How would you know if She/ He's the one

[mrgrey]

when during your younger years you felt like you are God's gift to women then suddenly with this woman, you felt differently. You feel like you're the one lucky to have her. After several years of being together, you wake up each morning and still feeling the same thing you felt like when you first saw her smile, then you will just tell yourself....."Damn I'm not letting this girl go"

[quinone]

You feel like you're the one lucky to have her.

...or him. i agree with mrgrey.

[Chinito]

I think being lucky is a typical feeling when you're in love with someone.. i could feel lucky at one point or another, but i could also be miserable after sometime.

oh well, would there be any definite feeling or some kinda extraordinary eerie feeling that should be felt when soulmate is coming?  or should i say. how can we differentiate what you felt the first time you had your ex'es compared to the 1st time you met the girl/guy you married? 

[anon]

...or him. i agree with mrgrey.

or both feel they're lucky to have one another.

[eleine26]

nice topic Chinito  naalala ko yung movie na She's the One. hahaha.

nung nagpropose sa akin si h2b ko, paulet ulet ko siya tinatanong kung ano yung nag trigger sa kanya para magpropose. what made him decide. pano siya nakakasiguro na ako na yung right girl para sa kanya. madami tanong na mga kaartehan lang yun iba. haha.

well, sabi niya, alam niya na kahit ano mangyari sa amin sa future, magkasama namin haharapin yun. kumbaga kampante siya na ako yung partner niya. hinde daw siya magkakaroon ng problema. alam ko at tanggap ko yung buo niya pagkatao.

actually, kinuwento niya rin to mga close friends namin at kapatid niya before siya magpropose sa akin.

for me naman, andun kasi yung acceptance eh. hinde kami perfect at yung relationship namin. but we know how to compromise. may times na naiinis ako sa kanya, pero hinde enough na reason yun para makipaghiwalay. grabe lang nangyari sa amin before the proposal. kaya sigurado na ako sa sarili ko na tama yung desisyon, he's someone I can't live without. siya na yung gusto ko makasama forever. 

[BacMook]

Nakakatuwa lang yung thread starter to raise such kinda topic, considering he's a guy.  Nakakatuwa din mga sagot ninyo. Parang ang sarap ulit mainlove at kalimutan nalang yung mga hindi magagandang bagay dulot ng love. Ano ba yan! Lumalabas na naman pagiging Hopeless Romantic ko, haha. Nakaka inlove kasi mga sagot nyo. 

Come on guys  We want to hear more from you pa!

[pret_ty68]

I've read it somewhere that you'll know if he/she is the one if you can't imagine him/her marrying someone else because deep in your heart you know that he/she belongs to you.

To Chinito the fact that you still have doubts, maybe it is the way your subconscious mind is telling you that they are not yet "the one" because I believe that if you are really with "the one" you will feel that you cannot let the person go and you are willing to risk everything. Assess your feelings well since you could also take a girl for granted and realize her worth when she is already "the one that got away".

[Chinito]

nice topic Chinito  naalala ko yung movie na She's the One. hahaha.

nung nagpropose sa akin si h2b ko, paulet ulet ko siya tinatanong kung ano yung nag trigger sa kanya para magpropose. what made him decide. pano siya nakakasiguro na ako na yung right girl para sa kanya. madami tanong na mga kaartehan lang yun iba. haha.

well, sabi niya, alam niya na kahit ano mangyari sa amin sa future, magkasama namin haharapin yun. kumbaga kampante siya na ako yung partner niya. hinde daw siya magkakaroon ng problema. alam ko at tanggap ko yung buo niya pagkatao.

actually, kinuwento niya rin to mga close friends namin at kapatid niya before siya magpropose sa akin.

for me naman, andun kasi yung acceptance eh. hinde kami perfect at yung relationship namin. but we know how to compromise. may times na naiinis ako sa kanya, pero hinde enough na reason yun para makipaghiwalay. grabe lang nangyari sa amin before the proposal. kaya sigurado na ako sa sarili ko na tama yung desisyon, he's someone I can't live without. siya na yung gusto ko makasama forever. 

So sweet Elaine.. i guess there's no exact explanation or sign on how we determine the one. it'll just happen when it happens . biglaan lang yata.

[Chinito]

I've read it somewhere that you'll know if he/she is the one if you can't imagine him/her marrying someone else because deep in your heart you know that he/she belongs to you.

