How to deal with loss of pet

[seven82]

Zack, our pet rabbit died last Saturday night  dinala namin siya sa Pet Valley yesterday. it was so hard to say goodbye. my daughter was crying so much. i wanted to be strong for my daughter pero ako din umiiyak kasi i really love Zack. sa tanda kong ito, siya ang una kong pet. ayaw na muna magalaga ng daughter ko ng pet for now. sabi kasi niya wala daw makakareplace kay Zack. even husband ko na hindi emotional na tao nalungkot din. kahapon nung nag grocery kami ikukuha pa niya dapat si Zack ng gulay  tapos naalala niya na wala na pala..

no goodbyes Zack. mommy will miss you so much  and you will always be in our hearts. We love you! 

[fxy111]

george died 3:00am of february 12. he would've been 10yrs. old this coming march 16..i opted for mass burial kasi hindi ko kaya makita siya lifeless. babay ko talaga eh.he sleeps on my bed, when i work gusto nya nasa top ng table ko din siya ( i work from home kasi).wherever i go sa house nandun din (kahit sa banyo ha) hirap. sabi ko nga sa friends ko sobrang bigat sa puso...trying to be strong for my other dog baka kasi ma depress but george was my first pet...

it was an unexpected death kasi kaya mas mahirap tanggapin.

how do you guys deal? i see so many pet owners na maraming pets..is the pain worth it? sobrang painful kasi talaga.'til now, i can't stop crying..

[cassycofie]

hi guys.. Di ko lam but in the middle of the night nagbabasa ko ng mga ganitong bagay parang tinotorture ko yung sarili ko.. Well thank God di ko panaman nararanasan mawalan ng furbaby.. Pero tingin ko kaya ako andito kasi soooobrang takot ko na mawala yung anak ko. My only son (shih tzu) will turn 3 this June 2016. Maybe some will say bata pa naman yan yun nga din gusto ko isipin tuwing dumadating yung times na natatakot ako pero somehow gusto ko iprep yung sarili ko alam ko na di naman kasi parehas ang life span ng tao sa dog so alam ko dadating yung time na mawawala yung anak ko. There are nights na umiiyak ako silently ayaw ko marinig ng asawa ko.. Literally anak ang turing namin sakanya wala pa kasi kami anak.. Di ko akalain na magmamahal ako ng sobra sa isang aso.. He is my first pet ever.. So lahat ng klaseng pagmamahal ibinubuhos ko sakanya kaya di ko alam gagawin ko pag nawala sya pakiramdam ko mababaliw ako.. At yun yung kinakatakutan ko well maybe di literal pero talagang magugunaw ang mundo ko at baka hindi ako maintindihan ng ibang tao specially relatives.. Di ko lam pano gagawin ko. Sana mabuhay ang anak ko kasing tagal ng buhay ko.. And sa mga nawalan na.. All i can say is magpakatatag kayo and mag pray i think thats only thing we can do.. I salute all the fur mommies who loved their pet unconditionally. God bless us all.. I love you my son! Pls live as long as mommy is around.. Plsss...

[dark_phoenix]

This was my emtry in my blog i just copy paste kasi di pwede mag post nang link.

If you are a dog lover, I hope you would take the time to read this entry. All I need right now is the consolation and company (even online) of a fellow dog lover.

Yesterday, August 26, 2016 my pet dog, Herbie, has passed on to the next divide. He was a family to us for 5 happy years. He came into our lives in 2011. I was scared of dogs because I was chased by a dog when I was 6 years old and that trauma has stayed with me ever since. I know that dogs are beautiful creatures to take care of and so October of 2011 I decided to take in Herbie. He was named Herbie because by the time he was delivered by (he was given..I didn't buy him) our neighbor into our home, my mother and I were watching the movie Herbie Fully Loaded. Yes, the Volkswagen car Herbie. Same with other dogs, he was loving and fully protective of our home. He was closest to me. I was his Ate. My mom was his Mama.

