anong mas okay sainyo? mamamatay si hubby o may iba siyang mahal?

[Katniss12]

For me, depende.  Kung nagkahiwalay kami ng dahil sa babae at wala pa kaming anak, mas type kong ma-deadbol na lang sya!  Abot hanggang langit sigurado ang galit ko sa kanya.  Pero since na may anak na kami. I will never wish him to die kahit super duper mega to the max ang galit at sakit na mararamdaman ko.  Mahal na mahal kasi ng unica hija ko daddy nya, to the point na kahit magkasala siguri ng pambabae ama nya, never nya I-wi-wish na sana mamatay na ito.

[mamabear16]

For me, depende.  Kung nagkahiwalay kami ng dahil sa babae at wala pa kaming anak, mas type kong ma-deadbol na lang sya!  Abot hanggang langit sigurado ang galit ko sa kanya.  Pero since na may anak na kami. I will never wish him to die kahit super duper mega to the max ang galit at sakit na mararamdaman ko.  Mahal na mahal kasi ng unica hija ko daddy nya, to the point na kahit magkasala siguri ng pambabae ama nya, never nya I-wi-wish na sana mamatay na ito.

hmm sabagay sis katniss12 pero ako nung iniwan kami ng papa ko because of other woman.. one time ko nasabing sana namatay na lang siya atleast maganda pa ang pwede kong maisip sakanya kaysa nagtaksil siya samin ng nanay ko.. 
pero napatawad ko na din naman siya sa ngayon

[frankikay]

ang hirap naman nito. siguro mamatay nalang na walang kabitch. yun bang clean ang pagkamatay like may sakit or naaksidente(knock on wood). ayoko yung namatay tapos may kabitch pa 

[ashara]

Mamatay na lang silang dalawa

[Queen Chokolah]

antagal na ng huling post dito. ala lang, gusto ko lang talaga  sagutin. first, ganito pagkakaintindi ko sa tanong: ano pipiliin:

a) mamatay si hubby - walang babae, super happy kayo. everything is doing well sa marriage nyo. a bright future awaits for you. madame kayong plans and dreams..almost perfect. tapos bigla na deds. OR
b) nambabae

kase kung ang option number 1 is namatay dahil/habang may babae, I think majority talaga isasagot mamatay na lang sya. kaya ipagpapalagay ko dito na ang gusto ni TS ay yang mga options na binigay ko.

sakin mas gusto ko na lang na mambabae sya kesa mamatay sya habang masayang masaya kaming dalawa. kagaya ng sinabi ng isang sis, i can deal with so much anger, but not with so much sadness. pag namatay sya, it will break me into pieces and I may not be able to move on. magiging depressed ako forever and sad sa tuwing maaalala ko sya. iniisip ko pa lang na mawawala sya naluluha nako samantalang di naman ako emosyonal na tao. pero kapag nambabae sya, yes it will break me, pero with certainty, I will get right back up. maghihiwalay kami, but I will move on. It may even make me a better person. Baka gumanda pa ko lalo yes it will haunt me for months, maybe years, babantayan ko ang buhay niya at ng kabit nya, I wil stalk their fb, pero time will come makakalimutan ko din sya. Pero kapag namatay sya, I'm not sure kung kaya ko mag move on

[ysa.belle]

^ i sooooo agree with this post.

mas gusto ko na mamatay nalang siya. atleast he died na akin pa rin.

[ankyneMD]

walang mahirap sa tanong na to. para sakin mas ok yung mambabae na lang siya.. Yes! mas kakayanin kong mag move on dahil sa galit kesa lungkot. Para sa akin, ka-selfish-an yung gustuhin mong mamatay ang asawa mo kesa mapunta sa iba.
that's all thank you.. hehe

[margauxkhloe]

Mamatay na lang siya. HAHAHA!

[bluish_mommy]

^natawa naman ako hehe... bigla kong naisip, claim ng insurance, kesa nga naman buhay nga yung babae naman nya nagmumunini hehe...

oh well, siguro dahil sa galit lang kaya natin nasasabi na mamatay na lang sya. on the other hand kung sukdulan ang kasamaan ng asawa like nananakit or talagang sobrang violent na, siguro dun ko iwiwish yun. otherwise, sige dun na lang sya sa babae nya at magsama sila sa MISERY ng buhay na pinili nila.

[goddessjem]

kahit ako, natawa at napaisip din..ang hirap mamili..pero yung mamatay na lang..kase kapag may iabng mahal, meaning may babae..baka ako makapatay kapag ganun..hahaha

[kimchi1001]

I've asked this question to much older married friends including my own mother. Maybe because they're from a different generation, most of them said they'd rather see their husbands with someone else than dead. At least daw makikita pa rin nila. I think that's pathetic and downright masochism. But then again, I'm not in their shoes so I really wouldn't know.

Siguro ako, dead na lang. Time heals all wounds. Siguro masakit in the beginning but you'll eventually get over the pain especially if you make the conscious effort to get over it. Whereas kung alive nga tapes nakikita mo with someone else, you will be constantly reminded of the pain of betrayal to the point that you might blame and ask yourself questions like …. why did he leave me? was there something wrong with me? was i not good enough for him? So mabuti pa … dead na lang. It will be initially painful but life goes on as long as you remain open to possibilities.

