Inggit Sa Mga Facebook Friends

[sweetashoney]

I'm really glad sises na somehow this thread could be an outlet ng inggit feeling, and I hope na in a way ay makatulong din ito like yung pagnaglabas ng sama ng loob/galit then gagaan na ang loob, sana ganito rin ang effect sa inyo once maishare niyo ang nakakainis na envy feeling...kaya keep on sharing pati how you are handling it

[babyboo.0326]

very well said, Scubadoobidoo! I couldn't agree more 

[imdWOMANwhocntbemove]

Just wanna share this,..
the other night nag open na ulit ako ng fb ko.then nakaOL yung isang college friend ko na nurse na sa LA. sa pics na ipinopost nia,she seems to be ok, kasi nakakapagpundar na sila ng asawa nia sa LA, i mean may car, may hinuhulugang bahay and all the stuffs. so isa siya sa mga kinaiinggitan kong friend ko sa fb kasi pareho din kaming young mom kaya minsan iniiwasan kong makipagchat sa kanya kase siya nakakapagpundar and graduate na while ako nastuck sa pagiging SAHM..eh since miss ko na siya so nagchat kami..tpos nagopen siya sa akin na umuwi pala sila ng mga babies nia dito sa pinas tapos hiwalay na pala sila ng asawa nia..tpos pinagsasabihan nia ako na hindi mahalaga yung mga material things kasi madali lang daw maachive yun pag nagtrabaho na daw ako..for now mas maganda daw na yung pamilya ko muna ang isipin ko,yung kids ko and yung hubby ko..kasi nagkasira sila ng hubby niya simula nung nagwork siya tpos naging stress pa siya kaya hindi na niya naasikaso mga kids niya.basta i won't go in detail na sa prob nia..

with this, narealize ko na good things lang talaga ang mga pics na nasa FB,twitter and IG..It doesn't define yung totoong pinagdadaanan talaga nila..kaya nga ngaun balik fb na ulit ako..di na ako naiingit kasi pictures lang yun..I'm super happy na naovercome ko na to...ngayon masaya na ako kahit magopen ako ng fb ko..

[babyboo.0326]

^good for you! 

sa tingin ko nga na FB is just for people na want to post nga nice pics, things na they can tell the whole world about. some can post about their rants, but not in details. kaya we're not supposed to be affected talaga, IMO, sa mga posts kasi they're just a part of the whole story 

[lisse]

there's a healthy type of envy and a bad type of envy...

healthy in a way na, you will work harder and be better to achieve the same things or the things that you want.

there's the bad enby, where you would belittle yourself, be depressed, spread lies or damaging stories about your friends or actually put yourself in a very bad debt just to up your friends...

I agree. There are times na pag nainggit ako sa mga FB friends ko, I try to do better para ako din meron, lol! I guess the main thing na naiinggit ako sa mga FB friends ko is yung merong mga babies na. wala pa kasi kaming baby eh. I also noticed na pag wala akong ginagawa, no choice ako most of the time but to go online and check my FB. eh ngayong busy na ko sa work and school, no time for FB na. Then there are those family and friends who choose to message me thru FB so what I did is I downloaded a FB messenger app. so I can only be online to send and receive messages but not to view the actual page.

[Scubadoobidoo]

Facebook was meant for people to stay in touch and share good news. I dont think it was meant to encourage envy. I find it kinda weird if you are envious of the blessings your friends get. Its like saying sana those blessings sa akin nalang lahat. Now dont you think thats kinda selfwish? 

[soumy01]

meron ako kilala dahil sa mga inggit inggit na yan eh , ang ginagawa niya pinipilit niya rin magkaroon ng ganon kahit hindi kaya, nakikita niya yung ibang friends may mga magandang bahay, ayun kahit pilit kumuha bahay,kotse kahit utang-utang na silang magasawa, subsob na subsob sa work. saka hindi rin kasi magandang ugali yung kung may nakita tayong maganda bagay (house,car,travel, gadget, etc) tapos maiisip na natin na behind those pictures ay mga negative na bagay. Maging happy na lang para sa kanila.
 
maganda kung maging challenge sa atin yun, work hard and work smart. kung pakiramdam mo loser ka assess mo sarili mo baka kaylangan mo mag dagdag ng skills para maachieve mo yung mas magandang career na kinaiingitan mo. 
pag nagmature ang isang tao (lalo na kung may laman ang wallet,may laman ang savings account) pag may nakita ka sa ibang tao para wala na lang , makakapagcomment ka na lang ng" ay ganda dyan ah" or "wow bago" na bukal sa loob mo.

