Engagement ring...

[Veronica25]

Hi mga sissies! Newbie here..

I just want to know your opinions. Medyo shy ako with what happened to me and my fiance, but I think, this is worth sharing para na rin lesson sa iba and I need also advices..

Ako lang ba yung bride to be dito na walang engagement ring? Yes, hindi nag-propose yung bf ko. Nagkaron kami ng big fight before and nasira yung trust ko sa kanya. After that big fight, nalaman ko na he is planning na pala for his proposal. Naisip ko pang-cover up nya yun sa kasalanang nagawa nya sakin. Umabot ako sa point na "tinest" ko sya. Ginalit ko sya ng ginalit just to make sure na kahit anong mangyari, itutuloy pa rin nya. But I was wrong, nalaman nya na alam ko na lahat ng plans nya, and hindi nya tinuloy ang pagbili ng ring. Syempre pinag-sisihan ko yung ginawa ko, nagpadala ako sa emosyon ko. Alam din nya na big deal sakin ang proposal, kasi medyo conservative ako pagdating sa bagay na yun. Lahat naman ng babae, pangarap nila na mag-propose sa kanila yung taong mahal nila..

Ngayon, we are planning to get married on 2017. Nakapag-book na rin kami ng mga suppliers. Yet, until now, I don't have that engagement ring. Tingin ko rin wala na syang plan to give me one. It feels awkward everytime we had a meeting with suppliers, even sa bridal fair pag may kausap kaming AEs, it really feels awkward na wala akong e-ring kaya tinatago ko yung kamay ko or sometimes I'm wearing my own ring nalang..

Sabi nila, formality lang daw ang e-ring, ang mahalaga may plans ng magpakasal. Pero di ko alam bakit ang big deal sakin nun. Kaya minsan nawawalan ako ng gana maghanap ng suppliers or minsan ayoko pag-usapan ang wedding. Feeling ko ang babaw ng reason ko..

Don't know the right thing to feel and don't even know what to do. Appreciate your responses mga sis..

[rowan]

veronica25,

hello! i was in your shoes a few months ago. last year my fiance and i decided to have a civil wedding in 2016 for convenience purposes. we need the marriage certificate so i could apply my spousal visa asap and civil wedding is the cheapest and fastest way to do it. when i was scouting for wedding rings and when sharing our plans to my friends, all of them ask me about my engagement ring or how my boyfriend proposed. its true, very awkward and nakakahiya. even though, i explained that the civil will just be low key and for migrations purposes lang, i still feel awkward about it. its like im engaged but i missed a huge and important part of it. im no hopeless romantic but of course i want to get proposed to! anyway, this all changed during our eurotour. he proposed there and thats when we planned to have our church wedding in 2017. i found out that his original plan was to propose a few days before our civil wedding. before the eurotrip kasi, all of our funds were directed towards the trip. almost 2 years kami nagsave for that so even if you ask me if engagement ring or eurotrip, i would  answer eurotrip haha. he just changed his plans a few days before we left for europe coz he felt that it is the perfect place to do it. additionally, i also know a couple who initially just agreed to get married without any proposal from the guy. the guy proposed to the girl a few hours before they got married. nagkita yung couple before the wedding but i dont think they minded it:)

anyway im not getting your hopes up. im not saying umasa ka na magppropose siya any time soon. but i know how you feel. when my fiance hasnt proposed yet, ang iniisip ko na lang na is that we're getting married and hes been very helpful with the preps. i really felt he was looking forward to the civil wedding and my application for spousal visa. with this, i was assured that he really wants to marry me and to finally be together with me. honestly, there were times when i lost sight of these reasons. pero kapit lang:) hindi kaya he's the one testing you now?  dont feel bad na, hows is he with the wedding preps?

