help! baby skin whitening

[kiz_me1109]

Super sensitive pa yung skin ng baby mo for those products. Don't be so much bothered of his/her skin color. Huwag mo pansinin yung mga taong pinupuna yung anak mo.

I'm fair skinned and husband ko medyo dark yung color. Nung nanganak ako maitin din yung baby ko. But it didnt bother me kasi boy naman siya. Madami nagsasabi na sayang kasi hindi nakuha yung color ng skin ko. But some says ok lang kasi lalake naman. =) Habang lumalake siya e nagbabago naman yung color niya. Ngayon maputi na siya. Ang alam ko nagbabago pa naman yung color ng bata e. =)

[Grayce]

^^IMO, moms here reacted based on the title alone (me included), and comparing it with the issue on breastfeeding vs formula feeding is way too different. both issues are not "bad" for the baby unlike with this kind of topic here which is really shocking. as what I said in my earlier post, it's sad to see the "colonial mentality" attitude of pinoys even with newborns.

nobody has the right to judge but i hope the reaction of other moms here will serve also as a reminder to the TS to learn to appreciate her baby and be glad that her baby's perfectly healthy. ibang nanay nga gumagastos ng milyon para lang magkaanak e.

[k_heart]

Hmm, hindi kaya may ibang issues  si TS more than the color of her baby's skin? I hope that whatever it is ay maayos nya.
 

[cldy_1981]

^feeling ko lang kasi its more of the TS got misundesrtood, true the title isnt "politically correct" but if you backread, she was asking lang naman what could she do (ie lotion -pero di ko lang din sure if she was thunking whitening lotion or if she could use tea, etc) and it wasnt as if she was planning (at leadt basing it on what i have read lang din) to "bleach" her child :p

Bka lang kasi with the strong opinion about how "we feel sirry for her kid" eh baka rather than encourage we made her feel bad pa. Personally speaking kasi, i go here to learn since i dint have a lot of friends who are moms na & it might be the same for her & we dont need to make people feel bad...

Sigurado naman everyone was just concerened pero kawawa naman yung TS kung nasabihan ng di sya mabuting nanay like what some people have commented just bec of her "ignorant" (if i may) title or question and beliefs (paglilihi).

[k_heart]

^he!he!he! nAsan na kaya si TS! We'll i'm not surprised naman na gusto nya pumuti ang baby nya , although baka nashock lang din yung iba kasi parang sobrang young pa ni baby at medyo na-alarm yung iba.
naku sa GT alone, sobrang daming subscribers ng thread para sa skin whitening at Glutathione para pumuti. Ilagay mo pa yung nagpapa ayos ng ilong nila para gumanda. Sometimes, i want to posts sa mga threads na yun  and ask them kung bakit di sila masaya sa nose nila or sa color nila. Although feeling ko, di ko siguro din sila naiintindihan kasi hindi ako kayumanggi at matangos ang ilong ko. In short, wag na akong makialam kasi di ko rin alam ang pinagdadaanan nila.
Baka si TS,wants to spare her baby sa mga perceived panlalait ngayon or balang araw. Others can argue that matatanda na ang mga ito at alam na niala ginagawa nila pero si baby ay innocent and let him or her decide pag laki nya kung ano gusto nya gawin sa skin nya.
Hey TS,don't panic,it's too early pa para makita ang totoong color ni baby.
But yun nga sa society natin, everybody wants to be fair-skinned at high ang bridge ng nose.

But i know a child star, na yung nanay nya, dinye (dye)  yung hair ng anak nya para blonde ang dating at a very young age (4 years old). at walang nakahalata halos kasi tisay naman talaga yung bata. Para lang daw mas tisay pa. ha!ha! Nalowka ako dun.

[Grayce]

^^if you check her replies, her main concern is really her baby's skin colour kasi maputi daw silang magasawa aside from she thinks kaya maitim kasi napaglihian sa champurado, hence the reaction of the moms here which hindi mo rin naman masisisi.

^that's the sad truth in our society, dapat daw maputi that's why i also reacted here to spare the child. susmio naman diba d naman kasalanan ng bata kung d cya kasing puti ng parents nya. and ang shallow lang na at a young age e gusto baguhin ang skin colour dahil lang nacocompare and all that. tsktsk.

