AFTER BREAK UPS

[Len0523]

Normally, anung ginawa at ginagawa  nyo after break - ups?
Did you experience na maghabol pa?
Magspy? Stalk? Specially pag may new partner na sila?
Do you seach him/her on facebook?
Naiinsecure ba kayo?

[angelzero]

i didn't look him up in friendster (yun pa uso nun hehe) or text or call him when he broke up with me. i just didn't feel the need. and whatever i might have found out about him could have hurt me. i'm not saying it was easy. it was so hard to get over someone especially he became my comfort zone. there was really a feeling of insecurity there since i felt unloved and he replaced me with someone (main reason of break up). time lang talaga kakampi ko and i needed my friends more than ever. i got over him sooner than i thought cuz i didn't regress. i just kept moving forward.

[Len0523]

i didn't look him up in friendster (yun pa uso nun hehe) or text or call him when he broke up with me. i just didn't feel the need. and whatever i might have found out about him could have hurt me. i'm not saying it was easy. it was so hard to get over someone especially he became my comfort zone. there was really a feeling of insecurity there since i felt unloved and he replaced me with someone (main reason of break up). time lang talaga kakampi ko and i needed my friends more than ever. i got over him sooner than i thought cuz i didn't regress. i just kept moving forward.

Yun ang masakit. Hehe yung iniwan ka dahil may mahal na silang iba. Masaklap yung babae ka, maganda, tapos pagpapalit ka lang. =)
Tapos syempre, parang matatanong mo sa sarili mo, bakit ka ipinagpalit.
Eventually, mag evolved ka into a better person. Mas maganda, mas sexy!

[angelzero]

^true that. ang tendency ko ata pag nadu-dump ay mas mag ayos at mas magpaganda. LOL. besides, the ugly ex replaced me with an ugly girl. mas bagay sila. 

[Len0523]

Sounds bitter? Hihi!
I was a replacement then. Haha. Pero I know mas maganda naman ako dun sa ex ni Bf! =)

[angelzero]

it's not bitter if it's true 

[theshopaholicprincess]

^true that. ang tendency ko ata pag nadu-dump ay mas mag ayos at mas magpaganda. LOL. besides, the ugly ex replaced me with an ugly girl. mas bagay sila. 

sis sabi nga ang basura bagay sa kapwa basura...

[theshopaholicprincess]

noon.. (kase may asawa na ako ngayon )

ako erased lahat ng files... pictures, facebook connections, even friends nya (na naging friends ko rin), yung iilang stuff na binigay nya eh inalis ko lahat. I never stalked nor looked back. Even when I heard our common friends commenting on his activities or whereabouts di ako masyado nakikinig. For me once I put an ultimatum on relationship, that it na talaga. I don't care if he has a new gf or whatsoever basta for me once I decided, no turning back na talaga.

[snow25]

^Dapat ganyan gawin ko. Nasa first stage pa lang ako ng moving on. Nagdeactivate muna ako ng fb.
The most difficult part, we have lots of common friends na hindi alam yung bet me and him. Konti lang nakakaalam. Ang hirap umiwas.

Ang liit ng circle of friends ko kasi here. Lalo pa same city/state kami. Iniisip ko nga to move to a diff state. He chose the girl from Phils. Mas pinili nyan yun. O well, tama kayo sis. Never look back talaga
And it takes a lot of time para maka-move on. Ngayon sobrang low ang self-esteem ko.

[Len0523]

Hi @snow25. Eventually you will forget him naman. sabi ko nga sa dinami daming taong broken hearted, iniwan, niloko, pinaglaruan, pinagpalit kinaya nila. Ako pa kaya!

THough masakit, pero pag andun yun acceptance, pati hatred mawawala yan.
At patunayan mo in the end, na ako yung iniwan mo iniwan mo noon, ito na ako ngayon.
Mas maganda! hehe

[snow25]

^thanks sis Len0523! I really hope that day will come na wala na yung pain. Ang hirap i'm far away from my closest friends and family to help me get through this. i'm trying my best to get up everyday and prove to him and everyone that I'm also worth loving and more than what his girl can give him.

[Len0523]

Ang sakit sakit noh? Pero kase hindi mo rin naman talaga sya masisisi kung nafall sya sa iba.
I mean, hindi man nya gustong saktan ka pero ang katotohananan na nagmahal sya ng iba.
Hehe hirap explain.
Wala naman nagkagustong manakit ng damdamin ng iba. Kahit di mo inaasahan,
kahit di mo intensyon pero dumadating yung pagkakataon na di mo na maiwasan.
Lumaban ka ba? Pinaglaban mo ba sya at ang relationship mo o nagive way ka na?

