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[Filipinasadhart]

grabe naman yan sis, nakaencountered din ako ng ganyan bf talagang hiniwalayan ko. Sakit sa ulo.   Normal lang naman na mag-expect tayo mga girls kase nga nagmamahal tayo. Move on sis.

[stunning_anne]

sis kung ako sayo, ipamukha mo sa kanya na hindi ka t****.. hello ano to gamitan lang??

[simang]

Sis @honeybunny sorry pero that's how i see it. Guys define their words through their actions. If he says he loves you pero walang paramdam for ilang days wtf is that. If he's a good man baka dapat naglalaan sya ng pera para sa anak nya at para din sayo dahil dapat mahal nya kayo parehas.

[stunning_anne]

Kaya mo yan sis! Mas maganda na ngang single kesa nasa relationship nga pero ginagamit ka lang nung guy... There are a lot of fishes int the ocean ika nga..

[winkypops]

Move on na lang sis, marami ka pang makikilala na guy na mamahalin ka at mamahalin mo rin.

Minsan masarap pa rin maging single,walang sakit sa ulo

[IronLady]

Mga sis, yung ex ko suddenly nagtext at gustong mag usap kami.. Magpapaliwanag ata.. E dati ko pa hiningi yung paliwanag nya wala akong napala.. Tapos after 8 Months gugustuhin makipagusap? Niloko ako ni ex noon tapos kahit anong paamin deny to death sya.. Tapos ganyan.. Hindi ko na kailangan kasi alam ko naman na ang totoo.. Naiinis lang ako pakiramdam ko ginagamit ako.. Pakiramdam ko gusto Lang nya maglinis ng kunsensya so he can start a new relationship na.. Hayyy but then i wouldnt know for sure kung di ko nga sya kakausapin.. Ang hirap hirap..

[simang]

Sis ironlady i dont know kung bat ka nahihirapan, alam mo naman ang nangyayare, ex are exes for a reason. The way to fully move on is to never have anything to do with the person.

[IronLady]

^nahihirapan ako kasi maybe ive not fully moved on tapos umeeksena pa sya.. Mas madali kung never na lang nya ko kinontact.. Hayyss!

[simang]

^dont give him that power then. Hindi naman necessary na makipagcommunicate ka ulit just because he contacts you. Be the stronger person.

[Yal]

How can you move on if the man you love is in love with your sister?
And every time you see your sister, you just remember him?
The man is your friend and he doesn't want to end his friendship with you even though you admitted your feelings with him?
Worse, your sister is in love with him also?

[IronLady]

^hirap naman ng sitch mo sis. Ang sakit!

^^thanks sis simang! Ill try to.. I think somehow i still love him but he doesnt deserve me naman and he doesnt value me rin so ill follow your advice.. Im never gonna talk to him na lang..

[FliPPy_LaDdY]

i am on a secret marriage, complicated talaga and pumayag ako to keep it for the meantime. problem arisen kasi di maiwasan may mga expectations masakit talaga. Lately we always had a fight lalo na pag my mga celebration na i cant be with him. He has a love child from previous relationship, and i know the fact syempre una na naman talaga lagi ang bata.. so we can't celebrate occasions na dumarating..sila lagi magkasama. ok lang with me. ang masakit lang, the mother of the child wouldn't let the father spend time time with their child alone. lagi siya kasama. in short ayaw nya ipahiram kundi siya kasama. so minsan ako pa lumalabas na kept woman, celebrate christmas on the 26th, etc. nung una kaya ko pa..pero lately parang feeling ko hindi ko na yata kakayanin..when i see him with his family together with the child and the bio mother sa mga fb accounts nila.. ang sakit lang to see their happy faces tapos ako nagmumukmok.

i know kasalanan ko lahat and ako nagdecide nito. ang hirap lang kasi nakatali ka na. di napag isipan nang husto lalo na yung mga unbearable pain na wala makakaintindi kundi ako lang.. =(

[j.adore]

^May I ask bakit kayo nag-secret marriage? Have you told your husband about the pain you're going through because of the situation?

[FliPPy_LaDdY]

^sis we have plans kasi.. part of it was to get married.. but since dnamin pwede ipaalam ang marriage, we still stayed on our respective houses parang bf gf lang. I told him what i felt, but when you're angry kung ano ano na nasasabi namin sa isat isa. Sumbat. Galit. Inis. He would then remind me n ginagawa lang nya yun para sa future plans namin.. and at the same time maging maayos relationship nya sa anak nya. Sabi ko you will never understand me kasi magkaiba kami ng situation. Hindi madaling tanggapin.. pero mas mhirap pala yung araw araw monh tatanggapin. Akala ko kc may pagbabago pero mas lalo pa masakit pala, kasi alam mo nang may karapatan ka na pero wala ka magawa.

