possibly dating a CONYO, help

[ilovejdy]

I met this guy over the internet...
We've been friends online for years but not the chatting type.
This year, we chatted and got to the "getting to know stage"
and he would always ask if we can meet.

I would always reason out.
I'd say, may work ako or may plans na ako(during the holidays)


Why did I say he is a CONYO?
(CONYO referring to that semi-derogatory term for people who seem to be high-class and vain or conscious about their social status and speak in Taglish or broken-Tagalog mixed with English.)

Kasi he lives in a exclusive place,
graduated college sa 1 international school, even studied abroad..
speaks 3 languange (TAGALOG, ENG, SPANISH) and even knows a little french
and now studying JAPANESE (or was it chinese?).
he's into expensive stuff (usually talks about & posts about),
he's into RACING ... basically things that ordinary (AVERAGE) people like me
cannot afford.  And MOST OF THE TIME,
he converse in ENGLISH, TAGLISH but never in straight tagalog
(pero dito siya lumaki)


I like him (pero not LIKE-LIKE if you know what I mean)
Interesting kasi siya, kaso talagang feeling ko maiilang(manliliit) ako sa kanya.
Social status: average lang ako.
Hindi ako MALALIM mag-ENGLISH, but I'm a call GIRL (works sa call center haha)
Compared to him, jologs ako. 

ANY TIPS?
Ano sa tingin niyo?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

hmmm. if you haven't really met up yet then you're not really dating him.

my advice, meet him, test it out, how will you two be when together. if not then tell him you dont feel it.

besides, for all we know, di naman totoo mga sinasabi niya. so go meet him up, wala naman atang mawawala sayo. it's the holidays anyway. 

[ilovejdy]

Yes sis.. Hindi pa kami nagmemeet
Masyado kasi ako advance mag-icip LOL
MY bad, but ayun kaya nilagay ko "possibly"

Sa totoo lang nasa side ako na hindi nalang
makipagmeet kasi I can sense na masasayang lang
time namin.Pero tama ka din naman,
Sigh* Confused na ako. Haha
Thanks though.. Wish me luck

[missybee]

I feel you girl 
I'm dating a CONYO now and I can say na nakaka nerbyos pag kakain kami at sa mga kainan na hindi ko maintindihan ang mga menu.

Natutuwa siya because im just being my self. siguro naman tutulungan ka niya if ever.
And, hwag ka masyado pahalata na na iintimidate or what.
Be confident and enjoy 

[sugardrop]

Can't you even be just friends na pwede magkita? You know, no expectations on your part. I mean why let his background bother you that much?  Parang unfair naman especially on his part na just because he is like that eh parang wala na syang chance with you. And even more unfair sa sarili mo because naliliitan ka na just because magkaiba kayo so please stop comparing yourself to him.

[chicafabulosa]

Like your status itself, "possibly" pa lang. Di kaya girl masyado ka naman nag assume agad na date ang gusto nya agad na going to bf/gf stage. Maybe he wanted to meet you lang in person since matagal na kayo magkakilala sa net. Besides if ever na magclick kayo, eh di fine. I just noticed kasi ikaw ang medyo bothered sa social status nyo, sya nga hindi eh. Alam mo if ever man na magustuhan ka nya eh di okay. For sure if you will be yourself lang if ever mag meet kayo you will be able to know, sense and gauge if he will still like you being you and not being someone na he should be with based on what you think na dapat kadate nya or kalevel nya. Just meet him up and see it for yourself. Wag muna mag assume malay mo naman wala syang paki regardless if jologs ka. Baka nga ikaw lang ang nag iisip na jologs ka eh. Siguro naman di ka naman jejemon di ba or pormang punks not dead.. So wala ka naman dapat ikahiya no. Alam mo minsan kasi girl, tayo ang mismo nagda down sa sarili natin kasi we think na there are better girls out there. See, we are different in our own ways and that makes us unique. The mere fact he asked you to meet him then that means he sees something unique in you.

Dont let your hesitation about social status stop you from gaining new friend outside cyberworld. relax ka lang ha. Be yourself and tell this to yourself... I am unique and i am proud of it.

Good luck sis

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ haha sis natawa ako sa jejemon and punkz not deadz. 
yes sis go na habang di pa kayo busy! you still have tomorrow up to sunday. 

[chicafabulosa]

Sis iwanna be LOL . Pero seriously yung 2 yung kino consider kong jologs eh haha..

[aquacharly]

Be open. Never doubt yourself. But do not put yourself in harm's way.
You will know more of what's true face to face.

[ilovejdy]

sis missybee yung ganyang mga eksena ang naiisip ko 

sis chicafabulosa, at 1 time nag-ask ako, he said na its a date nga but then
siguro nga tama ka, I might be assuming na agad agad, hindi naman kasi kami parehas mag-isip
& natawa din ako sa jejemon at punks not dead haha, hindi naman ako jologs pumorma 

but tama ka when you said this:

Alam mo minsan kasi girl, tayo ang mismo nagda down sa sarili natin kasi we think na there are better girls out there.

lately ganito ako mag-isip & ang hirap na tanggalin 



sis iwannabeasupermodel tama, wala pa ako work until Monday. 
bukas kasi niya talaga plano, super goodluck talaga sa akin. haha

sugardrop sana nga pwede yung" just friends" para walang awkward feeling

aquacharly tama, I will know more when I see him.

