ANO NAKAKAINIS GINAWA NG YAYA/MAID MO TODAY? THREAD IV

[hunny_ally]

My husband and I rushed my son to the ER last night because of very high fever. Since we were rushing, I asked the yaya to pack his bag while i dress up. Pagdating namin ng Medical City, my son did an explosive poop and leaked through his pants. While I was changing him, I discovered she did not send any pants! Imagine the kid had to stay in the cold ER pantless! The nurse took pity on my son and tried to find a vacant bed inside the packed ER.

[sistah!]

well, my love affair with the yaya is slowly coming to an end. like I said before, mabait naman. hindi palasagot, hindi simangot, masayahin naman at most importantly, mukhang enjoy naman syang alagaan ang anak ko. PERO:

1. last week, nahuli ko sya na tinitingnan yung ipad ko. actually, di naman problema sa akin kung ginagamit nya to entertain my baby kasi may apps ako na pwede sa toddler. pero when I walked in sa room, she was sitting swiping away at the ipad while my baby was on the floor playing with her toys. so ginagamit nya lang talaga. naiinis ako kasi ang kapal naman.
2. hinihingi ang password ng wifi namin. I did not give it dahil ayoko na mag-wifi sya sa phone nya at baka ma-distract sa trabaho.
3. we let go of our maid a couple of month ago. instead, we hired a stay out maid who comes in once a week to do laundry, ironing, major cleaning of the house. we are ok with the arrangement, except syempre we have a baby and my husband and I work full time. I have asked her to do some minor cleaning of the room when the baby is asleep (she takes 2 naps a day, the morning nap is usually very long like 1 to 2 hours). konting ligpit ang quick walis walis to make sure that crumbs are cleaned kasi kumakain si baby sa room minsan. hindi nya ginagawa unless sabihin ko. so I have to call her everyday to make sure gawin nya. last week, medyo torture siguro dahil sa bagyo, araw araw ako nasa house at binantayan ko talaga ang ginagawa nya.
4. when I am home, I take care of the baby. pahinga sya sa room nya. I noticed last week that when I call her to do something, she does it naman but she leave her lights on sa kwarto nya (she uses pala the main light and the pin light, soshal super ilaw to the max) and her electric fan on. ako pa nagpapatay dahil pag nakita ng daddy ko o ng asawa ko yun, magagalit sila. pet peeve nila ang pagsasayang ng kuryente.
5. maaksaya sya. I keep all the stocks kasi ng gamit and nagtataka ako when she asked me for another soap to use on the baby. sabi ko kakabigay ko lang bakit laging ang bilis maubos. turns out, she doesn't like to use the soap na pag konti na lang sa bottle or pag maliit na yung bar. gusto nya open ulit ng new bar. I saw in her room a soap dispenser with 4 small pieces of soap. im not sure if she uses them on herself para tipid sya, no need to shop for her soap or tinago para bigyan ko ng new bar. hello, baby soap is more expensive than regular soap! kakainis.
6. I bought new scrubs for her, additional set para hindi sya maubusan kasi ayaw nya daw palaba sa stay out maid yung clothes nya. kahit dami na sya scrubs,may time na natapunan sya ng water ng baby kaya need nya magpalit ng damit, aba change the whole set sya. ayaw ng change top lang or change pants lang. gusto terno terno. ok lang naman at least maganda. pero when I bought her the new set, ayaw gamitin. dahilan: iba daw yung tela, di nya type. eh ano gagawin ko dun?!
7. last week, may emergency daw sya so she "advanced" her sweldo na for 6 weeks. ok na rin, sige na kahit hindi scheduled yung gastos. tipid tipid lang ako. pero my gosh, this morning humihingi ulit ng 12K! aba naman, eh di 18K na yung utang/advance nya. I told my husband to say no. I will ship her out pag ganyan sya.

mabait sya, yes. pero mabait naman ako na amo. I don't want to encourage these things para lumala pa. I don't need the additional stress! kayo din ba naka-experience ng mga ganyan? sorry ang haba, ha. long weekend kasi kaya talagang napansin ko lahat sa kanya.

[anne211]

yaya #1 - lasted for a year, wanted to stay with us but her husband doesn't want her to work anymore
yaya #2 - lasted for 6 months, she said she has a cyst and her mom wanted her to go back to the province (turned out she's pregnant and living in with her bf)
yaya #3 - lasted for a month, she said her youngest child is sick and her mom wanted her to go back to the province (turned out she went to live with her boyfriend)
yaya #4 - presently with us for 1 1/2 months, she just found out she's pregnant

meron pa bang mas MASWERTE sa kin when it comes to yaya?
and my son is only 1 yr 8 months, mukhang magkaka-yaya #5 na sya, hay...

