Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 3)

[sacred cow]

what will you do if you find out that your girl is having sex with another guy? is there a difference if she's sleeping with someone you know?

I will immediately end the relationship, I won't allow myself to be disrespected like that. doesn't matter if I know the guy or not

[anon]

@ Pink -- Like

@ carefree -- he does that in front of you? if so, at least he doesn't hide it. i'm assuming he's a young lad?

[anon]

^ well he acts like one. Sana hanggang salita lang

[Myealexis21]

^^Pabiro ba niya sinasabi Sis? And do you or does he know this girls?

My hubby kase would playfully comment while we watch TV.  Kapag may uber sexy girl on screen mapapa-wow yun pero yung tono kase niya pabiro at sabay susulyap pa yun sa akin to see my reaction haha! I usually just laugh kase I know he is not serious nga. 

Pero that's tv - hindi naman namin kilala who the girl is.  Mas concern ako at magwoworry if he comments on girls we both know or yung mga fb friends namin. Dyan medyo magkakaroon ng WW3!

[Myealexis21]

^For me Sis if I'm bothered, I talk to hubby.  But I discuss more about how I feel rather than his actions.  Minsan we need to tell them kase hindi naman sila mind reader.  And if you don't react or if you pretend na ok (when infact affected ka) then they would think na it's alright to continue doing a certain thing.

Men are very visual nga di ba, kaya hindi maiiwasan na mag-admire yan ng other girls.  Pero you can set some simple rules, like for me I'd say:

- Kapag nasa mall, it's ok to look wag naman yung obvious na obvious.  Wag na mag-comment.  Or if may comment ibulong mo na lang sa akin.
- Ok lang kapag celebrities, pero kapag kilala na natin yung girl wag na lang magcomment kase I would always remember that comment when I see the girl, and it would affect how I treat her.

if it bothers you, speak up. Mas mahirap magkimkim ng feelings.
treat your man as an adult -- believe me they are capable of understanding you and your feelings.

[minatay91]

sorry if this sounds like a really dumb or generalized question,

pero kapag inuman session, especially if may girl and unattached,

expected and common ba talaga na one of the guys will try to take advantage once buzzed
yung girl and test the waters if pwede may mangyari? (irregardless if single or commited yung guy)

or am I just surrounded by a foul group of people?

[anon]

^ kasi naman po, when alcohol is involved, wala nang inhibition (hiya) ang ibang lalake. so kung sino malapit na babae, lalo na kung attractive, will be flirted with...

[minatay91]

^^ thanks, but that's sad ..
I intentionally even dress really baduy (eg big baggy pants + big jacket) if I go where there's
alcohol para sureball na walang mangyari. Kala ko lang sa misconception na everyone's
so much more attractive under the influence? (or lumabas lang yung mga true colors?)

sayang nga lang. I just wanted to go for the interesting chika and tsismis. pero I think I'll
skip it unless I can get a trusted guy friend nalang kaya? I still want to go, but I just want
to listen, talk and eat and not really drink

[anon]

^ under the influence kasi, ang di maganda, gumaganda. ang maganda, lalong gumaganda. same with sexiness...

if you're perceived as "fair game" (esp if single) then some tipsy guy will make a move...

yup, being with a trusted guy might help fend off some of the advances...

other guys here might have different POV/tip

[entwife]

Ako I make sure na may trusted guy friend ako sa group before joining their inuman sessions. If nagkataon na wala, umeeskapo na ako bago ko pa mafeel na natatamaan ako. There are really people who use "inuman" para maka-score.

[junepets]

kaya nga sabi.. basta may ALAK... MAY BALAK!

[minatay91]

@junepets

haha masama o magandang balak talaga sis?

