So a girl l can't have as many options and choices as much as guys can? Gotta hand it to the society for this BS. 
Teka, date lang naman ang nasa title ng thread diba? 
Oo, intindi ko date lang - in other words, pakikipagkaibigan lang, getting to know lang. Not having commitments to 2 or more persons. That means, not sleeping or being too close with several people.
^ to answer your question
kung hindi na sya nagpaparamdam sayo... hindi yan interested sayo... walang text... walang email... wala... nothing... mag set ka ng time limit mo... you have to move on.
Bakit ka tatanggap ng 2 dates in a week? sabay ba yang mag aask sayo? eventually mauuna ang isa over the other... Kung nauna yung isa na nag ask at inaccept mo... you are actually giving a shot to that person.... kasi kung sa first impression pa lang ayaw mo na... you can always deny him naman di ba? now since tinanggap mo itong isa... bakit mo tatanggapin ang pangalawa? magiging salawahan ka lang pag both yan nag work out... dahil eventually you have to pick only one in the end. Bakit mo pa paaabutin sa ganun kung sa umpisa pa lang kaya mo ng pigilan yan.
May mga months na di ka nakakareceive ng date offers... does that mean na when men offer you dates... accept ka lang ang accept to offset what you have been missing with the months na wala ka narereceive?... siguro maiintindihan kita kung naglalaro ka lang e...
Now, sasabihin mo na di naman pwede mag ask ang girl sa guy... Sa mga previous statements nyo meron pa kayong sinasabing WOMEM EMPOWERMENT.... applicable lang ba yan sa mga bagay na CONVENIENT para sa inyo?... you support WOMEN EMPOWERMENT yet ok sa inyo ang WOMEN ONLY cars sa MRT/LRT, nagagalit kayo pag yung toilet seat sa bahay ay nakataas, ok sa inyo na para sa mga lalaki lang ang heavy lifting na work etc etc... Kung naniniwala ka sa WOMEN EMPOWERMENT and you feel you want to date a particular guy... then ask him out or lure him to date you...
Did I answer your questions po ba?
Kumusta na si Ichiro? Sorry di ko na sinagot itong thread kasi nakulitan nako sayo that time.
Since na revive na naman, I just think you just don't get it. Di bale, balang araw, maiintindihan mo rin.
Pero ngayon ginaganahan ako magpost, I can respond.
kung hindi na sya nagpaparamdam sayo... hindi yan interested sayo... walang text... walang email... wala... nothing... mag set ka ng time limit mo... you have to move on.
Agree to this. Moving on. Pero in ther first place, hindi ko sinusuggest na pumirmi ka sa isang tao na wala naman commitment. Hindi naman obligasyon nung isang tao magparamdam or matext or mag email sayo. It is just common courtesy na to keep in touch after the date - and just say - if you want to pursue a 2nd one, or better off kayo na huwag nalang.
Bakit ka tatanggap ng 2 dates in a week? sabay ba yang mag aask sayo? eventually mauuna ang isa over the other... Kung nauna yung isa na nag ask at inaccept mo... you are actually giving a shot to that person.... kasi kung sa first impression pa lang ayaw mo na... you can always deny him naman di ba? now since tinanggap mo itong isa... bakit mo tatanggapin ang pangalawa? magiging salawahan ka lang pag both yan nag work out... dahil eventually you have to pick only one in the end. Bakit mo pa paaabutin sa ganun kung sa umpisa pa lang kaya mo ng pigilan yan.
Yes, you have to pick one in the end. And you have to be upfront. I think ito yung nakaligtaan ng karamihan.
Opinion ko lang naman ito, it is good na alam ng ka-date mo na may iba ka rin na kino consider. Simply because you are "out there" to find the right guy for you. So sa umpisa palang, if the guy is not comfortable with the idea, di alam nyang hindi ka na nya dapat i-date, kasi ayaw nya ng babae na may ibang distractions.
Pero if the guy is interested enough sayo, kahit ano, basta gusto ka nya makilala, he will make time. And in terms of overlaps sa mga dates, hindi naman sya pinaplano na tipong, guy #3 will ask me today, and guy #2 will ask me tomorrow, so magplan ka. Hindi ganun eh. It is when they ask, you decide - are you free? are you interested to get to know him more? Since you are NOT committed, and he knows you are FREE to date, I don't see any issues.
