Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 5)

[SkyLark]

Hi OW, Some Guys are reserved, some guys are not comfortable talking to girls, or that guy might have not noticed you. You ignore this. Feel Good always. Do you know, being girl is great ! Be happy.Cheers!

[young_maiden]

Guys, pag di nyo type ang isang girl, ibig sabihin you find her physically unattractive? o may ibang reasons pa aside sa looks ni girl kaya di nyo siya type?

[jtansanco]

^ Most probably, yes. First is almost always the looks. Second is everything else.

Hi guys, why would you "ignore" a girl?

I worked with this guy over the summer and we got along. We did not date but we were friends. sort of.

After the project (he was from a different department), we do not see each other on a daily basis. But the thing is, there have been many instances where I knew he saw me but he did not even say hi to me. I know I am not supposed to feel entitled to a "hi" but really, as friends, as people who used to see each other on a daily basis, wouldn't you say "hi" to them?

You may be asking why I was not the one who initiate a conversation but the thing is, in all those instances, he was at the position to see me and I happen to see only his back so I knew he was there. There was even a time when he was literally just behind me and he didn't even bother greet me.

Why would guys do these things? or is he just a plain jerk?

Nah, I don't think he's a jerk. He's probably just the typical shy boy. I'm guessing he was hoping that you say "hi" to him first because some guys just can't do the "first move". Try greeting him when you see each other and see how he'll react.

[queenteaser]

gumagana ba sa guys ang "reverse psychology?"  ive been talking to this guy for almost 10 mos na. he calls me every night since sa davao sya naka assign. we started as friends and i enjoyed talking to him kasi very open kami sa lahat. nagmeet din kami nung nagpunta sya ng manila. dinner, ktv, massage, coffee. one night, he said he likes me. and he asked me how i feel about him. sabi ko, nagugustuhan ko na din sya. and right after than biglang sabi, sorry, naconfuse ako. parang WTH! nakakainsulto kasi parang ano pinagttripan mo ko? then after that, ayoko na syang kausapin pero bumabawi naman. IDK. i cant help it. pag tumatawag sya gusto ko syang kausapin. may effect kaya pag nireverse psychology ko hehe. (mabalik ko lang sakanya yung feeling kahit konting ganti) 

[oshiawase]

^ pa-explain

[insanelypurpleprincess]

gumagana ba sa guys ang "reverse psychology?" 

^ As a general rule, reverse psychology works regardless of gender, but when employed too often or even used as a habit, it tends to lose its charm.

[Girltalker2]

eh why not confront para magkaalaman na.. the bf lang ang only person na nakakaalam ng real reason why he did the thing.. kesa nag-iisip yung gf kung bakit ganun si bf eh di i-confront na lang nya..

Kasi the fact na may kahina hinala si BF, kahit ano pa sabihin nya, hindi ba kahina hinala din?

^ oo nga sis. at least may peace of mind na rin yung friend ko.  i told her nga, next time kasi, be prepared for anything you might see if you choose to access his personal stuff like the guy's email and FB account.

thanks again mga sis for your insights! 

As for "hiding" something, ano ba ang better, itago ng hubby/BF or hindi itago? Parehong masaklap. Pero naisip ko kung lantaran ang paglalandi at di man lang discreet in front of your wife/GF, hindi ba mas nakaka insulto yun?

Pero kahit pa itago, pinamumukha ka naman t****.  Kung hindi naman itago, ibigay pa sayo ang pw, kasi you have to love him "as he is", ano yun martyr lang ang friend mo to watch over his BF as he is a potential flirt at NR dapat friend mo kasi "ganun naman talaga" si BF at wala naman tinatago?

[VainDoll]

Di ko pa nakikilala family ni bf ko. Haha. Should I be worried na di serious to? we are going 1 year and so so months na. I think tita niya lang nakakilala sa akin. Sa facebook pa. Lol but I'm not bothered naman since takot din ako sa mga sasabihin sa akin ng parents nya. Only child kasi siya and medyo strict ang parents lol. And I never question him naman about it. I dont know haha! Labo

[jtansanco]

^ That should still be fine... If you're early 20's, it shouldn't be an issue yet. If mid-20s and above, maybe he should introduce you in the next year or so. 1 year is technically not that long yet.

[slickchick]

Kasi the fact na may kahina hinala si BF, kahit ano pa sabihin nya, hindi ba kahina hinala din?


As for "hiding" something, ano ba ang better, itago ng hubby/BF or hindi itago? Parehong masaklap. Pero naisip ko kung lantaran ang paglalandi at di man lang discreet in front of your wife/GF, hindi ba mas nakaka insulto yun?

Pero kahit pa itago, pinamumukha ka naman t****.  Kung hindi naman itago, ibigay pa sayo ang pw, kasi you have to love him "as he is", ano yun martyr lang ang friend mo to watch over his BF as he is a potential flirt at NR dapat friend mo kasi "ganun naman talaga" si BF at wala naman tinatago?

well sis.. i cannot really tell her what she should do.. i'm not the type of friend that would insist that she breaks up with her guy because my gut feeling is telling me something's wrong.. i can only tell her my opinion (and the insights of our sisses and bros here), but in the end, she would make the final call because she knows better because she is in the actual situation. as her friend, the best i can do is support her decision and to be there if in case her decision makes her unhappy. just my opinion ah. 

