Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 3)

[carmilina]

^he's not into you... simple as that.

[graezieylicious]

^ eh nakaline kaya. hindi ba ang weird. diba kapag nakuha nyo na finally ang number ng crush nyo, wala na ata kayo ibang gawin kundi itext siya ng itext. pero ito, 3 texts lang dedma na! 

Instead of focusing on him and waiting for his text, focus on yourself. Be busy. Give him a challenge.

[wicked_18]

I just need both guys and girls opinions here so Im seeing a guy and he's older and I really like him coz he's a good person and genuine.but he admitted that he slept with over 35 women and he has participated in group sex twice..I know it can mean that he's a player and that he obviously loves sex haha.but he said that he's at that point in his life where he wants to settle down na and he's really looking for a relationship.what are your takes on this?should I even trust the guy and continue going out with him or am I just wasting my time coz this will only lead to heartbreak?

[graezieylicious]

I just need both guys and girls opinions here so Im seeing a guy and he's older and I really like him coz he's a good person and genuine.but he admitted that he slept with over 35 women and he has participated in group sex twice..I know it can mean that he's a player and that he obviously loves sex haha.but he said that he's at that point in his life where he wants to settle down na and he's really looking for a relationship.what are your takes on this?should I even trust the guy and continue going out with him or am I just wasting my time coz this will only lead to heartbreak?

Actions are louder than words honey. Observe his actions. How long are you two dating?
It is possible that with his age, take into consideration that he is already established in his career that he wants to settle down. However, there is a possibility also that he wants to jump right into the sack with you. Be careful.
If you really like the person with all of his splendor, you must accept him whatever he has done in the past. We can never alter it. Accept him as he is.

[sacred cow]

guy has a crush on girl, always asking other people about her. then guy finally asked girl for her number. he started to text girl right after getting her number, but after just 3 messages, hindi na nagtext ulit si guy. what is up with that??

ano bang naging laman ng usapan nyo? consider mo rin yun, baka naman you made him feel na hindi ka receptive

[wicked_18]

Actions are louder than words honey. Observe his actions. How long are you two dating?
It is possible that with his age, take into consideration that he is already established in his career that he wants to settle down. However, there is a possibility also that he wants to jump right into the sack with you. Be careful.
If you really like the person with all of his splendor, you must accept him whatever he has done in the past. We can never alter it. Accept him as he is.

I really have no issue about the group sex and 35 women all Im worried about is maybe he only wants me to be the 36th woman on his list.and yes, he did ask me to have sex with him on the 2nd date but I refused.is he really after a relationship or just for the sex?Im also worried that once I have sex with him he'll be mia.ayoko naman maging trapo (sorry for the term) na after using discard na agad.

[sacred cow]

diba kapag nakuha nyo na finally ang number ng crush nyo, wala na ata kayo ibang gawin kundi itext siya ng itext. pero ito, 3 texts lang dedma na! 

uhmm no, why would I act like all the Tom, Dick and Harry who got her number...e majority ba dun may napapala.
rapport should be built before taking the girl's number, you just use the number to set up a date keeping the convo to a minimum
kasi dapat in person kinikilala hindi sa text.

[carmilina]

^^^ I think you should take risk, getting into something deeper will be part of it.
at the end , atleast na try mo. Ang lalake kasi, madami man gawin mali yan sa buhay, uuwi at uuwi yan sa comfort zone nya.

I mean balik balikan ka nya, if ikaw na talaga yun para sa kanya. Don't be afraid, basta wag ka masyado magtiwala. Magtira ka sa sarili mo.

[graezieylicious]

I really have no issue about the group sex and 35 women all Im worried about is maybe he only wants me to be the 36th woman on his list.and yes, he did ask me to have sex with him on the 2nd date but I refused.is he really after a relationship or just for the sex?Im also worried that once I have sex with him he'll be mia.ayoko naman maging trapo (sorry for the term) na after using discard na agad.

It is not necessary to have sex honey, put that in mind.
As i said, observe his actions very carefully, without him knowing.
You will be just a trapo is you view yourself as trapo. Remember your worth as a person and as a woman. Having sex should never define you.

You have a choice either to drop that guy off or play his game....better. Don't lay all your cards.