HAD I KNOWN...
Herbie was still not vaccinated with anti-rabies but don't you worry guys he was a good dog and haven't harmed or bitten anyone. There was a free vaccination in our barangay last August 25, 2016. Before he was vaccinated, he was already not feeling well. He was a bit weak and he didn't ate his dog food. He would only eat if I feed him with my hands like a baby. I told my mom to proceed on with the vaccination and at the same time have him checked with the vets. Sadly, I think the only main goal of government vets is to control the population of dogs and cats around the country. The vet who attended to Herbie didn't assess him if he was fully conditioned to be vaccinated with anti-rabies and at the same time to be neutered considering his old age. After the surgical procedure was done, Herbie was so weak due to the anesthesia, the stress of surgery and the anti-rabies vaccination. Ok so they say that's normal.

When I arrived from work last August 25, 2016, my heart just broke at the sight of him. He doggy cried (silently but I still heard him) when I arrived. Even if he was so weak he still stood up just to greet me at the gate. His face was so weak and full of pain but his tail wagged so happily from left to right. I told him to not stress himself and lay back again for him to relax.

I accompanied him thru the night. There was this bad instinct I felt at the sight of him. There was blood near his organs due to the surgical procedure that was done but my friends said it was normal. So I relaxed but the bad instinct stayed. I didn't want to go to sleep because I just want to be with him. If I could just sleep beside him all thru out I had already done it. My mom went home to our province and told her to go back in the city as early as possible the next day because I don't want to leave Herbie in that position when I go to work the next morning.

The day HERBIE LEFT US....
Morning of August 26, 2016, I woke up and the first thing I checked was Herbie. He was still weak and the sight of blood just scared me even more. They say it is normal for a dog to be weak 2-3 days after the anti-rabies vaccination and neutering but that bad instinct never left. My mom and I let him took the prescribed medicines. Anti-biotics for his surgical wound and ascorbic acid for his immune system.

When I left for work, I was at the gate and took a last look at Herbie. He looked at me too and that was the last image I had of him. Until now I still imagine that look and I can see the pain in his eyes. It was my last encounter with Herbie.

My mom left for work too. I texted her 12:21 PM:

"Ma, ayaw bya i si Herbie=("  (Ma, don't leave Herbie alone =( )

At noon, she went back home to attend to Herbie. My mom said his condition didn't improve. She stayed by his side all afternoon and that one text message confirmed that bad instinct I felt the night before. My mom texted me 3:24 PM:

"Inday, tawaga department of vet medicine and fisheries. Kutasan man Herbie" (Inday, please call the department of vet medicine and fisheries. Herbie is always out of breath.)

I called them but there was no doctor available. There was no one I could ask why Herbie's situation was like that. I texted my mom to always hydrate Herbie with water and texted her again 4:25 PM asking how Herbie was and that I will be calling again the Department of Vet Medicine but my mom replied at 4:45 PM:

"Inday, sorry au RIP na Herbie. Ako na ipalubong. Maka uli ka sau?" (Inday, sorry Herbie has RIP. I will arrange his burial. Will you be able to go home early?)

I was still at work when I received the message. I BAWLED. I never felt so much pain before. My father and lolo already passed away but it is a different pain when you get to be with them EVERY SINGLE DAY. My mom and dad were separated so I didn't get to spend much time with my father. My lolo lives in our province so I always don't see him everyday. With Herbie, it's different. I get to see this loving dog everyday! Who always waited for me to get back from work at the end of the day! Who happily wags his tail whenever he sees me!

HEARTBREAKINGLY SILENT....
When I went home after work, my tears would just fall. I rode a taxi since I know I will still be bawling out of Herbie's death. I didn't want to ride a jeepney. When I arrived home, my mom was cleaning Herbie's place where he stayed when he was still alive.

I stopped at the gate looked at my mom and looked at that empty space with no Herbie laying down and I cried like a baby. I decided to just let my mom proceed with Herbie's burial. I think I couldn't take watching Herbie dead. It was so eerily silent when I arrived home last night. There was a death atmosphere within our home. My mom and I lost a family member.

Now an EMPTY SPACE...
In my blog i posted a photo of his place in our home

Herbie, ate Darling will always love you, miss you and remember you until eternity. I'm sorry you had to die in pain. ='( You will always be my one and only baby dog.
I love you, Herbie. ='(

[Pink_Sugar]

^namatay si herbie gawa sa surgery?

[dark_phoenix]

sabi nang vet na i messaged thru fb..maybe herbie was suffering with blood disease caused by ticks
meron na siyang liver problem. days before the surgery he was kinda weak na and ayaw kumain.

meron problema sa blood clotting si herbie.

