i need help..dun sa mga naging mistress,paano kayo nakawala sa ganun sitwasyon?? i need some advice please..
First of all, congratulations on wanting to end it. It's the first step. Second, you have to cut clean sis. It's like an addiction. Recovering alcoholics are asked to stop drinking period. There's no such thing as "three drinks today, two tomorrow, and then stop na talaga." It's the same way. You have to take yourself away from the toxic relationship. The hard part is STAYING away. Because really he will not stay away from you. He will try and call you and woo you back. It's up to you, and you alone, to stay away. Do whatever you need to do. I had to resign from my job, give up my condo, change numbers, etc. I think that was my rock bottom. Imagine, no job, no condo, no lovelife? At the age when I should have been climbing corporate ladders, and building a family, I had nothing to show for myself except for a broken heart. That depressing thought was the one thing that made me laugh, so bitterly, in those days. But it was true.
Everyday sis, think of what you STILL have. You still have your health, your family, your friends. You have a job. Focus on those. Mag travel ka. Pick up a sport. Fill the void in your heart and in your imagination with something, anything. It may not be as thrilling, but it's at least something. I drank, and dated random men, and I don't think you should do the same. Drinking and dating around weren't enough for me, so I started running. I had all these manic, pent up energy, and literally I did not know what to do with myself. So I started to run to escape the sadness, and from there things started getting better.
It also helped that I told myself over and over again, I'm wasting the best years of my life on a man who will NEVER, and I mean NEVER, really truly love me. One day, I will wake up, I'm 50 years old, and I will be ALONE. I will be all alone.
You may feel that you will never feel the same way again about anyone. Hindi totoo yan. I know because I also felt the same way. Sinabi ko rin yun sa sarili ko. But it's not true sis. I met my husband, the REAL love of my life, nung inayos ko yung buhay ko.
There will be days you will feel like you're drowning in sadness. There will be days when you will feel like you have nothing, and nobody and you just want to sleep and never wake up. Trust me sis, from one mistress to another, I promise you they WILL pass.
Tibayan mo lang loob mo sis. You can do it.
