Kapag mahilig ka mag-ayos, ibig sabihin insecure ka?

[mishca]

^thanks sa mga advice niyo mga sis. Mabait naman ako sakanya na kapag nagtatanong siya ano ginagamit ko, nagsshare ako sakanya. Kapag natatamaan na siya like for example pag about sa pimples niya. (Dami niya kasi pimples) bigla nalang niya ako babarahin or sabihan na sobra ka insecure kaya ka maarte at nagpapaganda. Blah blah. Bahala siya. Hindi ko na nga siya kinakausap. Hehe. Negative kasi. Baka mahawa pa ako sa ichura niya. Di sa panlalait mga sis pero talagang mukang maid siya na nagasawa ng foreigner. Sorry po pero ang pinapatamaan ko lang is yung friend ko na yun.

[mishca]

Nakwento ko nga yun sa mom ko. Sabi niya, anak head turner ka kasi kaya naiinggit yun sayo. Basta be humble and mas lalo ka ibbless ni lord.

[FieryAngel027]

Yup tama! May mga circumstances lang talaga na hindi mo intensyon manlait pero yun na nagagawa mo kasi naman ang ugali natin depends na rin kung sino ang kaharap natin.

Basta keber! Magpaganda lang, pakelam nya.

Ang bad ko pala, ibang brand sinasabi ko eh. Hahaha. Kakainis kasi.

[mishca]

^kasi gusto ko din magayos din siya. Kaya share ko mga brands ginagamit ko. Pero ngayon bahala na siya. Nakakainis nga. Hahaha

[summersong]

"never befriend ugly people. they are born with angst in the world"..

I'm sorry but that statement just reeks of prejudice. Try replacing the word ugly with let's say... poor, dark-skinned, old, Filipino! I guess it's better to say na lang na i-avoid ang negativity.

Anyway, on topic: there's nothing wrong with looking your best, sis. Toss your so-called 'friend' away. Let her insecurity gnaw at her till she bleeds.

[chicafabulosa]

I'm sorry but that statement just reeks of prejudice. Try replacing the word ugly with let's say... poor, dark-skinned, old, Filipino! I guess it's better to say na lang na i-avoid ang negativity.

how can i replace a dead man's word? like what I said "I remember my father in law. He would tell his kids (kwento to ni hubby kasi di ko na sya naabutan ng buhay)". So it was not my word it was his. I think I made it clear also I said "I avoid negative people". and when I shared what my dead father in law's words,  I was just saying it. now if you can't take it then ignore my comment. thanks. I rest my case.

[mishca]

^hahaha tagalugin mo nalang sis para maiba. Anyways. Pag tinext ako ng friend ko. Yan ang sasabihin ko sakanya.

[summersong]

^^ Whoa, pipe down. I quoted it because it was your post, not because you said it yourself. I only said the statement reeks of prejudice. I didn't say you were prejudiced. Yes I did read that an old man said it, and he's dead (RIP). I only meant that it's sad that people do say such statements and that it can be worded in other ways. Anyway, I'll stop here before any more misunderstandings ensue. And I rest my case.

[Serena.]

It could be that your friend is not pala-ayos kaya para skanya hindi normal ang pagiging girly mo. Pero sister, kiber ka lang! Hayaan mo sya, e kung dyan ka masaya, maging pretty, pesentable so PUSH lang!! Sabihin mo na lang: Walang basagan ng trip, do your own thing.




xxx

[MaitaOfMakeupOnDemand]

Hi sis Mischa, I did some back reading. About your question, there's nothing wrong with fixing yourself and putting on makeup. That's just part of your grooming and, mukhang hilig mo naman talaga to fix yourself. Mukhang it's not oppressive naman in the sense that you're not a slave to your pagpapaganda. So just carry on and do what makes you feel good.

About your friend, I think she just needs someone to listen to about the things in her body that she does not like. Listen to her nalang and don't suggest anything to improve her. When she says for example na pangit hair niya, just say, "maganda naman." It's not na magiging dishonest ka. It's just that it seems na gusto lang niya na makinig ka and hindi naman niya gusto ng advice. But that's just my opinion based on what I read. I don't know the whole story

[killbill]

Walang matinong friend ang magsasabing insecure ka only on the basis of pagiging kikay.

[MrsKolca]

insecure agad? hindi pwedeng high-maintenance muna?! peace girls

[Prunella]

@FieryAngel

I remember my father in law. He would tell his kids (kwento to ni hubby kasi di ko na sya naabutan ng buhay) "never befriend ugly people. they are born with angst in the world"..

Ouch. Ang sakit!

Anyway, sis Mishca... Napaka-negative naman ng friend mo. Can't you "break up" with her? Clearly, she's the one who's insecure. There's absolutely nothing wrong with taking good care of yourself!

[tsokolat]

insekyora lang ang "friend" mo sis, negative vibes yan.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Hi mga sis, gusto ko lang sana hingi ng advice sainyo. Kasi may isa ako kaibigan na sinabihan ako na insecure ako dahil daw lagi ako nagpapaganda. Ang tanong ko lang, kasalanan ba kung mahilig ako magayos? Gusto ko lang presentable ako. Hindi naman sa pagyayabang pero alam ko na maganda ako. Dahil lahat ng tao pinupuri ako. At dati ako flight attendant. Naisip ko lang na bakit niya ako sasabihan na insecure kung nagkkwento lang naman ako sakanya na magpapaayos ako ng buhok ko. Nasanay ako na lagi maayos ichura ko. Hindi ko alam kung ako ba insecure or siya. I need advice. Tia!

naku sis ang insecure eh yung fugly friend mo! kidding! mabe she's not fugly. hahaha.

anyway if ayaw niya ako na lang friend mo, tayo-tayo na lang mga mahilig magpaganda at mag-ayos ang magsama-sama. ayoko nga maging losyang at magmukhang haggard. gusto ko maganda pa rin ako kahit 3hours lang tulog ko!

[mishca]

^tama sis! Mas ok nagaayos kesa malosyang

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^losyang na ba friend mo sis?

[mishca]

Medyo. Kahit anong ayos niya wala padin pagbabago

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^hahaha. meanie! 
maybe kaya ganun. inggit.

[mooncake and leaves]

well, think about it this way: you're pretty. you have a boyfriend who seems to pamper you. and your friend, according to you, isn't quite blessed. granted none of her insecurities is your fault, it's not at all surprising she's agitated. you seem to have it all and that probably drives her insane. so talking about things she does not have only adds insult to injury. to me, maybe just choose your audience next time? you're in GT anyway and there are a lot of girls here you can share your kakikayan with. or you can encourage your friend to be kikay as well and enhance or emhasize her redeeming features. walang panget pero madaming tamad. it's probably easier to just dump a friend and i say do that if you can't meet halfway but if you still think it's a friendship worth saving, you owe it to yourself to work on this.