May 2nd chance pa kaya?

[nerddict]

^sis, can you honestly say na wala ka ng feelings for him? Na mere memories na lang ang meron?

[Apple1230]

^hindi ko alam sis. hindi ko na kasi siya naiisip and madami na nangyari sa akin the past 4months. i also have dated 2 guys who wanted me to be their gf hindi lang ako ready. tsaka hindi ko rin sila talaga type.

dun ko lang talaga siya naisip nung andun ako sa hotel kasi katabi lang ng condo niya and i couldn't help but message him. ang dami namin memories dun. anyway he hasn't messsaged me since and i have no intentions of messaging him also kasi what for? but he mentioned na he will be out of the country for 2 weeks for work and magkita ata kame when he returns. something like that.

i am aslo not a believer of getting back with the ex coz it never worked for me. sa breakup din ang ending minsan mas masakit pa kasi mas lumalim pa yung pinagsamahan. i will update here kung natuloy kame . sa akin ok lang to meet up i'm curious of what he wants to say at kung may changes ba sa kanya matigas kasi ulo nun at ma pride dati. as for me i have said my piece to him when we broke up so there is nothing left and i have no regrets naman.

[otra_vez]

not a fan of reconciliations. i don't believe it really works out. of course there are those couples who gave it another shot and were able to be happy but those are rare. i think when you break up and try to reconnect, there are so many things at play already: perhaps you're getting back together because it's easier to go back to your comfort zone than to meet new people. add the trust issues that eventually will haunt the relationship: for me once you break up, that's it. you've declared that you don't love this person enough to see the relationship through. who's to say that'/s not going to happen again? there's that big wound there already, a crack in something that needs to be very solid in order to work. so this is a no-no for me.

[nerddict]

^sis apple, I believe na dahil matagal kayo at kilala nyo ang isa't isa, you both want to be friends. Yung komportable kayo sa isa't isa di'ba. Pero sabi nga, it takes time. Ako, I am randomly and often reminded of my ex and our relationship dahil ng fb memories (those memories! lol), dati masakit. Pero ngayon, hindi na. tinatawanan ko na lang. SO I can honestly say na I am over him. I used to believe na we will be one of those couples na nagbreak pero nagkabalikan at naging mas matatag. I couldn't let go of him before. But I did. Kasi kawawa lang ako if I still chose na magpakatanga. LOL. Kaya here I am now, enjoying singlehood and trying my luck sa dating. hehe.

^sis otra, true. Yung family ni ex, lalo yung parents, parang in denial pa din na wala na kami. Pero di'ba ang hirap magpatuloy when one of the two doesn't want it to work out? Before ganun din ako kasi I was used to the comfort we had. Pero sabi nga, we need to get out of our comfort zones kasi bigger opportunities are waiting ahead.

[angeljolie]

^^My thoughts exactly!

[glamorosa_09]

i will update here kung natuloy kame . sa akin ok lang to meet up i'm curious of what he wants to say at kung may changes ba sa kanya matigas kasi ulo nun at ma pride dati. as for me i have said my piece to him when we broke up so there is nothing left

Hindi ko 'to ma-gets...  "I have said my piece, there is nothing left ----- I'm curious what he wants to say kung may changes ba sa kanya tigas ulo o ma-pride." Ang tingin ko siguro sa nothing left eh, nothing left to say, nothing left with the feelings, and wapakels.

At tska ito "he hasn't messsaged me since and i have no intentions of messaging him also kasi what for?" ------ " i will update here kung natuloy kame." So parang the "what for" applies to messaging but it doesn't apply to the intention of meeting up?

Akala ko lang kasi, pag wala na -- wala na. That it's clearly black and white. O baka may grayish areas pa rin.

Tska hindi ko rin ma-gets when you messaged him when you attended an event near his condo. Parang sa tingin ko, nananahimik sya at the time, and then you asked to meet up, he said yes, and then hindi ka rin tumuloy for reasons you mentioned. Pero kung titingnan kaya naman kung kaya to continue the meet-up. Parang tingin ko lang na-istorbo sya.

Oh well anyway, I just like thinking out loud. It's your life naman... You don't have to clarify.

[hisana]

If the reason for the breakup is cheating, parang hindi ko yata kaya magbigay ng second chance.

