Walang assurance ang mundo. Id rather try and fail than not try at all. Isa pa sa negosyo kelangan mo mag take ng risk. Dahil hinde mo alam kung mananalo ka or matatalo.
My point is, we risk to win, not to lose. Who wants to lose ba? We make calculated risks not impulsive risks. And believing that your spouse will surely cheat without both of you doing anything, is risking to lose. Sa negosyo kung baga, bakit ka mag-ooffer ng product/service kung wala namang bibili (pwede magcreate ka ng market LOL). But just like any other game, you can also lose.
If it's ok with you na yung bf mo, cheated you once or twice, at sya pa rin ang pinili mong pakasalan, then it's only you who is accountable for making that choice.
If your wayward boyfriend did not cheat for the rest of your married life, then consider yourself blessed beyond measure. But if he strayed again as a spouse, like what mooncake and leaves mentioned, stop complaining because you signed up for that probable situation. Pa marriage counseling na lang kayo or couples therapy or anything, married na kayo eh.
Im not saying naman na wag magbigay ng effort oara di magloko ang asawa at maghanap ng iba. Sakin lang lets be realistic. What if lahat na ginawa mo pero nagloko pa rin sino ba masasaktan sa sobrang pag eexpect na ang asawa nya eh di sha lolokohin kase she is doing this and that.
Is this a question or a statement? They are contradicting. So you mean, dahil may probability magloko ang husband mo no matter what you do, eh pakonti konti lang din yung gagawin mo for the relationship? So if it fails, ok lang kasi hindi mo naman ginawa best mo?
Self-improvement naman is a personal choice. No one is pushing anybody to work on themselves.
And personally, I will do my best, so if he cheated, I don't have myself to blame. Kasi ginawa ko na lahat ng alam ko, from continuous learning to applying things in our daily married life. But I'm still not perfect, so my husband should accept my shortcomings in between, ganon din ako sa kanya. If it didn't work, I will have no regrets in life.
In my humble opinion, lahat ng lalake may potential na magloko. Kahit nga babae eh. Pero bakit ang lalaki gumagawa ba sila ng effort para di magloko asawa nila? Diba sila din minsan ang dahilan bakit sila iniiwan ng babae at sumasama sa iba? My point is it takes two to tango. Hinde naman pedeng tayo lang mga babae dapat mag igay ng effort at kung ano anong milagro para sa ikagaganda ng pagsasama ng mag asawa.
Yes, of course men should do their part too. And it helps, kung sa dating stage pa lang, eh you know that this man will work with you till the end.
Other troubled marriages naman kulang lang sa couple/relationship skills yung both partners. So maganda, learn all you can about relationships and share it with your husband. As what I've mentioned sa tip number 5 ko, educate your husband. Tulungan naman ang marriage eh, as you said, it takes two to tango.
But if a wife is a nagger, judgmental, critical, domineering, of course wag umasa na magiging receptive ang husband. Or if a husband is a serial adulterer, sex addict, may mga unresolved sa issues sa buhay, psychological disorders, eh try to seek professional assistance.
