I'm not condoning affairs pero I get Kittycat's situation. Naka-witness na ako nyan. Basta yata LDR, hindi maiiwasan madevelop ang feelings sa iba. Yung isang couple that I know, very religious pa yung babae kaya di ko expected na hahayaan nya mag-level up yung friendship nya sa isang housemate namin na married den kagaya nya, both with kids, pero that's the reality.
I beg to disagree. People like this don't think. Don't have a sense of personal space. Parang akala mo lagi nasa sitcom na 'Friends'. kita mo naman sa office, Yung mga akbayan, tuksuhan. Kunwari friends lang pero may agenda na.
You see, these things don't just happen overnight. It is a series of conscious decision, lalabas kayo, mag uusap kayo, magtatabi kayo, etc.
Kung taken ka na at Hindi ka malandi, this won't happen.
Deadma na lang kami sa flat noon kasi it wasn't our place to judge. They're both really nice people and they provide for their respective families at hindi sila garapal, lowkey lang.
Of course deadma lang kayo because di kayo affected. I bet if anyone of your housemates is the Husband/Wife, your reaction would not be that cool. Baka mapatay din ninyo di lang yung kalaguyo pero pati mga housemates din nila na Puro kunsintidor.
And this is the other factor why extra marital affairs are rampant in Manila, sa mga call Centers, etc. Yung mga officemates mismo ang nanunukso, Sabay pa sila gumimik/lumabas with the erring couple. As for the relatives, ganun din.
It's so easy to say to yourself, "That's not going to happen to me," but until you get there, away from home, these people will be your family. Akala mo close lang kayo and then boom, may feelings na pala. Kahit na andami nating channels of communication, iba pa den yung nakakasama mo talaga.
I don't think anyone can say this event can never happen to me. But people are just saying they Won't allow themselves to be a Mistress. Kaya nga tayo tao, binigyan tayo ng kakayahan mag isip at gumawa ng decision based on anong tama. Hindi Yung parang hayop na papadala lang sa lust.
Sis, Kittycats, good luck sa yo. Whatever your plan is for the future, I hope you don't lose everything you're working for.
If kittycats happen to be the Mistress of your hubby or gf of your current bf, I bet your message won't be like this.
Sis kvandenhaak, good for you, kahit papaano you're independent. But got your point, nasa morals din nga, kung gaano ka strong Yung kapit mo. Halos pareho pala tayo, I'm also abroad, alone with 2 kids in tow. I was separated for 4 years and annulled for 2 years when I realised I need some adult company. Pero di naman ako mamamatay kung wala. Basta alam Kong married, or likely may gf or parang may asawa, total iwas ako talaga. di lang nga iwas, run!