eh. You don't want him, you want someone better than him. Also, he deserves someone better too. You are obviously not the one for him. I say this kase when you found that one that fits your idea of a partner, everything else is easy and effortless. Lahat ng complains mo about him, and his about you, wala yan. Promise. Magkakasundo kayo sa mga bagay at hindi hindi mo sya gugustuhing magbago dahil you appreciate him as he is.

If there's one thing I appreciate about my current relationship, is that I don't demand for anything. Ironically though, my guy gives me everything. Maybe you can try that as well. Also, I say thank you everyday.

Miss.Pancake

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #191 on: July 23, 2014, 10:21:13 pm »
Question:

I recently broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. Hindi siya yung John Lloyd type na hahabulin ka. Yung pakikipagbreak ko sakanya decided na and hindi para magpahabol or magpalambing lang.

He never contacted/texted/visited/called me from that day (which is what I expected from him) until just yesterday biglang nag text ng "Kumain ka na ba? Eat on time :)" mga ganyan pati kumpleto pagbati mula umaga hanggang gabi like what he used to do nung kami pa. Hindi ko pa nirereplyan diretso delete lang. Anong ibig sabihin neto?

Maybe he misses you na and trying to communicate with you ulit. Syempre yun first 2 months hindi siya nagreply or what kasi may pride pa siya. Then he realizes na miss ka na nya.

sacred cow

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #192 on: July 23, 2014, 11:12:20 pm »
or nagtry na manligaw ng ibang babae during those two months kaso walang napala kaya ayan bumabalik sa'yo. pero possible din yung sinabi ni pancake

nixiquita

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #193 on: July 24, 2014, 04:49:24 am »
parang feeling ko mas common sa guys ang ganyan oh yung sinabi ni sacred cow. ^

kukii

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #194 on: July 24, 2014, 08:48:08 am »
@Miss.Pancake
Thanks for replying, siguro nga. Nagdadalawang isip tuloy ako kung papansinin ko pa ba siya, hindi naman siya nakikipagbalikan no namiss niya lang talaga siguro kasi routine na niya?

@sacred cow & nixiquita
Thanks for replying, waaaah parang ansama naman na parang back up plan lang ako e ex na nga niya ko. Sana naman hindi lol

graezieylicious

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #195 on: July 24, 2014, 09:32:17 am »
As I was reading your posts re: this partner of yours, it seems like you never really understood what your guy needed in the relationship. You may say you loved him completely, pero based sa complains nya about you, you are trying to make him into someone you want to love and be with. Posible kase na oo, gusto mo sya, pero may idea ka of this one person who you think is best to love, and dahil gusto mo sya, you tried to make him fit your idea of a partner. I know you know that's not healthy. Pwede mo sabihin gusto mo lang sya mag improve, pero you can never really impose change to anyone. Kahit na maganda ang intentions mo, to make him better, na magsikap sya, na wag sya magbisyo, lalo sya magreresist if pinipilit mo syang baguhin lahat yan. Lalo na kase nararamdaman na he's no good kung ipapaalala mo sa kanya everytime na indeed, he's no good. Kahit naman yata sino, mapupuno sa ganyang sistema.

Also, try to put yourself in your guy's shoes. If he tells you to stay away from your friends, just because they's influencing you negatively, how would you feel? Imagine being friends with them your whole life and then suddenly someone asked you to stay away from them. You know your friends better. In your case, hindi kaya nagiging judgmental ka lang sa mga kaibigan nya?

Also, as a supportive woman, you don't take away the life of your man so he can spend time with you. Natawa ako sa statement mo -- eh malamang kase may gf na sya. Now that is just mean and irrational. Bago kayo nagkakilala, may buhay sya without you. Don't expect him to leave all that just because you're together. Being in a relationship with you is going to be an expansion of his life, of his experiences. You're never going to be his whole world, you're just a part of it, a significant one at that.

Also, yung mga mababaw na rants lang naman for you, yun nga usually ang ayaw ng mga lalaki. Ang liit na bagay irereklamo mo pa. Anyway, ang dami kong nasulat haha kase na-sad ako how the relationship went. Obviously, you deserve better. Kase you want him to be better eh. You don't want him, you want someone better than him. Also, he deserves someone better too. You are obviously not the one for him. I say this kase when you found that one that fits your idea of a partner, everything else is easy and effortless. Lahat ng complains mo about him, and his about you, wala yan. Promise. Magkakasundo kayo sa mga bagay at hindi hindi mo sya gugustuhing magbago dahil you appreciate him as he is.

If there's one thing I appreciate about my current relationship, is that I don't demand for anything. Ironically though, my guy gives me everything. Maybe you can try that as well. Also, I say thank you everyday.

@simang, point well taken. :) Kahit single and proud ako ganyan din ang perception ko sa buhay. ENJOY LIFE :)

graezieylicious

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #196 on: July 24, 2014, 09:35:28 am »
Question:

I recently broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. Hindi siya yung John Lloyd type na hahabulin ka. Yung pakikipagbreak ko sakanya decided na and hindi para magpahabol or magpalambing lang.

He never contacted/texted/visited/called me from that day (which is what I expected from him) until just yesterday biglang nag text ng "Kumain ka na ba? Eat on time :)" mga ganyan pati kumpleto pagbati mula umaga hanggang gabi like what he used to do nung kami pa. Hindi ko pa nirereplyan diretso delete lang. Anong ibig sabihin neto?
@kukii, maybe he wants to jump right into the sack with you, you know how guys are..they are tricky. Be careful. :)

Miss.Pancake

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #197 on: July 24, 2014, 10:20:21 am »
@Miss.Pancake
Thanks for replying, siguro nga. Nagdadalawang isip tuloy ako kung papansinin ko pa ba siya, hindi naman siya nakikipagbalikan no namiss niya lang talaga siguro kasi routine na niya?

Oo sis, agree ako. Him texting doesn't mean he wants you back. Baka nga namiss lang niya yun nakakatext ka niya. Kasi yun ex ko ganyan din e. Nagtetext siya ng kung ano ano na walang kwenta tapos all of sudden hindi na ulit magtetext. A few days after magtetext ulit. Pero it doesn't mean he wants me back. Feeling ko nagtetemp check lang yun. He wanted to make sure he's ahead of me from moving on. Hahaha. Ang pathetic.

kukii

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #198 on: July 24, 2014, 12:37:06 pm »
@graezieylicious
Thanks sis but hindi ko rin naman masabing kailangan niya ng manly needs from me, 'cause we never did anything more than a kiss.

@Miss.Pancake
Just yesterday evening nasa labas siya ng bahay namin apologetic, with my favorite pastries and the whole shebang. Hindi ko pinansin kasi hindi ko alam irereact ko, this morning pagkalabas ko ng house namin nakasabit sa gate yung mga dala niya with a note na "I'm sorry". I'm feeling confused kasi after 2 months ngayon pa ba siya magpapaka John Lloyd kung kelang moving on na ko. I really don't get it. Why now?

Miss.Pancake

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)
« Reply #199 on: July 24, 2014, 02:11:41 pm »
Sis haba naman ng hair mo. Ikaw na! :)

Ayaw mo na ba sa kanya?  ::)

 

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