Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[simang]

^ohh i see.

Sis if you think he's asking you back.. He's not. He said thank you, take it na lang as it is.

[sugardrop]

Pls help me to understand this.

My bf broke up with me two weeks ago. As in, wala na. Kasi nag usap naman kami may closure so ako super nagpaka busy para makalimot and all that. I changed my number. I deleted all our pics. I did everything para makalimot.  Maka move on. Like every day is a STRUGGLE. Ganon kahirap. Yesterday when I checked my mailbox nakita ko yung e.mail nya saying "Thank you for teaching me what love is... God Bless." Nung nabasa ko parang hindi ko alam bakit ako nawala sa sarili. Akala ko im coping up na. Sooooo many questions, bakit kaya sya nag-email? Anong purpose nya? Nang eechos lang ba sya? nakarealize ba sya? Or PINAPASAKITAN lang nya ko? Gusto ko lang maliwanagan BAKIT sya ganon. Hindi ko nalang sinagot, but I ADMIT, naapektuhan ako. 

Ano kayang iniisip ng mga lalaking ganito? TIA sa mga sasagot.

Don't add insult to injury. He thanked you and that's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Continue moving on with your life. Whatever it is you're doing to move on, keep doing it.

[queenteaser]

Don't add insult to injury. He thanked you and that's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Continue moving on with your life. Whatever it is you're doing to move on, keep doing it.

^thanks sa mga sumagot. naging hyper na naman utak ko kakaisip. sana hindi na maulit. wala nadin naman akong balak sumagot sa e.mail. ayoko nalang makarinig ng kahit ano from him. 

[Pink_Sugar]

Mababaw lang tong question ko guys: Anong mas appealing sa inyo? Girl na naka red lipstick or naka pink lipstick or nude lipstick?

[mc21]

Mababaw lang tong question ko guys: Anong mas appealing sa inyo? Girl na naka red lipstick or naka pink lipstick or nude lipstick?

....For me, its red

[driver]

....For me, its red

pink for me.. medyo pacute ng konti..

[sugardrop]

Baka depende kung bagay yung red or pink. Mamaya kasi, hindi pala bagay yung shade of red or pink na suot nya.

[Pink_Sugar]

^pwede din. Hahaha!

[jtansanco]

Mababaw lang tong question ko guys: Anong mas appealing sa inyo? Girl na naka red lipstick or naka pink lipstick or nude lipstick?

Red lipstick for class, elegance, and beauty.
Pink lipstick for the girl next door effect; the cute girl
Nude lipstick for... "just another girl I see everyday". 

[girlalou]

Help! Friends kami since 2011. We thru bbm and akala ko magiging kami pero hindi. Sa 3 years , hindi kami nawalan ng com. We normally send sms or fb messages just to hi ,hello, and good morning. Recently , i asked him bakit hindi cia nag fall sa akin. He said maybe because we seldom see each other. Does it make sense na we manage to keep the communication pero all this time wala lang sa kanya?

[jtansanco]

^ Yes, guys need to be with the girl physically. Girls get attracted by the guy's personality while guys get attracted by the girl's looks. That's just how it is. Another reason is that even though you two get along so much through the internet or texting, but the moment he actually saw you, you are not actually his type and that could be the reason why he didn't fall for you. Guys want a physical girlfriend, not a virtual girlfriend. I think the same goes for women.

[sexykha]

guys - how do you want to be seduced by your girl?

[jtansanco]

^ Here's a simple answer. A woman's "touch" can go a long way.

[11bernadette28]

Need some help Girls:

I've been in a relationship for almost 6years, syempre madami ng Ups and Downs nun tska nag cheat na din si boyfie sa akin pero everything is worth fighting for naman. Nasa right age na kame pareho boyfie is 30 yrs old me naman is 28 yrs old. Nakakainggit kasi most of our friends is married na, pag my mga get together kami pupuntahan hindi mo maalis na mga friends mo na mag tanong "Kelan nyo balak magpakasal" db? Minsan nahihiya ako pag yan ang tanong nila sa akin kasi hindi ko naman masagot yan kasi nga hindi naman ako yung lalaki db. Ang palaging sinasagot ni boyfie is not at this time since naeenjoy naman daw namen kung ano kame ngayon at ano meron kame ngayon. 2 weeks ago sinabi ni boyfie sa akin na yung reason bakit ganon daw palagi sagot nya He said: hindi kasi ako futuristic na tao Ayaw ko pag-usapan yung future kasi mamaya hindi naman mangyari mamaya umasa lang ako sa wala, since wala nga daw sya trabaho at asa pa din sa parents nya. I asked him kung may ipon sya at may work sya my balak ba sya na pakasalan ako ngayon he replied: YES Meron! Alam ko naman na mahirap lumagay sa tahimik lalo na kung walang ipon db pero my point is kung talagang gusto mo db my paraan naman db tsaka at gagawa at gagawa ka ng paraan.

Ang gulo kasi para sa akin kasi parang matagal-tagal pa akong maghihintay. O baka mamaya wala naman pala akong hinihintay.

