May 2nd chance pa kaya?

[akosimaiatot]

True that mga sissies! ako nag over analyzed pa ako ng sarili ko yun pala cheater lang talaga sya! haist

[mysterioza_me]

Hindi totoo ang 2nd chance, you are just giving that person another chance to hurt you and mas painful and bitter ang heartbreak sa ganito kesa dun sa naunang hiwalayan

[MissAnxious]

Me and my boyfriend for 8 years broke up because he's bisexual. My friends wanted me to move on because there's no such thing as bisexual daw even my ex boyfriend said i should move on. Pero sobrang hirap ako mag move on kase. D ko matanggap. i went to some fortune tellers sabi nila mag move on na daw ako. There's a small chance pero ako daw gagawa ng move. Meron ba na may ganitong scenario dito?

[easytwinkle08]

i kept asking myself pa din kung magkaka second chance pa ba..

sa amin. sabi niya kasi hindi niya na ako mahal. pero ok lang daw magkausap kami. so sa ngayon naguusap pa din kami. kahit break na kami. tamang kwentuhan lang ganun.

mga sis. ok lang ba na mag assume ako na may chance pa. and kung yes. ok lang bang gumawa ako ng  move para maging ok ulit kami.

[simang]

^uy sis sinabi na nya na wala na ah, bakit mo pa pinipilit? what part of hindi ka nya mahal ang malabo para sayo?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^^ naku sis been there done that. Wag na. Ang mga lalaki, once they've made a decision as big as that, they rarely change their minds. Pag di na mahal, di na talaga mahal. Di sila parang mga babae.
He allowed you two to communicate for now kasi wala pa namang iba, but will you really stay around until it happens?
One way or the other, maghihiwalay at maghihiwalay din kayo completely. Do it now. Cut all ties. Would you rather let it drag on and have another heartbreak in the future? Not worth it!

[MR.TURKO]

Sus miss huwag kana umasa. Nakipag hiwalay sayo at nasaktan ka tapos di pala DAW kaya? Ano akala niya sayo laruan lang ang damdamin?

[Ms. Undecided]

I remember, my bf and I broke up one day after my birthday. Desisyon namin yun, mag-isip kami kung dapat pa ba namin ituloy kasi super toxic na ng relationship namin. Ako ayoko pero siya na nagsabi na need daw muna namin siguro maghiwalay. Hinatid niya ko nun sa office bago siya pumasok sa work. Pero pagkahatid niya sakin sa work, nagtext siya na di daw muna siya papasok. Mabigat daw dibdib niya, di daw niya alam kung tama ba desisyon niya. Nag-usap kami pero ayun naghiwalay parin talaga kami. Then after a week, nagbe-beg na ko sa kanya na magbalikan na kami. Super kawawa ako nun, awang awa ako sa sarili lko Sinabihan niya ako na paano daw niya malalaman yung worth ko if magbe-beg ako. Baka daw makipagbalikan siya dahil sa awa lang. Ayun hinayaan ko na, Ang sakit sobra pero kailangan ko kayanin. After 2 weeks, nagtext ata ako, sabi ko miss ko na siya after 2 weeks na di ko siya ginulo. And sabi niya miss na rin niya ko. We met that night and fix things. Ayun, okay na kami ngayon. Hopefully magtuloy tuloy na.

[cupcakejane]

I wish meron, pero most of the stories I hear, sinasabi a cheater will always be a cheater especially if binahay na.

[sweet21]

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. It was painful, hanggang ngayon hindi parin ako makapaniwala. We had a fight that triggered the break up. We've been together for almost 4 years. Before the fight we were head over heels, masaya pero may maliit na away. He told me he doesn't love me anymore when I tried to ask for a second chance but deep down I know mahal parin nya ako. Takot lang sya siguro na masaktan. Akala ko talaga sya na. I thought he would be the father of my future kids. If I could turn back time, sana nabawi ko yung sinabi ko na nakasakit sa kanya. He told me he's going back with his ex and rekindle their relationship kasi he has a son with her though they are not married. I feel like he need to say it for me to stop begging him to stay. He doesn't love his ex obviously since we were steady for almost 4 years. But when we broke up, all of a sudden he mentioned that he is willing to learn to love his ex and that she love her. I know him deeply, during the course of our relationship he never cheated or anything. He was always loyal at ramdam ko yon. Feeling ko na hurt lang talaga sya kaya kelangan nya sabihin yon. During our time, I was the one to always push that he spend quality time with his son, I was never the type who would hate the situation. I always wanted him to be the father that he is. His ex, whom he has a son, well hindi naman sila connected they are only connected because of their son. I have no bad blood about her, as a matter of fact ok lang naman ako na they spend time together sympre kasama yung anak nila. Parang he told me na, willing sya pakasalan yung ex nya for the sake na mabuo yung family nila. Sabi nya matututunan din nya mahalin yung ex nya pero it seems like, maybe he just made it up, kasi his ex naman parang has life of her own now. And hindi naman agad mapipilit yung ex nya to get married just for the sake na gusto nya. I know most of us would say, ang tamang gawin is to marry the person you love, pero the thing is alam ko hindi nya mahal yung girl. And the girl, I don't know. Or maybe baka nga matutunan din nila ulit mahalin ang isa't isa. We got together completely over na sila nung ex nya. I came to picture tapos na sila though they have a son. Mahina kasi loob nung ex ko. For the longest time, he was too concerned of what my family would think of him of his current situation. I told him, matanggap naman sya ng family ko. Going back, I checked on his ex hindi naman sila together. I feel lang sinabi lang ng ex ko yon to get rid of me. Which hurt me. Up to this day, hopeful parin ako. Na willing ako mag intay. Alam ko mahal parin nya ako takot lang sya. Pero nandon na ako sa point na, baka mas mahal ko sya kesa sa mahal nya ako. Kasi nakaya nya akong iwan. Haay ang hirap nito. I could not sleep well these past few days. Hirap na hirap ako.