May mga months na di ka nakakareceive ng date offers... does that mean na when men offer you dates... accept ka lang ang accept to offset what you have been missing with the months na wala ka narereceive?
If the guy is as per your criteria, I don't think there is anything wrong with accepting. Pero accept ka lang ba ng accept? Hindi din. Pano kung hindi mo type yung guy? Alam mong never mo nap-picture ang sarili mo sa kanya? So the answer is NO. A married guy did ask me to hang out once - answer ko NO. A guy way way over my age (20 yrs) din, ayoko.
Saying yes or no is a prerogative of the person being invited. It is like being invited to parties. Kung nagsabay same week, and you want to go, hindi ka ba pupunta? It is just socializing. Kung hindi mo feel yung party, you will just turn it down and say you are not going. That's how I look at it. But it is not counting, ah di ako naka attend ng party sa January, kaya dadamihan ko or babawi ako some months.
magiging salawahan ka lang pag both yan nag work out... dahil eventually you have to pick only one in the end. Bakit mo pa paaabutin sa ganun kung sa umpisa pa lang kaya mo ng pigilan yan.
Depende narin sa perspective mo iyan. Kung salawahan ang tingin mo. Ngayon makwe-kwento ko na what happened to me.
As confused as I was when I started dating at 40yo, I dated as many guys as I could. Yes, I did. Why? Kasi nga feeling ko wala akong time, wala akong alam, I was interested to know more about this. I want to find my match, if ever I have a shot.
So I dated a few. A couple of guys once lang, di na naulit. May iba hindi nga even nagprogress to dating. Hi and Hello lang. Pero para sakin, interested sana ako. Then there were these 3 guys na mas matagal. Hindi sila lahat sabay, pero halos. Eventually I realized, nakakapagod pala. Nakakalito din kasi sometimes akala mo nakwento mo na sa person A, sa person B mo pala nasabi before. Akala mo sister ni Person C, yung pala si Person B yun. It did not work out. BUT I learned a lot, about dating. Nagkaron ako ng crash course on dating. And most of all, I learned a lot about myself. Don't get me wrong, I am totally transparent to all of them. Ang generic na sagot ko, I am looking for something but I am not sure what it is. Kung wala ako mahanap, ok lang. For now, the company is the one that makes me interested to go out with them. Kunwari, manonood ng sine, alangan naman mag isa ka di ba? And it has been a looooong time since I have watched moves with a date. Kadalasan with ka officemates lang or barkada.
Fast forward, then I met this guy (si H) at the party. Pinakilala ng officemate ko. He wasn't interesting at the start. But my officemate said he is a nice guy. So I went on the first date. Pero man, he had to leave agad, siguro wala pa kaming 2 hours nag uusap. So nag enjoy naman ako sa company nya, so sabi ko thanks and all, with no expectations. And he knew that I was also dating - and he likewise is. Siguro dito kami nagkasundo about "looking" and "shopping" around. We were both honest about our status, and recognize we were interested to get to know each other - or at least give some time. So nung umalis sya ng maaga sa first date, kala ko yun na yun. Pero tumawag ulit sya kasi sabi nya, babawi nga sya since naputol agad yung first date namin.
When I was dating H for a month, minsan makakarinig ako ng texts or something from the other guys. Pero wala akong time since I was also busy with work. So minsan will also go out with others. Then si H asked me if we can date exclusively. Since I know he is also going out with other women. and he knows I was also dating.
Dito nako nagkaron ng dilemma. I was scared na mahulog loob ko kay H. If I date exclusively, baka sa kanya lang ang attention ko, then mamaya mas maging mahal ko sya kesa sa mahal nyako, etc etc. Worry ang una kong naisip. But when I weighed things, I realized I did not want to let him go either - the way I was willing to let go of others.
So here, when I agreed to date him exclusively, I had to be honest to others - na I cannot see them anymore as I met someone who I have agreed to date exclusively. Then everything is history. Now BF ko na si H.