[anon]

@wicked -- i'm with graezie on her opinions. Better withhold sex with the guy to see if he's really serious. Once you give in at this early, baka nga you'll just be the 36th on his list.

[graezieylicious]

@wicked -- i'm with graezie on her opinions. Better withhold sex with the guy to see if he's really serious. Once you give in at this early, baka nga you'll just be the 36th on his list.

Or maybe he's testing you?

What did he react when you resist his sex offer?

[carmilina]

Question to guys: Why hurt someone you love? feeling emo lang ako this late hour...

[jtansanco]

^ Probably because that someone I loved didn't make me feel loved. Tipsy lang at this hour...

[carmilina]

^exactly!!!

I wish I can drink beer too well I can't! feeling tipsy ka Kuya ah? ako naman feeling emo lang!

[wicked_18]

@graezieylicious testing me how? he was cool with it naman when I refused to have sex coz I told him its still too early.we still hung out after and went out on a few more dates but he's very affectionate always kissing me and hugging me even in public.it makes me feel like he's only after sex talaga.and he has more female friends than male, and the last time he went out with a female friend. Im just worried that he's just playing me, an addition to his list, but anyway just like the other sis here I'll just try it, and if nothing good comes out of it atleast naranasan ko nga. and by the way, thanks so much for responding and for your thoughts, I appreciate the time you took to help me out

[graezieylicious]

@graezieylicious testing me how? he was cool with it naman when I refused to have sex coz I told him its still too early.we still hung out after and went out on a few more dates but he's very affectionate always kissing me and hugging me even in public.it makes me feel like he's only after sex talaga.and he has more female friends than male, and the last time he went out with a female friend. Im just worried that he's just playing me, an addition to his list, but anyway just like the other sis here I'll just try it, and if nothing good comes out of it atleast naranasan ko nga. and by the way, thanks so much for responding and for your thoughts, I appreciate the time you took to help me out

Trust you instincts girl. Hindi ka pala mapalagay bakit you keep on going out with that guy, after all he's just a guy drop him off of if you are not comfortable. If ganyan behavior niya if hindi pa kayo how can he respect you if maging kayo na diba?
If you don't know how to play with a veteran player DROP HIM OFF, don't waste time on him.

[wicked_18]

^^ Thanks sis! I appreciate all your replies.anyway, di naman sa di mapalagay he's just so affectionate.and btw, Im here sa states so yung pda in public is medyo accepted dito hehe. One last, so if he has more female friends than male and he goes out with them ocassionally, is that a sign that he is indeed a player?with the group sex nga naman and 35 women I cant help but think that.pero I like him coz he is genuine, he cares about people and causes. Kasi lawyer sya, and he's not just a lawyer for the money he chooses his cases and he does pro bono, so plus factor talaga yung ganun.

[graezieylicious]

^^ Thanks sis! I appreciate all your replies.anyway, di naman sa di mapalagay he's just so affectionate.and btw, Im here sa states so yung pda in public is medyo accepted dito hehe. One last, so if he has more female friends than male and he goes out with them ocassionally, is that a sign that he is indeed a player?with the group sex nga naman and 35 women I cant help but think that.pero I like him coz he is genuine, he cares about people and causes. Kasi lawyer sya, and he's not just a lawyer for the money he chooses his cases and he does pro bono, so plus factor talaga yung ganun.

Honey, i don't know with you but it is really your decision. I don't know the guy but if i were you i will take some time to get to know him if i really really like him before jumping right into the sack. If you think he is worth it then go take the risk. Love is a risk right? As i said earlier, sex will never define you. I had intimate moments with guys whenever the mood strikes me but they never tend to disrespect me for that.

Did you say lawyer? so what honey??? Lawyer nga siya or kahit siya pa ang pinakamayaman sa buong mundo, yes he will give me security and all, but the question is magiging masaya ba ako??? Being a lawyer,doctor, architech, etc. doesn't mean that he will treat you how you want to be treated.

Try to think it over. Remember, happiness does not depend over a guy or somebody else, happiness is within us

P.S. Real woman should pursue by a man and prove to her that he is a worthy pick.

[minatay91]

Where do good men hang out?

[anon]

@ wicked -- are you hoping to be the one he settles down with? are you also looking to settle down as well?

@ minatay91 -- define good?