[SaffiyahEnglish]

Sabi nila,"Moving on takes time but sometimes it takes more time." Honestly, you never really move on. You just accept it.  I know it is hard but you have to. When my first dog died, I was devastated. Feeling ko parang ang daming nawala sa'kin. Sa kanya na kasi umikot yung mundo ko. Routine ko siya. Wala na akong uuwian at wala ng sasalubong sa akin. Nung 2nd time na nagkaroon ako ng pet nung hinawakan ko yung dog naalala ko yung 1st dog ko. Nalungkot ako.


Nagkaroon din ako ng mga dogs after her at nabaling atensyon ko sa kanila. Naging super busy din ako dahil thesis. Pero minsan iniiyakan ko pa din siya. Binabalikan ko yung mga memories niya like pictures tapos yung mga magagandang bagay sa kanya. I tried so hard na mag-focus sa magagandang bagay kesa sa pagkamatay niya. Pero masasabi ko ngayon okay na ako.

[Pink_Sugar]

My little 6 y/o chihuahua died in the province... Namatay last June 2016 yung bff nya.
Ngayong 2016 3 alaga ko ang namatay. Pero dito sa chihuahua eh 3 days na ako naiyak pag uwi ko galing work... Siguro kasi sya yung pinaka baby at maliit sa lahat ng alaga ko sa province... Kung andun lang sana ako siguro buhay pa sya...

[Howl7]

yesterday our dog Howl crossed the rainbow bridge. he was only 9 months battling with severe anemia. misdiagnosed with worms daw sa unang vet niya. after our wedding, we adopted him habang wala pa anak siya muna. he was our source of joy after a stressful day at work.ang sarap sa pakiramdam na may naghihintay sayo pag uwi, may tatabi sayo sa pagtulog at maglalambing. although sometimes super naughty niya (he's a beagle) pag uwi ko sa bahay napakagulo ng kwarto namin. he taught me patience. and yung time na nakunan ako, he was my therapist, my comforter, my companion. because of him nakarecover ako agad.

habang nasa work ako kagabi tinawagan ako ng husband ko na umuwi na daw ako kasi di na daw maganda lagay ni Howl. nagmamadali talaga ako makauwi kasi parang nararamdaman ko na pero in denial pa din ako. habang on the way, text kami binabalitaan ako sa lagay niya at sabi na parang umokey daw ang lagay and parang kinabag lang. so ako kumalma naman, pagdating ko sa bahay relax pa akong umakyat. ayun nakita ko siya nakahiga at ang husband ko namumugto mata so alam ko na. super sakit talaga kasi mga 20 minutes palang daw siya nawawala di pa ako umabot. hinawakan ko siya, malamig na siya. sabi ko sa kanya mahal na mahal ko siya, pahinga na siya alam namin kasi hirap na hirap na din siya. tulog siya mahimbing at mamimiss namin siya ng sobra at tulungan niya kami maka move on.

I miss you Howl, no more pokes, no more medicines, no more pain. Papa and Mama love you sooo much!

[SaffiyahEnglish]

super sakit talaga kasi mga 20 minutes palang daw siya nawawala di pa ako umabot. hinawakan ko siya, malamig na siya. sabi ko sa kanya mahal na mahal ko siya, pahinga na siya alam namin kasi hirap na hirap na din siya. tulog siya mahimbing at mamimiss namin siya ng sobra at tulungan niya kami maka move on.

I miss you Howl, no more pokes, no more medicines, no more pain. Papa and Mama love you sooo much!

Ganto din nangyare sa akin. Kakaakyat pa lang ng pinsan ko sa hagdan namen sabe niya buhay pa daw tapos after 2 minutes siguro dumating ako namatay siya. Ganyan siguro mga dogs ayaw ipakita sa owner nila na mamatay sila.

Condolence sis. 

