Natutunang mahalin or "love at first sight?". What do you prefer?

[zarazan]

Set A. ("Natutunang mahalin") -  You and guy had been friends for quite some time. Really good friends. Both single. Both searching. Later on narealize ni guy na baka ikaw pala hinahanap niya all along! So he courted you. Na-inlove both. Yay!

Set B. ("Love at first sight") - Nagmeet kayo ni guy wherever. Super nagandahan sayo si guy. Naging crush. Nabighani. Niligawan. Both click. Na-inlove! Yay!

Which do you prefer? Wala naman right or wrong answer dito. Hindi naman masasabi ang fate ng love based on pano nagsimula. Random question lang.


Ako, I personally prefer Set B. Alam ko most girls fantasize about "I am marrying my bestfriend" ending. But for me, iba kasing feeling yung maging crush ka ng lalaki tas liligawan ka. HAHAHA! Sarap lang knowing na you're boyfriend finds you attractive right from the start.  And for me naman, our partners should be our bestfriends,  sooner or later. 

What about you guys? What do you prefer or what happened to you?

[simang]

Either. Pero i like the thrill of getting to know a new person.

[Respect]

I don't think there is such thing as love at first sight. I think it's infatuation that's taking over.

[aquacharly]

^I agree.  Anything new, anything shiny - attracts.  Hahaha
Then, there's something new again, shiny...  Etc etc etc

Whatever he/she looks like -- must be appealing to your eyes.
But for the long-run, looks won't glue it all together.

[zarazan]

I'm thinking of the term lang naman. For most guys kasi may girls daw na unang kita palang, gusto na ligawan. Meron din daw na super gaganda pero hindi nila iniisip as "girlfriend".

[aquacharly]

^tama ka dyan. Maybe hindi maisip as GF kasi isip  beyond-reach kasi super-ganda.  .

[msbhelz]

Sali lang po ako. Dun ako sa natutunang mahalin, kasi you know each other for quite sometime na so both characters kilala nyo na though not totally kilala at least my percentage na may alam ka sa kanya. Andun kasi na dapat kilalanin muna nyo ang isa't isa to appreciate everything once you enter the relationship stage.

[missylazy18]

I go with "natutunang mahalin" yung tipong matagal na kayong magkakilala ... not necessarily na magkaibigan... tapos one day you'll find yourself falling inlove with him and vice versa. Yung tipong, di niyo expected. Yun biglang nag level up.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

sigurong natutong mahalin na lang. kasi yung "love at first sight" ugh, that's just attraction, and mostly it's physical and sexual. as stated by a sis here, something new, then there'll be a hundred more something new? ugh. 

but usually what happens is you have love at first sight first because you liked the way he looks then you'll fall in love (the real deal) eventually after getting to know that person.

sometimes i do get impatient about stuff, but i've observe the relationships that "developed" from low simmer to boil are stronger than the whirlwind kind of stuff? idk. haha!

[pink_stardust]

sa case namin ni bf, both A and B

according to him, the moment he saw me, naattract and he had a crush on me na. pero he did not make a move, nakakaintimidate daw kasi ako. we became friends instead, very good friends. after 2 years, dun nya ako niligawan and dun naging kami

[sugardrop]

I'd go with A. In our case, I liked his strength of character, sense of humour, and resilience while according to him, he liked my courage and wit. It wasn't love at first sight, it was more of attraction, I guess.

[mynameisxtine]

I prefer A. kaso nga lang hindi siya applicable sa amin kasi nga, hindi ganyan ang description ng love story namin. hehe Pero, mas maganda na yung matagal na magkakilala at naging magkaibigan at least aware na kayo sa good and bad ng ugali niyo

[sacred cow]

As a guy I prefer B, mas organic/natural ang dating e

hindi naman kasi uso sa guy yung madevelop sa babae, kelangan talaga on a certain level dapat nagagandahan sa'yo si guy

[simang]

^i have to agree with you Sir. attraction is not the most significant thing to fall in love, but it definitely is an important one

i dont really believe in love at first sight, love is a big word eh. pero it's the chances of falling for someone is higher kapag physically attracted ka sa kanya.

[CITIgirl_04]

I prefer yung natutunang mahalin. Natutunang mahalin in the sense that the guy is completely aware that your feelings aren't the same with what he feels in the first place yet he chose to wait for you no matter long that would be... Atleast he showed how patient he is waiting for you. And you already knew the 'real-deal'. The love at first sight is an isolated case. There were some who went through that but only a few survived and remained together in the end.

[sacred cow]

^ kasi sobrang pabor sa babae noh? whether or not she chooses to be with this kind of guy e hindi siya magmumukhang masama. funny that ayaw ng babae sa lalakeng sigurista, pero sila mismo gusto sigurado sa lalake...*shakes my head

[CITIgirl_04]

Hindi naman sa magmumukhang masama yung guy, kaya nga if that happened to me, I'd rather be direct and tell the guy I'm not worth wasting his time kasi wala rin naman siyang mapapala... Then it's up to the guy how he handles it.

However, that was just my honest opinion but it really never happened to me and won't surely happen in the future as me and my hubby were about to get married na..hehe.. 

Apparently with our love story, Set B initially took place. 

[supergirl01]

I'd go with B. Kasi mas natural  you thought you're just having one of those days then suddenly Ayun na pala sya. Masarap yung feeling na parang you get excited everyday na makausap mo sya, i like the chase.

Whereas "natutunang mahalin" parang pilit. For example mag-bestfriends kayo, you know each other well, you know all his/her flaws, pero baka soon you'll realize na baka you're both inlove with your friendship lang at hindi pala romantic attraction yun.

Pero in most cases (based on my experience and sa exp ng mga friends ko) hindi madalas nagtatagal ang "B". Kung pang long term relationship talaga, mas okay ang "A", iba parin if both of you built a strong foundation (friendship). I don't know. Depende padin sa tao. Hihi 

[katrinac]

I'd go with letter B.

Share ko lang, before I met my husband, kakagaling ko lang sa break up and super devastated ako that time. Still hoping na magkabalikan kami. Kaya medyo di ako open sa kahit anong relationship that time. Si hubby, yung unang nakita nya ako, he admitted na na love at first sight sya sakin. Even my friends/officemates lagi sinasabi yun, pati yung mga barkada nya. So yung time na naglakas loob na sya, niligawan na nya ako. But since heart broken ako that time, ilang beses ko ni turn down si hubby. Good thing he never gave up. Parang mga 7x times ko ata sya tinaboy. (well not really tinaboy, but kinausap ko sya ng maayos na di pa ako ready sa relationship). And so he waited, ginawa nya lahat, until narealize ko love ko narin pala sya. I learned to let go of my past, and magmahal ulit ng panibago. Ngayon, happily married na kami.  Ako yung first GF ni hubby pala.  Until now, I couldn't believe na totoo pala yung love at first sight. hehe! Every now and then, pag nagkikita kita kami ng barkada ni hubby nababanggit parin nila yung mga times na nag kukwento si hubby tungkol sakin, and how much he wants to pursue me. Unang kita palang daw nya sakin, nasabi nya dun sa friend nya na officemate ko na ako daw ang gusto nya pakasalan. hehe!

[zarazan]

@katrinac super kinilig ako sa story mo sis ganyan din mga gusto kong stories. Hahaha! For me kasi, di naman porket na "love at first sight" ang lalaki, lust nalang agad. Gaya nga sabi ng boyfriend ko, may magandang hanggang crush lang pero di masarpa ligawan. Pero may sa unang tingin, gusto talagang kilalanin.