To Chinito the fact that you still have doubts, maybe it is the way your subconscious mind is telling you that they are not yet "the one" because I believe that if you are really with "the one" you will feel that you cannot let the person go and you are willing to risk everything. Assess your feelings well since you could also take a girl for granted and realize her worth when she is already "the one that got away".

salamat Pre_ty68. that's exactly what i do, always assessing my feelings with someone. i'm dating few potential naman and i guess they like me as well. but my problem is i can't figure out if my feeling for them is for real,maybe infatuation or as simple as attraction lang. there's this 1 girl who stand out among the rest physically, personality, level of maturity etc.. and we're like waiting for what's next.. alam mo yun?  parang hirap akong mainlove ang hirap ibuhos ng todo para sa girl. ayaw ko naman mag commit ng basta basta kasi baka maka sakit lang ako in the end...  i feel guilty na rin everytime na may i de date ako then we're okay naman then suddenly loose interest and jump into new date ulet... parang may hinahanap akong something pero di ko makita.. sorry i can't explain it well, pero that's the reason why i started this topic..

[jojo2978]

^^^ Just don't commit for the sake na meron lang andiyan.  There are things na mahirap na i-undo once naibigay mo na word mo or nagcommit ka na.  I agree with you on being sensitive not to hurt someone by being careless.  I suggest that you be careful on the words to use and the situation where you will use it, mean what you say, let it be your rule.

[JINJIN:*]

This is hard to say and this is coming from an experienced, separated, mid 30’s, career woman, who is in the early stage of relationship with the current “The One”
Akala ko I found the right one when I got married in 2007. Tapos hindi pala. After having few relationships I had a hard time finding the right one..until boom! I found my partner now. It is only you who can say or feel if that person is the right one. And I guess staying in love with that person is an will make her “The One” and it is in your hand to decide if she is indeed “The One”. Nasa sa iyo kung ang babaeng pakakasalan mu eh siyang makakasama mu hanggang pag tanda mu. It is all a choice, hindi totoo yung you fell out of love or hindi mu sinasadyang mainlove sa iba. Or bigla nalang isang umaga wala ka nang pagmamahal sa asawa mu. I don’t believe that all these happen over night…you made it happen..you choose those to happen. So bandang huli you can see na…. hindi dahil sexy ang babae, matalino, maganda, mabait maunawain, mapagmahal, maaruga etc etc will make that person “The One”.
You choose her to be “The One”

Pero sige, to answer how I felt before with my first husband….I was so inlove with him and I over looked his being playboy and lack of ambition in life. So ayun after couple of years nambabae at wala paring ambition sa buhay. So that is “The One” for me then. Now, I don’t know if my current BF is the “the One” but I chose him to be my one and only for a long time if not forever.

[eleine26]

@Chinito:

siguro hinde mo pa nameet yung "the one" or yung other half mo. or maybe nameet mo na siya pero hinde pa tama ang timing.

minsan din kasi mahirap yung ganyan eh, masyado tayo conscious sa mga actions naten. sa mga nameet naten. kaya ang ending nafrustrate tayo..

actually, ganyan din ako dati. sobrang hopeless romantic ako. ngayon, konti na lang. hahaha. kapag nagkaboyfriend ako, iniisip ko siya na talaga yung partner ko. parang feeling ko magugunawa mundo kapag nawala siya. haha.

pero siempre, habang tumatagal, may mga bagay or pagkakataon na magpapa realize sa aten na hinde pala. we deserve someone better. so, we end that relationship.

yung ex ko before si h2b, almost 7 years kami. lahat ineexpect na kami na talaga. nagstart na din kami ng wedding preps. no third party involved nung nagbreak kami. nagkaroon kasi kami ng one week gap. then after nun, narealize ko na kaya ko na wala siya. na mas masaya ako mag isa. so kahit masakit para sa akin, at alam ko na masasaktan siya at magagalit lahat sa akin. nakipagbreak ako sa kanya. kahit na anong pagmamakaawa niya sa akin, naging firm ako sa desisyon ko. and now, happily married na siya. so Im sure, kapag naalala niya yung mga pagmamakaawa niya ginawa sa akin noon. hahaha. in short, ako or yung break up namin ang naging way para mameet niya yung "the one" niya di ba.

si h2b ko naman, tropa lang kami nung una. actually, tulay pa ako sa kanila ng friend ko eh (crush siya ng friend ko, pero hinde niya type yung friend ko). then constant communication, kasi sobrang kulit ko na magdate sila ng friend ko. hanggang sa napunta na sa amin yung usapan. haha. nagclick kami. kumbaga may sparks.  so we started hanging out. hehe. dun na nagstart yung love story namin.

after 2 years, nag abroad siya.. so LDR na kami, sobrang hirap. sumunod ako, pero magkaiba kami ng city. so hirap pa din. hinde kami lagi nagkikita. last year, nagbreak kami. for almost 6 months. then nakipagbalikan siya. nung umuwi kami this year, last february dun siya nagpropose. so parang nung nagbreak kami, nagtry siya ng iba dun niya narealize na ako "the one"   

alam mo, Chinito, may mga times din na tinatanong ko yung sarili ko kung siya na ba talaga ang para sa akin. kung sigurado na ba talaga ako sa desisyon ko na magpakasal sa kanya. kasi ayoko matali sa kasal eh. dati ganyan ang thinking ko. pero one day, it just hit me yung feeling na "this is it" sure na sure na ako. haha. mahirap talaga iexplain pero mararamdaman mo na lang talaga. 

o ayan, napahana na kwento ko. haha. goodluck sa lovelife mo  bata ka pa naman ata eh. no need to rush things.  enjoy lang muna.