[insta_momma]

ang kinaiinggitan ko sa fb yung number of likes that they get with their status and pictures. tulad ng iba, hindi naman sila artista pero they get 100+ likes sa status or pictures nila. dun ako naiinggit haha, naiisip ko kasi ang unti nakukuha kong likes kasi not a lot of people like me. haha. paranoid ba. kapag iniisip ko naman I only have less than 230 friends on FB, siguro sila they have more than 800+ friends kaya I don't think about it anymore. 

[akthung]

i think the envy stems from our early days as children,

in school, in general, we are all equal.

but then after leaving school, life treats each and every one of is differently.

but you know, you'll never know, baka naman pa gadget gadget or trip trip, baon pala sa utang.

or meron naman may illegal na ginagawa. successful lawyer, pero napaka corrupt pala.

then they are those who reached the top by being good.


what i'm trying to say is, iba ang nakikita natin sa labas. the only person na kilala natin ay ang sarili natin.

channel your enviousness, into something positive. say, if you've been wanting to go to maldives, save for it. or create a small business to finance your trip.

to end my post, i'll share you a story.

my mom told me, na when she started working, every one in her office was traveling. everyone except her. inggit na inggit daw siya. years passed.

then she started getting assignments abroad. ayun na. maya't maya, may travel. her friends, stopped traveling.   

so be industrious, save, pray and you'll have your share. God is omniprovident. 

you will have your share.

[freelancer_babe]

I agree with the sisses here. I dread opening Facebook because people had been using it as an outlet to show off their achievements (from small gadgets to travels, degrees, etc).

I think Filipinos are into it. I have non-Filipino friends, and they aren't into sharing their achievement stuff as much as we do.

I understand it's quite depressing for those who haven't. Ako rin affected at nanliliit tuloy ako - how come I have achieved so much in childhood, then not much as an adult.

Di naman ganyan ang FB noong karamihan nasa Friendster pa. It used to be an interactive platform for sharing thoughts. Few years after everyone had migrated, naiba na.

Pero wala akong choice. I have to open that Facebook account almost everyday. I work on Facebook pages for a client. I also get work-related PMs - tamad na kasing magtext at mag-email na ang mga tao ngayon.

[angelzero]

how come I have achieved so much in childhood, then not much as an adult.

This is exactly how I feel sis. I was an achiever in school from elementary to college. But I chose a career na hindi as high-powered as my other batchmates' careers. I'm no doctor, lawyer or manager of anything. Kaya sometimes I can't help but compare myself to my batchmates na average lang nung high school yet they seem to be at the top of their careers right now. But I'm still thankful kasi ito yung career na gusto ko talaga. I couldn't imagine myself doing anything else other than what I'm doing. Bonus na lang din na hindi nakaka stress trabaho ko.

Para hindi OT, no matter what I acquire or achieve hindi rin ako yung tipong nang iinggit sa FB. Not my thing. I prefer sharing the simple joys of life like being with my family and friends. I seldom post in FB na rin kasi parang I also don't feel the need. Unless I find something really really liquids-exit-yours-nose funny, I share. Or finding a great song na hindi gaano sikat, I share. 

[purple.strawberry]

This is exactly how I feel sis. I was an achiever in school from elementary to college. But I chose a career na hindi as high-powered as my other batchmates' careers. I'm no doctor, lawyer or manager of anything. Kaya sometimes I can't help but compare myself to my batchmates na average lang nung high school yet they seem to be at the top of their careers right now. But I'm still thankful kasi ito yung career na gusto ko talaga. I couldn't imagine myself doing anything else other than what I'm doing. Bonus na lang din na hindi nakaka stress trabaho ko.