Di ko pa nakikilala family ni bf ko. Haha. Should I be worried na di serious to? we are going 1 year and so so months na. I think tita niya lang nakakilala sa akin. Sa facebook pa. Lol but I'm not bothered naman since takot din ako sa mga sasabihin sa akin ng parents nya. Only child kasi siya and medyo strict ang parents lol. And I never question him naman about it. I dont know haha! Labo

hahaha! bigla din ako na-curious.. is there a right time or length of time before you introduce your bf/gf to your parents/family? like ilang months dapat or ilang years...

[whitebishop]

^I think within 3-6 months is fair.  if 1 year na and hindi ka pa kilala ng parents nya then something is wrong.

[happilytaken2]

I've got a few questions:

1. Liligawan niyo si girl, gagawin niyo lahat para mapasagot. Pero pag may ayaw kayo, ibe-break niyo. Bakit ganun? Hehe I've always been curious about this.

2. I have male cousins na para sakanila, pag ex na nila ang girl, never na nilang babalikan. Ganun din ba sa ibang guys or sa cousins ko lang?

3. Pag break na kayo ng ex-gf niyo, usually ba you stay to communicate with them para meron kayong pangtawid init?

4. If may ex-gf kayo ni nabuntis niyo and pinalaglag niya yung baby, naiisip niyo pa ba what the baby could have been kahit may ibang gf na kayo?

5. May friend yung BF ko ngayon na pag kinakamusta kami nung friend niya na girl, hindi niya sinasagot ng derecho and ang sagot niya is puro tanong towards the girl. What could that mean?

[VainDoll]

I'm positive with jtansanco said pero yea minsan din I have this gut feeling na bakit ganun? Lol but I'm happy, we are happy. Minsan kasi ayaw ko na din i-open up since I dont want to rush things naman and I want him to do the move.

Sis whitebishop, what could be the reasons? Siya turning 23 ako kaka-25 na.

[simang]

^sis, with my ex 7 yrs kami and never nya ko dinala sa bahay nila to meet his mom. Haha pero marami kasing aberya yung relationship na yun, age gap among others.

Anyway with my current, pinakilala nya ko personally sa family nya more than a year na kami. Yung previous gf nya before me nakilala ng family nya 4 months or so pa lang sila. Nung nagstay kami sa province nila, walang formal na introduction na nangyare. Sa simbahan pa kami unang nagkita kita. But his mom knew about me all along. So i felt welcome kagad. Ewan ko, never sya naging issue sa akin na di nya ko agad pinakilala. Siguro kase alam ko nakukwento naman nya ako, and isa pa, nahirapan din sya humanap ng time na makakastay kami sa kanila buong weekend na matagal na tipong mapapasyal nya ko sa hometown nya, makakaluto si mama nya ng special, and makakapagpahinga talaga kami sa bahay nila. To be honest, i think that was the perfect time na makilala family nya. Had i met them earlier, baka mas awkward ako and syempre iba yung magiging impression nila sa akin.

Bata ba bf mo sis, pero as long as he's treating you well naman, don't stress about it too much.

[budzwhiz]

I've got a few questions:

1. Liligawan niyo si girl, gagawin niyo lahat para mapasagot. Pero pag may ayaw kayo, ibe-break niyo. Bakit ganun? Hehe I've always been curious about this.

Sa mga babae, parang makeup din yan. We lust over, or even dream of that one product, pero once magamit na natin at hindi nagustuhan... isswap, ibebenta o ipapamigay nalang natin.

But yeah, nakakainis nga naman. Yung sila yung lalapit, sila yung papasok sa mundo mo tapos kapag ayaw na nila aalis nalang sila ng ganon. hahahah

[Girltalker2]

^ That's why I don't believe in ligaw.  Mas prefer ko nga ang "dating".  Kasi in dating, dun nyo nakikita ang compatibility ninyo, mga thoughts, values, etc.  Tapos walang commitment din, if it does not work out, either party can just walk away.

Kaso sa pagliligaw, one is professing his love na kaagad.  Pero once meron syang nakitang ibang babae na mas gusto nya habang nanliligaw sa first, lalabas na nanloloko sya (which is true naman kasi bakit ka magbitaw ng salita na mahal mo ang isa kung tumitingin ka pa pala ng iba). 

Kaya for girls naman, hindi din ok mabilis mahulog ang loob mo sa guy.  Kasi ang panliligaw, IMO is a bit superficial. Di mo pa makikilala nang husto yung guy tapos you enjoy na his attention. Kapag nahulog na ang loob mo, tapos hindi pala totoo ang feelings nya for you or momentarily lang sya nagkagusto sayo, ikaw din ang lugi sa huli.

[happilytaken2]

^ True sis Girltalker2. I don't believe in ligaw din.

With my friends asking me what I think about their manliligaw the only thing I tell them is they got their best foot forward. If the guys say I love you agad, don't believe it kasi he doesn't know her that well tapos love na agad?

[VainDoll]

Sis simang! Thank you sis. Nabuhay ako lol. But I don't worry naman at all. Antay antay lang. So far naman I've met his friends naman na so okay na ako dun. Minsan lang talaga pag may time ng month na sobrang malungkot, may doubts etc... And yeah, bata pa nga si bf. Kaya I guess time will come.

[sacred cow]

@sportygirl

personally I wouldn't want to date a girl who smokes weed. Smoker ok lang kasi ngyoyosi din ako. I guess kung mahilig din sa jutz yung guy then hindi siguro turn off sakanya.

[lesters_gal]

Ang mga guys ba talaga matagal bago magreply sa mga text? Nakita na yung message mo, tapos it took 3 or 4 hours bago ka replyan. Tapos Does it mean ba kapag ganun hindi masyado importante sa inyo ang girl kapag ganun katagal magreply.