sexless marriage

[Maple19]

I agree, baka kelangan mo lang ligawan and pakiligin uli. Hindi naman kelangan big romantic gestures, sometimes, it's the small things that matter. And wag gagawin sa araw lang na may balak ka magyaya. Small things like assuring her you still find her beautiful or attractive, holding her hand, hugging, PDA, kinakamusta ang araw nya, nagseset kayo ng time na kayong 2 lang at wala yung kids, and pag kayong dalawa lang sa room, umiwas kayo pareho sa gadget, malakas maka-kill yung ng mood. hehe

I've read somewhere na wala naman talagang ideal number of times of do in a month or in a week, depende kasi sa couple yan, as long as ok sa kanila pareho. Minsan nga kahit once a month lang, pero kung super satisfying naman daw, ok na sa ibang couples.

[amethyst028]

^Guys kasi they compartmentalize, they have an on and off switch. pag work mode sila they can tune out everything focus lang sila sa work. Same with sex, kahit na warla kayo or stress sila sa work or something pag sexy time they can be in the mood right away and switch off other things.

Unlike us girls everything is connected and continuous wala tayong off switch. So if we are upset with our partner or stress sa work or sa mga kids or madumi and makalat ang bahay we cannot get turned on. And even while doing the deed minsan may iniisip pa tayong issue di tayo maka focus.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^Couldn't agree more. Kaya it helps mag unWINE'd paminsan minsan to tickle our senses. Also, lalake kasi right then and there pag inaya mo game agad, whereas satin, umaatikabong foreplay muna dapat or kissing kissing and romance.

[minabey]

Agree talaga. Dapat may lambing madalas out of the blue. Hindi yung maglalambing lang pag may intention.

[babybabe]

Sexless kami ni hubby pero lagi kami nagka cuddle. Mas gusto nya na bj ko sya hindi din naman ako satisfied kahit mag sex kami selfish sya kahit bitin pa ko basta tapos na sya wala na tutulugan na ko.  taas ng libido ko di ko sya niyayaya takot ako ma reject di ko kasi sya nakikitaan ng interes na magsex kami. Ayun sadlife

[rics]

Not really sexless, but not often.
I get so stressed at work then pagdating sa bahay also that I would rather sleep. Told husband na mag quit ako sa work so we can have it everyday. Pero ayaw naman nya, sayang daw pera so dapat I-balance ko daw, but how? Don't know if it is just stress or maybe tinatamad na lang ako with so many things in our relationship.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^How about weekends? Holidays?

[shinies]

Magset ka ng scheduled "meeting" times tapos paghandaan mo gaya ng mga presentation meetings. Get yourself in the mood bago kayo mag "meeting" gaya ng porn kung trip mo ganun

[rics]

^How about weekends? Holidays?

yeah - actually weekend lang nga pag hindi ako pagod.

[amethyst028]

^dapat sis mag set kayo ng schedule. i have lots of married girl friends who tells me they rarely do it with their husbands kasi nga mas madaming importanteng bagay and at the end of the day pagod na. mas masarap na lang matulog. i only hear the women's side so i don't know how their husbands feel about this.

pero sa mga nababasa ko mag improve daw talaga ang quality ng marriage if couples are having more sex. sa guys kasi sex is their expression of love and form of connection with their partner. so kung walang sex they feel neglected.

[MayVerona]

nag aalala lang siguro asawa mo sissy kausapin mo at try nyo mag contraceptive

[ficklemind]

If pagod na by end of the day eh why not try in the morning? suggestion lang hehe 
If sa weekends lang pwede eh do it in the morning kasi kahit naman weekends ang dami pa din kelangang gawin so pagod ka na sa gabi.

Kami mostly sa umaga na minsan pa nga in the middle of the day during siesta kasi super tired na talaga sa gabi with both of us working and with a baby.
Yeah maliwanag so the mood is not the best but it works for us. Both of us initiates.
It is not as crazy as it used to be but I think we still able to keep it healthy (if once to twice a week is considered good)

Ilang beses na ata ako nalate sa work 

[simang]

Told husband na mag quit ako sa work so we can have it everyday. Pero ayaw naman nya, sayang daw pera so dapat I-balance ko daw, but how? Don't know if it is just stress or maybe tinatamad na lang ako with so many things in our relationship.

Medyo hindi kasi sincere yung suggestion mo sis, kasi are you really, genuinely willing to stop working just so you can have sex? I don't think so, the way you phrased it parang chinachallenge mo pa si husband mo. I don't think quitting work is the answer.

Good suggestion @ficklemind, find a time na hindi ka pagod. I know for women kelangan talaga on it ka mentally and physically, so finding a time na both kayo in the mood together can really help. Also, with all our stresses ngayon and the pressure to be a mom, wife, then may career pa to sustain, talagang mahirap kasi ang daming kelangan gawin! So I think for married couples, it really takes conscious effort from both partners. So kung talagang pagod ka and tinatamad, wala talagang mangyayari, works the same with your husband.

[rics]

with a lot of you saying I have to find time to have sex, and for me to say the above, it validates it . if I don't work, I don't get stressed the level I have now, more time for me, more time for kiddo and hubby.

and yes, I do agree with you all that it take conscious effort to find time, which believe me, I am trying to do.  its just that, there are more times of late na hindi na kaya ng powers ko, so that sex just become one of those chores I have to do.

[MayVerona]

kausapin mo lnag mister mo paliwanagan mo na at sabihan mo about sa calendar method

[shinies]

if I don't work, I don't get stressed the level I have now

Stress Management siguro ang sagot sa problema.

At wag kalimutan priorities sa buhay:
1. God
2. Husband
3. Children

[krispygreen]

I can only speak from a woman's point of view.. a woman draws the urge to have sex from emotions secondary nalang yung libido..if a woman is in a good place in a relationship, if she's being respected, valued, taken cared of, if her feelings gets validated and acknowledged, if she has her voice and can fully express herself and emotions without being judged or misunderstood..if his man knows her, believes in her and trust her, if her heart is at peace and most importantly if her heart is happy then I can see no other reason for a woman to deny his man with sex.. cliche but so true, a happy wife is a happy life.. so Husbands, love your wives and take good care of them because a woman is a reflection of his man..her condition reflects to the world what kind of husband you are..

[preciousjulia]

Samin naman ni hubby, mas sweet sya, mas ma-cuddle, mas ma-touch, sya lagi nag-iinitiate. Kasi ako parang pagod sa work plus alaga kay baby. Sya din naman. Pero sabi ko nga buti na lang sweet si hubby kaya kahit sexless kami for weeks hindi ko napi-feel na nagkukulang kami sa intimacy. Kahit hug lang kami before matulog. Nasa understanding naman kasi yan ng mag-asawa. If ikaw as a wife napi-feel mo na mali yun o parang may kulang pag wala yun dapat nyo yun i-concern sa isa't isa. Ganun din sya. If mag-open si husband about dun willing din dapat tayo pakinggan sila at magcompromise..after all mag-asawa kayo. Importante yung bagay na yun sa relasyon ng mag-asawa.

[Jeanuine]

  if this happens to us one day when we have kids na sana sweet parin kami sa isa't.
I have read before that when couples get older friendship nalang ang natitira..
but i will try my hardest to keep the fire burning..
any tips from you sissies that are able to keep the fire burning even atleast once a week?

[futboler_dati]

Masmaganda kung intimate pa rin. Kahit matanda nya. Kaya yung ibang couples nagkakaroon ng pahabol na anak.