2nd: Having a Baby Issue

Nung Saturday natanong ko sya pano kung hindi ko sya magbigyan ng baby (kasi mataba nga ako my PCOS din ako) kung open ba sya sa adaption. Kung iiwan ba nya ako kung sakali. He replied: Ano ka ba nag iisang lalaki ako sa amin kya hindi ako okay for adaption, pero hindi nya nasagot kung iiwan nya dahil lang dun sa reason na yun. Sabay sabi sa akin na alam mo naman na ayaw ko mag isip ng future db. (Tahimik na lang ulet ako) Naalala ko kasi yung ginawa ng Elem Classmate ko xGf 5yrs sila pero iniwan nya kasi hindi sya mabigyan ng anak take note payat naman daw yung xGF nya. Natatakot lang ako sa mga ganitong pangyayari.


Advice please.

Thank you,

[jtansanco]

^ Having no work and relying on his parents' money is FRUSTRATING. Even if he loves you so much, the fact that he has no work and is not yet financially stable at his age is so stressful for him. That burden is just too much for a guy. I can't blame him if he can't answer you because you wanted to adopt someone since I think every guy's dream is to have his own family and kid someday. With how you explained it, I can't blame him if he's not yet ready to marry you even though he loves you.

[zarazan]

to sis @11bernadette28.  Regarding the marriage thing, its kind of alarming na at the age of 30, medyo di parin niya iniisip ang future. It may not mean he doesn't love you, pero pwedeng may doubts pa siya sayo. For me kasi, when a guy is 100% sure, gumagawa na ng paraan yan.  Question lang, do you guys talk about marriage - lightly. I mean kahit nung medyo bata pa kayo, has he ever said na you're the girl he wants to spend his life with? Kahit pampakilig lang

On the issue naman about the baby. Nakakatakot ito. I know a lot of stories kung saan iniwan ng lalaki ang girl kasi hindi mabigyan ng anak. Most guys kasi pag pinakasalan na ang babae, ibig sabihin gusto na niya gumawa ng pamilya. Kaya madalas dami rin nagpapakasal ng hindi naman masyado love diba? Pero pag nabigyan ng anak, ibang happiness and fulfillment kasi sa kanila yun. So, sometimes di natin sila masisi. In the end, we can only hope and pray na love conquers everything.

[jtansanco]

^ I came from an all-boys school and we never talked about marriage. Even at my age, 26, we RARELY talk about marriage... The only times we try and talk about is when one of the guys is already planning to propose. Other than that, we don't talk about it.

[jtansanco]

I just want to ask,uso na ba talaga ngayon pag naginvite si guy to meet up eh sex pala yun..? We were schoolmates kasi nung hs. Nakita ko ulit sya sa birthday party ng friend ko then konting usap, and naging friends kami sa fb, exchange number..then madalas sya makipag text sakin but im not interested na rin,because yung text nya parang nagiinvite to have some good time...hes cute pa naman ...,kaya diko sinasagot mga text nya,, then he text me he wanted to see me kahit saglit lang. So pumunta ako just for quick usap and makita sya.lagi nya sinasabi crush nya ko since noong HS pa, parang palasak. Na ngayon  yan salitang yan kase crush kita nung hs pa : nagulat ako he kissed me, embrace me,hold my hand...parang hello ganun kabilis...tsaka nagyaya sya somewhere na agad.nawalan nako  ng interest.

Guys do think about sex on the first meeting in SOME CASES. Yan yung mga tipong meet through online/chat and etc. But since you're saying you already knew each other, that's just wrong.. From my point of view, sobrang bastos ginawa niya.

[11bernadette28]

^ Having no work and relying on his parents' money is FRUSTRATING. Even if he loves you so much, the fact that he has no work and is not yet financially stable at his age is so stressful for him. That burden is just too much for a guy. I can't blame him if he can't answer you because you wanted to adopt someone since I think every guy's dream is to have his own family and kid someday. With how you explained it, I can't blame him if he's not yet ready to marry you even though he loves you.

@jtansanco Ayon na nga din iniisip ko hindi pa siya ready sa lahat. Pero one time nung nag away kami that was last year kaya daw sya nakikipag usap sa ibang babae watsoever kasi daw wala pa naman daw syang ring na pinanghahawakan. Minsan na iisip ko hindi nga siguro ako ang babae for him. Ewan hindi ko alam pero maybe hindi pa nga sya sure sa akin.

to sis @11bernadette28.  Regarding the marriage thing, its kind of alarming na at the age of 30, medyo di parin niya iniisip ang future. It may not mean he doesn't love you, pero pwedeng may doubts pa siya sayo. For me kasi, when a guy is 100% sure, gumagawa na ng paraan yan.  Question lang, do you guys talk about marriage - lightly. I mean kahit nung medyo bata pa kayo, has he ever said na you're the girl he wants to spend his life with? Kahit pampakilig lang

 

Na pag usapan naman sya like gusto na bukod kami sa family nya, gusto nya beach wedding, yung recent ayaw nya ng civil wedding gusto nya church wedding. Pamapakilig, nag post sya sa fb to say thank you sa ginawa ko surprise nung V-day he said "Thank you so sa Love of myLife", tapos one time dun sa Pick-Up Line Time namin he said "ikaw ang mahal ko sa buhay".  Yeah your right if sure sayo ang guy gagawa at gagawa sya ng paraan. Pero ewan masakit pero alam mo naman tayong mga babae martir o baka ako lang ang martir. Parang gusto ko na lang minsan na magising isang araw na ako na mismo ang gigive-up sa kanya. 

[zarazan]

@jtansanco what I mean is, when you have a girlfriend, do you talk about "marriage" to them. Kahit joke time lang or light talk lang.  Like do you every say to that person "ikaw na" or "ilan anak gusto" kind of talks and such.