Paano mo mahuhuli na may KABIT si Mister?

[Girltalker2]

Hi ladies... i have also been reading the posts here and I am really learning a lot.. my question is this, I have read several times on this thread na sa cellphone mo malalaman kung may tinatago si husband, kasi hindi niya maiwan. Pero paano kung wala ka naman nakukutuban or you cant think of a possible way para magcheat si husband kasi lagi naman on time umuwe from work and lagi kami magkausap and di naman sya nawawalan ng oras to pamper and maglambing sakin and alam ko rin naman ang labas pasok ng pera sa bank account niya. Pero pagdating sa cellphone di niya talaga nahiwalay sa katawan nya, ultimo maligo. Should i worry? My friends say mabait si husband at mukhang di gagawa ng kalokohan and i trust my hubby din naman, di ko lang talaga maintindihan bakit ganun na lang paghawak niya sa phone niya. Really need your opinion. TIA!

Baka celphone addict ang asawa mo? 

Ang tanong ko lang, kung hindi ka naman kinukutuban, why are you asking?  Can't think of possible ways eh iba rin. Kasi nung 80s marami ang may mistress nang hindi alam ng wife kasi lagi present si hubby sa lahat ng occasions.  Malalaman nalang nila about the mistress and anak sa labas sa burol na ng mga asawa nila. Maraming incidents na ganyan. Mas magaling ata magtago yung generation nila. These days kasi mas engot ata mga tao magtago. 

So again, kung di ka naman kinukutuban, tapos wala ka naman dapat ikabahala, just ask him straight. Ang questionable kasi kung may kausap sa CR lagi. Or biglang nawawala kapag say nasa labas kayo. May kausap yun, etc. Tapos pagbalik nya, wala sayo ang utak nya.  But in you case, he is very much 100% present in mind and spirit, hindi lang physically. Should be nothing to worry about.

[happybride]

Thanks mga sis simang lisse maiandra girltalker2

Thanks for being positive and not making me worry more

Alam ko wala ako dapat ika-praning, its just that whenever i listen to 3rd party/breakup stories(pati nga sa the legal wife) laging involved at nagsisimula sa cellphone. Eh napansin ko ganun si hubby. All other signs are absent, its just that di niya kayang maiwan ang cp niya alone with me in a room. Pagkabangon nya at sa pagpunta ng cr bitbit nya ang phone nya. Hindi ba naturally dapt iwan mo lang? Actually, kung iiwanan nya sa room yun cp nya di ko rin naman babasahin at pakekealaman kasi wala aking reason to do so, pero dahil unti unti ko nang napapansin ang pagiging sobrang dikit nya sa cp nya gusto ko na tuloy basahin ngayon. I never confronted him about it. Tinatago ko lang sa sarili kapraningan ko.

[simang]

Sobrang hindi talaga healthy yang mga mistresses themed movies and series na yan. I never watched any of those (except the one with JLC-Bea-Ronaldo Valdez triangle, which by the way had a sensible ending). Even these forums are not healthy sometimes. Knowing us girls, mapapraning at mapapraning talaga tayo.

As they said, don't look for something that obviously not there. See the happy things. Think of the happy memories.
You'll be fine.

[cecilydee]

hindi rin magandang nakikinig parati sa mga cynical. their love story ended in tragic but it doesnt necessarily mean it would happen to yours. kanya kanya tayong experiences in life.  wala rin yan sa mga signs and superstitious stuffs, the most important thing here is you know your partner really well and how strong your bond is when it comes to being faithful.

a negative mind wont lead you anywhere.

[sugardrop]

Even these forums are not healthy sometimes. Knowing us girls, mapapraning at mapapraning talaga tayo.

True. Kaya minsan, iwas na lang ako sa mga gantong threads kasi it will lead me to overthink and overanalyze everything he says and does. Then the mind will start playing tricks on me. Kaya lang informative din kasi. Hehe.

[Girltalker2]

Kung wala naman kasi ibang signs, pero unusually madikit sya sa celphone nya, possible na may tinatago nga sya sayo.  Pero malamang hindi babae.  Kasi kung babae iyan, matakaw yun sa oras, sooner or later, kukutuban ka. Since wala naman, hindi mistress yun.

