AFTER BREAK UPS

[mikoarai]

With my first boyfriend, umiyak talaga ako ng bonggang bongga LOL as in yung tipong manggigising ng buong tao sa bahay haha nakipag break si ex sa message lang kasi rin nga siguro long distance pero yung grabe ay tinext niya pa sa akin iyon nung umaga na unang una ko mababasa. Nagising talaga lahat ng tao sa bahay kala ano na nangyari sa akin haha ayun kicomfort naman ako ng sis ko tapos yung nanay ko nilutuan ako ng bonggang breakfast haha pero I got over him naman quickly.

Pero yung sa guy na super kong minahal super grabe yung pag cocope ko. I partied a lot and be wasted all the time talaga kahit na hindi talaga ako malakas uminom. I put all my efforts sa sarili ko na mag paganda and para marealize niya na kawalan niya hindi sa akin. It was really crazy at that time kasi kahit na nakukuwa ko na yung attention ng ibang guys hindi parin ako masaya kasi siya lang naman yung gusto kong makuwa yung attention.

I can say it was crazy or I was crazy pero I don't regret it naman haha By partying a lot, I met a lot of people and now I can enjoy drinking at the same time knowing my limitation. I also learned through that na dapat hindi ko ipag pilitan ang sarili ko sa taong hindi naman nag eeffort rin sa akin so I really learned my value. In a long run, hindi ako kawawa kasi dahil sa kanya I discovered my best self pero maintaining that will really depend on me na. Dapat talaga in the end marealize mo na dapat matuto kang mag paganda not only for boys but for yourself.

[snow25]

@theshopaholicprincess, thanks! good thing ngayon month, fully booked weekends ko. And I'm starting a new hobby. So I hope that will help me to forget him. 

[Len0523]

With my first boyfriend, umiyak talaga ako ng bonggang bongga LOL as in yung tipong manggigising ng buong tao sa bahay haha nakipag break si ex sa message lang kasi rin nga siguro long distance pero yung grabe ay tinext niya pa sa akin iyon nung umaga na unang una ko mababasa. Nagising talaga lahat ng tao sa bahay kala ano na nangyari sa akin haha ayun kicomfort naman ako ng sis ko tapos yung nanay ko nilutuan ako ng bonggang breakfast haha pero I got over him naman quickly.

Pero yung sa guy na super kong minahal super grabe yung pag cocope ko. I partied a lot and be wasted all the time talaga kahit na hindi talaga ako malakas uminom. I put all my efforts sa sarili ko na mag paganda and para marealize niya na kawalan niya hindi sa akin. It was really crazy at that time kasi kahit na nakukuwa ko na yung attention ng ibang guys hindi parin ako masaya kasi siya lang naman yung gusto kong makuwa yung attention.

I can say it was crazy or I was crazy pero I don't regret it naman haha By partying a lot, I met a lot of people and now I can enjoy drinking at the same time knowing my limitation. I also learned through that na dapat hindi ko ipag pilitan ang sarili ko sa taong hindi naman nag eeffort rin sa akin so I really learned my value. In a long run, hindi ako kawawa kasi dahil sa kanya I discovered my best self pero maintaining that will really depend on me na. Dapat talaga in the end marealize mo na dapat matuto kang mag paganda not only for boys but for yourself.

Mga break ups na akala natin di natin makakayanan sa sobrang hirap at sakit sa pakiramdam! =)
Masakit iwan at ipagpalit. T_T

[theshopaholicprincess]

@theshopaholicprincess, thanks! good thing ngayon month, fully booked weekends ko. And I'm starting a new hobby. So I hope that will help me to forget him.

goodluck! sooner or later you'll forget that ex.

[piatos]

1 month na kaming walang usap ni ex.  Nagmessage siya sakin 1 week ago pero ayaw ko na sagutin lalo lang hahaba at mahuhurt nanaman ako.  Naisip ko kasi bakit kelangan ko pa sagutin eh grabe nga yung pinagsasabi niya sakin.  Stalker din ako delete ko nga siya fl pero view ko naman profile niya haha.  Ako yung nagmakaawa balikan niya in the end walapa din ako.  Naniniwala ako time will heal all wounds. 

[Len0523]

Minsan pride na rin nakakapagsave saten. Aside from respect and love for ourselves.

