Do you wish you could talk with your ex for closure or not?

[DeathToMondays]

My proverbial doorslam is closure enough for me. Lol

[kaya_3]

Do you wish you could talk with your ex for closure or time heals all wounds nalang?

For me, since I have a tendency to overthink, I need answers and if given a chance, I would like to talk to an ex. Not really for closure, kasi yung breakup na is already "the closure". I wanted to talk kasi I want answers. We broke up over the phone lang pero di kami nagusap ng matagal and discuss the issue further. Parang nakulangan ako.

Somehow, those 'answers' that I'm looking for will help me in the future. Kumbaga, for future reference.   

[fall2pieces]

^ I'm an overthinker too. I tend to repeat  things that happened and searching for answers.  I just want to know what went wrong so to prevent it in the future. At first I was looking for closure, pero narealize ko na mas masasaktan lang ako kapag naghanap pa ako ng closure. 

[Ms. Undecided]

Before, yes. Pero as times goes by, ayoko na. Wag nalang, wag nalang pala. Ayoko na malaman kung bakit, kung paano, kung ano, kung sino at kung [textspeak!]-ano pang tanong ko dati. Kasi alam ko na hindi ako uusad kapag hihingi pa ako ng closure, for me lang ha. Kasi guguluhin na naman ako ng mga tanong na dapat eh ibinaon ko nalang sa limot. We broke up thru text lang, ayoko na mag exert ng effort na alamin pa lahat. Kaya NO. NEVER.

[amethyst028]

"closure is not something you get, it's something you give yourself."

it doesn't matter how it ended, the point is it already did. so just keep moving forward one tiny step at a time. masakit lang naman yan sa umpisa, one day magigising kayo na ok na pala wala na yung pain.

we've all been there, for some of us many times over. but we always turn out ok in the end.

[malditch0089]

At first yes, lalo na kapag medyo bago pa lang kasi andun pa yung feeling na hanging ka saka marami ka pang questions. Like me and my ex, first love ko siya and bestfriend kaya sobrang sakit talaga nung nagbreak kami. At Lalo pa LDR kami that time, kaya parang gusto ko syang puntahan nun. hahaha Pero buti na lang pala na di kami nag-usap at nakita agad for closure. Nagkita na kami after 9 years, last May lang. And sobrang ok na kami, as in ok ng pag-usapan ang past at saka syempre nakamove-on na kami parehas.

[Shadow Angel]

When I decided na suko na ako at wala ng patutunguhan ang lahat. Sa huli parang ako na lang ang lumalaban. Ayoko magmukha naghahabol at pinagsisikan ang sarili hindi lang naman sya ang lalaki sa mundo. Kaya nang magdecide ako na mag move on I didn't turn my back not even once. I removed all communication with him even friends nya na naging friends ko because I know it will not help me to move on once na may alam pa ako about him. Wala man kami malinaw na closure nagpapasalamat ako kinaya ko na bitawan ang 6 years relationship. Hindi ko panghihinayang ang tagal kung feel ko na kung sya makakatuluyan ko mas marami pang sakit ako mararanasan sa kanya. Mahirap oo pero pag gusto mo kaya. Nagpapasalamat ako nakatagpo ako ng lalaki patuloy ako minamahal ng lubos.

[Apple1230]

Nope. I just want to leave it all behind me.

[sassy_gal18]

Yes. Tingin ko makakatulong yun for both of us na makamove on and makapag start new ng walang bigat na nararamdaman.

I tried reaching out sa ex ko para before 2017 ends we're both free from all the negative feeling but hindi sya nagreply. December 31 i reactivated my ig account and boom nakita ko post nya na nakikipagdate na sya. That's when it hit me, i dont't need the closure anymore. Naka move on na sya so dapat ako rin.

[fall2pieces]

I don't wish to talk to him anymore. I stopped checking his FB and blocked him already. If ever makita ko sya ulit, matagal pa mangyayari yun at nakamove on na ako sa kanya.