Puedeng andun lahat ng work schedule nya na none of your business. Puede andun lahat ng personal diary nya.  Porn maybe? Wala nako ibang maisip... Basta most likely something personal na, na mabuti na huwag mo tingnan narin para hindi mawala tiwala nya sayo. Ang maganda tanungin mo nalang sya lightly in a good way. 

[lisse]

This may sound silly, pero I strongly believe sa kutob nating mga babae. pag kinutuban ka about something, usually there is something. that doesn't mean na it is always a bad something, it just prompts you to be more observant. based naman sa story mo, you know deep in your gut na walang 3rd party si hubby mo.

hubby ko nga may passcode ang phone niya eh. hindi niya alam n alam ko. nahuli ko lang yung angle ng fingers niya nung pine-press niya to unlock lol! then one time nag-CR siya naiwan si phone and I browsed. wala talaga. he just wants the lock to be there. on my part naman, kita niya madalas na I take my phone with me sa toilet.  E kasi nkakainip habang naka-upo eh, lol!

pero I agree with the other sissies here, if it will give you peace of mind, open this to your husband. but don't accuse. just ask nicely. Hubby did this to me. sabi niya straightforward, why do you bring your phone in the toilet? it might get wet." sabi ko lang, I get bored lol!

[shinta]

^ i also believe in kutob / woman's instinct. pag kinutuban akong may something na tinatago si hubby, usually totoo kahit wala naman akong masyadong basis. tapos yung evidence, basta na lang dadating without me lifting a finger. sabi ko nga sa kanya, no matter how careful he is, I have an angel na nagbabantay sakin at nagbubuko ng mga kalokohan niya.

[lisse]

^ yup! totally hard to explain, pero I have lots of firsthand experiences ng mga kutob-kutob na yan. I would like to think also na it's my guardian angel's way of helping me.

[ladyisabella]

^ i also believe in kutob / woman's instinct. pag kinutuban akong may something na tinatago si hubby, usually totoo kahit wala naman akong masyadong basis. tapos yung evidence, basta na lang dadating without me lifting a finger. sabi ko nga sa kanya, no matter how careful he is, I have an angel na nagbabantay sakin at nagbubuko ng mga kalokohan niya.

Yup! super totoo to! naranasan ko kaya sure ako na totoo talaga ang kutob

[maiandra]

wos sis ashley_afiah, im happy for you na may happy ending rin yung story mo I guess it pays to be strong.

[glamorosa_09]

Thanks mga sis simang lisse maiandra girltalker2

Thanks for being positive and not making me worry more

Alam ko wala ako dapat ika-praning, its just that whenever i listen to 3rd party/breakup stories(pati nga sa the legal wife) laging involved at nagsisimula sa cellphone. Eh napansin ko ganun si hubby. All other signs are absent, its just that di niya kayang maiwan ang cp niya alone with me in a room. Pagkabangon nya at sa pagpunta ng cr bitbit nya ang phone nya. Hindi ba naturally dapt iwan mo lang? Actually, kung iiwanan nya sa room yun cp nya di ko rin naman babasahin at pakekealaman kasi wala aking reason to do so, pero dahil unti unti ko nang napapansin ang pagiging sobrang dikit nya sa cp nya gusto ko na tuloy basahin ngayon. I never confronted him about it. Tinatago ko lang sa sarili kapraningan ko.

There's a thin line between instinct and paranoia. Instinct comes from the inside, may napansin kang nagbago sa partner mo, your mind knows that there is something unusual, something deviated from your relationship pattern or his habits. Instinct is our mind's non-verbal communication with us, it is concerned about our safety. When instinct kicked, there is no emotion attached at the onset.Yun lang madalas walang ebidensya, sometimes it feels irrational pa.

Paranoia naman comes from outside, from the stories you heard or read, from your own past experiences. Unlike instinct, paranoia is born out of fear, anxiety, or other similar emotions. Because of these, you start projecting what you learned/experienced to your own present world, you start gathering evidences that can confirm your fears. It can be helpful it you'll take it proactively, like alam mong maraming nakakaexperience ng infidelity then be your best as a wife and be vigilant, teamwork with hubby. But if you'll take it reactively, be careful na lang with self-fulfilling prophecy. Sabi nga sa Proverbs, "Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life."