[Ms. Undecided]

I read my comment last August hehe. This October, nagkaron na kami ng official break up thru chat lang. Wala na, hindi na daw siya masaya. Me, I believe in 2nd chance pero hindi yung agarang 2nd chance. Tama naman na need mo muna hanapin or buoin yung yung tunay na ikaw, then if it?s God?s will, he will make his way kung magkakabalikan pa kayo. Gaya ng nangyari samin, wala pang 1 month nun na nagbalikan kami pero yung issues andun parin, bumalik lang kami sa dati. Mahal ko pa rin yung mokong na yun, recently nga sinabi niya sakin na mahal parin daw niya ako, sa araw araw daw iniisip niya kung okay lang ako, kung nakauwi na ba ako kung anong ginagawa ko. Pero alam mo yung may part na sa akin na ayoko na maniwala. Isinuko ko na lahat kay Lord. Dati iniisip ko na dapat gumawa ako ng way para bumalik siya pero ngayon ipinagpapasa-Diyos ko nalang. Same tayo TS, attitude at over emotional din ang dahilan kaya napuno na siya sakin hehe. Pero sabi nga ni sis Simang sakin nun, kung mahal ka ng lalaki, tatanggapin niya lahat ng flaws mo kahit pa sa ugali pero adjust adjust din hehe. Magki-Christmas at New year man tayo na single, atleast maayos yung Family natin End of the relationship doesn?t mean end of the world

[Apple1230]

@sweet21 i feel you. I can totally relate coz 1 week pa lang din since my break up. Regarding 2nd chances i don?t think i want one. The reason is kahit magkabalikan kame if we are still the same person then the relationship will fail again. I don?t want the on again off again kind of relationship.

Right now i am working on my self. I?m creating the best version of me. Exercising and eating healthy, re-arranging and re-decorating my house, working on my career to be more successful, spending more time with my family. Just basically doing things to make me feel good about myself. To have a sense of purpose.

I know i deserve someone who is my equal. But i have to be greater than who i an now so the right guy can recognize it otherwise i will keep attracting the wrong ones. I still think of him everyday, when i go to sleep and when i wake in the morning. But i know going back means doing the same things over and over again. I can?t go through that anymore. So the best thing for me is to move forward with my life and believe that the best is yet to come.

[sweet21]

I saw my ex kanina he looked pretty good. He even spoke to my niece, I caught him glancing at me while I passed by. Pero na realize ko na kelangan talaga ma move on. I fantasized about the idea for a short while nung tiningnan nya ako, medyo kinilig ako. I don't hate him, but it seems like being seperated from him ang aliwalas sa pakiramdam. Minsan may thoughts parin na sana bumalik sya, pero hindi na ako umaasa. Kelangan ko na din mahalin ang sarili ko.

[Ms. Undecided]

^ Hi sis, virtual hug to you. I was once in your shoes. Yung feeling ko hindi na matatapos, yung akala ko siya na talaga, though 4 years lang kami nun, pero di ko maiwasang maramdaman yung ganung feeling na sana siya na sa dulo kasi super comfortable talaga kami sa isa?t-isa, pero wala, in 1 year, 3x kami nag-cool off at 2x kami nag break hanggang sa ako nalang nag-give way. Why not take a break? Alam mo, nasabi narin sakin dati ng ex ko yan, mahal pa daw niya ako pero hindi na siya masaya. Naisip ko, pwede ba yun? Ang alam ko kasi kapag mahal mo ang isang tao, no matter what happen in your relationship, masaya ka kasi anjan siya.

Super crayola ako, lalo kapag nakikita ko na masaya siya kahit wala ako, sobrang sakit nun. Pero yung sakit na akala ko di na matatapos, yung luha na akala ko di na mauubos, akala ko lang pala yun Sa ngayon, masaya ako, I met this guy na super kabaliktaran ng ex ko. AKala ko nga nun, di na ako makakahanap ng iba kapag nakipaghiwalay ako sa kanya kaya hesitant ako nun. But I was wrong.I believe na you have to pray for it. Kung para sayo, ibibigay, kung hindi ibigay, may mas better na kapalit.