[Janelc]

Hindi na ako magdadalawang isip pa mamatay na lang sya!

[Girltalker2]

I've asked this question to much older married friends including my own mother. Maybe because they're from a different generation, most of them said they'd rather see their husbands with someone else than dead. At least daw makikita pa rin nila. I think that's pathetic and downright masochism. But then again, I'm not in their shoes so I really wouldn't know.

Maybe because their generation is a bit different - wherein mas dependent ang wife sa husbands nila, especially sa financial aspect?  So kahit na may ibang kabit ang mga asawa nila, ok lang, basta sinusuportahan parin sila financially?

[khaleesiCersei]

Mamatay na lang baka kasi ako pa pumatay sa knya pag nangaliwa

[aquacharly]

There is no right/wrong answer -- and contrary to what some may think:  Everybody  got the question right.

There is no wife that would wish a husband she still loved , or remembers loving, dead. 
So, the choice of which grief/heartbreak  is chosen (death vs betrayal) --  is presumed to be made in the face of betrayal.
Hahahahaha, I am with Team: Better-Dead-Than-Loving-Someone-Else.

Realistically though, when caught in such a dark place -- we persist in loving our philanderers still. We persist with our efforts to mend the cracks in our relationships. We persist in hoping our betrayer gets hit with an epiphany & ceases forever breaking our hearts.  Yes, we persist and persist, even in the face of personal danger, insults & daily heartbreak... We persist, until our hearts get tired, and we decide to retrieve our brains out of the freezer. 

That is why it is unfortunate we have no divorce, and annulments are nowadays harder to acquire.  These circumstances do not foster ORDERLY terminations of relationships/marriages. 
If a husband could just extricate himself with courage & frank truthfulness, and the wife is assured he will not abandon his responsibilities to his children --  there may be no reason for perpetuating a relationship 1 spouse has already psychologically abandoned.   There is no reason for perpetuating misery. 

As it is, some spouses cannot disentangle.  The philanderer  inflicts emotional & financial hardships where his first commitment lies.  So, oo, mamatay ka na with your kab1tch.  Hahaha. 

May I add a personal advocacy:   Women's  Financial Independence.  It will not insure you from sh1t hitting the fan;  but it will enable you to bounce back faster & stronger, so the sh1t doesn't stick to you.   

Don't forget his insurance!  Hahahahaha.   

[krisle703]

sobra akong nakakarelate sa thread na to hahaha. Real personal experience ko lang naman. So my husband went missing for 3 days, I got so worried that I couldnt eat nor sleep the entire time. Super dami kong iniisip na masamang bagay at isa lang pinagdadasal kahit ano pang worse scenario na mangyari kahit pa nambabae siya okay lang basta wag lang patay. Umuwi si hubby at nambabae nga. And wala ako nafeel na sakit or galit kasi nauna ang worry e thankful ako na natupad ang dasal ko "na safe siya" and there i was willing to forgive and forget ang peg. Sabi nila be careful in what you wish for. Lesson learned. Si hubby umabuso, dumating ang point na mas trato pakong kabit niya at hinayaan akong tapak tapakan ni mistress bec I was damned good at being kind or martyr for him! pero iba na pala pag sobrang sakit na, tipong ikaw mismo gusto mo na siyang patayin. I remeber lying beside him sa bed at gustong gusto ko siyang isuffocate, nagtatalo isip ko pero that time all i can think of was the pain he brought me. Parang I could trade a lifetime in jail mawala lang yung pain mawala lang siya. Pero buti na lang hindi ko tinuloy haha iniwan ko na lang siya for good at dun siya natuto. so there.. masama magsalita ng tapos baka kainin lang sa huli :p

[aquacharly]

^ naranasan ko din yan,  when hubby had a kab1tch & sya pa may gana mag-init init ang ulo.

But, lol -- don't try suffocation - he is bigger & stronger.  Pag na pikon yan, ikaw ang kaya nyang suffocate. Hehe

[krisle703]

^oo nga noh? haha hindi ko na naisip yun.. he was sleeping kasi that time and medyo nakainom so iniisip ko hindi na siya makakapalag hahaha

[iam.Arianna]

Mamatay nalang! hahahahahaha!!

Kesa ako pa makapatay sakanya nya kapag nalaman kong may mahal na syang iba.. silang dalawa nung babae! Baka mapatay ko sa sobrang galit ko.. yun kase sabe ko sakanya eh, lahat na gawin mo sakin pambubugbog at pananakit pagpapahiya etc. Wag ka lang mang bababae or lolokohin ako na may involve na ibang babae... Yun ang di ko makakayanan talaga! Swear! Lahat titiisiin ko wag lang yung mambabae ka! Kaya ayun.. hindi nga sya nambabae kailanman dahil wala talaga akong nahuli or napaghinalaan ko sya. Yun nga lang, battered wife naman ako! Sorry OT po.

[TysLolakins]

i don't think i can bear living knowing he loves somebody else.  i know how my husband shows his love and affection,  if i'm not on the receiving end of that, siya na lang ang ma-dedo.
i know one of us will get killed, bec for sure i'll stalk them and won't let them be.