Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 3)

[blackgreen]

thanks Naughty^GuRu. yun nga eh ayoko naman siya i-pressure. siyempre gusto ko sa kaniya mangagaling un idea na magsettle down na kami. sa mga binanggit mo wala siya ginawa diyan. yun mga instances na nasabi kong napaguusapan un future like may nakita kaming bahay sabi niya pwede na daw sa amin na ganun bahay namin.

[Naughty^GuRu]

@bliss15: that's tough. mahirap nang baguhin yun. kahit magka BF ka pa, forever ka nang tagged as one of the boys. this means na sobrang comfortable sila sayo, na hindi sila nahihiya to ask or tell you things. na-try mo na magpalit ng friends? haha kidding! try mo silang tarayan from time to time. try mo silang hiritan ng "excuse me, im a girl, ako dapat nililibre nyo" things like that. show them your feminine side by being masungit and moody. and yes, agree ako kay anon, try to dress up and look girly 

@blackgreen: how long na ba kayong together? and ano ba mga priorities niya? baka naman nagsusupport pa siya ng family niya or may kapatid na pinag aaral?

[blackgreen]

^one year pa lang. sabi niya priority niya muna asikasuhin sarili niya, kasi 2 years pa lang siya nagwowork. we're both 28 years old.

actually sabi ng mother niya before kami mag vacation together, "alalahanin mo un kapatid mo nag-aaral pa" 2 years pa before grumaduate yun bunso nila. pero hindi naman siya ang primary nagpapa-aral, though nagbibigay siya sa bahay nila.

[Naughty^GuRu]

@blackgreen: now I understand bakit hindi pa nagpaparamdam ng marriage BF mo. hindi pa niya priority settling down for now, and dapat intindihin mo yun. 1 year palang kayong in relationship, 2 years palang siya nagwowork, and nagbibigay pa siya sa family niya. obvious na hindi pa financially ready si BF para magpakasal and mag asawa. Hindi ka na ba nag eenjoy sa BF-GF stage niyo and nabobore ka na that you want to take the next level? and hayaan mo muna si BF mag enjoy sa sinusweldo niya, 2 years palang siyang nagwowork. pag kinasal na kayo hindi na niya maeenjoy yun. and lastly, i'm sure gusto muna niya makagraduate yung kapatid niya before siya mag settle down. don't rush 28 palang naman kayo and 1 year palang kayong together. I-enjoy niyo muna. sabi ng friends ko na kasal na, totally different daw ang BF-GF sa married life.

[anon]

@blackgreen -- are you feeling the social pressure of your 28yo age? why not ask him directly kung ano ba talaga plano nya? if you can't talk about such a major event in a relationship, baka mas mahirapan kayong magusap after marriage. in a marriage, communication is key...

[blackgreen]

@Naughty^GuRu nageenjoy ako sa relationship namin. Maiintindihan ko naman kung di pa siya financially ready. Siguro ang akin lang is hindi kasi siya nagpaparamdam kung anong plan niya in the future.

@anon siguro nga social pressure tong nararamdaman ko ngaun especially yun bestfriend ko na mas matagal pa kami ng bf ko eh sila naguusap na ng kasal eh same lang din naman si bf ko and si bf niya na may kapatid pang nag-aaral. Hindi ko kayang itanong un sa kaniya, hindi ba dapat guys nagoopen nung ganung topic?

[Naughty^GuRu]

^
ako naman ang advice ko is not to ask him about it. baka mag-freakout si BF pag tinanong mo about marriage. worst baka hindi mo magustuhan yung isagot niya sayo and baka ma-depress ka. Sensitive kasi yung topic, and MOST girls pa naman, kelangan TAMA yung makuha nilang respond from the guy sa mga ganyang klaseng conversation. Pero kung ready ka namang ma-reject ni BF na hindi pa siya ready to get married, then go ask him. Pero kung medyo sensitive ka and can't handle rejections, then better not talk about it MUNA. again, 1 year palang naman kayo. nakaka-pressure din sa guy yan pag tinanong mo siya about it.  let us know kung anong mangyayari hehe good luck

[anon]

Oh I see...1 year pa nga lang pala...for most guys, this is still "too early" to discuss such major matter.

Isang tanong dito eh, do you think/feel your BF consider you as "wife-material"?

[blackgreen]

Thanks Naughty^GuRu, hindi ko yan itatanong. Feeling ko madedepress ako pag di ko nagustuhan isasagot niya. Ieenjoy ko na lang muna yun relationship, 1 year pa lang nga naman kami.

@anon oo nga, baka mapressure. Especially nung pinakilala ko sa family eh sabi kelan daw kasal, feeling ko napressure siya dun. Hindi ko alam sagot sa tanong mo. Pano ko yun malalaman?