FYI, mabait kaming amo at kami pa ang nag-aadjust sa kanila...and all of them are saying na wala naman daw problema (when I asked them kung may problema ba sila sa min), at kung di lang sila nagkasakit, etc...they wouldn't leave us, hay naku!
 

[sistah!]

we have a stay-out maid who comes in 3 times a week to do laundry, plancha and  cleaning. I've noticed that she "shortcuts" her jobs kaya inis na inis ako. like, i tell her to handwash my baby's clothes, delicates and some specific items of clothing. nung una, she does those, pero twice ko na nahuli na she dumps everything in the washing machine para sabay sabay and para mabilis. nasira na tuloy yung garter ng ibang boxers ng asawa ko. yung sa baby, hina-handwash nya pa rin pero parang joke lang yung pag-wash nya kasi twice na ko nakakita ng damit sa closet ng baby ko na may dumi pa. as in parang hindi nakusot. instruction ko rin kasi na lahat ng gamit ng anak ko, dapat pinaplancha para malambot lahat, kahit pantulog. so inis na inis talaga ako na nilabhan ng hindi maayos kaya may dumi pa, tapos plinancha pa rin! ano ba naman yan! i think she also likes the laundry soap of my baby kaya lagi na lang daw ubos. feeling ko tuloy baka inuuwi nya.

ang biggest inis ko came this week lang. my dad said dinala nya yung asawa nya sa bahay. mabuti na lang andun yung daddy ko at hindi pumayag na pumasok yung lalaki. kasi nga naman, bakit nya kailangan pumunta doon? at ayoko na Makita nya yung loob ng bahay ko, wala naman sya gagawin dun. actually, papalayasin ko na yan. i really HATE her.

[hunny_ally]

It annoys me a lot if hindi efficient ang pagtrabaho sa loob ng bahay. Like when they do the washing of the plates in batches. Aside from that it takes time, magastos pa sa water and soap. Eto na naman I discovered the maid doing it again (this is despite reminding her twice already early this week). After we ate dinner, hinugasan yung pinagkainan namin & cleaned the sink at chaka kumain. Natural she has to wash yung plates nila plus the serving bowls then clean the sink again. Hindi ko maintidihan if kailangan pa-onti onti eh 5 Lang naman kami plus 2 maids at hindi isang buong barangay. Parang galit na galit kapag may nakikita na bagay sa sink at ora-orada dapat hugasan. Kaya ang bilis bilis ng dishwashing soap and tumataas water consumption namin since she started working for us.

[happyfemme]

Ask ko lang mga sis...

What should be the normal ratio ng isang all around maid versus members of the family?

I have a friend who is looking for an all around maid she interviewed almost 3 applicants na and they usually ask kung ilan ang tao sa bahay kasi if 4-5 members na ang family eh they will turn it down na.

Her sweldo is 4k...

[hunny_ally]

May kids ba? Depends on how old the kids are. The younger they are, more work for the maid. Then if consider too the scope of job of the all-around. Like for me I have 3 kids ages 6, 3 and 1yo. I'm a SAHM too and usually I do the 90% of the cooking and laundry (I'm quite OC with this so I do it). I'm quite hands on too with the kids esp the 2 youngest. Practically this is what the 2 would do in the house:

Yaya 1: goes with my 6yo to school. Since she's on half day, when she comes home, she takes care of my 1yo so I can catch up on sleep, ran errands, etc. She's the one who irons the clothes. Does minor errands for me (go to the bank, pay this and that, buy small things from the grocery). Sleeps in the room with kid 1. Sometimes does the cooking (usually breakfast).

Yaya 2: cleans house (except my room and bathroom), washes the dishes. Assists me with the 2 youngest when Yaya 1 is in school with Kid 1. Helps Yaya 1 in folding clothes. Sleeps in the room with kid 2

Yaya 2 gets 4k per month. Except on some nights when she gets woken up by kid 2, hindi naman ganon ka-heavy ang ginagawa niya (our place is under 150 sqm).

Yaya 1 get substantially more than Yaya 2 because of seniority. Plus she practically do whatever job I think Yaya 2 cannot do or won't be able to do properly.

To answer your question...if kids are big already (say youngest would be around 7yo), 1 all around maid is ok. Pero siguro a bit higher than that.

[happyfemme]

Thanks sis hunny_ally!

Shes a SAHW... 2kids... 2yo youngest... 12yo.