Di ako magaling magpayo eh, pero I know, kaya mo yan Ako nga kinaya ko, sila nga kinaya nila, ikaw pa kaya? Ang Love parang paggi-gitara, kailangan mo munang masaktan sa  pagtipa bago mo matutunan O diba, ewan ko kung san ko napulot yan hahahah XD Pero darating talaga sa buhay natin na sasampalin tayo ng tadhana ng sobrang lakas para matuto tayong lumaban! Lavern lang hahaha. Ang sanggol na bagong panganak, pinapalo sa pwetan para masaktan at umiyak para malaman niyang buhay siya. Ganun din tayo, kailangan nating masaktan para malaman nating buhay tayo. Hahahahah lumalayo na ako sa topic, gusto ko lang sumaya ka pag nabasa mo ?to.

God bless you sis

PS. Taga-Nueva Ecija din ex ko xD

[mysterioza_me]

Sabi nia hindi nia na alam kung masaya pa sya. Hindi nia alam kung mahal pa nia ko. Nanghihinayang na lang sya sa tagal ng relasyon.

lagi niang sinasabi na hayaan ko na lang daw. Kung babalik, babalik naman. Kung hindi, hindi. Mahirap nga daw pilitin pa. Basta hayaan na lang.

 Sabi pa niya, gusto man daw nia ng cool off, pero alam nyang hindi ako papayag kaya wag nalang daw. Parang timang di ba? As if naman dati sinusunod nya yung mga bagay na ayaw ko. EH knowing him, pag ayaw nya, ayaw nia talaga. So ano na? Ayaw ba nia ko mawala o ano? Huhuhuhuhuhuhu ang sakit talaga.

Sis base sa mga sinabi mo na yan na actions and sinasabi ng bf mo malinaw na malinaw ang hint ng bf mo na ayaw niya na. Hinihintay lang niya na ikaw ang unang bumitaw to avoid the guilt sa part niya. Nasa iyo na ang desisyon kung go pa or ayawan na.

And also refrain from quoting yung whole post, you can use ^ na lang.

[nerddict]

hmmmm. may 2nd chance pa para sa inyo mga sis, 2nd chance at love pero tanggapin din natin na probably not with the same guy or our ex

God will never remove something in your life na walang kapalit na bigger and better.

[mysterioza_me]

^I agree. I gave a 2nd chance to my ex and super pinagsisihan ko talaga. Until now pagnaalala ko naiinis ako sa sarili ko. Mas masakit maloko ng 2 beses. I was so hurt not because mahal ko siya ng sobra pero yung feeling na twice niya tinapakan pagkatao ko dahil sa panloloko niya yun ang nakakagigil.

[nerddict]

true. yung sinasabi mo sa sarili mo na sobrang t**** mo na kasi katangahan yung pinagbigyan mo sya then niloko ka ulit.

Oh well, not you loss sis. it's his loss, bigtime.

[sweet21]

It's been 3 months since nag break kami, I must say magaan na sya sa pakiramdam. Hindi katulad dati na parang may hollow block sa chest ko hehe. Naisip ko rin, na I don't deserve someone who would walk out when things get rough. Ganon siguro sa love, walang assurance. Kahit na yung isa matatag, pag yung isa mahina wala rin. Pero wala naman akong regrets. Kung masaya na sya sa buhay nya I'll be happy for him. Sana lang sa susunod talaga yung next ko yun na haha. Hirap talaga ma broken hearted. Nakakamiss din naman yung feeling ng inlove, pero this time sa sarili ko muna. Thank you sa forum na to, nakaka enlighten talaga, nakaka encourage.

[Apple1230]

^hi sis, yeah it gets easier over time. Time heals all wounds sabi nga.

ako naman i attended a convention yung hotel katabi ng condo ni ex. as in magkadikit yung building. i was up the night before thinking if i will message him that i'm in the area. it's been 4months since we broke up and i was thinking ano ba gusto ko ma achieve if i message him. wala naman ako maisip pero ang ending nag send na rin ako ng message bahala na kung ano maging response niya.

my message was direct letting him know na wala lang nasa area ako kaya naalala ko siya. after a few minutes nag reply asking what time matatapos yung convention magkita daw kame.

hindi ko inexpect na yung ang response but i said ok. pero nung patapos na yung convention my girl friend messaged me wanting to meet up pupuntahan niya daw ako may chika siya and mag inuman kame so i said ok. i told ex he could join but he doesn't want to magkita na lang daw kame after namin ng friend ko. nung patapos na kame nag message si ex na san daw kame he will drop by to say hi. sabi ko kinuha na namin bill. he asked to meet up sabi ko pauwi nako.

ang ending hindi kame nag kita. he asked if we could meet another time sabi ko ok pero sinabi ko lang yun para lang huwag niya isipin na bitter ako or anything. thanks daw dahil nag message ako sa kanya. honestly i felt relieved na hindi kame nagkita kasi hindi ko alam kung ready na rin ba ako makita siya or makausap ulit in person.