How to get out of your comfort zone??

[green-aholic]

I am comftable with my life now pero there are times na i want to go out. I am an introvert and i find it satisfying to just be at home. My work is within the premises of our home din. I don't find it hard engaging with different people. Alam ko pano makisama. The hard part lang is di ako comfortable to stay long with people na di ko talaga close. Maybe i have insecurities din kaya ganon.

Now, i am getting bored and i feel burnt out. I easily get annoyed, mainitin na sobra ulo ko at feeling ko im left out. I need a life and thats outside home but the thing is di ko alam pano ba ko lalabas. Haha. Hindi naman ako bampira. Hehe.. so, help please!!

[mischa04]

@green-aholic, sis parehong-pareho tayo, ganyan din ako kaya nahihirapan din me at bored na.. pano nga kaya mababago, hirap naman kasi lalo pag takot, ako kasi minsan takot sumubok ng bago, although want ko maging adventurous..hehe..

[sugardrop]

Parang it's the other way around for me naman. I prefer staying in my comfort zone na as I get older. Well, most of the time. My life doesn't have that much excitement na din, less gimmicks too since I work from home as well. Ang gimik ko na lang - coffee/lunch/dinner with a bunch of friends, date with my mom, date with my bf, and a little shopping every now and then. Other than that, nada.

Mas prefer ko na ang tahimik na buhay ngayon and stay in my room most of the time. Or masyado ko lang talaga ninanamnam ang pagtanda. But I do think I'm past that phase na. Been out of my comfort zone, time to go back to it.

[mischa04]

@sugardrop, siguro sis dahil nakalabas ka na dati kaya now want mo na lang mag-stay.. pano ba masasabing nakalabas na? Baka unti-unti na pala ko lumalabas di ko lang pansin hehe...

[green-aholic]

Sa haba ng reply ko, hindi nagpost!! Tsk. Haaay

[sugardrop]

^^
Ako kasi sis, I grew up as an overprotected child with strict parents. Literally overprotected kasi college na ako when I learned how to cross the street and mag-commute. Di ko alam yung ibang street games. Hanggang ngayon hindi ko pa din maintindihan yung game na tumbang preso. Haha! Nung college na ako, I wanted to explore and establish my own identity and character. Some might say nagwala, others would say nag-experiment. My thinking was if I remain confined in the little world na kinasanayan ko, hindi ko makikilala sarili ko even if that meant making mistakes along the way.

I went out there and took risks. There are some things I've done that I'm not proud of but I learned from those. Had both good and bad company. It's part of the learning process for me. That way, nakikilala ko din sarili ko as I step out of my comfort zone.

I guess it's all about taking risks and facing your fears. Siguro, one step at a time and hindi gaya nung ginawa ko na all over the place that led to what I would consider chaos in my life. Iba-iba yung ways and approach natin, some do extreme sports, others naman sa travel and adventures. Whatever tips your hat

So ngayon, medyo lie low na muna ako. I know at one point I'd have to step out of it again. Pero as for now, pahinga muna and relax lang.

[airish_2]

i tried gumimik maki mingle with friends pero ayun balik sa dati pero sinsabi ko na lang na atleast once in my life triny ko.

[mischa04]

Ahh..now i know.. i'm stepping out na pala, unti-unti..  Yun nga lang minsan feeling ko parang pariwara na ang buhay ko haha..maybe feeling ko lang kasi nga i'm doing something different, something i don't usually do but been wanting to do..

Ako din lumaki na overprotected kasi strict din ang parents..nung naexperience ko na magwork dun ko maraming natutunan, medyo street smart na, dati kasi di ko rin alam kahit magcommute at wala akong alam sa lugar..haha..at super mahiyain..masyadong naghohold back..ngayon hindi na hehe..

Tama, it's all about taking risks and facing my fears.. I hope na marami pa kong matutunan as I explore.. kung san ako masaya go lang, kung mali man atleast natuto ako..

[sugardrop]

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Yep. I believe na mistakes are the best teachers. Pero nasa atin yun if we learn from it or not.

[simplepink]

noon, sobrang dependent ako sa family ko, as in sa lahat. feeling ko di ko kaya mabuhay ng malayo sa kanila, lalo na sa father ko kasi daddy's girl ako... feeling ko din kuntento na ko kung sila lang ang kasama ko.

pero ngayon, nakabukod na 'ko. naisip ko kasi di ako matuto kung nandyan lang sila lagi para sa akin. financially, mahirap pero kinakaya naman. emotionally, yun ang mahirap. may times na naiiyak ako kapag may sakit ako o kung may dinadalang problema pero still kinakaya ko pa rin.

