Long Distance Relationship, Does it even work?

[erza0916]

Pansin ko lang, pag mayaman pareho ang mas nagiging madali ng LDR. Kasi pwede nila puntahan lagi isa't-isa lagi.

There's truth to this. Pero college pa lang ako nung nag start kami mag LDR, syempre wala pang budget puntahan sya. Pasalamat na lang kasi sya meron, kaya nga nag abroad eh, kaya nakakauwi sya kahit papano. Kahit hindi palagi basta nakakauwi. Sa ngayon naman halos lahat may access sa internet, mayaman o hindi, kaya kahit papano madali na yung communication. Dati sa email pa kami naguusap eh hindi naman everytime may access sa email, ubos ubos din allowance ko sa pagloload para lang magkainternet. Mahal pa internet noon ah haha

[mmquack]

^Yes. Kaya ng sabi ko lang parang MAS madali. Kasi syempre iba pa rin yung nakikita mo often daw. Like yung kakilala ko nung college, pareho sila mayaman kaya maski sa US nag college yung lalaki. Pag sembreak and term break ng isa, nabibisita nila isat-isa. Pero they didn't end up with each other tho. Not meant talaga. Kung para kayo sa isat isa, eh maski anong layo or lapit. Edi kayo.

Tapos meron akong friend, mayaman pareho pero sa nearby Asian country naman naka base yung isa. Salitan na monthly nagpupunta dun at dito. Minsan weekend lang! Grabe no? Hahaha Parang ang saya lang sila and parang not LDR.

[magno4]

  i am also in a long distance relationships and it works well, nasa pag uusap naman nyo yan at tiwala sa isat isa. pero shempre may advantages at disadvantage din shempre, pero dapat open at may communication kayo para maiwasan minsan ang di pag kakaunawaan.

[pretty_B]

^ganyan din naman kami before. it worked for almost 3yrs, pero ewan. not enough pa din pag ldr.

[jeninajenina]

Sad to say mine ended up bad, ganun rin. Nagsawa because of the distance. Siguro it's not really for everyone including me. I just hope yung mga happy sa ldr would close the distance eventually

[honeylet04]

I just want to share my 2years LDR story.

I've been in LDR since March 2013 up to know present but right now moving on na ako. Last January 2014 i found alot of secrets on his life. I've been faithful to him and keep waiting for him to visit me here at Phils. Mag 2years na dapat kmi this coming March nagtataka na ako bakit until now hindi pa nya ako pinapakilala sa family even thru FB. Nag away kmi one day I blocked him at FB nagtaka ko bakit 2 names nya ang lumbas dun ko nalaman na may orig FB pala sya na talaga sa family nya, friends nya. whole year ng relationshp ng 2014 namin are all LIES hindi pala totoong na stroke boss nya kaya hindi sya makauwi, he always make story everyday. Last week kinulit ko sya for his password then i found sa orig FB nya na HE'S IS MARRIED (married for convience i read all their conversations at FB married sya since 2010.) umamin sya kasi eto na evidence sabi nya he's divorced na daw but before i showed him my evidence he denied na sya pa to galit sa akin until i show him my evidence ayun umamin sya. said i should give him another chance magbabago nya sya he wanted to keep me wanted to marry me. I gave him another chance, he even add me to his orig FB upload kunwari sya sa FB nya ng pics i know kahit di nya sabi naka custom yung pic ko kung makikita yun ng family nya of course mag comment sila kung sino ako but ni isang like or comment wala, even status he hides it, even his friends di ko ma view kahit na ka add ako sa FB nya but eto pinalitan nya password orig FB nya i told him bakit need nya palitan alam ko naman na lahat and if he sincere na magbago dapat open na sya sa akin. sabi nya kasi daw dun tumatawag boss nya, mother nya at mga kapatid. napaka unreasonable. Eto tinigilan ko na masakit sobrang sakit pero kung aalamin ko pa kung ano pa deeper secret nya there is no use kasi lalo ko lang sasaktan ang sarili nya. by the way he is Filipino and i met him on dating site.

[yajale_22]

^ me too LDR din kame ni BF. di ko pa na meet parents nya pero friend ko naman sa FB mom nya saka pati sya..Di nga lang nagpopost si bf ng mga pics namin sa fb nya kase di rin naman sya nag ffb masyado..medyo naparanoid din tuloy ako naku haha!

[astarte]

Mga sis ako din LDR before I got married and even after the wedding! Here's my kwento: we met abroad in the same company then after 3 months naging kami hekhek.. after 3 months again nag decide kami to move in sa same apartment.

A couple of months later, my contract ended na so I came back to Manila and we were apart for 3 months. I went abroad again to look for a job, luckily I found one.

We lived together again for the next 6 months then his contract ended naman. He went back to Philippines and worked for 1 year. Di kami nagkita ng 1 year and minsan lang kami makapag usap. He visited me abroad and good for him he found a job at ako naman ang nag end of contract ulit at umuwi sa pinas haha!

This time kahit minsan lang kami mag voice calls, halos everyday naman may exchange of fb messages kami and mas marami na kami kwentuhan sa mga bagay bagay. We got married last year, so 3 yrs and 6 mos exactly kami nun after 3 weeks bumalik na siya abroad kasi may contract siya na dapat tapusin. Overall, mahirap pero thank God at naka survive kami.

[astarte]

Oo sis kaya nyo yan kami din mas madalas na hindi match ang schedule. Hindi mo mamamalayan yang 1 month magiging 1 yr na sa bilis ng panahon goodluck and all the best for you .

