Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 2)

[ragnar_danneskjold]

@ragnar and ichiro

LULz I never thought of it that way, asking for an STD checkup as a prelude to sex. interesting. haha

Kase on my end, if I was asked that, parang na.accuse ako na "may" possibility na positive ko. Parang, how would you feel na if you were "judged" as someone who looks like he might have STD's? Something like that.

Thanks for the interesting input, I hope you're not trolling

LOL! I'm not trolling. May friend akong mejo nakarami na at tinanong ko sya if di ba sya positive. He said maingat sya and the retard was proud of his accomplishments. Some men see it as a badge of honour. You might not get the honest answer from them but i don't think masasaktan sya. Some would be proud to admit they've been screwing around for some time already. haha.

[minatay91]

^@ minatay91
i do not think a normal person can accuse you of something like that...

Sige abnormal na kung abnormal yung thinking ko Paranoid lang.

@ragnar

Sabagay, guys talking to guys kase diba? I know how inflated and exaggerated it would be naman Master key na kung master key na maraming nabukas. Sana protected naman sila truly (at hindi lang nasa "quiet stages of HIV").

So to sum it up, it's "okay" to just ask him straightforward to get himself tested? (of course, I will never ask him if may STD siya. alam ko kase na yung answer "NO" )

[jtansanco]

^ Ummm... Nope. Nothing more than friends. Latter is like an answer of a player.

[Mr.Punch]

^That's what you call overanalysis.

[Ichiro]

^^ friends...

friends friends

friends friends friends...

kahit ilang multiples pa yan ng friends...

friends pa rin ang result nyan... FRIENDZONE kumbaga... hehe

kaya kung ako sayo ... ang magiging reaction ko lang ay... WHATEVER!!! ... nyahahah!!!

[jtansanco]

^someone told me kasi that when a guy says "friends friends lang kami" ang ibig sabihin nun eh may plano siya na ipursue ang girl, kaya sa ngayon friends friends muna. kasi when you say friends lang kami, parang may tuldok na yun na hanggang friends lang nga talaga gusto ng lalake. naweirdan nga ako sa explanation eh, kaya i decided to ask here kung ano comment nyo tungkol sa sinabi ng kakilala ko.

Hindi yan... Usually it's "friends lang muna pero if bla bla bla".. Friends friends is more of hindi ka seseryosohin. Parang new acquaintance. Bagong kilala. Haha.

[sacred cow]

^That's what you call overanalysis.

ditto hahaha

[jtansanco]

^ Yes

[jtansanco]

^ Then super torpe si guy. May ganyan akong friend. Parang sa FB, ang active sa pagreply sa posts ni girl but when nagkita na sila, parang iniiwasan. Alam naman din niya number ni girl.

[grace0619]

My question about men... Is a question about my husband. We just got married early this year. Now, I've been raving about a certain commercial we saw last fathers day while watching TV - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jzGgZj6hjw&feature=youtu.be. I hope the mods don't mind because I've posted this several times already.

Kasi naman. I really like the message. Or baka dahil excited lang talaga ako magka-baby at bumuo ng family... Anyway, hindi ko alam kung naiinis sakin asawa ko, pero kasi dati sabay pa kaming na-eexcite sa idea na magka-anak eh tapos ngayon nung binanggit ko yung about having kids (excited ako syempre), sabi nya sakin in a very serious tone, "nakakapressure ka... saka na natin yan pagusapan." Bakit biglang nag-iba??? I'm not sure if he was just in a bad mood then pero nasaktan kasi ako. Di ko naman sinasadya na mapressure sya pero dati naman, pareho kaming excited kaya hindi ko inisip na ganun magiging reaction nya.

Okay, so ang tanong ko, bakit ganun mga lalaki. Kung in the first place ay hindi naman pala nya gusto, sana hindi nya na pinaramdam sakin na excited din sya kung fake lang naman pala yun. Still haven't talked to hi about that incident pero I'm overthinking again at napapraning ako na baka he never wants to have children pala. 

[jtansanco]

^ Having a baby is always a good thing for a couple. I think the reason why ganon yung reaction niya is because he knows it's very expensive to have a baby these days. I don't know your financial status but mapapaisip ka kasi sa daming ng gastos pag may baby na. Plus, magiging iba na rin ang situation considering he can't go out that much anymore since may kid, who needs to be taken care of, na in the future.