[j.adore]

Kung para naman siya sa future niyo sis FliPPy_LaDdY, then I guess you just have to accept this as part of the road. Pareho niyo naman pinlano yun.

Never talk about the issue while in the height of the emotion (basta meron isang galit, no go). Usually kasi talaga it leads to arguments. Pwede niyo mapagusapan next time pag level-headed na pareho.

Since secret marriage siya at parang BF-GF pa din kayo, logical lang siguro na walang pagbabago. Yung karapatan mo ay sa inyong 2 lang talaga. Pag may kahit na anong involvement ang ibang tao, hindi pwede maconsider yung karapatan kasi nga wala namang ibang nakakaalam.

Right now siguro eh acceptance ang kailangan since the situation is a choice. Hope you become stronger for this ordeal..

[FliPPy_LaDdY]

^sis, thank you for your message. You are true, dapat talaga pinapahupa muna ang galit before confrontation.. basura na lumalabas sa bibig ko and i regretted it. I loved my husband, pinagpray and pinagnovena ko pa siya asking if siya ba talaga for me. Later on ayoko din naman pala itapon na lang ng ganoon ang gift sa akin ni Lord.

Acceptance. Im working on that everyday. I learned the hard way. After i prayed khapon sabi ko alam ko naman na darating yung time that we will be happy. Itapon muna ang pride. Depression can kill me ayaw ko naman nun.

Thank you sis, sana malagpasan namin to kahit na minsan i almost wanted to give up na.

[s_h_o_b_z]

I'm in an LDR for a year and a half na. My boyfriend just started working in a new company. Before that, we used to text each other every couple of hours pero when he started working i don't hear from him until when he gets off. Sabi ko sa kanya kahit lunch break man lang..one or two text is fine kasi I respect na he's busy working. He's reasoning for not texting me pag lunch niya is wala na sa isip niya to get his phone pa sa bag niya which is in a different area sa work room niya. Medyo sanay na daw kasi siya na straight na siya sa cafeteria to eat with his officemates. But now that he knows my sentiments, he'll make it a point to grab his phone. I waited for a whole week pero nothing changed.

Mga sissies, am I asking too much? unreasonable ba yun?

[Shadow Angel]

Imo ldr din ako at hindi rin ako pumapayag sa reason out na busy ang motto namin kapag gusto may paraan. Like him busy rin ako pero i see to it na may time pa rin ako sa kanya kahit na 30 minutes lang per day. Although ang mga boys talaga karamihan tamad sa mga text lalo na kung hindi abot kamay ang phone. Explain mo sa kanya ng mabuti na ldr na nga kayo tapos konti lang communication paano mag wo-work ang relationship nyo. Ilang oras ba lunch break nya? If 1 hour naman may time naman makachat while eating unless busy sya pakikichikahan sa mga ka officemates nya.

[s_h_o_b_z]

^  Shadow Angel we've talked about it na. He admitted naman na he should've made a conscious effort to text me kahit man lang lunch break niya. Hopefully he keeps his word this time. Yun din kasi sabi niya last week tapos buong week I waited walang nangyari kaya kinausap ko ulit. 45min lunch break niya pero yun nga. Busy makipagusap sa mga co-workers niya kasi they eat lunch together.

Sis how often do you talk with your partner? My set schedule ba kayo like after work I'll call you or sa gabi we'll Skype? Dati kasi we were pretty good with communicating a lot then now that he started working mas less na kami nakakapagusap in a day kasi he'll be so tired na paguwi then tutulugan na ako. I'm just having a hard time coping up with the changes.

[Shadow Angel]

Yap everyday napaka bilang sa daliri ang pumalya.. May set of time kasi magkaiba kami ng time zone before ako mag sleep sya naman before pumasok, paggising ko may message from him during his breaks nakakapag iwan pa sya ng message if wala ako work kinabukasan nahihintay ko pa sya mag break 30 mins lang yun pero gora pa rin kami sa chat or call. Before ako pumasok dun naman diner time nakakapag chat pa rin kami. Madalas pinasasalamatan ko sya sa effort at time na binibigay nya sa akin kahit na alam ko schedule nya na sobrang busy at nakakapagod ang work nya. Kaya lagi ko sya lambing kasi parang un lang nakakapagpaalis ng pagod nya. Ano ba contact mo sa kanya un sa phone lang? Ako kasi lahat sa mga kawork, friends, bahay at office hehe ewan ko ba dun binagay na lahat siguro kasi maligalig din kasi ako in case lang kasi na emergency kesa mag alala ako pag palpak ang internet o phone nya may way pa rin para i check ko kung ano lagay nya. Kung hindi mag co commit si bf ng time at effort sayo walang mangyayari makakasanayan nya na ganyan lang minsan lang mag usap. Sa akin kasi ayoko ng ganun gusto ko everyday pa rin ako ka part ng cycle ng life nya un parang dito lang sya sa pinas. Sorry sis ang haba.