[Claireclaire757]

I had long distance relationship once before not too long ago Too bad it didnt work. Maybe the timing or the relationship wa. Wrong or maybe we just knew eac. Other for just 3-4 months only and then he flew to the us. After like a month of not being together I decided to already end the relationship because he was an immigrant in US so it would take like 3-5 years before we can see each other again unless I go there to visit him. Then I found from a friend in the us that he was already courting.someone in there so hahaha ok! I had to let it go. Although  it left me with tears for a month because he was my first love! So NEVER again! Hahaha sorry bad experience

[honeylet04]

^awww. Ang sad naman sis.. i am in LDR too and BF hasnt introduced me to his parents although i've met his siblings. And FB friends kame, all our pics naman are visible to all his friends, i am saying this kasi kinda paranoid ako. Haha

if i may ask, did u meet in person nung guy? Or puro online lang?

We didnt meet in person yet sis, since hindi pa sya allow mag travel outside US kasi in process pa papers nya. Update sis just a couple days now ayun napilitin syang i public post ko even photos ko kaya naging visible narin ako sa family nya. since cover photo ng FB ko pinalitan nya ng collage pics namin dalawa ginantihan ko din sya sis, pinalitan ko rin FB cover photo nya ng collage ng pics namin na pinalit nya sa cover photo ko wala syang nagawa kasi ginantihan ko talaga sya, una nyang pinakialam fb cover ko. dahil dun sis naging public narin lahat sa amin. alam na lahat ng family nya about sa amin even relationship status namin.

[three8one]

it works bakit naman hindi? nasa couple yan at sa mga sarili na din kung paano ihahandle ang sitwasyon. like for example, nun mag bf/gf kami ng wife  ko we make sure na yung oras namin para sa isa't isa kahit maiksi lang eh quality time naman. with the technology nowadays hindi na naman masasabi mahirap ang communication pero sometimes, base na din sa naobserbahan ko sa mga may ldr pag sobrang tagal nyo nang magkausap sa isang araw ang ending nun magkaaway kayo. hehe! nakakatawa pero totoo yun. bakit? kasi wala na kayo magpag usapan ang mangyayari hindi sinasadya may mabobrought out kayong mga lumang topic na akala ng isa tapos na yun usapan na yun yun pala hindi pa dun magsisimula na..

kailangan may decipline din ang bawat isa, pag oras nyo oras nyo lang. walang ibang insert na gagawin o iintindihin. isa din sa mahalagang sangkap ng ldr eh yung trust... pag yun ang na damage mataas na percentage hindi magwowork  ang ldr. another is wag mag expect ng isang bagay na alam mong pwede kang ma dissapoint.

yan lang muna sa ngayon.

[missus13]

It works, as long as you trust each other enough na wala kayong tinatago sa isa't isa and be mature dapat. 5 years na kami pero I can say na we're going stronger and stronger even though we're miles apart. Iniisip lang namen na magkakasama din kami later on not as bf/gf but as husband and wife na,

[donzski_doinks]

it will work if both parties will exert their best effort to make it work.

[ece]

Subscribing...

LDR since 2010.. UAE- Philippines.

Mahirap pero kayang kaya. Trust and communication works.

[itsmeangel]

I recently broke up with my bf because aalis na ako papuntang US, we tried LDR nung nagvacation ako these past 4 months sa US din, but dahil sa lack of communication namin... parang na fall out of love ako sa kanya... grabe. This kind of relationship really does need extra effort, patience, trust, etc.. basta extra of everything you need to make a relationship work. Pag wala, I don't think magwwork siya :| well, in my case ganun.. 

[bubbles_sandy]

I'm into LDR relationship din. Mas mahirap on my part kasi hindi naman ako sanay and mas prefer ko yung physical closeness over mails, messages or facetime.

May mga trust issues na din especially on my part based na rin sa mga bad experience during our early years.

With this kind of setup, you are giving up the chance to have physical intimacy, eating out together or simply enjoying each others company physically. If may times na you want to hug him for no reason, you don't have that chance kac LDR nga.

[djctapalla23]

I'm in a long distance relationship twice. My former relationship was filled with lies and deceit. What's funny is that nasa Cebu lang siya while I'm in Manila. Quarterly pa kami magkita then he spends his New Year's Eve with my family. Until one day I learned the truth, kumbaga all the evidences were laid out & he has nowhere to go but out of my life.
My current BF/fiance/H2B works & lives in Riyadh while I'm still in Manila. Everyday we exchange Skype calls, Wechat, halos lahat yata ng apps na may free video calls & messaging e nasubukan na namin. We've known each other for about 2years, became official for just a year & now, we're planning to get married next year. ♡(^ε^ )♡

[candygrenade]

I'm in a long distance relationship twice. My former relationship was filled with lies and deceit. What's funny is that nasa Cebu lang siya while I'm in Manila. Quarterly pa kami magkita then he spends his New Year's Eve with my family. Until one day I learned the truth, kumbaga all the evidences were laid out & he has nowhere to go but out of my life.
My current BF/fiance/H2B works & lives in Riyadh while I'm still in Manila. Everyday we exchange Skype calls, Wechat, halos lahat yata ng apps na may free video calls & messaging e nasubukan na namin. We've known each other for about 2years, became official for just a year & now, we're planning to get married next year. ♡(^ε^ )♡

Congratulations! I feel so good every time I hear or read about success stories like these

[toria]

Bf and I will be celebrating our 7th anniversary this year, 3yrs na kaming LDR and we are now planning to get married.

At first mahirap ang LDR but with technology para lang din syang andyan. Lagi naman kami magkausap and every 3 months din naman kami magkita. Eventually nagpaid off din naman ang pagtitiis since we have our own house now and we have the money to get married na din.