[Tincywincy]

there's a good chance we will be putting to sleep our favorite baby girl Sachi this weekend (Shih Tzu). She just turned 1 this September. She had high fever for 3 days straight with non stop recurrence of seizure. She was brought to a famous 24 hour pet care clinic morning of Day 2 pero after 24 hours hindi man lang nila nastabilize yung body temperature nya. (I even asked kung ano diagnosis nila since lahat naman ng test nagawa na nila, ang ginawa lang ng doctor eh nag google sa harap ko at dun sya naghahanap ng sasabihin sakin na diagnosis, pero ending HINDI DAW NILA ALAM since her tests were normal.. WTF!)..

so finally day 4 nilipat na naming sya sa recommended vet samin. in less than 30 mins nastabilize agad ni doc temp nya, however it's too late. Day 5 ngayon and the vet called me to let me know na ginawa na nya lahat pero although she made a huge progress, nagsseizure padin sya whenever someone touches her. so sabi ni doc, there's already a brain damage which he no longer can repair since ang brain is very sensitive part of the body and doesn't rejuvenate.

iuuwi na naming sya later, hoping na there would be a miracle na mas gagaing sya sa bahay and eventually be back to normal. if all efforts fail, come Saturday we will have to say goodbye to her 

[SaffiyahEnglish]

Sis Tincywincy, kamusta na dog mo? I hope she is doing fine.

[Tincywincy]

Sis Tincywincy, kamusta na dog mo? I hope she is doing fine.

Hi sis thank you for asking, sadly we lost her that day. hindi na nya talaga kaya so she was put to rest. ang sakit because everyone misses her. pero siguro ganun talaga, maybe her purpose is really to bring the two puppies in this world. and she fulfilled it na.

also because of what happened to her, mas naging observant kame sa kinikilos ng dogs namin. madami kameng natutunan. her life was short but very meaningful.

[quinone]

tingin ko lagi talagang may guilty feeling sa side ng pet owner, di kasi sila nakakapag salita.

namatayan na naman ako ng pet. nabigla ako though alam namin may cancer na siya, nasa mouth kasi yung cancer, inoperable. ok naman liver and kidney niya, may infection lang at low platelet pero malakas pa siya nung dinala sa vet.

that day rin na napansin namin hirap siya, dinala namin kagad. ayaw niya nga kami pansinin kapag dinadalaw namin, tumitingin talaga siya sa other way, ayaw humarap. 1-2 days lang wala na siya.

nung nag pass away na sabi ng vet kapag abdominal breathing na raw ang cat medyo delikado. nag respiratory arrest siya. sabi ng doc malamang nagpunta sa lungs yung cancer niya and mabilis daw yun kumalat.

[px17]

We lost our Piolo, 14 years old Pomeranian last Nov 5 at 2:37 am. He was our very first pet. I got him when I was 1st year hs, gift siya sakin ni boyfie nung nanliligaw sakin. I always cry kasi nagsisisi ako bakit ko ba siya dinala sa vet na yun. Kwento ko dito what happened just to warn other pet parents out there. This will be very long though.

Oct 30- During dinner time, hindi na kumain si Piolo. Natutulog lang siya. Akala namin ayaw niya lang yung ulam namin. Super takaw niya kasi basta luto ng mom ko.

Oct 31- Sumusuka na siya ng yellow foam. Nagyayare to sakanya pag hindi siya kumakain. So I have no choice but to force feed him. That night irritable na siya. Same attitude nung year 2013 at 2015 na naconfined siya due to liver and kidney problems.

Nov 1- at 8am dinala namin siya sa nearest vet. Usually sa PAWS namin siya dinala kay Doc Wilford, pero closed ang clinic ng PAWS until the 24th of Nov. Pag wala naman ang PAWS sa PRTC in west ave. Kaso sobrang malas nag closed na ang PRTC. We tried calling their old number pero not working na. Sa PRTC naconfine si Piolo noon and the doctors are really good.

Nirecommend samin nung dog breeder sa neighborhood namin ang Congressional Animal Clinic. When we arrived there hinahap namin si Doc Albert pero his juniors told us na on vacation until nov 3. Since vet naman din sila pinacheck namin si Piolo. Sabi may crackling sound sa respiratory area kaya diagnosed niya ubo at sipon. Reason kung bakit walang appetite kasi barado ang ilong. We told him medical history ni Piolo. Pero ubo at sipon lang daw yun uso daw kasi sa panahon. He injected antibiotic for the ubo and sipon, expectorant para ilabas daw ang phlegm and vitamins for the appetite. At nagbigay siya ng oral meds. Ibalik daw si Piolo in 3-4 days pag same condition padin.