@anon

thanks, I've seen people get extremely horrible judgement being under the influence so..

entwife

same here sis..actually, well-known (for some reason) na hindi ako umiinom so sure na
sure kahit tanduay ice lang 'yan (4 lang inom ko ,I vomited na *discreetly* of course), medyo
tipsy na. and I felt really uncomfortable na when he kept asking me if I'm dizzy na because
that's when he decided to show "concern". "physical" concern, like holding my hand and
everything in between sayang naman, I liked listening to the chika-chika, na.bwisit
lang ako nito

if it's anything ha, if I may share an experience, I once had a close
encounter with a guy and he drank nearly half of the emperador (I didn't drink btw)
so naka.NO talaga ako (countless times). I noticed sa very few guys na na.share ko
ng experience na ganito, parang na.eengganyo mag.invite sa inuman. One on one pa.
(or they invite THEIR friends, hindi rin mutual) start sa gabi pa. Sometimes
magtext pa late at night. Overnight pa sa bahay nila!
LOL ano tingin nila sa akin? [insert unlimited excuses ko dito, eg may diarrhea
ako, sakit ulo, sakit tiyan, walang load, wala cellphone every week for 2-3 months may sakit ako LOL]

[junepets]

^ siguro sis you're so hot and irresistible..

ingatz ingatz na lang..

[minatay91]

^ naks sis how I wish! I feel more pathetic kesa nasa friendzone. at least, friend is tao,
tingin nila sa akin, object na.

Do you think being stern with a "no" lang talaga will work, or siguro at least may escape-tao
ako or someone to cling to nalang. I just really enjoy listening to people talk kapag naka-alak
na hehe

[Naughty^GuRu]

if you have doubts, don't!

kung nakakaramdam ka na unsafe and uncomfy yung mga taong makakasama mo sa inuman, it is best to say NO na agad. some or most guys kasi, iniisip nila nag pag sumama ka sa kanila sa inuman eh may guarantee na may mangyayari. kasi nga naman, kung kwentuhan and hangout lang ang gusto ng girl, bakit kelangan makipag inuman and worst makipaglasingan. by saying YES na sasama ka sa inuman, binibigyan mo na ng hint yung guy na pwedeng may mangyari, kaya he'll take his chances. lalo na kung hindi naman kayo close nung guy or hindi ka kumportable.

even in court, kapag na-rape or naharass ka and mag file ka ng case against the guy, kapag sinabi sa court na sumama ka sa inuman and hindi ka pinilit, sira na agad yung credibility mo. parang ang iisipin ng jury sayo, babaeng tao sumasama sa mga lalake para makipag inuman.

this is no brainer, kung hindi ka confident na safe yung mga makakasama mo and wala kang pinagkakatiwalaan sa kanila, then say NO. kahit nga hindi ka na magNO eh, basta huwag ka lang sumama, hindi mo na kelangan mag explain. worth it ba yung risk na maharass ka para lang sa chikahan and hangout?

[junepets]

^,^^ agree po sa inyo.
i have colleagues nag-aaya din uminom... but I never go out with them...

pero there are close friends naman na okay lang kasama sa inuman...
as in one for the road.. they are the ones na trusted talaga..

[minatay91]

^ Thank you naughty^guru. guru ka talaga I'll keep that in mind. I guess my gut feeling,
although undescribable, is trying to protect me yung feeling ko kase, "eh, baka
feelingera lang talaga ako and paranoid and they wouldn't do that".

Thanks a lot.

[junepets]

^ ma feel mo naman yun sis..
meron din ako friend na ganyan..
normally labas kami.. inom as a group.. so mas nakakausap ko yun mga friends kong babae during inuman sessions..

but this guy friend of mine.. keep telling me.. inom daw kami one on one.. gusto daw nya itsura ko pag tipsy na ko.
so there.. alam nang may balak..

so NO NO NO talaga..

[minatay91]

^ thanks sis, will keep that in mind. Thanks rin sa output ng guys dito

[snowhite_12]

ok question, boylet asked me to send a pic of mine,I send him a decent pic. now he still asked more pics of mine. does he have a crush on me?  kasi naman it boost my confidence! LOL  (ambisyosa lang)