[palamig]

sa naranasan ko ganito sya,

ang cp nya biglang nilagyan ng password dati naman wala,
 
pagkadating sa bahay after work, di muna sya magbibihis ang una nya gagawin kukunin phone nya at magtetext,

halos hindi na ako kausapin dahil puro phone kaharap nya,

nagising ako alanganin oras gulat ko dilat na dilat pa din sya at may katext,

hindi ko na mahawakan yung cp nya nagagalit sya,

lagi syang late umuwi, laging ubos ang pera.

mag cr lang sya dala pa nya cp nya

at nanaginip ako one time na may babae sya, so for me sign yun kasi nung mag bfgf pa lang kami nanaginip din ako na may babae sya, nalaman ko totoo naman pala. kaya nung naulit yung panaginip ko lalo ako nag isip na baka nga meron at syempre yung kutob..  confirmed naman lahat. may kabit nga sya.

ngayon tapos na kami at wala na din ako stress, sobrang torture tlaga yung mga panahon na yun.

[yanmae]

Hi mga sis, familiar po ba kayo sa sms tracker for android? napaka gandang app nito para sa mga paranoid na mga misis. Natatrack lahat ng calls and text, ang kaso lang di ko maupgrade yung paid version, di ko alam kung bakit.

Kung kinukutuban kayo mas okay mag download ng ganito ng di alam ng mga asawa nyo. Ang hirap ng feeling na paranoid tayo palagi.

[carlijn]

Globe tracker shows you where your significant other is... yun nga lang when you enroll his/her number globe will send his/her cellphone a message asking for permission na iadd sya list ng tintrack mo.  If you don't want your significant other to know you are tracking their whereabouts, kelangan hawak nyo yung phone nila kapag humingi ng permission ang globe then just delete the message.  Tapos testingin nyo hehe. Yun nga lang you will be charged everytime gagamitin mo yung tracker.

So far ngayon hindi ko na uli ginawa kay hubby since nung nagpalit sha ng number, alam naman nya na anytime kaya kong gawin uli yun. I am trying to give him my full trust.  Nasa kanya naman yun kung sisirain nya family namin pagkatapos ng lahat ng pinagdaanan namin.  Basta this time kung magloko man sha mawawala talaga kami ng mga anak nya sa buhay nya.

[wangwang]

..sana naman wag hiwalay agad,

[mommy_me]

OMG ang hirap-hirap yata ng walang peace of mind d ba..

[bonita111809]

kapag ba may tracker tayo, mapipigilan nating mangaliwa ang mga mister natin? hindi di ba? so why bother? nagiging sanhi lang tuloy ng kapraningan yan. at kapag nalaman ng mga mister natin, lalong masasakal yan. lalong magpupumiglas.


ang magandang gawin, bigyan ng rason si mister na umuwi ng maaga. pakitaan lagi sya ng maganda. sweet revenge ika nga. 

[simang]

^couldn't agree more. usually yung mga tinatrack at mahigpit na binabantayan, they only find more innovative ways to cheat. he will mostly likely do it, because really, who wants to be with a girl who's praning like that? sorry but i find this tracking thing, for the lack of a better word, pathetic. pathetic move that only pathetic people will actually follow through.

[bonita111809]

^couldn't agree more. usually yung mga tinatrack at mahigpit na binabantayan, they only find more innovative ways to cheat. he will mostly likely do it, because really, who wants to be with a girl who's praning like that? sorry but i find this tracking thing, for the lack of a better word, pathetic. pathetic move that only pathetic people will actually follow through.

true sis. what if wala naman na talagang ginagawa si mister? eh di tayo mismo ang gumagawa ng sariling multo natin. hahaha! imbes na mag aksaya ng oras sa track track na yan, why don't we work on bettering ourselves di ba? nakakapagod din naman sigurong maging praning. di ko kasi sure, hindi ko pa naman na-experience simula nung nag-asawa ako. hehe.