[snow25]

^sobra sis! Sobrang sakit. Pinaglaban ko, a week before dumating yung girl here I stayed pa at his apt for a few days to show him how much I love him. He still chose the other girl, ang dali nga nya ako nakalimutan. He even blocked me sa phone nya. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, from now on I won't let anyone hurt me again the way he did. The way he treated me after a week na nandito na yung girl was so bad na parang wala akong magandang ginawa for him. I have been with him thru his tough times. E yung girl from Pinas, she didn't even do anything. Ganun nga talaga, di mo pwede turuan ang puso kung sino mamahalin.

[pumpkin13]

Ako, umiiyak talaga ako ng bongga. I always allot time to wallow. For some reason, it helps me kesa magtry agad  mag move on. Kahit alam naman ng isip ko na I need to let go and move on and do things that could help me, hindi ko muna ginagawa. Nagddrama muna ko. Hehe! I listen to heartbreaking songs, I reminisce memories then iyak ulit. After that, mabilis na ang moving on process ko. 

[Len0523]

^sobra sis! Sobrang sakit. Pinaglaban ko, a week before dumating yung girl here I stayed pa at his apt for a few days to show him how much I love him. He still chose the other girl, ang dali nga nya ako nakalimutan. He even blocked me sa phone nya. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, from now on I won't let anyone hurt me again the way he did. The way he treated me after a week na nandito na yung girl was so bad na parang wala akong magandang ginawa for him. I have been with him thru his tough times. E yung girl from Pinas, she didn't even do anything. Ganun nga talaga, di mo pwede turuan ang puso kung sino mamahalin.

Aw! Ang sakit sis. Parang ang hirap kayanin pero kelangan mo kayanin.
Kung pwede nga lang magmakaawa dun sa girl na wag na lang sya. T_T
Pero good thing naman, makakahanap ka rin ng totoong para sayo at magmamahal sayo.

[Len0523]

Ako, umiiyak talaga ako ng bongga. I always allot time to wallow. For some reason, it helps me kesa magtry agad  mag move on. Kahit alam naman ng isip ko na I need to let go and move on and do things that could help me, hindi ko muna ginagawa. Nagddrama muna ko. Hehe! I listen to heartbreaking songs, I reminisce memories then iyak ulit. After that, mabilis na ang moving on process ko. 

Makakamove on naman talaga, pero napakahirap.
Kase yung pinagsamahan kase. Yung memories. Yung mga moment, na naalala mo na
sana magkasama pa kayo. Maalala mo yung mga trip nyo.
Yung mga kakulitan. Nakakarelate lang! hahaha. T_T

[pumpkin13]

^oo sis, ang mahirap talaga dun pag madami kang naaalala na masasayang times. And yung akala mo hindi mag eend yung relationship. Tapos lahat ng lovesongs feeling mo fit sayo. Hehe!

[Len0523]

Tapos ngingiti ka na lang pag moved on na.

Tapos maffall na naman. Hihi

[theshopaholicprincess]

^Dapat ganyan gawin ko. Nasa first stage pa lang ako ng moving on. Nagdeactivate muna ako ng fb.
The most difficult part, we have lots of common friends na hindi alam yung bet me and him. Konti lang nakakaalam. Ang hirap umiwas.

Ang liit ng circle of friends ko kasi here. Lalo pa same city/state kami. Iniisip ko nga to move to a diff state. He chose the girl from Phils. Mas pinili nyan yun. O well, tama kayo sis. Never look back talaga
And it takes a lot of time para maka-move on. Ngayon sobrang low ang self-esteem ko.

sa umpisa talaga ang hirap umiwas and may times na you're really itching to check on him pero siguro yun yung test of resilience natin when it comes on moving on. Nakakababa din sya ng self esteem which I agree. Pero one step at a time sis.

You may want to try things you didn't do before like travel by yourself, go out with friends or kung malayo sila, reach out with them via skype or email or call them, then pamper yourself, spa or shopping spree... tipong keep yourself busy para maka move on ka ng mabilis. Basta never look back lalo na if you know na wala na dapat babalikan. It's easy to say but hard to do pero you'll get by sis.

[Len0523]

At naexperience nyo rin ba yung tipong ppunta kayo sa isang occasion, tapos ang babanggitin eh yung ex ni bf? "OH asan na si...... bat iba na kasama mo (s*** dba? Haha)
tapos yung ibang friends, dba napuntahan na natin yun nung si [textspeak!] pa gf mo (s***)
hahahaha!!