^ but isn't it better and fair to do it ONE at a TIME... and when I say one at a time... it means when you are on a CURRENTLY DATING STATUS... isn't the correct attitude is to turn down other dating offers?
Because if we are still on a CURRENTLY DATING status and you still date others, I definitely wouldn't be happy about it... It is just like you are saying that it is OK for me to COURT other women while I am still COURTING you... right? Iisipin nyo na hindi ako seryoso... same thing... we would feel na di nyo kami siniseryoso kapag nalaman namin na nakikipag date kayo sa iba.
I see your point Ichiro. Pero ang point is to be HONEST from the start in declaring one's status. One time may na-date ako na player, totally iniwasan ko na after. Why? He made it appear na ako lang dine-date nya pero he knows I am seeing other people too. Yun pala, may iba syang dine-date. Ito ay red flag na agad, kung baga in grading, bagsak na agad sya sa aspect na honesty.
Iba naman kasi ang ligaw at iba din ang dating around. Ang ligaw kasi, you are already professing your love and you have decided sya talaga ang gusto mo. Ang dating around eh naghahanap ka pa ng magugustuhan mo.
Ang point ko lang is why do you have to accept other dating offers while you are still on the verge of knowing one guy? Masyado kang segurista 'te... nagmamadali ka ba? kulang ka na ba sa time? Pwede namang isa isa di ba?...
I agree, ideally, one at a time para nga makilala mo ng husto ang guy and to give him a chance also to prove himself. Kaso, guys do not come one at a time. They just come when they come. And if he seems interesting to you while you are dating a guy, idrop mo ba yung dine date mo ngayon for the other guy na mukhang interesting? Hindi di ba? Kasi di mo pa kilala masyado yung first guy at interested ka rin sa kanya.
Moreso, bilang babae, for me lang ha, I do not ask men for dates. So if they come, and I am interested, eh di go for it. Hindi mo kasi madidikta na - ah, next year nalang tayo magdate kasi I am seeing someone now. I won't encourage women (free and available) to just date 1 guy without any commitment from that guy. Kasi you are already limiting your options unnecessarily.
tanong lang...
Would you be so happy kung malalaman mong yung ka-date mong guy ay dine-date pala kayong lahat na magbabarkada? Point is kung gusto mong seryosohin ka... ipakita mong seryoso ka...
There is an ettiquette din naman in dating the opposite gender. Meron ka rin naman sigurong criteria - for both men and women.
Ang take ko dito, common sense, it is not proper i-date ang buong barkada or magkakaibigan or mag-ama or magkamag-anak. It is never proper, at least to me.
In agreeing to go out on dates, dapat naman siguro may criteria tayo. This is very important. Hindi yung just dating around just for the sake. Una una, single din dapat sya, financially stable, educational attainment nakapagtapos, someone respectable at hindi player, someone na hindi naging bf ng sis mo or barkada mo, etc. Someone na hindi ka mahihiya in case na maging kayo.
I dont really find anything wrong sa pagdate or hang out with different people. Basta ba wag on the same day eh! Saka be honest para effortless pag nakikipag usap, di iisipin kung ano ba sinagot last time or something like that 
FOURever, nacurious naman ako, what is wrong with the same day? Puede naman lunch/after lunch, then iba ang ka-appointment mo for dinner?
kaya nga may "exclusively dating" na term. ako kasi when i go out with a guy for a few times napapag usapan na namin kung may iba pa bang dinedate. if we agree na we'll only date each other doon na pumapasok yung bawal mag date ng ibang tao.
for me ok lang for a guy to date other girls, as in get to know other prospects kasi right niya iyon. mas better na kilalanin niya rin yung ibang girls na gusto niya. at least pag ako ang talagang pinili niya he'll appreciate me more kasi alam niyang sa dinami ng nakilala niya walang mas hihigit pa sakin. that "the search is over already". kesa he only dated me and naging kame tapos pag may mga rough patches he would think about his other "potentials", na baka kung sila mas naging masaya siya.
I agree with you amethyst. The whole point is being honest about it at wala kang tinatago. Kung ikaw naman si lalaki, alam mong may dinedate na iba yung babae, but if she is too close to you, like sleeping with you na, magtaka ka na. Iyan ang play girl.
Kapag alam mo naman may bf ang babae pero nakikipagdate sayo, magtaka ka narin. These are red flags of a playgirl.
I don't get kung bakit gusto ng ibang guys dito na seryosohin na sila ng babaeng nililiagawan/dinedate nila kung hindi pa naman sila mag-bf. Ang insecure at sigurista naman ng mga lalakeng gusto sila lang ang sinasamahan nung babae.
Huwag ka, maraming ganyan na Pinoy tapos magtatampo pa as if you owe him something. Kaya as much as possible, ayaw ko magpabayad lagi ng dinner, I usually offer to pay for my share or if not this time, next time ako naman.
A man with options is a man without need, you also need to have other girls on rotation. Ideal setup is yung ibang manliligaw/dinedate ni girl ang nagttreat sakanya sa mahal na dinner at nagbibigay ng mahal na gift, pero ikaw na hindi gumagastos ang magustuhan.
Actually, kung gusto ng guy to treat you in an expensive dinner, despite knowing that you are not yet committing to him, tapos later maghahanap ng sagot na kayo na - nakakainis. Kaya as much as possible, one really has to be honest at walang expectations unless wiling both parties na magcommit.
It's actually better kung alam mo kung sino yung kalaban mo, kasi kelangan mo lang ipakita na ikaw yung better man compared to them. kung wala kang idea kung may ibang nanliligaw/nagdadate dun sa girl, technically kahit sinong lalake possible threat. mas mahirap yun. just like how it is kung may bf si girl, siya lang ang hihigitan mo...kung wala, buong mundo (niya) kelangan higitan mo
Pero bilang lalaki, di ba mas gusto mo rin na naging gf mo sya not because you were the only option to her but because ikaw talaga ang gusto nya.
