How much do you give to parents?

[ohcmon]

Curious lang ako, mga sis, magkano binibigay niyo sa parents niyo nung single pa kayo (kung married na kayo ngayon)? Every payday ba o tuwing special occasions lang? Nagbago ba amount when you moved out of home or ganun pa rin?

I'm an only child and both of my parents have stable jobs. We live quite comfortably naman, we could afford luxuries every now and then, pero confused ako how much to give my parents. They're not the type na magsabi ng fixed amount na kailangan bigyan ko sila, actually kahit nga hindi ako magbigay okay lang pero syempre nahihiya ako.

Inputs?

[izabelle]

sa case ko wala. kahit nung single. There was never a time na nagbigay ako sa kanila ng any amount. Ayaw kasi nila. They always tell me to just save my money. Pero i treat them for dinner and give them gifts kapag birthday, mother's day, father's day, christmas or minsan wala lang.

basta ayaw nila ng pera. haha! nagagalit lol

[harlet]

ako nung single pa, halos lahat binibigay ko sweldo ko, ibinubukod ko lang ang allowance ko for 15 days.....up to now, sagot ko needs ng ailing mother ko....

sis ohcmon, siguro ok na lang na sagutin mo na lang ang isang monthly fixed expenses nila.

[caprice]

yung contribution ko noon para sa expenses sa bahay is 2k every sweldo. yun kasi ang napag-usapan naming magkakapatid. 2k per person excluding kids. para yun sa utilities and food for breakfast, lunch and dinner. so kung gusto mo ng chichiria, chocolates, fruits, etc, hindi na kasali yun sa budget. kanya-kanyang bili na. dahil ako na lang ang single noon, i buy for my parents. mga 6 to 8k every 2 weeks. i just let them pick whatever they want. pagkain naman yun o kaya pag may gustong bilhin Papa ko sa Ace Hardware. i also pay for everything when we go out. by choice naman ito, hindi ako pinilit. hindi nila ako tinipid nung hindi pa ako working so ayoko rin silang tipirin. at saka sabi nga ng Kuya kong panganay, ang pera nila Mama and Papa is for their enjoyment na dapat.

pag special occasions naman, 2k each din sila. tapos yung lunch/dinner out, hati-hati kaming magkakapatid.

now that i'm married, nagbibigay pa rin ako ng 2k every sweldo at birthdays. pero wala na yung groceries at pang-Ace Hardware ni Papa. When we visit every Saturday, nagdadala na ako ng food for everyone. when we go out, i still pay for everything. rule ko kasi e pag ako ang nagyaya, ako ang sasagot ng lahat kasi kung nasa bahay lang naman sila e wala silang gagastusin.

at saka gustung-gusto ng Papa ko na iniispoil sya. mura man o mahal yung binibigay namin sa kanya, tuwang-tuwa sya. Mama ko naman, tuwing tatanungin kung ano gusto nya, laging wag na ang sagot though alam naman naming preferred nya ang cash e sa Papa at mga pamangkin ko rin naman nya iniispend. 

[brendzy]

Curious lang ako, mga sis, magkano binibigay niyo sa parents niyo nung single pa kayo (kung married na kayo ngayon)? Every payday ba o tuwing special occasions lang? Nagbago ba amount when you moved out of home or ganun pa rin?

I'm an only child and both of my parents have stable jobs. We live quite comfortably naman, we could afford luxuries every now and then, pero confused ako how much to give my parents. They're not the type na magsabi ng fixed amount na kailangan bigyan ko sila, actually kahit nga hindi ako magbigay okay lang pero syempre nahihiya ako.

Inputs?