[pret_ty68]

@Chinito. I can relate. I somehow understand what you feel. Just like you I also do not want to enter a relationship halfheartedly. Unlike other girls who easily fall in love I'm somewhat dense and guarded. There were instances when I am questioning whether I've let "the one" go because I was not able to recognize him.  I even came to a point where I consulted a fortune teller and ask her to describe the one for me so that I will not let him go once I've met him. The fortune teller replied that I am asking a foolish question since it is my feelings that will reveal whether that person is the one for me. She added that my heart will sing to me if he's the one.

Maybe what you are looking for is that some kind of magic feeling, soul mate connection or the "Light" as described in Paulo Coelho's books such as Eleven Minutes and Brida. But such books are work of fiction, maybe it happens to some but not for all. There were also several instances wherein i think I feel that magic but fate gets in the way or maybe what I feel then was only infatuation. Right now I'm praying for discernment that I'll be able to recognize the one.

[Chinito]

Thank's JINJIN, natuwa ako sa short story mo.. now i realized that what i need now is to enjoy my life being unattached and continue loving without hesitation.. i'll just let it flow naturally. di dapat masyado technical sa standards..

Thank's pre_ty68,  that's true. been there and done that na din, confused lang siguro ako ngayon. dami ko na din kasing nasayang na pag ibig eh. maybe kailangan ko lang talaga ng matinding sparks.. yung high voltage para matauhan.. hayaan mo sasadyain kong magpa kuryente.. 

Thank's sa feedback Elaine26, siguro nga. mukhang faith in fate na naman ang patutunguhan ng discussion na to e'. but too bad i don't believe in such thing kasi e. i'll continue na lang muna what i am doing and expand my circle. someday cha chamba din ako. heheh.

[chinita02]

it really takes time to know if your partner is "the one" for you.
in reality, a relationship will not always be on a honeymoon stage, wether we like or not, there will be events that will come our way to test our faith and love with our partner.
it will take a great effort on both parties to stay in love for the rest of their lives.
it will also be good if your partner will not only be your lover but also your bestfriend.
a bestfriend who could respect you and you will be comfortable to show who you really are and how you feel.

happy love hunt! <3

[pret_ty68]

@Chinito. Take your time. Sabi nga sa movie na Dream for an Insomniac "Anything less than mad, passionate, extraordinary love is a waste of your time".

[rheinfall18]

nalalaman pa ba yun? for me parang mas nararamdam dapat yun..hihi

[JINJIN:*]

Thank's pre_ty68,  that's true. been there and done that na din, confused lang siguro ako ngayon. dami ko na din kasing nasayang na pag ibig eh. maybe kailangan ko lang talaga ng matinding sparks.. yung high voltage para matauhan.. hayaan mo sasadyain kong magpa kuryente.. 

exactly the same words from my partner now. Dito kase sa Dubai, maraming lonely, maraming palapatol, kahit ano ka, single hiwalay me asawa, madaming pumapatol..mga lonely kase. So para sa isang lalakeng lilibre, talagang hindi mahirap makahanap ng isang fresh na fresh na dalaga (not that I am not fresh, hiwalay kase ako so daming complications diba), so tinanong ko bakit ako ang niligawan niyang nowing na ang daming experience niya sa babae, ang nasabi niya lang ie "me kuryente kase, at binuhay ko ang natutulog niyang damdamin" naks! bola!! hahaha..pero kilig much ako nun, I feel the same din. So bro chinito...antay lang wag mainip..darating din yung kukuryente sa damdamin mu. lol

[Chinito]

nice inputs. nakaka lakas nang loob.

I'm sure meron pa diyang makaka pag bigay ng experiences nila.. looking forward to see more inspirational true love stories. hahah

[katrinac]

Ako, naramdaman ko nalang sya bigla. I've had BF's in the past, pero never pumasok sa isip ko or parang na imagine ano ba ang buhay ko kapag asawa ko na sila. Pero yung sa ex-bf ko (who is now my husband), ramdam na ramdam ko na sya talaga yung gusto ko makasama. Siguro lahat ng qualities na gusto ko or na picture out ko na "ideal husband" sa kanya ko nakita.  I don't know if makakatulong yan, ang hirap kasi i explain eh. Eh si husband naman, yung nakita daw nya ako, ang sabi nya agad dun sa barkada nya, "She's the one". So nag jive naman ang mga puso at isip namin. haha!.