Paano mo mahuhuli na may KABIT si Mister?

[girl24]

What I don't understand is bakit walang effort from the guy na ayusin ang marriage?

Kung feeling nya may problema sya sa wife nya, bakit sya kelangan humanap ng iba?  hindi ba dapat kausapin nya ang wife nya nang maayos nila iyan kesa maghanap sya ng ibang outlet?

Secondly, kung nakahanap na sya ng ibang outlet, bakit enjoy na enjoy sya makipagpatintero with the wife?  Hindi rin fun yung lagi kang binabantayan na parang bata at walang freedom. Why not just tell your wife outright may nahanap ka nang iba so that everyone can move on?  Why resort to lying, cheating, patago tago. Parang mga engot.

my thoughts and feelings exactly!!! kaya naiinis ako sa laging excuse na it takes two to tango na somehow kasalanan ng misis pag nagloko si mr! why???!!! having an affair is a choice! inisip at ginawa ng lalaki dahil para sa kanya hindi sapat si misis. just as sis girltaker2 have said, he COULD have told his wife, in her face, straighten up or i'll have an affair or slim down kasi nawawalan na ako ng gana sa katabaan mo, etc. para me laban naman si misis. pwede siya umayos, mag exercise, mag diet hindi yung patago at sekreto naman ginugulo ni lalake pamilya niya.

or kung talagang sukang suka na si mister ke misis, hiwalayan na niya! be MAN enough to let go and not go behind her back! mga duwag kasi at ang pride na ayaw nila masabihan na masama sila eh totoo naman. sorry po, me pinaghuhugutan lang...

[euwie]

Nahuli ko dati si mister kasi malakas kutob ko. Napanaginipan ko pa sila. Tapos may concerned officemates rin syang nagsabi sa kin. Ldr kami nun. But it was confirmed nung nagpunta na sya dito sa uae to join me, wala pa syang 1 buwan, nahuli ko thru ym sa cellphone nya. Hindi na sya nakadeny, kasi paano nga naman nya lulusutan yun.

Ang napansin ko lang na kakaiba sa kanya nung nagbabakasyon ako sa pinas nung ldr pa kami, nagagalit sya kapag hinihiram ko cp nya. Makikitext or tawag lang naman ako. Maski nung bago sya sa uae, nakatingin rin sya the whole time kapag kinakalikot ko cp nya.

Pero ngayon, i don't worry anymore. Kasi binigyan ko sya ultimatum. Sabi ko kapag mangyari yun ulit, talagang hiwalay na. We were on the brink of separating nung nahuli ko kasi sya, as in i was dead serious about it. Hindi ako umiyak nun, sabi ko pa sa kanya magsama sila wala akong pakialam bumalik sya pinas ako pa gagastos sa ticket nya. In fairness sa kanya, talagang bumabawi sya hanggang ngayon maski na it's been 3 years already when it happened. Pero ang hirap lang, hindi ko na talaga maalis yung pain it caused me.

[m_lim]

walang basurang hindi sisingaw. tsaka ang Diyos, marunong talaga. kahit wala kang gawin, lalapit sayo ang ebidensiya.

[Girltalker2]

^ agree.

I am not the type that has a sixth sense, kung baga, hindi pako nakakakita ng multo or nakaka predict ng future. Pero for some reason, the evidences come to me in dreams.  When I was an unassuming wife, so trusting, hindi ako makapaniwala sa napaginipan ko and I even cried.  I told my hubby then sabi nya huwag ko daw paniwalaan mga ganyan. But when it came again tapos nakakita ako ng talaga ebidensya, totoo nga pala. 

Second dream was may buntis na involved. And true enough buntis nga ang mistress, which I discovered 1 month after.   

[indigo.tulle]

walang basurang hindi sisingaw. tsaka ang Diyos, marunong talaga. kahit wala kang gawin, lalapit sayo ang ebidensiya.

So true sis, like ive mentioned sa case ng cousin ko, its been kept for soooo long, more than a decade na, and just recently lang niya nahuli....lagi siyang may kutob.... then ayun, one time, may katext hubby niya and bigla niya kinuha ang cp, tapos nadelete agad ng hubby at namutla.  Huli.