[Veronica25]

thanks sis rowan. na-feel ko yung kwento mo. thanks for sharing it. huhu! na-sad ako, seriously..

with regards to wedding preps, hindi sya tulad ko na scouting for this and that.. pero whenever may lakad kami for wedding stuff, like meeting with suppliers, food tasting or bridal fairs, he's very eager naman to ask questions. kapag kaming dalawa lang yung nag-uusap, maayos naman sya.. may times lang siguro na I'm expecting too much from him..

And yes you're right, I'm engaged but I missed a big part of it. kaya nasa-sad talaga ko and nawawalan ng gana. good thing to you, it happend. pero sakin, I don't think it will...

[hermione28]

backread done! Love the engagement stories. ang I super love your rings!!! grabe ang lalaki ng bato! your h2b must be soooo rich!!! parang yung iba dyan, cost na ng buong wedding budget ko! haha. Anyway ako kasi I plan to wear the ring all the time as in walang hubaran. Saka sobrang burara ko, baka mawala grabe sayang diba.


Got "officially" enggaged last Dec 18 palang!! Hehe. With all these wedding plans, di ko talaga expected na may proposal pa. With my previous post sabi ko pa, we'll buy it nalang at pili nalang ako ng gusto ko. Haha. Actually pumili ako pero di naman nya binili. Tumingin lang kame. Then one day, ayan na yung proposal with the ring I've chosen!

I'm so happy kasi love ko talaga yung ring. Though very small lang yung stone. Kasi syempre I chose lang a ring na alam kong afford nya with his salary. Kesa naman ipag pilitan ko yung mahal kung di naman afford diba? Baka di pa natuloy yung proposal. Hehe.

Its an 18k white gold, 4 prongs twisted solitaire diamond ring, quarter carat, round cut, G, VVS. basta yan yung nabasa ko sa certificate. Hehe. Wala naman akong alam dyan. Magandang klase ba sya? No idea ako sa ganyan. Pero tinignan ko sa net. The quality looks promising kahit quarter carat lang sya.

it looks like this http://www.weddingfashioning.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/02/Engagement-Rings-20120202-31.jpg

[shygirlme]

^^hugs sis baka hindi lang sya yung type na naniniwala sa ering? I remember my ex told me before hindi nya ko bibili ng ering. kasi yung cost daw pwede idagdag sa kasal. may mga ganon lalaki kasi. hehe

[tea08]

Hi sis Veronica25 and Rowan, apparently I am experiencing the same now. We already booked some suppliers for our 2017 wedding pero up to now wala paring formal na proposal. I am not expecting naman na sabi ko bibili nalang kami along with our wedding bands. Hehe hindi naman big deal for me pero tama kayo minsan nakaka conscious and sad din. Siguro part of me wants that kilig factor din hehe.

Wow sis Hermione28 congrats on your engagement. Ako din walang idea about rings kaya siguro hindi ganun ka importante sa akin hehe, pero nakakakilig parin isipin.

[hermione28]

hi sis Veronica25,

sorry di ko agad nabasa yung post mo, pagdating ko kasi sa last page nagpost ako kaagad. hehe.

I was also in your shoes before he proposed last dec 18. Sis seryoso wala pala syang plano mag propose. As in. sabi nya kailangan pa daw ba yun? Actually pag inaaway ko sya, sabi nya may plano daw sya. Pero seryoso sa less than 6 months nalang yung kasal wala naman proposal. Sira ulo yun, nalulungkot na din ako. Kaya sabi ko noon, tara sa jewelry shop, ibili mo nalang ako! Haha. ayun kaya pumili kame, pero di nya binili, wala daw pera. hehe. Tapos sabi ko, ako nalang bibili ng ring!! magpapa book ako sa restaurant, mag propose ka! Sapilitan te hahaha. Pero syempre chika ko lang yun, tinatakot ko sya.

Ayun don siguro nakabuo ng plans. Kaya niyaya nya ko mag lunch sa Sofitel, kakuntsaba nya na pala buong hotel restaurant staff. May rose petals, may nag abot ng flowers tapos may special dessert. Ayun nandon yung ring ko!!! hehe.