[Apple1230]

update lang he messaged me today, nagpa renovate daw siya ng condo and i should see it plus he got a king size but can't find a bed sheet to fit kasi customized daw. then i suggested s&r. mga ganun kababaw lang tsaka maaga na daw siya natutulog at nag e-exercise sa morning may abs na daw siya ngayon. so ayun nag gudnyt na hope to see me soon daw.

sabi ko good for you dun sa abs niya and nag gudnyt na din ako. i guess our break up was good for both of us. madami na nagbago sa akin in 4months i think sa kanya din.

mag 50yrs. old na siya ako  naman late 30's so i guess mature na kame kaya less drama na talaga. we were talking about marriage already when we broke up and in his mind i am the last girl sa buhay niya. kaya lang kahit kanino ko i-kwento yung reason we broke up they all said the same thing mali daw si ex. i don't believe that you can change a person but they can change on their own. so tignan ko na lang what will happen next but i have no expectations whatsoever.

just sharing kasi baka may nagbabasa or may makabasa who is going through the same thing and may mapulot siyang aral. whatever the outcome may be.

[glamorosa_09]

^Oh... I was going to respond sana sa reply mo saken... Binago mo na halos lahat or dinelete mo yung isa...

Anyway... Good luck to you...

[Apple1230]

^hi sis just realized i  don't need to clarify and nag message siya so mas ok mag update na lang kesa mag dwell sa hindi natuloy na meeting namin. hehe!

thanks for wishing me luck. pero wala naman ako expectations, malalim ang friendship namin we have known each other for 10years bago naging kame so hindi naman ganun ganun lang yun kaya rin siguro na message ko siya nagkataon na andun ako malapit sa place niya and i used that as an excuse to know how he is.

pero yung magbalikan kame never in a million years siya sumagi sa isip ko. hirap mag move on kaya for me mas ok pa to start fresh with someone kesa siya ulit. 

[glamorosa_09]

hirap mag move on kaya for me mas ok pa to start fresh with someone kesa siya ulit.

So old friends talaga kayo, and I can see why the kumustahan is normal to both of you.

However, if moving on is one of your goals, I think mahirap mag-move on lalo  na if your friendship with him has no boundaries. Like he still updates you about the mundane stuff of his day. (e.g., his mattress, abs). In marital context, that's being discouraged with spouse and his/her opposite sex friend because habitual exchanging of personal or intimate information (e.g., how's his day) might develop into something else. And in your case, there was a previous emotional attachment and of course the feelings weren't completely squashed upon breakup, especially four months pa lang since it happened.

And with kumustahan, na-nini-nurture lang kung ano pang natitira sa feelings. And since your goal is to move on, parang it can be challenging.

Anyway, I just said my two cents. I don't mean to intervene. According to you naman mature na kayo.

[Apple1230]

^naka move na naman ako pero siyempre yung friendship part hindi pa rin nawawala.

I take things one day at a time kaya hindi ko masabi kung ano mangyayari. As in blank lang. I will just leave it at that for now.

we women have to look out for each other and that?s great. Thank you i appreciate your opinions. Feel free to share it anytime.

[babzD12]

obviously my love pa kau para sa isat-isa. siguro natatakot lang sya na maulit ang mga ngyari nung time na kau pa. pero bigyan nyo muna ng space ang sarili nyo. tapos mag usap kau ulit. kung kaya nyo ba talaga na wala na kau. nagyari din yan sakin  pero di ako naging matapang kaya tuluyan na syang nawala sakin.   kaya kung alam nyo sa sarili nyo na mahal pa talaga ninyo ang isa't-isa ipaglaban mo. 

[piatos]

I'm 33 still single..  Desperate moves mga ginagawa ko sa crush ko just to let him know na I'm here for him kahit alam kong hindi niya ko gusto. Lately, I realized meron akong nakalimutan is to love myself. Sobrang baba na value ko I think.  Masyado ko nag focus sa kanya na baka wala na ako makilala kasi I'm old na haha.

[kvandenhaak]

^Kung feeling mo matanda ka na, eh ano na tawag mo sa akin? LOL! Darating din sila. Malay mo na-meet mo na pero di mo lang pinapansin.

[Apple1230]

Just to update here.

Now i have really proven na hindi talaga ok to get back with an ex. Although we are still talking things have gone bad already. I will not go into further details basta hindi na lang talaga naging ok. Akala ko i can accept him for who he is pero hindi pala. I came to a point that i am no longer happy.

I am back to dating again. Story of my life. I guess it was not my time yet but nevertheless i will treat my dating life as one great big adventure. I don?t know what will happen next but all i know is i will be ok no matter what.

[lafbk]

Hi, newbie here - friend recommended I join girltalk to reconnect with pinoys. I'm 35 and just broke up with my boyfriend of five years last week. Feeling ko alam ko naman noon pa na wala talaga kame di ko lang matanggap. It's been over a week and I wonder if he thinks about me. Long distance kame and I just didn't think may plano sya about our future. I'm so heartbroken and lost and feeling ko I'll be alone forever. I'm 35 and sa ngayon not interested in dating. Just posting here para mailabas ko din and maybe get some confidence and strength from you other girls here.