Lagi na lang ako nagdadasal kay God for guidance and strength na makaya ko mag-isa. saka sinisimulan ko na rin makihalubilo sa iba.

[green-aholic]

I can now reply!! Hehe.

@ sis royalebeauty
Tama ka nga sis! If i want to change something, i should be brave enough to make an effort to do something that i don't like or something na di ako komportable. Alam kong pag nagawa ko yon, it will bring me to greater productivity and enjoyment and of course self satisfaction na din.

@ sis mischa
Nako parehong pareho tayo sis! Its like, gusto ko maging ganito, ganyan pero di nag eeffort! Ako, gustong gusto ko magtravel. I have this very adventurous side inside me eh! But the sad thing is its all in the mind lang? I know ang weird. Hahaha.. Syempre, how can i enjoy what i like if the first thing to do which is to step outside di ko magawa. Pano ko mafufulfill ang kagustuhan ko mamasyal. Hanggang sa isip na lang ba ako? I guess and i wont let it kaya dapat na talaga kumilos! Ayokong abutan na uugud ugod nako bago pa to masimulan. Alam ko ang problema actually, kelangan ko lang kumilos! 

At natawa naman ako dun sa reply mo ke sis sugardrop na baka nakakalabas ka na pala di mo lang napapansin!! Haha!! Winner!!

Pareho talaga tayo sis, shy type din ako ng konti. Hehe.. What you said in your last comment, 2nd paragraph is akong ako din. Tapos like ko naman sinabi mo sa last paragraph!

@ sis sugardrop
Siguro nga sis you want to go back to home base na, comfort zone ba dahil naumay ka na sa labas, whereas me, kulang na kulang nyan! Buti ka pa!

Tapos, strict din parents ko eh kaya nahirapan din ako lumabas dahil andaming tanong bago makaalis. Hanggang sa nakasanayan ko na lang dito sa bahay and i guess sila rin nasanay na. I get jealous of my bro and cousins na nakakaalis at nagagawa lahat ang gusto. I dont want to be dictated. Parang ayoko na dapat ganito ako, ganyan, wag tutulad sa kanila, etc. kasi wala namang perfect. I come to realize na ako din yung tipong takot mahusgahan nang ibang tao, siguro dahil din sa pag me nalalaman silang di magandang ginagawa ng isang tao, alam kong napag uusapan sila. Basta ganun kaya siguro pinili kong on a safe side, yung walang thrill, di adventurous at palagi na lang nakikiayon sa gusto ng iba! I hate it! (Sorry, ot. Hehe)

I like what you said from the line, "i wanted to explore" hanggang dun sa "one step at a time" na part. Thats all ive wanted to be eh. Is it hard? Whats harder, being yourself or living up to others expectation of you? Haaay.. I am thinking nga na i am getting old na but i havent reach the stage gawin yung mga gusto ko. Lagi ko pa din iniisip ang ibang tao. I always ask kelan pa ko mag eenjoy. Huhu..

@ sis sirish
Atleast nga natry mo. Ako naman natry ko din pero limited. Parang naspoil ba. Its like im nearing the height of it tas suddenly nawala. Di ba bitin? Hehe..

@ sis simplepink
Kontento na din ako minsan sa family ko, but ayokong sanayin, since alam ko in time na mamumuhay ako on my own. Kaya mo yan sis! Naninibago ka lang kaya ganyan pa feeling mo.. Pray ka lang lage na makaya mo lahat ng pinagdadaanan mo.

Sorry naman nagdrama ako. Hahaha.. Thanks sa reply mga sis!!

[cecilydee]

This is what I tried. I am an introvert din. I always have acquaintances and relatives which are very intimidating. At first, I thought this is going to be my life forever. Boring, nasa comfort zone parati. Pero I noticed when I left the country at walang nakakakilala sakin, I became more people oriented. Mas malakas kasi ang loob ko kapag new environment. Siyempre hindi pa ako gaano mahihiya kaya mas okay na ipakita ang self na gusto ko talagang ipakita.

[simplepink]

^dati naisip ko din mag-abroad. feeling ko kasi wala pa kong kilala di ako mahihiya. pero naisip ko, ayoko na mahiwalay ng tuluyan sa papa ko. matanda na din kasi sya.

green, natuwa naman ako sa super haba mong hehe!

[momentum]

WOW..I think I have found some here that I can say "sisters from another mother" hahaha! 

Grabe mga sis, ganyan na ganyan din ako tulad nyo! at eto na eto rin concern ko sa sarili ko! 
Just a little background...