[tea08]

haha sobrang cute ng story sis hermione28 pero nakakahaba ng hair yung proposal nya sayo worth the wait

[Veronica25]

Waaaaa! thank you mga sis!

sis shymegirl, may times na sinasabi nya yun before. kasi pandagdag nalang daw nga sa kasal at formality lang daw yun. pero kahit na! nagkaron nga sya ng plans before e, kaya I think nag-rarason lang sya.. feeling ko ang childish ko lang. hehe..

sis tea08, buti ka pa no biggie sayo. sana lang i'll have that kind of mindset. pero somehow, gumagaan naman yung pakiramdam ko dahil sa mga sine-share nyo dito..

sis hermione28, ang cute naman! awayin ko rin kaya? baka effective? hahahaha! ang kaso the first time na inaway ko, hindi tinuloy. sad life. so meron pa kong 1yr para mag-wait before the wedding kung may e-ring nga syang bibigay. hehe.. ayaw ko na mag-expect, it hurts eh.. kaso di mawala sa isip ko. hirap sis.

[hermione28]

^Thanks sis! ang cute ba, akala ko nung una cliché kasi nasa dessert sya. haha. di masyadong unique kasi benta na yun. Pero syempre iba pag sayo ginawa. Nakakalig sobra! tee hee! 

Napapaisip ako dahil sa mga rings nyo dito, ang ganda sa pics lalo siguro sa video kita sya. Feeling ko tuloy yung e-ring ko hindi makikita sa picture at video. kailangan magaling yung p/v ko. hahaha.

[Awesomecakes]

Hi mga sissies! Newbie here..

I just want to know your opinions. Medyo shy ako with what happened to me and my fiance, but I think, this is worth sharing para na rin lesson sa iba and I need also advices..

Ako lang ba yung bride to be dito na walang engagement ring? Yes, hindi nag-propose yung bf ko. Nagkaron kami ng big fight before and nasira yung trust ko sa kanya. After that big fight, nalaman ko na he is planning na pala for his proposal. Naisip ko pang-cover up nya yun sa kasalanang nagawa nya sakin. Umabot ako sa point na "tinest" ko sya. Ginalit ko sya ng ginalit just to make sure na kahit anong mangyari, itutuloy pa rin nya. But I was wrong, nalaman nya na alam ko na lahat ng plans nya, and hindi nya tinuloy ang pagbili ng ring. Syempre pinag-sisihan ko yung ginawa ko, nagpadala ako sa emosyon ko. Alam din nya na big deal sakin ang proposal, kasi medyo conservative ako pagdating sa bagay na yun. Lahat naman ng babae, pangarap nila na mag-propose sa kanila yung taong mahal nila..

Ngayon, we are planning to get married on 2017. Nakapag-book na rin kami ng mga suppliers. Yet, until now, I don't have that engagement ring. Tingin ko rin wala na syang plan to give me one. It feels awkward everytime we had a meeting with suppliers, even sa bridal fair pag may kausap kaming AEs, it really feels awkward na wala akong e-ring kaya tinatago ko yung kamay ko or sometimes I'm wearing my own ring nalang..

Sabi nila, formality lang daw ang e-ring, ang mahalaga may plans ng magpakasal. Pero di ko alam bakit ang big deal sakin nun. Kaya minsan nawawalan ako ng gana maghanap ng suppliers or minsan ayoko pag-usapan ang wedding. Feeling ko ang babaw ng reason ko..

Don't know the right thing to feel and don't even know what to do. Appreciate your responses mga sis..

Hi, sis Cheer up! Don't be sad. I'm sure God has planned everything for you.

Madami ako nabasa dito before na nasasad mga sis natin na walang engagement ring. I've been there na din. Kaya I know what you feel. Of course, every girl has a dream proposal. In 8 years namin ng fiance ko as gf-bf, yun talaga yun exciting part as a girl.