I think sis, you try to give them an amount, or offer to shoulder fixed expenses sa bahay, gaya ng sabi ni sis harlet, however of course kung ayaw ng parents mo, you can go sa idea ng ibang sisses natin.
however it is different in my case kasi, when I was single, I give my mom 5-6k every 2 weeks sa parents ko, since yung tatay ko, hindi na makapagwork. then akin din yung groceries and emergency funds. so just like sis harlet, allowance nalang naiiwan sa akin, or sometimes pag may OT ako, akin na yun to buy my personal wants. mahirap talaga but that's life. nakalimutan ko lang talaga magsave. now that I am married, I am sending them at least 5k every month since mahal gastusin dito.
yung contribution natin, I guess it also varies sa parents natin and how we communicate clearly with them. in your case no problem naman pala. but sa iba (just like me), pressure talaga.
Just save sis yun nalang. 

[17arci]

I don't give any since may trabaho naman mom ko at mas malaki pa sweldo saken. Hehe. I just shouldered my sister's education, graduate na sya ngayon. Review school tuition na lang.

[j_in_tokyo]

sis caprice..parang ang happy happy ng family nyo..
inggit ako..

[mslcgrey]

when i was still staying at my mom's house, 3k a month since that is also our agreement. 3k each kaming magkakapatid as part of our share sa common household expenses which includes electricity and food. kanya kanya na kami when it comes to toiletries and other personal stuffs.

now, i no longer give money. but every weekend nagdidinner kami sa kanila and kami ang may dala ng food. either mag-take out kami or doon na kami magluluto. if may matitira, iniiwan na namin doon.

once in a while, niyaya ko rin na pumunta sa mall mom and niece ko and treat ko din sila kahit merienda lang.

[det060403]

Half of my salary goes to my parents.

[caprice]

sis caprice..parang ang happy happy ng family nyo..
inggit ako..

hehe, tamang happy lang. OFW kasi Papa namin noon tapos Mama namin SAHM para maalagaan kaming 4 kids. bumabawi lang kami ngayon sa sacrifices nila noon para sa amin.

[snowflakes]

 In my case, i give every payday. They obliged me to send money. Now that im jobless, they are still
Asking kaya sometimes i asked hubby to send money for them. But not every pay day

[kiz_me1109]

I give them 2k per payday which is 20% of my salary. My dad has diabetes and 6-8k per month yung gastos just for his medications. Yung sister ko sa medicines ng papa ko and ako naman sa monthly expenses nila. They're old and have no work so we need to help them with their daily expenses.

Every year, umuuwi ako sa province, I make sure na may nabibili akong additional appliances na kailangan nila (washing machine, oven, fridge, etc). This year, nung umuwi ako, nagpa paint ako ng rooms sa taas. Yun na yung project ko for this year.

[missreese]

my net is only 15k.. every 15th ako nagbabayad ng meralco, cable, at tubig. Iba pa yung bigay ko 200 araw araw nila. so sumatutal. allowance lang talaga natitira saken. kahit na nag pepension pa ang nanay ko ewan ko bakit ganun.

[DasmaMama]

Hi, Nung first time ako mag-work (2001), binibigay ko buong sweldo ko. Okay lang for me since hindi nagpapadala si Papa nun and may 2 kapatid pa ko sa college. Binibigyan lang ako ni mama ng allowance ko good for a month. Nung sumunod na taon sabi nya magiwan daw ako ng 1k para may maipon ko. So yun, binobigay ko lahat, except for 1k tapos bibigyan nya ko ng allowance. Year 2004 nung medyo nag-iba kasi may work na din mga kapatid ko. So nagshe-share na kame sa expenses. Nung 2008, may family na ko pero nasa abroad si hubby kaya kila mama kame nag-stay ng baby ko. Nagbibigay ako ng pang-grocery every payday. Nung 2010 naman, sumama kame kay hubby abroad pero nagbibgay pa din kame kay mama ng $100 every month. May sakit kasi sya nun and makakatulong yun kahit papaano sa gamot nya.