I grew up with a very strict mom, single mom na siya since 6months ako, 3 kaming magkakapatid. Hindi kami ng ate ko pinapalabas even with just friends, even with commuting. fast forward one of the most rebellious thing I did was maglayas, pero actually mama ko nag-sabi ng "get-out!"  isip isip ko that time, "this is it!!"  kala ko naman my life will get better. I ran away from home and stayed with my then-bf-now-husband-now-ex-ish lol. turned out isa pa pala itong asawa ko na over protective and mega jealous. my world even became more small..then I got pregnant to our daughter and after 1 yr I decided to move back to my mom due to the abuse of my husband.

since living with my mom, parang bumalik sa dati buhay ko  even if I have a daughter na, bantay parin ako, if ma-late lang ako ng uwi ng 30mins before, tatanong na yan bakit ang tagal ko. buti nga ngayon lie-low na siya, pero I still have this feeling inside na "dapat umuwi agad" like her voice is permanently engraved in my head. So what do you expect from that? NO SOCIAL LIFE.

When I tried to make friends with officemates, okay na sana, but after several painful and lesson-learned experiences, talagang this made me become an introvert. Pano, those officemates just dropped me like a hot potato as soon as someone they know and new comes into our office. this has happened in the past narin in my other jobs.So I just decided to not go to lunches with them anymore, and just eat on my own, sa desk ko. kahit pag team0building, I am not enthusiastic to join, lagi ako may excuses..which mos of it naman talaga is tutuo kasi tinatamad ako..ayoko ng mga team building/dinner after shift ng Fridays..malayo bahay namin habang sila taga dito lang sa area. basta..wala talaga na akong gana makipag close..para sakin , tama na ang civil kami lahat sa isat isa..konting kwento etc thats it. I deactivated the office fb account that I made kasi i feel it is useless. Tamad din ako gumimick kasi I did not grow up to have the freedom to do so..at lalo na may daughter ako..parang I can't help but feel guilty if I spent the whole day na nga sa office tapos after office hanggang gabi ganun parin.

there is so much I wanna do! It's like I'm itching for a more exciting, fulfilling and happier life than what I have now na bahay-office-bahay crap! haha! I wanna move forward, I want to explore. Masyado na naging stagnant buhay ko. I'm 29yo na but I feel like I still have a looong way to go 

hayyy!!! how to get out of this situation?? I feel like I am aging na haha,,wala naman ako problem with my social skills, I still laugh at jokes, crack jokes, magaan kasama but I do not want to make close friends na..sorry napa haba..natuwa lang kasi ako na hindi pala ako nag-iisa!! haha 

[sugardrop]

Is it hard? Whats harder, being yourself or living up to others expectation of you?

Both are equally hard, with their own pros and cons. Sometimes kasi if you live your life according to how you want to, there will always be people who will disagree with it. But if you live your life always trying to live up to other people's expectations, there are times when you'll feel na hindi ikaw yun. You're compromising your own identity or how you want to live your life just to please other people. I say live it according to how you want to but be very considerate of other people along the way.

[gorgeous_me]

me too, introvert kasi ako, I tried naman, talagang puro labas, pero hindi sa maiingay ha, I mean, vacation, coffee/lunch dates with friends, meet other people, na-try  ko na din mag solo travel local/international, chinallenge ko lang sarili ko, well, nabuhay naman ako, haha

yun lang, bumabalik pa din ako sa dati, minsan tamad akong makipagkita sa mga friends, yung iba lang na ka-close ko talaga, work from home lang din minsan, so most of the time nasa bahay lang, hehe

buti pa yung iba, outgoing talaga, and ma-PR, kahit saan, kelan, go go lang

minsan napagkakamalan akong suplada, which is hindi naman, tahimik lang talaga ako, maingay lang ako sa mga ka-close ko na, lalo na kung comfy na ako sa kanila

[sugardrop]

Minsan kasi, mas masarap pa ang tahimik.

Ang daming times ko mas pinili na magbasa na lang ng book sa bahay over a gimik.

[gorgeous_me]

^I can relate, haha, mas lalo pa akong natambay sa bahay last year, kakabasa, haha

Kaya sabi ko, need ko ng bago, ayun, nag-aral naman akong magdrive, pero nagbabasa pa din ako ng ebooks, LOL

[louise1]

take risks... and  try to explore new things when you're burnt out or bored.

Nakapagtravel na ko mag-isa and was fulfilled. I felt I was taking a big leap for something better in my life.

[green-aholic]

i hope i can travel solo din! i really want to start doing the things i like na this year. kelan pa kung palaging bukas di ba.. minsan naisip ko nga kung nagsimula nako non siguro fulfilled nako.