Before nung may all around pa siya their arrangements are the ff:

1. My friend is the one looking after the youngest, shes also the one cleaning the bottles and preparing meals for her baby. The HH will look after the baby whenever my friend takes a bath lang or catch some sleep. The HH is also with them whenever they go out, to push the stroller and carry the things around

2. Her eldest pwede nang pabayaan. The HH need not to look after the older kid. May school bus ang kid. The HH doesnt go with the kid sa school.

3. The HH doesnt do laundry, dinadala na ng friend ko sa laundry shop. Grocery is done by my friend, then minor grocery job (kapag may nakalimutang bilhin) kay HH. Bank errands is done also by my friend.

4. The HH cooks only when my friend is pagod na to cook.

5. My friend allows her to do "siesta" whenever wala naman siyang ginagawa.

5. Basically, clean lang siya house and assist my friend from household chores. Siguro if we try to look at the percentage of work between the two bale 80% sa friend ko, then 20% lang kay HH.

So sis the 4k is kulang for this kind of arrangement and family size?

[sistah!]

^ It should be ok, I think, especially since mukhang light work lang sya. Siguro it would be best to just establish the expectations from the maid na assist sya sa maraming task so she needs to be alert and available.

My yaya made paalam na sa akin yesterday. She will leave daw by mid-October. It sucks to have to change yayas again since my kid seems to be ok with her but I never ask the yaya to stay beyond her interest. If she wants to go, she goes. There's no use making habol because they may stay but wala ng gana magtrabaho. Truth be told, I'd rather be yaya-less than have bad help.

I did tell thank her for telling me early and giving me notice agad so I can look for a replacement na. I also told her that I do not want her to leave kasi I was thinking that she might be nagda-drama because medyo napagsabihan ko sya the day before kasi she has been consistently waking up late. When she wakes up late, late na lahat. Late sya maliligo and magbibihis, late aayusin yung breakfast ng anak ko, late nya kukunin sa akin para bantayan at alagaan, late ako makakaalis ng bahay at late ako sa office. In fact, I was so late sa work na naman because of what happened and I had a busy day at work that day. Stress lang talaga. Usually I do not mind that she is late naman for a bit because if I have to leave, I leave my kid with my mom muna while yaya is getting ready. Pero that day, wala din my mom so dahil na-late sya, na-late na ako ng sobra. TO think nasabihan ko na sya the night before to make sure she's on time the next day. HAY.

[MrsCaancan]

Samin eto 2nd yaya+hh namin na to un 1st eh nilayasan kami and took my dad's cp with the advance na sabi niya eh kelangan ng anak niya kasi may bukol daw.

Well anyways.. Araw araw may ginagawang kakaasar tong yaya namin now.. Buntis pa ako nito for my 2nd baby.. Araw araw talaga tunganga sa tv.. Tamad.. Tulala..at tulog palagi...

Akalain mong ako buntis ako kumuha ng sinampay namin now kasi naman tulog siya.. Umuulan pa ha.. San ka naman!!! Sarap siguro ng pahinga niya.. Meron pa un nag watch ako ng tv nilipat ko na sa top model kesa sa mga telenovela para di niya magets eh sus ganun pa din mega watch pa habang si hubby nagluluto sa kitchen ang papa ko nagbabantay sa apo niya(anak ko) ako nagrest Lang while watching tv (kasi maselan ako now) grabe talaga!!! Imbyerna na sobra!!!

[hunny_ally]

I rarely go inside our guest bathroom so it was to my big surprise to see the toilet bowl full of wiwi. The bathroom is only used when we have visitors or when the yaya needs to wash my toddler's hands (that's the nearest bathroom to the dining room). Sira pala the flusher so it wasn't flushing properly last Sunday when we had some relatives over. Imagine since last Sunday! Que horror! Nakakainins tong yaya ilang beses nang pumasok since then ni hindi pinansin. It's either hindi napansin o walang pakialam. I'm betting it's the latter. 

[Kady_14]

Siguro kasi yung mga OK na maids abroad na ang target eh. Kaya mga latak na nakukuha natin.

I had a new one na ng start lang nun Sept 2 left Sept 27.
Ok sana kasi galing na ng abroad. Hiwalay sa asawa me isang anak. Kaso sobrang adik sa cp. Hindi maibaba ang cellphone nya. One week pa lang siya nag advance na kasi kailangan daw nya ipa check up ang anak nya. So binigay ko na yung sweldo nya ng buo. (dapat pala hindi) nung 3rd week naman nya tumawag yung kapatid nya and na stage 4 dengue na daw yung anak nya so pinauwi ko nauna and pinahiram ko ng pera 2500 lang daw. Nagtiwala naman ako sabi nya babalik daw siya. A week after she left I texted her asking kamusta anak nya and if kelan  siya makakabalik. Hindi na daw siya pina pabalik. And isosoli na lang daw nya yung pera na pinahiram ko.