[bpa]

since nun nag-start ako mag-work, di talaga ko nagbibigay, di den naman ako hinihingan. pag Christmas lang money na yun gift ko pero 1k lang. nun single pa ko nagbibigay lang ako 200-worth grocery every payday na ako bumibili like sugar and creamer/milk, yun lang. but now, i'm married, wala talaga ko binibigay. but, if may emergency like kelangan dalin dogs sa vet, me na nagdadala, walang prob kase love ko dogs namen. sorry, but i don't feel kase na i owe anyone anything na para regular na magbigay.

si hubby, before we got married i know binibigay nya lahat ng salary nya and allowance lang sa kanya, but when we planned to get married and nagbubudget na for that hinati nya yun sweldo and sa budget namen yun salary. then, when we got married, he just gives them 500 every payday. di pwede saken lahat ng sweldo nya sa kanila. but binigyan naman namen sila ng parang capital for small business na parang share kame so dun nalang nila kinukuha yun every day nila, parents lang naman nya, wala kase cia kapatid.

[erich84]

Before I was married 1k every payday ang binibigay ko sa mother for tuition ng kapatid ko but sad to say natigil when I got pregnant. Hindi na ko nakapagbigay but when the time na mayroon ako extra or di kaya gipit parents ko for my bro's study I provided for him kahit mangutang pa ako. Yes I'm jealous sometimes dun sa mga anak na sa kanila lang talaga yung sweldo nila but I realized at least I help  my family even in a small ways. Nung may misunderstanding kami ng parents ko especially na mama ko then my father was hospitalized twice ata yon I made a loan for them kaya medyo hindi naging maganda finances ko until now.

But masarap namn din ang magbigay ka although ngayon nahihiya nga sila kasi may daughter is into school na rin and may tuition na. Wala nako definite amount na ibinibigay but everytime umuuwi ako then may kulang sa bahay I amde sure I buy those stuff.

Since parents ko walang SSS so ala sila pension especially when they reached 60, I am planning to provide capital for sari-sari store or for lending para may income sila and will force my siblings to give specific amount for them since mahihirapan na din sila to earn due to their age.

It's true na hindi obligasyon ng anak na buhayan ang magulang but it is one way to thank them for becoming who we are now.

[aquacharly]

Zero, when I was still living with them.
But my siblings and I would share for the usual gifts.
My main contribution was entertainment.
Both sides of The Family I Came From are big --  they breed like rabbits --   so gatherings are like mitings de avance.  So, I would organize the presentations, and line up the family performers.  Ang hindi ko lang ginawa eh kumain ng apoy. Tulay bangco - done.

When hubby and I got our businesses off, yan, we leveled up our "gifts" to parents.
We bring them on vacations, first-class --  kasi they will never spend first class on themselves.
Expensive dinners.  Expensive pasalubong.   
Pero we do not have to give,
Wala kaming obligation except to take care forever and ever of the family drivers, yaya's,  cooks or whatever minana namin but more often than not eh andun pa don sa bahay nila taking care of them. 

[stormy]

@caprice, sarap sis basahin ng sagot mo

[BicuriousGm]

First salary ko binigay ko yung half sa mother ko. Then every birthdays,Christmas na lang ako magbigay. Di din naman kasi sila ng hihingi bec active pa sila sa negosyo nila that time. Kapag birthday nila nag pa cater ako handa or sa Restaurant kami...pero minsan nag share din naman mga kapatid ko. Kapag mothers day, valentines day,fathers day dine out or lunch out ko treat parents ko. Since youngest ako kami tatlo lang most of the time. Me kanya kanya na din naman family mga kapatid ko. Pero nag grocery naman ako twice a month. Utility bills sa bahay parents ko na. May time naman kasi pag bibigyan ko...they always said na ipunin ko na lang para savings ko. Kaya ayun kapag me okasyon na lang ako bumabawi.

[caprice]

^^ hehe, thanks, sis stormy. kung kaya lang talaga namin ibigay lahat sa parents namin e ibibigay namin...