[chiqmom]

what i learned from my previous experience is to never consume yourself looking for evidence kasi in the end, what you sought might destroy you. and come to think about it, humans have the tendency to always find what they are after. so if you spend most of your time trying to look for evidence, soon it will crop up and you will regret that the times you were spending on the hunt game, you could have just used it to let your man see your worth.

im not saying that i know better. but sis, you can focus on better things than get consumed by this emotional torture. relax, and let it go.

[sh1n3]

sis TS, hindi ginagawang kabit those girls working in spas with extra service. kadalasan, they serve as "desserts" o pang tanggal stress lang ng mga lalaki. magiging tampulan lang ng tukso at kantyaw ang hubby mo ng mga kaibigan nya if kukuha sya ng girl sa spa at igarahe nya as kabit.

you want to know kung may kabit sya? if you have the resources, then subject him on a 24-7 surveillance. if he truly has a kabit, matagal na yung 2 weeks na di sya dadapo sa love nest nila.
kung wala kang datung para ipa-tiktik sya, better be patient and follow the advices here.
wag mainip, kakalat rin yan.

[annie_shaider]

kung duda kayo sa mga mister/bf nyo na meron silang mga kabit, at sila ay may sasakyan, and want to know where he might be anytime, i know a product that you can trace his location thru online by GPS. the unit is something will cost you 8k.

i have this thing installed in my mountain bike, battery operated, size is like 5" long and 1" diameter in the shape of a cylinder.

you can check the GPS tracker realtime through your mobile phone connected through internet (GPRS). you can check the GPS tracker location, in a specific date and time.

anyone interested, pm me and i'll give you the link... im not connected to this product, its available in UK.

[carlijn]

Based from experience, naging bantay sarado si hubby sa cellphone nya na dati naman pakalat kalat lang... he would also have a constant guy companion na friend or relative na ginagamit nyang excuse na kasama daw nya kesyo inuman blah blah yun pala eh dahil kinukunsinte sha ng taong yun. 

Anyway since he and I both have globe mobile numbers, I enrolled my number sa globe tracker and added his number sa tracker.  If you're going to do this just make sure hawak nyo ang cell ni bf or hubby because once you add his number, globe will send an SMS to his cell asking for his permission to allow you track him.  I did this while he was in the shower hehe.  Nagulat nalang sha when one time I showed him the map of his whereabouts, from the point kung saan sha naglalagi hanggang sa makauwi sha nung time na yun sa bahay eh documented sa mapa... shempre nagalit sya dahil hindi nya inexpect na tama ang mga nasa map.

Well anyway sa ngayon medyo tahimik na kami kasi nagbago na sha, ngayon pakalat kalat na lang uli sa bahay ang phone nya at hindi na nya tinatago, tinatawanan na lang namin pagnapaguusapan kasi alam nya pwede ko pa rin gawin pagnagloko sha uli.  Kaya sinasabi na nya lagi sakin kung saan sha pumupunta at sino kasama nya.  Tapos hindi rin sha nagrereklamo pag pinapakialaman ko ang facebook nya, pag meron ako gusto tanggalin na tao sa friends nya kahit pa kamag anak nya wala na sha nagagawa hehe.

[mercibeaucoup]

I was able to talk to the girl not knowing na sila pa pala. Funny thing is, she insist she's the legal gf daw when they only see each other once every few months to just eff. I was the accused 3rd party. Lol. Btw, she has kids and is married. But left by the husband for other woman.

Husband is now reformed...kuno. Hopefully tuloy tuloy na. His viber gps is always on. So i know his location all the time. I know all his passwords....sana walang secret account.

Only thing i dont know yet is his asset: properties and bank accounts. How can tell him i want to get hold of those as well?

[mercibeaucoup]

sis sh1n3, hindi matagal ang 2 weeks for some. Yun kay hubby once every few months lang magkita to eff. And i read an article here in gt that the hubby was under surveillance for quite sometime. No infidelity found, but the wife insists na meron so they continue the surveillance. Kasi si hubby after office direcho bahay. Yun pala morning sila nagkikita to have breakfast together. They have a 6yr old love child. 