Let me share you our story. It was mid this year when we finally decided to book our suppliers for our 2016 wedding. No proposal yet. Yes, no engagement ring. Whenever my friends ask me, where's my ring.. Ang sinasabi ko lang. "Wala pa eh, inuna namin planning but I'll let him do it his way" I mean, no pressure. Though may part na mahihiya ka, pero isipin mo na lang yun brighter side sis, at least you have someone na mahal ka and papakasalan ka. Everytime yan ang iniisip ko, I feel so lucky and blessed na para lang sa ring, I would feel bad? No.

How did he propose? Months after we officially started our planning, I found out that he's not even aware na separate yun ring for engagement and the wedding rings. Nakakaloka diba? So parang ako naghihintay sa wala. I can't remember how we ended up talking about the ring basta ang alam ko I asked him "Like, seriously?" hindi mo alam? I know by heart, nagsasabi siya ng totoo. Hahahaha

When he knew about it, he asked his mom to accompany him to buy my ring. He even asked me na sumama sa kanila but I said No, cause I feel awkward. Sabi ko nalang siya na bahala.

Then on my birthday, he finally gave me the ring. No grand proposal but I felt the sincerity. The moment he decided to marry me, for me is such a big thing. I realized no matter how big your dream proposal is, it won't matter in the end. As long as you have the man of your dreams, marrying you... Sobrang blessed ka na sis. Kaya don't feel bad!

But if you really like it, you can tell him. Make parinig. Ikaw naman yun nakakakilala sa partner mo. Basta make it light lang and not to the point na aawayin mo siya na wala kang engagement ring. I'm sure he'll understand naman.

[hermione28]

Natawa ako sa part na hindi nya alam na separate pa yung e-ring. haha.

Pero super agree ako sayo sis. Formality lang naman talaga yung ring. Kahit kinilig ako sa proposal nya, napapaisip pa ko, ganun lang yun? as in will you marry me? haha. expected ko dati may speech pa ganun. hahaha. Pero happy pa din talaga ko.

sis hermione28, ang cute naman! awayin ko rin kaya? baka effective? hahahaha! ang kaso the first time na inaway ko, hindi tinuloy. sad life. so meron pa kong 1yr para mag-wait before the wedding kung may e-ring nga syang bibigay. hehe.. ayaw ko na mag-expect, it hurts eh.. kaso di mawala sa isip ko. hirap sis.

Try mo yung sapilitan na ginawa ko bilis! "Magpapa reserve na ko sa restaurant! magdala ka na ng ring! mag propose ka na!" Hahaha.

[120515]

hugs, sis veronica25, to answer your question, you are definitely not the only girl to get married without an engagement ring and you're not the first and you won't be the last. engagement rings are nice to have but they are not a NEED to get married. i know several people who got married without engagement rings or even a grand proposal and these couples are the ones i know personally who have strong marriages. i think what's really important is that your boyfriend is showing you how serious he is about marrying you by planning the wedding with you and booking suppliers with you.

mind you, i know someone who got proposed to, complete with the ring and the lovely proposal, but her boyfriend never even had a serious wedding date in mind and they separated because he cheated on her! she's very happy now with someone else.

my question for you would be - is the engagement ring a deal breaker for you? will you cancel the wedding if your boyfriend doesn't get you one before the wedding?

if it's not, then maybe you can focus on your wedding day and your life with your boyfriend afterwards instead and get positive energy from these 

sis hermione28, i looked at your link and i think your engagement ring is awesome! it will definitely sparkle in your video and pictures 

[hermione28]

Hi sis! Musta ka na! Hows your wedding? Share your link!

Btw, thank you! I think stone's color and clarity looks promising nga talaga, though very small talaga kasi .25 carat lang. Pero sabi nga nila, ok sya for daily wear.

tea08 and veronica25 chill lang girls. You'll never know baka may naka plan na for you. If ever na wala, yes nakakalungkot, pero it doesn't really matter, tama sila, enjoy nyo nalang yung wedding planning, the day itself and the life ahead.