[marose17]

Somebody here posted that TS posted her "disappointment" at her baby's skin color in other threads as well.  Kaya naman nakaka-bother kasi it seems that this early eh may gusto na siyang baguhin sa itsura ng baby niya, which is unusual for a mom of a newborn. 

[cldy_1981]

^ Oh I didnt see that part. But tama si k_heart, the TS seems to have disappeard sa thread.
Well for whatever its worth I hope she understands and is more enlightened that the color of her baby's skin (whatever it may be) is ok for as long as he/she is healthy. 

[twelvth_goddess]

^^She did. I've read her other posts too.

Dun sa 'she wasn't planning to bleach her child', well, I really hope she wouldnt. I just dont see the difference with that sa paghahanap ng ways and products to whiten the baby's skin. Mejo opposed din ako sa 'habang lumalaki, magbabago pa color nyan' kase parang nagse-set ng expectation and hope na 'pwede pang mabago ang skin color'. Eh pano pag hinde, o pano na?

I understand her plight na she gets hurt when people make negative comments about her baby. I think  any mother will feel the same way, but not everyone will also react the same way (which is to resort to whitening products). K_heart is right, the TS may have other issues beyond this, I hope she gets to resolve them kase kawawa naman sya and most especially yung anak nya.

I just remembered Kristine Hermosa and Oyo Boy Sotto's daughter. Everyone was expecting na yung baby magiging little KH pero nung lumabas, mas hawig kay OS, pati skin color. Everytime KH would post pictures of her daughter sa instagram, ang daming negative comments expressing their disappointment sa skin color ng bata. I see nothing wrong with the baby, in fact she is very cute. There will always be tactless and evil people who wouldnt spare anyone, not even kids. But as parents, we should be stronger for our kids when comments like these are thrown our way. Hinde lahat matutuwa sa mga anak natin, hinde lahat maaliw. As a parent, I couldnt care less what they say. Mamatay sila sa inggit.

[jaja_0310]

Thank you sa mga ng comment. dame ko natutuhan,sorry first time mom. Na hurt lang ako sa mga pumupuna sa baby ko. Masakit.  salamat ulit mga sister.

[twelvth_goddess]

^Bayaan mo na sila sis, wag mo nalang patulan ang mga ganyang tao. I'm sure you have a very beautiful baby kaya just focus your time na lang sa kanya.

[cldy_1981]

Thank you sa mga ng comment. dame ko natutuhan,sorry first time mom. Na hurt lang ako sa mga pumupuna sa baby ko. Masakit.  salamat ulit mga sister.

I've never been in your situation na may pumupuna sa baby ko pero I can imagine na masakit nga sya... Just try to brush it off nalang dear. I mean unless straight forward na nang-iinsulto then sapakin mo na, haha! Pero if its just a comment, pwede rin naman kasi na harmless, alam mo naman mga Pinoy basta ma-ka-comment lang minsan. 

And yes as a fellow first time mom, madami pa talaga tayong matutunan at dapat matutunan. Just remember to take it easy and filter the good advice or stuff you get to pick up and deadma any negative suff. Sobrang hirap but sobrang saya din maging mommy diba? 

[bettyboop1322]

sis jaja, my 2nd baby palaging kinocompare sa kuya, skin color, nose, height, etc.. etc... but i don't give a damn. i can see my new baby as cute as my eldest. kahit may mga nagsasabi ang itim nya at pango ang ilong, in my eyes he's the cutest baby in town. they even compare him sa mga nephews ko na ka-age nya, who are fair-skinned and have a perfect nose but it doesn't bother me. What occupies most of my time is taking care and spending quality time with my kids. Tama mga sis natin dedma lang sis, we have the most precious gift from God, our kids. Enjoy every moment with your baby...

[jaja_0310]

Thank you ulit mga sis, naiyak naman ako. Nag sorry ako sa baby ko. tama kayo iwas dapat ako sa badvibes. Enjoy ko nalang moment namin ni baby. 

[hunny_ally]

Parents usually see their kids as their own mini extensions. So any lait thrown to our kids eh immediately we take it as something against US. Frankly it's not the first time I read such here in GT.  I agree to a comment here...we can't please everyone so why even attempt to.  Eh ano ngayon if the other person doesn't find my baby cute? Will that make him or her less cute in my eyes? Will that make him or her less perfect in your eyes? 