[Ichiro]

@grace0619

i agree with jtansanco about financial and a change in lifestyle aspects

another thing...

minsan kasi... nakakapressure din talaga sa guy kung lagi mo sasabihin na gusto mo na magka baby... gusto mo na magka baby... then kahit ilang beses kayo mag sex... di ka naman nag bubuntis... minsan iisipin rin ng guy... na sya ba ang may problem or what... and another thing... may mga guys na hindi nag eenjoy sa sex kung ang purpose lang ay magkaanak... kung tuwing magsesex kayo at sasabihin mong "buntisin mo ako buntisin mo ako... (oo nga... nakaka nga arouse yun at some time hahahah... ) pero kung lagi mong inuulit ulit tapos walang nangyayari... talagang nakakapressure yun...

my advice... kung mga bata pa naman kayo... then just enjoy sex... at kung di naman kayo nag ko-contraceptives then the baby will eventually come sa time na hindi nyo inaasahan... make everything a surprise para exciting... kaya please wag mo na banggit banggitin kung delay ang period mo or feeling mo naglilihi ka kung di pa sure na buntis ka kasi kung false alarm... mapi-pressure na naman kayo nyan pareho.

[grace0619]

Thanks for taking the time to reply, jtansanco & Ichiro. I get your point about the money and other factors. I don't ALWAYS nag him naman about having a baby. And we don't do it just for the baby, we're still a regular couple. Pero madalas ko lang talaga namemention before... Hehe. Anyway, thank you again.

He and I talked tapos he explained that he had a bad day at the office pala. He also shared that he still wants to have the baby but, like what you said, we have to think of the other factors... Nonetheless, I shouldn't worry daw about having a child or his desire to have a child. It will happen at the right time naman daw. I feel so relieved!!! I love my husband so much and it's good to know he still feels the same about this issue. 

[disturbed]

^si guy ay homebody. never sumasama sa lakad ng barkada. kung di nga nya talaga ganon ka gusto si classmate, bakit sa tuwing may lakad ang barkada at alam nya na kasama din si classmate eh sumasama na din siya? one time, ayaw nya sumama sa lakad. pero nung tinext siya ni classmate at nagtanong kung sasama siya, bigla siya napa oo. bat ganon?? ang gulo.

torpe lang sya..ganyan din ako noon lol..I let every chance pass by..nag aantay na lang chance na sana magustuhan din ako haha

[disturbed]

^ people change or another reason is..the girl in question is different from before..from those he likes then gets their number and dates..baka ibang diskarte kelangan..taking his time probably..whatever it is..time will tell..don't worry about it unless 

on a side note..I never had any girl "friends" (barkada/close/bf)..sometimes I wonder what does it feel like to have girl friends..hehe (hmmnn me topic na kayo dito na ganito hehe)

[jtansanco]

eh what if the guy is not the torpe type? kasi before naman sa mga girls na pinagkainteresan nya, ang bilis nya kinukuha agad ang number at ilan araw pa lang nagtetext niyayaya na nya makipagdate.

Well, just don't assume anything then. Bahala siya dumiskarte. Siya ang lalake e.

[Ichiro]

^ hahahaha... maybe I do not want to talk to strangers...

seriously... ang hihirap ng tanong nyo ha...

 "di ko pa nga un kilala eh"


for me that means... hindi ko masasabing GUSTO ko... kasi nga I do not know her yet... maybe crush or infatuated lang... mga tipong nagugustuhan ko yung isang tao based lang sa first impression ko... kasi yun lang ang alam ko sa kanya... it may change or it may not once I know her better...

[sacred cow]

let's say type mo ang isang kaibigan mong girl. kapag tinatanong ka ng mga kaibigan mo kung gusto mo ba siya, hindi mo sinasabi na gusto mo siya, ang sinasagot mo lang lagi ay "di ko pa nga un kilala eh". ano ang ibig nyo sabihin?

It's an "I neither confirm nor deny" type of answer...he's playing safe.
hindi naman kelangan ng guy makilala yung babae para aminin niyang he finds her hot diba?

[FOURever]

May tendency bang magtext kayo sa crush nyo ng mga 2am or 5am para wala lanng.. mag update lang kung matutulog ka pa lang o kakagising mo lang. Hahaha!

[anon]

May tendency bang magtext kayo sa crush nyo ng mga 2am or 5am para wala lanng.. mag update lang kung matutulog ka pa lang o kakagising mo lang. Hahaha!

O naman,  crush eh! So in my case, as many text messages as I can. Buti na lang may unli!