BEING A "MISTRESS"

[shinies]

Kahit na mapahamak ka pa, at least ginawa mo yung alam mong tama. Isipin mo na lang, parang accessory to the crime yan. Kilala mo kapatid mo pero di mo tinulungan yung fiancee. Pag kinasal sila at nagdusa future SIL mo, parte ka din nun kahit pano.

Sa amin kasi, ang mali ay mali, kahit sino ka pa. Di uso yung kakampihan mo porke kadugo. Weno naman ngayon kung magalit yung kadugo. Wala naman choice magbabati din in the future. Pero yung mali, di na maitatama yun.

[mysterioza_me]

Update: so ayun na nga nagkabukuhan na sila and now galit-galit sila

[momentum]

^after backreading.....wow so pano nalaman ng lahat sis?

[mysterioza_me]

^To avoid confusion I will use the term "A" para sa fiance ng bro ko and "B" para dun sa married gf niya.

My brother went back to Kuwait to join A na nauna ng bumalik dun. Before he came back my mom talked to my bro and told him na umayos siya, na wag ng hayaan na matulog pa siya dun kay girl and vice versa if di naman siya decided na pakasalan yun kasi mas malaking problem kung magbubuntis yun tapos di naman pala niya gusto pakasalan. Fast forward ng konti. So my bro's daughter (from his previous relationship) posted a pic of them with B in facebook during his vacation here in the Phils. One of the pics e nakayakap si bro kay B. So my brother called my niece to delete the pics she uploaded but it was too late kasi may nakakita na. According to bro pumunta si A sa apartment niya and confronted him. Kesa daw mag-eskandalo si A dun at manganib buhay nila napilitan siya ihatid si A sa bahay nito. Wala na daw kasi paki si A kung may makakita sa kanila and kung makulong or mabitay sila. My bro convinced her na samahan siya umuwi. Pagdating sa bahay ni A ayaw na niya pauwiin bro ko at pinilit daw siya na dun matulog. So while he was asleep pinakialaman ni A ang phone niya and was able to accessed the phone using my bro's fingerprint. Walang separate na applock ang mga apps niya so A was able to go through his gallery and tadaaa ayun huli ang mga pics nila B. Then A accessed his fb messenger and saktong may message si B ayun si A ang nagreply na "malandi kang babae ka..:" may idea na siguro kayo if ano pa sinabi.  Hindi naman daw pinatulan ni B si A according to my bro. Tapos ginawa ni A she posted their pamamanhikan pics together with the ring and the flowers that my bro gave her and naka-public pa at complete tag sa bro and niece ko. Yan na din nalaman ni B na may pamamanhikan na naganap. After niyan nagkaroon ng confrontation si A and bro ko, according to my bro ayaw ni A na makipagbreak sa kanya. I told him hindi na yan hihiwalay, obviously she posted their pamamanhikan pics at sinabi na tentative date ng kasal nila. Naghahabol na din si A sa huling byahe kaya siguro hindi niya na maisip na may better man pa bukod sa kapatid ko. Magkagalit sila but A does not want to break the engagement. B on the other hand blocked us all in facebook including my bro but before that nagkaroon ng confrontation din between them.

But oh boy, Kapapasok lang na balita just now naka-unblocked na naman ako kay B pati ang bro ko so alam na this. (B pm-ed me and asked about facetime. Nagulat ako so I checked our common friends and yun naka-unblocked na din bro ko sa kanya) Tuloy na naman ang kalandian. Bahala na sila, matatanda na sila.

[shinies]

Grabe sa gulo sis Ngayon at labas na katotohanan, wala naman na kayo magagawa kundi ituloy na pagsabihan ang kapatid mo. Sakit sa ulo saka kahihiyan na lang siguro ang magiging isyu niyong pamilya.

Pero ampogi ng kapatid mo ah hehe ayaw pakawalan ng 2!

[Girltalker2]

^^ big mistake for A...
Sayang buhay nya, wasted.

If I'm in her shoes, I would be devastated syempre. Pero sana naman gumanti sya. Kwartahan nalang nya bro mo then huwag siputin sa wedding day! Bad ko!

[mysterioza_me]

^^Naku sis nagagalit nga ako sa kanya sabi ko dinamay niya kami sa kakapalan ng face niya. Ano na lang iisipin ni A about us. Kunsintidorang pamilya?! Feeling pogi, biset.

^If I were A hihiwalayan ko na lang kesa naman bibigyan ako ng emotional stress. Mas mabuti ng single kesa naman married ka nga pero feeling alone ka naman. Hirap talaga pagnaghahabol na ng huling byahe ang babae sunggab na lang ng sunggab sa kahit sino. Nakakalimutan nila yung worth nila at kung ano yung deserve nila.

Ang tanging nasabi ko nalang sa bro ko: "Karma's a b****. Tandaan mo babae ang nag-iisang anak mo."

[dismembered]

Sis,

Sorry to say pero napaka A*hole ng bro mo. Sadya yatang may mga ganyang lalake na sa mundo at feeling nila sa kanila lang umiikot ang lahat at kaligayahan lang nila ang mahalaga. Akalain mo, base sa post mo, may anak na pala sya dati? So ibig sabihin dapat nga nagpapakatino na sya para maging mabuting ama pero tignan mo itong pinasok nanaman nya. Sorry talaga sis pero nagagalitan ako sa pinaggagagawa nya. May mga kilala din akong ganyan, pero naiinis ako talagang hindi na narerealize ng mga yan ang mga consequences ng actions nila. Masama pa nyan, minsan ikaw na kamag anak ikaw pa ang mag worry at magkakaroon ng stress dahil sa mga ito. Kainis talaga!