Just want to share this...nothing related to this whole hullabaloo about skin color. I can't help but admire how this blogger saw her baby beyond the physical and I hope we do too

http://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html

[cldy_1981]

^ I read this before... naiyak ako, super admirable talaga the love of a mom.


^^ true dear - iwas bad vibes happy mommy = happy baby. just shower your child with love and affection para when he/she grows up, regardless of the skin color or whatever physical appearance they are secure in themselves

[k_heart]

Nag back read ako ng ibang posts ni TS. We'll mukhang isang part ay mommy jitters, first time mommy kasi. Then madami sya expectations sa baby nya.Just like our other GT sisses na point of view, pag baby kasi natin ay extension natin, mini-me. So parang nadisappoint si TS (this is an understatement,he!he!) na iba sa expectations nya ang lumabas. We'll we cannot all have perfect babies  but we can be a perfect mom to them.

So sis Jaja, it's also good din naman on the other hand that you can see the perceived imperpections of your baby. Perceived sis, kasi baka sa mata mo lang naman ganyan ang tingin mo. May mga mommies din kasi na kitang kita na panget ang mga kids nila pero feeling nila ay pinaka pogi or pinakamaganda. I don't know now kung alin ang mas worst,yung nakikita mo ang imperefections or you see your babies or kids as perfect.
Parang yung newly-born child nung isa kong friend, super cute na cute sya sa baby nya, pero ang nakikita namin ay medyo alien-looking si baby right now pero mukha namang lalaking mas ok ang looks.Pero syempre we dont want to hurt her feelings,so waley na lang kami sinasabi.
I think sa mga taong kagaya ko, naiistress si TS kasi medyo pulaera,pero promise i'm not nanlalait, it's just the image that i'm seeing right now. 
Nakaka hurt naman talaga pag may sinasabing negative kay baby.
Ano ba sabi ng hubby mo sis? May brothers or sisters ka ba? ano sabi ng mga in laws or parents mo?

Ano ba pinanga gagalingan ng stress mo bukod sa new mom ka na may mataas na expectations? 
I just wnat to understand kung ano ang pinanggalingan ng pagkabalisa mo sis sa pagiging maitim ng kulay, mapurple ang lips at conehead ang ulo ng baby mo.

Sis, hindi naman kaya ikaw yung friend ko?

No offense meant sa post ko ha.

Naalala ko tuloy si Wilma Doesnt, sabi ng nanay nya ang ganda ganda nya. Kaya hanggang paglaki nya ay Dyosa sya ng Ganda. Ganyan ang mother's love! : )
 

[k_heart]

Ang point ko lang sis, na sayo na yan kung paano mo palalakihin ang anak mo. Tingnan mo si Wilma, kahit sa tingin ng iba ay hindi pmantayan ng ganda ng kulay nya, pero sa eyes ng parents nya ay sya ang pinakamaganda, she grew up na malakas ang self-confidence sa sarili and a top-model sa Philippines during her prime.

[slovy]

^hehe. I agree with you sis. natawa ako sa example mong si wilma doesnt. totoo nga naman.

sis TS, don't worry magbabago pa mukha ni baby mo, magiging cute din yan. ang pagiging cone headed, temporary lang yan sis, bibilog din yan, ganun talaga pag newborn. purple lips, pupula din yan. pagiging maitim - e kung maputi naman talaga mga lahi nyo mag-asawa, puputi din yan. maniwala ka man o hindi sa akin sis hehe, both my babies when they were newborns, hindi talaga sila cute, marami ding pintas akong natatanggap noon, paki ko. nung lumaki sila hay naku cute na cute na. ngayon naman, pinagdudahan ako kung anak ko ba talaga sila. baka daw nagka baby switching. mga langya lang. lol

[k_heart]

pero di ba sis, ang ganda ng color ni Wilma? Kaya sya ginawa ko example kasi gusto  ni TS na pumuti ang baby  nya. sige na nga, si richard gomez na lang. One of the philippine's top leading men.  Ano description sa kanya: tall, dark and handsome. Di ba yan ang pamantayan sa perfect guy physically, not tall, white And handsome!: )
Lalaki naman ang baby ni TS.