[120515]

^ my wedding was great despite a very big challenge that happened a few days before - i think i posted about it in the advice thread. you can see my wedding video in the link below - in my signature 

[mimai1122]

hugs, sis veronica25, to answer your question, you are definitely not the only girl to get married without an engagement ring and you're not the first and you won't be the last. engagement rings are nice to have but they are not a NEED to get married. i know several people who got married without engagement rings or even a grand proposal and these couples are the ones i know personally who have strong marriages. i think what's really important is that your boyfriend is showing you how serious he is about marrying you by planning the wedding with you and booking suppliers with you.

mind you, i know someone who got proposed to, complete with the ring and the lovely proposal, but her boyfriend never even had a serious wedding date in mind and they separated because he cheated on her! she's very happy now with someone else.

my question for you would be - is the engagement ring a deal breaker for you? will you cancel the wedding if your boyfriend doesn't get you one before the wedding?

if it's not, then maybe you can focus on your wedding day and your life with your boyfriend afterwards instead and get positive energy from these 

sis hermione28, i looked at your link and i think your engagement ring is awesome! it will definitely sparkle in your video and pictures 

Agree with you, sis! Will be married for 13 years this January 14th, and I did not have a wedding ring or a formal proposal. We (my husband and I) just decided we wanted to settle down already and we started talking about it. And then we told our parents and relatives. After that, we had the pamanhikan na and started planning for the wedding. Everything turned out beautifully after that. Our wedding was very simple, but it was fun and memorable because we worked on it together, even without the e-ring and formal ("public" for some) proposal.

Sis Veronica2015, I'm sure things will work out well for you. You have a supportive H2B who plans the wedding with you. Not a lot of guys like to do that. Most of them will want to leave all the details to the bride. You are one lucky lady.

If you really want the e-ring, though, maybe you can try to gently talk to him about it?

Good luck, sis!

[mikky21]

Was formally engaged yesterday. H2b proposed 12mn of january 1, 2016. What a way to start 2016. Sa mga b2bs dyan na nalulungkot kasi walang engagement ring, hintay lang. Ako hindi na nag-expect pero meron pala. Was definitely surprised.

[Veronica25]

Awesomecakes, hermione28, 120515, mimai1122 -- HUGS MGA SIS! ♥ thank you sa mga advices nyo.  gumaan talaga loob ko.. nakapag-reflect ata ako nitong holiday season.. laking tulong ng mga stories na shinare nyo..
eto nalang din iisipin ko: less expectations, less disappointments
I will look to the brighter side nalang na nag-uumpisa na kami for wedding preps.. after all, ang mahalaga pa rin naman is makasal kami.. e-ring is just a ring, important is he is committed to love me and meet me at the altar.. (hehe pampawala ng sadness)



sis mikky21, congrats on your engagement!..

[ujinbooo]

Hi im currently saving for my gf's e-ring. nag bigay na siya ng hint  gusto niya daw ng tiffany& co. Medyo ng hang ako nun sinabi niya yun  . hinge lang po ako ng help if someone knows the values ng e-rings sa tiffany& co. yun setting rings nila. For size 4.5-5 ano po ang ok na size ng diamond?And worst case if i cant afford to buy her e-rings on that shop ano po ang maganda alternatives TIA.

[reese17]

^ there are prices on Tiffany & Co's website but hold on to your chair... Baka naman your GF just wants the classic tiffany setting?

My hands are pretty small (I can't remember if I'm a 4 or 4.5) and my fiance gave me a 0.6 carat diamond. It looks good na because my fingers are also very thin so the stone appears bigger than it really is. Take note lang na it's not just the size of the stone that matters but the clarity, color and cut as well. I've seen 1++ carat diamonds with a lot of fluorescence and are on the yellow side na. Hindi masyado maganda... Basta try to balance the other C's with your budget