Same here haha. Achiever ako from elem and then went to a reputable school. Ang difference is that medyo nasa cross-roads ako right now with what I want to do with my career.

Anyway, para di ma-off topic... Yes nararamdaman ko din 'to. Dati kasi hindi ako gaanong nag-oopen ng facebook. Pero kelangan kasi sa work kasi naghahandle ako ng social media, and also andito yung contacts ko. Some of my friends kasi wala na kong contact sa phone, sa ilang beses ba namang nagpalit ako ng number. Tsaka pag kwentuhan mas gusto ko nagtatype kesa text hehe.

Yung previous work ko e higher than average yung salary, pero yung ibang friends ko sa facebook na mas maliit ang sweldo, mas nakakapagtravel pa sila and gala-gala. Or yung ibang college batchmates ko magaganda na yung position sa work...

I guess sissies if this is a problem, limitahan na lang pagvisit sa facebook. Anyway, most would agree that it's a waste of time. You can do more productive things. Kung gusto makipagcatch up, connecting your facebook account to skype is a good idea.

[pretinnes]

Na feel ko to before but eventually got over the feeling. Iniisip ko nalang na maging happy for them at happy sila. Malay mo sila din ganun ang feeling towards me. GVs lang

[sassysazha]

Ako naman naiinggit sa FB friends ko na magaganda and sexy. After I gave birth kasi I really really gained a lot of weight. Feeling ko tuloy sobrang losyang ko na.  Minsan ginagawa ko na lang motivation sa sarili ko para I can look good ulit pero di pa din maiwasan yung inggit factor.

Meron ba sa inyo na meron lang talaga certain people na naiinis kayo pag nakikita nyo yung updates sa FB? Ganun kasi ako. Naiinis ako pag nakikita ko yung mga pinopost nila. Even just seeing the name. Di ko tuloy alam baka insecure lang ako pero naiinis talaga ako to the point of hiding them sa notif ko. I even consider blocking them na.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

Naiinggit ako  pag yung mga friends ko nagpopost ng kasal nila and binyag or birthdays ng anak nila or dates, NBSB kasi eh haha, so hindi na lang ako lagi nagffb, problem solved 

[chinkywinky]

Ang isang kinakainnggitan ko lang naman, posts about babies. Pero na-overcome ko na. Kung posts about materials things or travel anywhere, keber lang ako.  Lalo na pag alam ko kung ano ang capability ng nag post 

[Clair de Lune]

I used to be, but not anymore. I realized one thing.. nothing is ever what it seems, most especially in social media. Most people are for show. I have close friends super post ng eat outs, gimiks, gadgets and whatnot, but I know their real status in life. Look at the most recent controversy - Jean Napoles - and how her luxurious life paraded on instagram and tumblr backfired on her & her family.

Ako I'm fond of looking at nice instagram pics and I learned using it to inspire me.. to work harder, to take care of myself more, explore new things, do something worthwhile and creative in my life.  It's human nature to compare, but, at the end of the day, it's YOU who suffer from such feeling of discontent. So, count your blessings nalang.

[alice_alice]

Sometimes nagkakaroon ako ng inggit factor but then again narerealize ko that people only show what they want us to see, i know behind that di naman sila ganon kasaya minsan front na lang din yan mas okay naman yun keysa puro emote ang pinapakita o pinagpopost sa fb. Pag di ko naman matake eh pwede ko naman ideactivate yung account ko.

Atsaka iniisip ko na lang swerte na rin ako kasi i may not have those material things/money di naman ako nagugutom at meron akong buong pamilya to be thankful for.

[cloudzy_09]

Ako dati parang naiingit sa ka batch mate ko na nag wo work kasi ako house wife lang muna pero na realize ko dapat hindi ako maingit kasi kung tutuusin Im lucky I get to guide and take care of my child and hindi ko rin kailangan mag work.

[sweetashoney]

Ang isang kinakainnggitan ko lang naman, posts about babies. Pero na-overcome ko na. Kung posts about materials things or travel anywhere, keber lang ako.  Lalo na pag alam ko kung ano ang capability ng nag post 

ditto