[lovemeagain30]

Si A pride nalang ang umiiral sakanya. Hay naku people can be consumed with so much pride and ego.  di baleng maimpyernong buhay basta wag lang mahalata sa facebook.

kung itutuloy niya yan kamo warning lang ah baka sa huli mabaliw ka. sayang ang buhay. there are people who gets to marry in their golden ages and they have no regrets.

[mysterioza_me]

^Tama sis. Nagpakita na ng tunay na kulay ang lalake ngayon pa lang so bakit mo gugustuhin matali sa ganun. Kunsumisyon lang abot mo dun.

[Girltalker2]

^ so si A wala bang kakausap sa kanya to prevent her from making the biggest mistake of her life?

Sis, Kung ako sayo, di nalang ako a-attend ng wedding. Nakakahiya. Then I would apologise to the bride, kay A and tell her di mo ma take na pinagloko sya ng bro mo and alam mo, maghihiwalay din sila later.
As for your bro, tell him you won't attend the wedding unless ayusin nya buhay nya.

[mysterioza_me]

^mukhang decided to stick with my bro si A, i dont want to talk to any of the girls kasi matatanda na sila (33 na si A & 32 na si B). I unfriended B sa social media (i know her personally bago pa maging sila ng bro ko) Nasabi ko na yan sis sa mom ko na di ako pupunta if ever matuloy. I dont want to be part of something na kalokohan lang

[akotobakit]

Question:

The husband's affair with his mistress had ended long ago. Both have moved on with their lives. The husband went back to his wife. But, it's only now that the wife has learned about the past infidelity. Can she still file charges against the husband and the mistress?

[mysterioza_me]

^If the affair has already ended a LONG TIME AGO and both of them already moved on what's the point of filing a case? Magugulo lang buhay nila pare-pareho including the kids kung meron man sila. Hindi ba pwede na magmove on na lang din si Misis? At bigyan ng isa pang pagkakataon si Mister?

[shinies]

Di ba concubinage lang ang pwede isampa kay mister? Di na yata pwede kung noon pa nangyari pwera na lang kung may matinding ebidensya na mapapakita sa korte na nagsama sila.

[mysterioza_me]

^Napakahirap patunayan ng concubinage na yan saka mababa lang ang parusa sa hubby and kabit. Mas ok pa nga daw na magdemanda na ang gamit is RA 9262 mas mahaba ang parusa yun nga lang si hubby lang ang pwede kasuhan. Pero kung sa akin siguro tutal matagal ng natapos ang affair bibigyan ko na lang ng one more chance baka naligaw lang ng landas at natuto naman sa pagkakamali. Pero kung hinayufak pa din siya ngayon, annulment na ipa-file ko kesa kasuhan pa siya ng kung ano-ano.

[baby_chichay]

well, after backreading I just want to rant. My dad's mistress (he's a pathologic babaero) told this to my mom the other day over text "wala ka na kasing silbi kaya dapat lang sayo iwanan, tanggapin mo na lang na wala kang silbi". she even had the guts to call my mom "technically ikaw ang kabit kasi nasa akin ang asawa mo". and my dad naman nag second the motion pa by telling my mom "wag ka nang pumapel sa aming dalawa" something like that. my mom was left with nothing else to do but lock herself in the room and cry.

i am too hurt for my mom and i want her to fight back but she's sick and we have her health to worry about. now, i just don't get it why mistresses act this way. saan sila kumukuha ng lakas ng loob eh wala naman sila karapatan, kung meron man kakarampot? saan sila kumukuha ng tigas ng mukha to hurt and humiliate other people and worst, destroy marriages and families? i just want to know a kabit's standpoint. i don't wanna hear about love, destiny or anumang sh1t. i just want to know what really drives them to ruin other people's lives. is it worth it? in the end what do you get? a cheating man? i really don't get it so gusto ko lang magkaroon maski kaunting shed of light. 

PS: my dad's 56 and his mistress is 31. my dad fathered a son with her. i am 32 years old. we're literally of the same generation but I really cannot understand wavelength ng utak ng kabit nya.

[hotbabe925]

Malakas ang loob ng mga kabit pag alam nila na sila ang pinapanigan ng asawa. Kadalasan pag nasa peak ng "in lust" ang mga may affair para silang may matinding fantasy na sila ang "true love" at "destiny" --- no matter what the wife will say, para sa taong may affair ang asawa ang nagiilusyon.

The cheating spouse eventually makes himself believe the lies he has committed. He will try to look at all the short comings of his wife kahit napakaliit para lang majustify ang infidelity nya.

[hotbabe925]

Share ko lang [textspeak!] isang portion ng article na nabasa ko. Sobrang nakarelate ako dito kasi i have experienced being the victim of a cheating husband..

"The relationship with the other man/other woman is an intoxicating fantasy relationship with no foundation but lies and dishonesty. They are showing your spouse only their best side, they are being all they can be to your spouse and all they believe your spouse needs. No one can carry on that kind act for long. Their true nature will show itself and the fantasy will wear off. When they start making demands of your spouse, clinging and attempting to control the course of the affair the fantasy will wear off and your spouse will see them for who they really are...someone who has sex with another person's husband or wife.

An affair is not a rejection of you but a rejection of their role as husband/wife and the restrictions it brings. You should not take it personally because it is not about you as a person. Given time and patience most affairs go down in flames."

[mysterioza_me]

Kinakampihan kasi ng lalaki kaya lumalakas din loob ng kabit