Thanks guys, I will keep all your advice in mind.
Esp. the "do not put yourself in harm's way" part.
Malaking tulong sa akin ito, since wala ako mapagsabihan (for now).

carpe diem?

[lonelymiss28]

dami ko nakadate na sa online ko lang nameet, and yung mga sobrang simpleng makipag usap sila pa yung may sinabi sa buhay. may mga nakachat din ako na sinasabing ganito ganyan ayun pala sinabi lang nila yun para maging interesado ako sa kanila.
ang tanong ko lang nakita mo ba sa fb pics nya na nagpupunta sya sa mga racing or sosyalin ang mga group of friends nya and family? kung nakita mo then maaaring pwede pero kung sinasabi nya lang yun medyo doubtful ako.

[chicafabulosa]

sis chicafabulosa, at 1 time nag-ask ako, he said na its a date nga but then
siguro nga tama ka, I might be assuming na agad agad, hindi naman kasi kami parehas mag-isip
& natawa din ako sa jejemon at punks not dead haha, hindi naman ako jologs pumorma 

but tama ka when you said this:
Quote from: chicafabulosa on January 01, 2014, 04:32:01 pm
Alam mo minsan kasi girl, tayo ang mismo nagda down sa sarili natin kasi we think na there are better girls out there.

lately ganito ako mag-isip & ang hirap na tanggalin 

Girl di naman pag date sinabi kasi, date na youre going to the next stage agad? It can be friendly date lang. Ako i do friendly dates with my bestfriend na guy but it doesnt mean na if nagdate kayo expect mo na magiging oayo or liligawan ka na. Just enjoy the moment sis. If di man ikaw ligawan at least you gain a new friend di ba.

Normal na magkaron tayo ng insecurities pero we need to learn to love ourselves. Every morning when you wake up, face the mirror and tell yourself "good morning beautiful"... ,you have to believe in yourself that you are beautiful. If  even yourself you cannot make yourself believe that you are beautiful, eh sino pa ang maniniwala na maganda ka di ba? Mahirap oo kasi may mga pangit moments talaga tayo na girls na napifeel, pero we have to force ourselves to think positive everyday before we start our day.

Yan ang new year resolution ko eh, never ever think negative about myself. Sometimes ganyan ako na naiisip ko eh mas maganda sya kasi mas payat sya etc. pero i am able to bounce back if nagiisip na ako ng ganun by thinking and telling myself, "eh ano if mas malaman ako sa mga model. At least ako malambot ihug and may laman. Kesa naman buto at matigas ang naha hug ni hubby ko". So it will start to make me feel good.

Relax ka lang. Wag masyado mastress sad i pa nangyayari. Keep us updated ha

[ilovejdy]

Every morning when you wake up, face the mirror and tell yourself "good morning beautiful"... ,you have to believe in yourself that you are beautiful. If  even yourself you cannot make yourself believe that you are beautiful, eh sino pa ang maniniwala na maganda ka di ba? Mahirap oo kasi may mga pangit moments talaga tayo na girls na napifeel, pero we have to force ourselves to think positive everyday before we start our day.

I like this, thanks sis! gawin ko nga mantra to everyday. 

sis lonelymiss28 hindi niya sinabi sa akinabout the racing and stuff.. kasi nasa pictures & videos niya na lahat with his family and friends.. on that part, hindi ako nagdoubt na sinasabi niya lang iyon para i-please ako. 

[maigrichonne]

Ipakilala mo sakin. Baka magkasundo kami. Wahahaha!

On a serious note, don't be bothered by other people's status. He's probably not thinking about it. Besides, online nag-i-English ka rin naman eh, e di i-crossover mo sa real life. Wait, online ba ito? Hindi pa dating ito. Magkita muna kayo!

[miss_isla]

Would you rather date someone who can't speak English? Who's got bad grammar and pronunciation? Or a person full of pretension? No one can intimidate you without your permission, don't let his social status do that Instead, take that as an opportunity to learn new things. It seems that you have a different background, hobbies, interests. He can be the person to help you learn languages or other stuff. It doesn't really have to be romantic all the time.

[smoothie]

Huwag na. Don't date him. Hindi kayo bagay....Joke.

Seriously, I think there is nothing wrong with seeing him. As for your worries, my suggestion is just be yourself (just like in the chatroom). If hindi nag-work out, okay lang. You can be friends. If it works out and you guys like each other. Dito ka na mag-worry. Hehe.

[j.adore]

Mukhang mas kailangan mo i-build ang confidence rather than pointing out differences with a "conyo" guy.

[AVIDGOLFER]

Guytalker here..

Hmmmm di naman kaya nagpapa impress lang si conyo guy? pero sa totoo lang meron talagang mga ganyan tao sa lipunan, meron din magagaling or mga great pretenders or feeling sosyal na mga lalaki. Pero pwede rin na may sinabi din sa buhay si conyo, pero makikita mo naman yan sa tao kung meron o wala siya buhay pag na meet mo na in person at lalabas din naman yan sa pagkatao nya dahil meron kang makikita na kahit isang bagay sa kanya na pwedeng maging basis ng conclusion mo.

[little_princess]

if you are bothered by his social status, baka naman you have issues or insecurities? it seems it is just a harmless date so go for it. wala naman mawawala sayo if you try, you might even gani a friend.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

sis update mo kami ano nangyari ha!