[anon]

^ hmmm...how about asking him ano ang ideal wife for him?...

[thirtylicious]

@naughty-guru
Clap-clap sa answers about signs. Ganyan si bf ko nun? Kilig naman ako naalala ko. Hubby ko na sya now! Hehe

@sis blackgreen
Yes sis. Skip muna sa marriage talk. Enjoy mo lang kasi 1 yr pa lang. Madami pa kayo pagdadaanan. Iba din ang bf-gf setup sa live-in. As in marami. Been there. Done that. I can relate kc both of our siblings are in highschool pa then. Nung 4yr college na sila my bf started opening up just like naughty guru said. 5 yrs din kami nun. Minsan gusto ko magbreak na lang pero enjoy talaga sya kasama. Hahaha inlavavoooo
Bigla namang nagpabuntis yung ga** nyang kapatid pero touched ako kc sinabi nya talaga sa parents nya na magpapakasal pa kami baka unahin na naman ang bunso. But that's another story
OT na ata.sorry po hihi

[thirtylicious]

And sis blackgreen

I think it really depends din if financially ready nga.
Malalaman mo naman yan if joint account kayo hehe
Tapos hayaan mo lang sya sa sweldo nya pero if sayo nya pinahawak yung company atm nya it's a good sign na wife material ka kc he trusts you with his money
And 1 more thing hayaan mo lang sya punuin ng sneakers ang cabinet nyo. Hahaha

Teka ako sumasagot e hindi naman ako guy! 

[minatay91]

How would you guys define a "conyo" girl? And in your perspective, good or bad thing?
Sana multiple perspectives rin if pwede

[sacred cow]

^ for me ang conyo, yung mga parang kryz uy ang profile, yung hindi mo mapapag commute or masasama kumain sa carinderia. yung dapat hatid sundo
at de kotse ka pa. for me this is not a good thing kasi may kailangan siyang i-maintain na lifestyle niya at medyo mahirap 'to iplease...
most conyo girls are also born with a silver sppon kaya hindi sila sanay sa harsh realities of life. Masyadong limited din lang ang magagawa niyo since maarte nga
siya sa activities or places na pupuntahan.

I personally know some girls na ganito (some are even close relatives) and I find them really superficial since they tend to judge a person especially guys on the size of their bank accounts. They also have superiority complex na nakakairita and they expect to be treated like princesses, sila yung mga girls na naniniwala na sa BS 'a guy who treats a girl like a princess is proof that he was raised by a queen' I'd take a cowgirl over a conyo chick any day, except if she's really really hot...lol
 

[littlemisskolehiyala]

Hello! Hindi ko rin kasi maintindihan ang mga lalaki.

There's this guy na somehow close ko. Pero di gano kasi parang nag-uusap lang naman kami kapag nagkikita kami. Eh ayun. Recently panay makaakbay sakin. 

Eh ang tangkad naman kasi niya mga sis. 6'' something height niya e ako naman 5'1. Oha?

Medyo inis ako sa kanya kasi may pagkamayabang siya at medyo bossy. Pati mga friends ko naiinis sa kanya. Pero nung nagbabasa kasi ako ng pocket book bigla ko siyang naisip. Nainis lalo tuloy ako.  ayoko ng ganito hahaha

[minatay91]

^ thanks sacred cow parang tumpak talaga. XD

[anon]

^ totally agree with cow on this one. Although ive meet conyo girls who eventually learned to adjust to cowgirl ways kaya enjoy na rin kasama

[mznogood149]

ask lang po  ...

kung sa chat lang kayo naging mag bf/gf mahirap ba yon pakilala sa family? this 15.. 1 year na kayo... nakakahiya bang pakilala? or my tinatago kaya hindi kayang pakilala?

[NickSparks]

How would you guys define a "conyo" girl? And in your perspective, good or bad thing?
Sana multiple perspectives rin if pwede

goes to school in poveda, ica,  csa, assumption, woodrose, st scho, miriam,or  lives in ayala alabang, forbes, dasma

[sacred cow]

goes to school in poveda, ica,  csa, assumption, woodrose, st scho, miriam,or  lives in ayala alabang, forbes, dasma

^ you forgot la salle zobel...hahaha. although generalization yung mga schools kung saan nag-aral yung girl, there is some truth in it since that's the environment kung saan nashape yung personality nung tao.
though mas naniniwala ako that it's the girl's zip code that will more often than not dictate kung 'conyo' ang ugali niya or not.
like say, a girl that lives in greenhills, wack wack, forbes, corinthian gardens, ayala alabang would more likely to be conyo than a girl who lives in tondo, rizal or pasig

judging from my friends who went to st. scho and from studying close to the proximity of st. scho in college, I wouldn't consider them 'conyo'
siguro nung mga unang panahon that st. scho was at its glory days of being an exclusive all girls school.