[pinkadelic]

^ i try that tactic too, i tell myself, "bakit mo gugustuhin ang isang taong ayaw naman sayo? kung ayaw niya sayo, eh di ayaw mo din sa kanya!!!" kaya lang masyado akong nain-love sa taong yon so it's not working. hoping someday it will

[break_free]

During the first few days syempre iyak to the max, pm pm pa rin sa FB, usap sa close friends ko na nakikidamay, no gana kumain and all. Pero pinilit ko sarili ko na maka move on I told myself na matalino akong tao and dapat kaya kong makalampas dito kasi sa ibang friends ko nagpapayo ako, tapos pangit naman kung yung sarili ko hindi ko matutulungan maka ahon.

Ang revenge ko is pinilit ko mag work hard talaga kahit emotionally mabigat pakiramdam ko, nakakatuwa nga eh kasi dami ko pa nakuhang awards, compliments, commendations kahit na may pinagdadaanan ako. In a way, ginawa kong driving force yung situation ko to push myself to work harder.

So there after a few weeks, wala na, as in...lalo pa at nalaman ko na 3rd party issue pala unline sa mga una niyang sinasabing reasons sa akin. Inisip ko lahat ng mga negative traits niya, mga masamang nagawa niya sa akin - and then yung mga positive na mangyayari pag wala na siya sa buhay ko - counted all my blessings! Ayun nakabangon ako.

Now, as in no love na talaga. Blessing in disguise lahat ng nangyari, totoo pala na may reason lahat ng nangyayari at hindi mo man makita agad ang reason...someday you'll know talaga. Mas gusto ko sarili ko and life ko now...without him.  Basta I love my life right now! Told myself na I won't settle for anything less! Hindi ako magmamadali magka BF.


Sorry ahaba posts.

[Bellerina]

We broke up on March 31 this year. We still have communication up until last 2 weeks. Even thought its almost 2 months na,  I still love him but not too much na. He said din naman he still loves me. Im the one who broke up with him because I think our relationship is so lame na. He is so understanding but we fought a couple of times before the day we broke up and everytime we fight we will shrug each other off for a long time. When we talk to each other naman parang wala lang, as in walang energy mag usap!  A month ater we broke up naman we talked to each other. He asked me if I still love him I said yes. He asked me if I want to be with him again but I said no. Haaay so gulo no? I still love him after almost 2 moths of break up but I dont want to be with him again. Am I being stupid or what?!   

[det060403]

Ako, what I did... iniyakan ko din ng bonggang bongga! Sabay kahit pigil na pigil- text ko pa din siya hahahaha! pero para hindi naman halatang pathetic, once a day lang naman yung text ko! Hanggang sa nagsawa nalang ako na iniignore niya ko. (Buti nalang hindi niya ko pinapansin kasi kung oo, matagal tagal pa bago ko nakamove on) Took me months before ko natanggap na hindi na niya talaga ko babalikan. So I decided that I can do better... so ayon, I started dating again... to prove na I am still worth it! Taahdaah! Now, im happy!

[FOURever]

Ako wala. Magandang companion ang medschool eh. Haha! Buti na lang i was studying nung nakipaghiwalay ako. Then nung nalaman kong may isinabay sya sakin, parang for me, okaaay i cannot spend more time for him so yun lang, i just accepted it even felt happy nung nalaman ko yun then indifferent na ako now, i am much happier, bitter-bitteran naman sya?! Dont know why pero tama naman sya, mas madaming better kesa sa kanya na manliligaw sakin at magpaparamdam then ngayong bakasyon, tinry ko lang icheck sya, eew the girl ang panget. Lol!

[girlalou]

After the break up, i was a like a zombie, i can't sleep, i can't eat, I'm super thin, and totally not myself. Its hard when one day you just have to let him go. I was able to get back on my feet after 4 moths, its like i came from hell.

I decided to quit my job since i can't stand to see their faces all day ( with the new girl). i went abroad to find a job and move on. Its a good thing that god is great, naka move on na ako and i think I'm a better person now.

[clouds_1028]

After the break-up, sobrang na lost ako kasi 7 years kaming magkasama tapos biglaan na lang mawawala. Hindi man lang niya ako binigyan ng chance to fight for him or to make it up, all because may iba siya. 1 month ko siyang hinabol puro emails and calls lang, kasi ayaw niyang makipag meet sa akin. Once lang kami nag meet after ng break-up, we talked then sa church pa. Super iyak siya tapos ako wala lumamalabas na tears sa akin nung time na naguusap kami. Nakakatawa nga  Anyway after that, come January 2013, I decided to really moved on. Timing din kasi I went to Australia for work so new place, new lahat. Now, 7 months had passed, no communications, wala lahat and I'm all good! Tahimik na buhay ko and mas sobrang busy nga ako with work and social life!  Ganun lang talaga life, people come and go. 