Inuwi namin si Piolo then umalis kami to buy him cerelac for force feeding. When we got home super amoy na amoy yung gamot sa buong bahay. Pinakain ko na si Piolo pero ang hina niya pa rin. We thought na normal lang dahil nga nainjectionan so hinayaan lang namin matulog.

By 9pm ayaw niya padin talaga kumain. Binalik namin siya vet at dun nilagyan ng swero. Nag inject si Vet ng yellow na gamot sa swero. Cinonfine muna siya dun. Kinakapa niya si Piolo at sabi puno ang bladder. Sabi niya baka icatheter pero patutulugin. Sabi namin hindi na pwede yung normal na pang sedate kay piolo. Nirecommed sakanya dati yung pang baby na kasi nga old dog na. So sabi niya wait nalang niya yung senior nila.

Nov 2- by 11am we visited him. Nakaupo lang siya sa kulungan. at pinakita ng vet nag yeyellow na siya at hindi nakakaihi. Sabi ni vet ayaw niyang galawin si Piolo kasi nga old na hinahantay niya daw reply ng senior vet nila. So sabi ni mama paki kulit namin kasi urgent. Kinulit ako ng mom ko na iuwi si Piolo kasi mukhang hindi nakakapahinga dun. Nilagay kasi siya sa tabi ng dogs na malalaki at kahol ng kahol. Hindi kasi sanay dog namin sa ganun. Sabi namin ng kapatid ko na wag na kasi in case of emergency atleast nasa vet na. Eh wala din naman kami paglilipatan.

By dinner time hindi mapakali mom ko tinawagan niya ang vet sabi hapon pa daw dadating ang senior vet. So inshort tengga lang talaga dog namin dun. Pagdating namin sa clinic by 8pm iba na swero ni Piolo. Pinalitan niya daw para makaihi at sabi niya very low chance na si Piolo. HA? BAKIT VERY LOW? eh dinala namin malaks pa. tas ngayong kukunin hinang hina na.

Buong gabi salitan kami. Nagtatae na aso namin tas sumusuka na. Iyak na ng iyak mom ko. So lahat talaga ng kakilala tinawagan namin naghanap kami ng vet. Pero mga recommended closed na.

Nov 3- Dahil sa takot di namin mailipat agad si Piolo ng ibang vet, nagkaduda kami sal lahat ng vet dahil sa ginawa ng Congressinal Animal Clinic. Triny kong imessage yung page ng PRTC. at sa awa ni God nagreply! Binigay niya contact no. ng ShaSha Vet Clinic along west ave. sabi andun napunta ibang staffs ng PRTC. Tinakbo agad namin ng mom ko at kapatid ko si Piolo.

at pag attend ng doctor si Doc Anthony, yung vet ni Piolo dati sa PRTC. Tinanggal nya agad swero ni Piolo. Kasi bawal daw yun sa may kidney problem. Kinuhaan niya ng dugo at nilagyan ng oxygen. Nilagayan niya ng catheter nang hindi sinisedate. After giving first aid ininterview na niya kami ano nangyare. Nung pinakita namin yung picture ni Piolo nung nilalagyan ng swero sa congressional animal clinic sabi niya ang lakas pa daw.

Vet (Doc H) from Congressional Animal Clinic misdiagnosed our dog with just ubo and sipon. We asked Doc Anthony kung dahil ba sa antibiotic na ininject kaya lumala si Piolo sabi niya hindi niya masabi kasi hindi niya alam anong antibiotic. Pero most prob isang factor yun, sa sobrang lakas ng antibiotic hindi kinaya ng kidney & liver ni Piolo. Pero sure siyang yung nilagay na swero ang hindi pwede. Hanggang sa pinakita niya samin na may iba't iba klase ng dextrose. Per color coding niya diniscuss.


Nov 4- Doc Anthony recommended na isurgery si Piolo para maextract yung urine niya. Pero 50-50 parin daw magiging lagay ni Piolo. We decided na irisk since trusted vet naman si Doc Anthony. After the surgery sabi niya inflamed both kidneys ni Piolo pati rin ang liver. But pray daw for miracle if not he will opt for euthanasia. Sa buong gabi inupadate naman niya kami. When we visited Piolo nag momouth breathing na siya pero naiia-angat na niya ulo niya tas kahol ng kahol. Sabi ko kay mama alis na kami para makapahinga. Makulit kasi siya pag nakikita niya kami. Pag alis namin tinawagan namin si Doc sabi natutulog daw. Nangulit lang talaga kasi nakita kami.