[heaven_charm]

medyo palyado na yung women's instincts ko kasi 1 year and 1 month na kame ni fiance pero wala naman ako nahuhuling babae. nun una i spend time investigating pero mas lalo lang ako nasstress pag wala ako mahuli so I stopped and spent my time nalang taking care of him. mas naging healthy ang relationship namin

so i think tama din yun advice ng ibang sisses na rather than stress yourself, spend quality time nalang sa partner niyo. kung may kabit man siya pwede niya iwan yun pag narealize niya na mas masarap padin magalaga si wifey. also reinvent yourself, magpaganda kesa magpakastress. nakakapangit ang negative thoughts noh

[imagodei082990]

ako tumigil na rin ako sa pag iimbistiga nakakapagod tapos wala naman ako makita na babae.. nagpalit kami ng number ni hubby kase yung plan ko temporary suspended kaya sakanya muna yun ako nalang ang tatawag .. wala naman sakanya ngttxt ..

[i_am_number_1]

my husband is perfect. he is everything a wife could ask for.. responsible, loving... but i learned he cheated many times and i did not evendo any effort to know about them! but the truth was i was really shocked because i could not imagine a husband as perfect as him could do suchthings!! how did i do it.. well, i just go on a date with him in videokes and there he drinks and drinks until he gets drunk. when he is already drunk,he starts to open up..the next morning when i ask him if its true, he will deny, but i know the are true! when i get so kulit na he will make amin  na..

[stylishmomy]

^thats why they say there's "Truth" in wine or beer
sad naman sis.... na super bait ang hubby mo tapos nag cheat pa.

[cheezecake]

I've been into this situation,  actually hindi naman ako yung tipong selosa I dunno why and mabait ang hubby ko.  Nagulat na lang ako one time when I asked him bakit late siya umuwi and nagalit siya e hindi naman siya ganun and napansin ko hindi na niya ako hinahawakan which is not really him dahil very touchy yun, tapos one day nabasa ko na lang sa facebook nag message  siya sa friend niya na it's finished and he put a bible verse na "....no temptation has ever seize you except what is common to man...." and yung friend niya na kausap niya ang sagot na tama yung ginawa niya.  Dun ko lang napagconnect connect na tama yung hunch ko na may ginagawa siyang kalokohan.  I didn't brought the situation to him dahil tapos naman na and hindi rin naman siya aamin. Kinalimutan ko na lang and hinigpitan ko siya sa pera kapag kumukuha siya ng money inililista ko sa calendar para makita niya na I'm aware about how he is spending his allowance. Ganun yata talaga mga guys there will come a time na magloloko nagpasalamat na lang ako sa diyos at hindi ako nagkaroon ng STD.

[zumba2011]

Hi sisses. i dont know if im over reacting or mali talaga ginagawa ni hubby. nung engaged pa lang kami i found out na he still communicates with his ex who is in the US via fb. and di ko gusto mga nabasa ko. hubby wanted them to use webcam so he could see her. they were also talking about mga 'nunal sa singit'. I was enraged and he sincerely apologized. after we got married there were around three instances naman na i saw in his fb logs na viniew nya si ex. at first deny sya but i showed him my proof. he said wala lang daw yun. he just wants to see how she is doing and wants to assure himself na he is doing much better without her and mas happy sya kesa sa kanya. pero for me, bat pa kailangan gawin yun if sya content na with what he has? Last i caught him stalk his ex was feb this year and it was a major fight. two years married pa lang kami ang ito lang lagi ang issue- [textspeak!] ex nya. then yesterday i saw his logs again and yes, ginagawa pa rin nya. napapagod na ako mag saway and i know di ko naman controlado ginagawa nya behind my back. nyamapigilian?

[zumba2011]

Cont.. for me lang bakit pa kailangan gawin yun and bakit di nya matigilan gawin knowing na it affects me a lot. nagiging manhid na ako and di ko alam if he is bothered at all. btw i created a separate fb acct and added the girl para updated din ako sa mga nakikita nya. and thengirl got married first bago kami kinasal. thoughts please..

[cheezecake]

^sis first you need to know kung sino ba ang nag-uumpisa ng conversation si hubby ba o si ex. Kapag si hubby you need to talk to him ask him kung ano ba ang pagkukulang mo pero kapag si ex naman ang nauuna kausapin mo yung girl na tigilan na kayo. You can check sa fb chat kung sino ang nauuna.

[zumba2011]

Si hubby nauna. pero what do u think about the stalking? Normal ba yun? Na even after i told him na i got really hurt tuloy pa rin sya behind my back. or is it harmless stalking?