33 now, single for 4 years and meron ngayong BF, younger by 4 years(ex is 3 years naman, mukha kase daw akong bata hehe)
LDR(I'm an OFW, he's a seafarer) and not yet 100% sure sa nararamdaman ko
(happy when talking with him, excited to see him this coming Christmas).
I have friends na 35 din and yung isa naman,NBSB (32)
Well,share ko nalang to sa inyo...
Nice to read
Your Missing Ribhttp://shawnmckenzie.net/your-missing-rib/What do you look for in a spouse?
Are you the kind of person whose main focus is glued on to what’s on the outside? (the outer appearance/looks/physique) or are you the kind of person who cares what is on the inside? (the heart, relationship with Jesus, Spirit-guided actions).
Being true to yourself saves you from disappointments.
How many of you can honestly say that you told God who you wanted and gave Him a huge wish list of positive adjectives that explicitly described your future wife or husband? Some of you may have shared your dream man or woman with a friend. As embarrassing as it may seem, some of us have even created our dream spouse from romantic movies.
I will be the first to admit it. I gave God a list and shared my ideal kind of woman to my group of friends. It was silly of me to do, but as I matured in Christ, I have realized that is not how God works. I have learned that God gives you who you need, not who you “think” you want because you are not wise enough to know your need. Therefore, as a result, you become irritable, frustrated, and angry with God because you have not met the person that you expected Him to give you as an answer to your prayers. I love this quote…
“Love doesn’t always come packaged the way you expect. Don’t throw out the right person just because they came in what you thought was the wrong box.” -Pastor YPJThe quote speaks volumes! This quote comes from, or I should say, is determined by a person’s daily walk with Christ. I want to break down four points that I believe will better help you to understand the difference between a “want vs. need.”
1. What we wantLadies are delicate emotional creatures. That is how God designed them to be; they are fragile. As a child, they are raised and taught to be a lady of good quality if they wanted a man to sweep them from their feet. Some had a childhood of practicing early marriage ceremonies, being the wife/mom as they play house, and directing life scenarios with their dolls. Many enjoy the Soap Operas, romantic tales, and movies (The NoteBook). All of the princess happily-ever-after stories can influence their expectation of what the perfect man would be like.
Girls are building their own imaginary prince charming from what those romantic stories have taught them. They create a man in their imagination, adding and choosing the parts that are appealing to them. So now, their mind is filled with a false ideal man who they will never meet because that man does not exist! It is hard for some women to accept a good man with pure intentions when the man she meets is not packaged the way she imagined him to be.
The same for men. They are visual creatures though. The romantic novels, movies, and shows do not suit them well. Some admire to have a woman with the physical looks of a Victoria Secret model paired with the practical skills and heart of their mother. That woman does not exist! We are constantly disappointed because of unmet expectations.
2. God desires for usGod does not put two perfect people together because neither would be of help or beneficial for one another. God gives you your other half (your missing rib). In Genesis 2:17-25 the Lord saw it was not good for man to be alone, so He made a helper suitable for him. While Adam was asleep, the Lord took one of the Adam’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of Adam, and He brought her (Eve) to Adam. The two of them were one flesh together. She had Adam’s rib, and Adam’s rib was inside of her.
3. God will give you what is yoursThere are many of you who are lacking something in your life, because you are missing your rib. And the rib you are missing has the qualities you lack such as organization skills, time management, spiritual growth, study skills, leadership skills, and the list continues. God will join the qualities you have in your rib and the qualities in their rib so that you both can come together to make a good fit.
4. There is hopeEach person has their strengths and weaknesses; that is God’s way of allowing both partners (one man and one woman) to play a role in a marriage that compliments each other. Remember, God has your life already planned out. All you have to do is to continue to keep your eyes on Him. (see. Jeremiah 29:11 & Matthew 6:33)