Nov 5- Ginising ako ng mom ko ng 3am. Wala na daw si Piolo. By 11am pumunta na kami dun. Sabi ni doc nung time for his meds kumakahol nanaman daw. Parang nakikipagusap. Pero nakita niya na iba na daw. Kaya hinimas niya at kinausap na kung hindi na kaya sige daw bitaw na siya. Peacefully daw namatay si Piolo at pumikit pa daw. 

Kaya ingat tayo sa ibang vets. As much as possible sa trusted vet lang magpapainject ng meds. Para wag magaya samin. Some might say na matanda na kasi dog namin kaya namatay pero last year mas malala pa itsura niya pero nagamot siya sa PRTC. Although we still have other pets at home sobrang sakit padin. Sa lahat ng pets namin siya lagi namin kasama kahit saan. Twing lilipat kami ng bahay siya unang dinadala namin, pag magpapavet yung cats namin kasama siya kahit pasyal lang siya, pag may bibilhin lang kami kasama namin siya. Sobrang lakwastero niya. Ipagpapalit niya ang food sa pasyal. At sa liit niyang yun ang galing sumakay ng kotse!

Until now I feel bad for my dog. Sobrang sakit kasi parang ang dami ko pang pagkukulang sakanya tas namatay lang siya ng biglaan.

[yanchee]

Hello mga sis.  Just sharing our pet story.  Last April, ubo at sipon siya.  Binigyan ng antibiotic pero di gumaling.  After that nawalan na siya ng gana.  Mga nails niya naubos na lahat. And nagkaron na siya ng mga sugat sa bibig.  Really hurt kasi ang pogi ni Koko dati (shih tzu).  Blood test result may kidney and liver damage.  Since bumaba ang immune, nagkaron naman siya ng Demodex.  Both eyes affected na.  Yesterday ang suggestion ng vet is euthanasia.  Paglabas ko ng clinic talaga umiyak ako.  Para kasi hindi ko kaya.  Ngayun andito siya tabi ko.  I'm still thinking kung sundin ang suggestion ng vet 

[minabey]

Kalungkot naman ng nangyari kay Koko. Kumusta na, sis? Sana um-okay na sya.

[jamimi29]

sabi ng iba mag move on lang daw. Pero for me, sobrang hirap. mas masakit pa nga yata to kesa sa mga naging breakups ko with my exes. not kidding though. I lost my fur baby last February pero until now it hurts me parin kapag naaalala ko and kapag namimiss ko sya. Sobrang love ko yung baby kong yun, she died because of mites. The day na naconfine sya, I was out of town, so when I went back home, dinalaw ko sya. Super hina na nya and recommend ng vet na ipa-blood transfusion sya. I told the vet to do kung ano man yung sa tingin nya na makakapag pagaling sa baby ko. Pero Feb12, I lost her. Super sakit. Iyak ako ng iyak. Akala ng iba porket dog lang yun, madaling makalimutan, madaling ireplace ng new dog. Pero hindi e. Iba kasi kapag super love mo talaga. Actually hindi ko din alam yung sagot sa tanong mo dito sis, kung paano ka mag deal with loss of pet. Siguro time? Let yourself have the time to accept. Masakit, oo kasi most of us tinuring na yung pets natin as part of the family. Pero wala eh, just like us humans, they need to go din. and siguro isipin nalang natin na kung nasan man sila ngayon, mas masaya dun, wala nang sakit and marami na silang makakalarong other dogs.

pero hindi ko talaga alam. huhu. just by writing this naiiyak ako kasi namimiss ko nanaman baby ko.

[lonely_dad]

will getting a new pet lessen the pain?

[jamimi29]

will getting a new pet lessen the pain?

For me, it took time bago ako nagkaroon ng new dog, kasi parang sa nangyari, ayoko nang maulit or maranasan yung same pain over and over again kapag dun sa new dog naman mangyare yun. Pero wala eh, I really love dogs and I really love living with dogs, it did help lessen the pain, kasi may bago nang mangungulit sayo, may bago nang maghihintay sayo, may bago ka nang kalaro, pero somehow, there's still this hole in your heart kasi namimiss mo parin yung isa.