When the love is gone

[Girltalker2]

I used to compliment him always, even on his fb wall but I think... Every time I will tell him to go out or talk, he'll just say he's busy (nasa harap ng pc) or he will say there's no time because of the kids.

Saka, napapadalas na yun pagsasabi nya ng mga hindi magagandang salit towards me kaya nawalan na ako ng gana na lambingin sya. Like kapag may nakalimutan ako dalhin sasabihin nya na ang t**** ko, walang common sense. Or sa umaga syempre nauuna sya magbihis kasi pinapaliguan ko kids sa umaga, sasabihan nya ako na lagi na lang ako mabagal kumilos etc

Nakakapikon naman nyan.  Puede bang sabihin sa kanya na baka tama sya, kaya mo siya pinakasalan kasi t**** ka at wala kang common sense. Nang matameme. Nakakapikon eh.

And kung matagal ka magbihis, ano ba problema nya?  Eh di sya kaya ang magpaligo sa kids, hindi ba common sense yun?  Ikaw ang mabagal kumilos and yet ikaw pa magpapaligo sa kids.  Sya kamo ang walang common sense! 

By doing those 2 things, napaka insensitive nya, kahit sinong nasa kalagayan mo, mab-bwisit.

There are a lot of reasons why he could be like that.
I believe lahat ng behaviors naten may pinanggagalingan.

While it may true na puedeng maraming reason, feeling ko there are just times na talagang walang reason. Ganun lang talaga sya ka-shallow. Ganun lang talaga kapangit ang personality nya.  Walang reason. Talagang hindi lang sya sensitive sa feelings ng partner nya and indifferent to all these, and simply incapable of handling relationships.

If you no longer want to spend your future with him.. Go and leave.

Well, I still believe na since mag asawa kayo, you still have to talk it out and give yourself and your hubby another chance.  Masabi mo man lang na nakakasakit sya ng damdamin tuwing gagamitin nya ang word na t****. At hindi rin yun mabuti in front of the kids.  How would he feel kung ikaw naman ang tumawag sa kanya na t****?

But after the talk, at ubos na ang pisi mo, time to move on nanga. Otherwise your married life would just be like hell.

So ang solution?  Talk and try. But have a Plan B - save a lot for the future and maintain yourself.  Prioritize yourself and your kids.

[glamorosa_09]

While it may true na puedeng maraming reason, feeling ko there are just times na talagang walang reason. Ganun lang talaga sya ka-shallow. Ganun lang talaga kapangit ang personality nya.  Walang reason. Talagang hindi lang sya sensitive sa feelings ng partner nya and indifferent to all these, and simply incapable of handling relationships

you're right -- it could be insensitivity, shallowness, incapability of handling those relationships. But all those behaviors were acquired or learned from somewhere or someone. How does one develop personality? since you already mentioned it... it could  be either from nurture or nature... talk about some psychobabble.

[Girltalker2]

^ sometimes talagang ganun. hindi na nagdevelop at na-retain nya yung pagka immaturity nya since childhood kasi hindi sya naturuan, or nagkaron ng proper guidance. 

kaya importante - choose your husbands wisely. kung ganyan ka insensitive lang, hanggang BF nalang siguro at huwag na pakasalan otherwise ikaw lang mahihirapan emotionally.