Nakakasama lang ng loob kasi kahit anong pakita mong maganda sa kanila kayang kaya ka nilang ga*uhin. Wala silang pa kitang tao or utang na loob.

[KVsWahmmy]

My daughter ate a cupcake, hindi naubos. My daughter handed her half-finished cupcake to me. Hindi ko naman makain kasi I have a mentholated candy inside my mouth, so anong lasa non di ba. So sabi ko kay yaya, yaya, pakitago na lang muna dun sa lalagyan kasi hindi ko makakain ngayon, may candy ako. If you want to eat it, go lang.

Ayyuuun oh! Napabaling ulit ako after a few minutes, nakita kong itinapon! Oo, half-finished cupcake na yon. Oo, nasa 7-10 pesos lang yon. Pero naman, pagkaing malinis pa din naman yon. Kung ayaw nya kainin, itago nya just like I told her to at kakainin ko mamaya. Hindi itapon! Ayaw na ayaw ko pa naman nag-aaksaya ng food tapos kung makatapon ng pagkain ganun ganun lang? Nakakainis!

[babykat]

^Maraming helpers talaga maaksaya.  di la sa food, pati sa ibang bagay like sabon, dishwashing liquid, kuryente, tubig, etc.  probably kasi di nila pinaghihirapan ang pambili ng ganun.

[Diane]

my yaya for 3days pa lang said to another yaya na nabobore sya ni hindi lang daw makapagFB (imagine 3mos old baby ang alaga nya)
grabe magtext!
di daw sya sanay sa bata (e di G*g*, y sya nag apply for yaya)
1hr pa lang sya, ask na kugn pwede magbakasyon ng December
mabait ba daw asawa ko?

[Kady_14]

^^ I agree karamihan sa kanila aksayada. Madami kami instances na nahuli, awas awas tubig habang naglalaba. Saing ng saing. Pero yung worst talaga is yung nahuli ng MIL ko na naglilibing sa lupa ng kanin na lamig kasi saing ng saing ayaw kumain ng bahaw. Itatapon nila para magsaing sila panibago kasama sila ulit sa bagong saing.

[hunny_ally]

^may maid kami dati tinatapon sa vacant lot behind our house. Imagine sa probinsya minsan wala silang makain tapos kung makatapon ng pagkain ibang klase.

[anne211]

naku ako din, may yaya dati na inuuwian ko pa ng food from my workplace, tinatanong ko pa kung kumakain ba sya ng mga ganung luto (the usual food sa canteen), oo daw...

tapos inipon ng inipon sa ref, di kinakain, nalaman ko na lang, ang kwento sa helpers ng nanay ko, pinapakain daw namin sya ng panis! tigas talaga ng mukha!

nalaman ko yung kwento after nyang umalis sa min (may sakit daw at babalik na ng probinsya, yun pala nakipag-live in lang sa bf), swerte nya dahil nakaalis na sya, kundi e titirisin ko sya ng buhay, kapal ng mukha!

may helpers talaga puro sakit ng ulo!

[quinone]

^na-mention mo yung kesyo "pinapakain siya ng panis"...

nung minsan nasa taxi ako narinig ko kay Tulfo may tinawagan siyang amo. kine-claim ng helper na pinapakain siya ng panis raw at ayaw paalisin. sabi nung amo, e kahit ano pwede niyang lutuin doon at pareho lang sila ng pagkain, chaka hindi naman siya nagpaalam na aalis na.

ayaw maniwala ni Tulfo na "kahit ano pwede lutuin" nainis nga ako kasi when we have helpers, dito sa bahay kahit ano pwede nila lutuin as long as hindi abuso. kasi iba ang oras ng kain naming mag-asawa. dahil late kami mag-lunch nauuna pa nga sila kumain sa amin at same lang ulam. yung isang helper ko nga nagbe-breakfast pa ng kumpletong meal at wala akong problem dun.

yung iba talaga nature na nila yung sinungaling.

[hunny_ally]

^yung isa kong yaya now if ayaw yung pagkain, toyo ang inuulam. Puwede naman magbukas ng delata o mag-init ng leftovers pero ang tigas ng ulo. Kaya I told the other yaya infront of her na siya ang witness ko sa katigasan ng ulo niya. Na ayoko makakarinig na toyo Lang ang pinapakain ko sa kanya. My tone was joking but I do hope she gets the message