[bronze]

My ex and I were former bestfriends. When we broke up, one day, I just stopped texting him and communicating with him. I decided to get focused with work. I unfollowed him in FB but I did not remove him from my friend's list. Ayokong maging bitter. I prayed a lot. I got closer to God. Nakatulong din ang meditation ko and Feng Shui.

OK na ako ngayon. I can say I have moved on! and I am glad I focused more on work than on the relationship.

[superjuzh]

Blocked him on Facebook but still stalked him using my cousin's account. HAHAHA. Pero dati yun. Ngayon blocked na lang, tigil ang communication, burahin lahat ng number, contact list sa YM,Skype or whatever para kapag natukso ako makulit malabo na. HAHA

[cessy_may08]

During the first few days syempre iyak to the max, pm pm pa rin sa FB, usap sa close friends ko na nakikidamay, no gana kumain and all. Pero pinilit ko sarili ko na maka move on I told myself na matalino akong tao and dapat kaya kong makalampas dito kasi sa ibang friends ko nagpapayo ako, tapos pangit naman kung yung sarili ko hindi ko matutulungan maka ahon.

Ang revenge ko is pinilit ko mag work hard talaga kahit emotionally mabigat pakiramdam ko, nakakatuwa nga eh kasi dami ko pa nakuhang awards, compliments, commendations kahit na may pinagdadaanan ako. In a way, ginawa kong driving force yung situation ko to push myself to work harder.

So there after a few weeks, wala na, as in...lalo pa at nalaman ko na 3rd party issue pala unline sa mga una niyang sinasabing reasons sa akin. Inisip ko lahat ng mga negative traits niya, mga masamang nagawa niya sa akin - and then yung mga positive na mangyayari pag wala na siya sa buhay ko - counted all my blessings! Ayun nakabangon ako.

Now, as in no love na talaga. Blessing in disguise lahat ng nangyari, totoo pala na may reason lahat ng nangyayari at hindi mo man makita agad ang reason...someday you'll know talaga. Mas gusto ko sarili ko and life ko now...without him.  Basta I love my life right now! Told myself na I won't settle for anything less! Hindi ako magmamadali magka BF.


Sorry ahaba posts.

AMEN sis! Ganyan ganyan rin ako! Pati reason same tayo. Hahaha ang saya saya sa pakiramdam na mas naging successful ka kahit wala siya ano?. Mas naging confident rin ako after ko maka-move on sa kanya. Mas lalo kong nakilala ang sarili ko at inimprove kung ano ang mga dapat iimprove.

[yabbikins]

One month "mourning period" after nun pipilitin ko na magmove on. Do things na di ko magawa nung may bf pa ako. May iba nagsasabe,blooming daw ako. Hahaha!

[Girltalker2]

I only had 1bf/hubby. Tuwing may issue na hiwalayan, what do I do?

Tama sabi dito, I look at his negatives. Naalaala ko nung humiwalay ako (for good) I psyched myself to accept my status. It's acceptance that helped me move on.

Other things ginawa ko - punta sa parlor to dye my hair and pa-highlights, go to the gym regularly, eat right, work-work-work.

[jobelle1984]

I cried a lot.yung tipong me nakapag alala lang saken naiiyak naku...ang hirap kase nung sitwasyon namin...more than 3 yrs. kaming mag on, he took me for granted, live in na pero takot pa din sya sa responsibility, as in.financially kanya kanya kami ng gastos sa bahay, pero ako mega alaga sa kanya, daig ko pa si full time house wife kung alagaan siya...until napagod ako.when i leave pinalitan ko kaagad siya-hinabol habol pa niya ko...at kung kelan naman na realized kung gusto or mahal ko pa talaga siya, siya naman ang gumive up,.. ang gulo no...well then, siya naman ang me babae..

ayun, when we decided to broke,mega iyak ako, though sobrang sakit natanggap ko din naman...delete siya sa lahat...though me time na sinisilip ko fb niya...lol, my common friends kami na kwento ng kwento about ke ex, pinaparamdam ko sa lahat na di ako bitter..lage ko din iniisip na blessing ang break up namin...i hung out with friends almost every week para lang maka get over, entertain with guys-dating and firting, until mabura na talaga siya sa isip ko!!!

[Filipinasadhart]

nakakatakot na to meet other guy.