kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)

[Shadow Angel]

For me lang ha hindi ko na pag aaksyahan ng panahon ng idemanda sila saysng oras, pera at effort ko sa kanila sa anak ko na lang ibubuhos ang oras at magmo- moved on para sa akin hindi ko na gugustuhin makita o paulit- ulit na isipin pa un sakit na ginawa sa akin..ipapakita ko na kaya ko.

[showermist]

Bibibuy, pareho kayo ng sitwasyon nung batchmate ko nung high school. Even the dates halos pareho, baka kilala kita at yung asawa mo? The video of the guy having sex with his kabit was uploaded online just last week at pinaghihinalaan ng marami na yung asawa mismo ang nag upload. The kabit nga threatened to sue the misis na nag-upload. Ten videos were uploaded! At nasa facebook! Of the ten videos, dalawa lang yung napanood ko dahil hindi ko masikmura. Ang baboy!

[akosiinay]

gusto kita ihug sis bibibuy, we are on the same boat, kaibahan lang yung video na nakita ko sa asawa ko e video nong kabit nya while taking a bath,mismong asawa ko nagvideo till now hindi pa rin mabura sa isip ko yung scene na yun its been 3 years pero parang kahapon lang nangyari,inamin saken ni kabit lahat ng ginawa nila ng asawa ko, which is mas masakit pala yun alam  mo bawat detalye ng pagtatagpo nila, akala ko mas madaling mag move on pag nalaman mo lahat hindi pala, pero mahirap din naman yung alam na ng buong bayan  tas ikaw wala pang alam sa kalokohan ng asawa mo,, hay mga sis ang hirap, hindi ko rin alam pano makamove on

[maiandra]

^ grabe naman yan sis showermist. Free for all? Hindi na inisip kung may batang makakapanood nun. Grabe nga naman...

[bibibuy]

thank you mga sis sa lahat ng messages niyo at concern niyo. as of today, im still trying to forget everything. i go online kasi gusto ko malamann sino yung bf nung kabit. ang hirap lang kasi hindi kami kasal. may anak lang kami kaya hindi ganun kalakas loob ko. idedemanda daw ako nung babae ng libel. hindi ko alam kung bakit. hindi ko inupload yung video kasi kahihiyan yun ng asawa ko na tatay ng anak ko. ang gusto kong balikan yung kabit mismo. tipong screenshot ko yung video while showing her face doing it then send it to her bf or parents. yun plano ko. pero hindi ko pa sure kasi parang sobrang harsh naman. hanggang ngayon sobrang gulong gulo utak ko. si hubby parang wala lang sakanya yung ngyari at hindi man lang umeffort na makipag ayos man lang sakin.  siguro kung mag papakumbaba yung kabit at mag sorry at aminin mali ginawa nila kaya ko pa tanggapin pero yung ako pa parang may kasalanan ng lahat, hindi ako papayag. ngayon nag uusap lang kami dahil sa anak namin, pero yung saming dalawa parang nawala na sa bula.

[bibibuy]

yung file name pala nung video nila date nung anniversay namin naalala ko nanaman. ilang araw na ako hindi kumakain at ilang araw na hindi lumalabas ng bahay. napapbayaan ko na sarili ko. hindi ko na alam gagawin ko.

[maiandra]

sis i know how that feels, na parang mababaliw ka. It's ok to feel angry, let out everything you feel. Wag mo ikulong sarili mo sa bahay at magvent out ka sa trusted friends/confidante/counselor. It's normal to feel vengeful, pero don't do anything you will regret later. Walang magandang idudulot ang paghiganti, at maniwala ka God will pay them back in full for what they did to you.

Gamitin mo ang time na to step back and think, take care of yourself and your son hindi yung mauubos ang energy mo sa taong wala naman lugar sa buhay mo.

[reese**]

sis bibibuy, its OK na malungkot, magmukmok, ma feel na its the end of your world. give it to yourself, normal lang yan. BUT give it also a deadline. ilagay mo sa isip mo ang definite time na whether you like it or not, babangon ka at mag mmove on. i know its easy to say, but no one can help your but YOURSELF. kahit ano sabihin namin dito it will be your decision. mag post ka lang ng mag post dito how you feel, if you have  a friend then let that friend know how you feel, its ok paulit ulit until magsawa ka na.

just think of your blessings, im sure you have a lot to thank God for. huwag ka na mag focus sa revenge or galit sa KABIT. she will get it trust me, even million times worst than what she has caused you. but still dont wish that, kasi if you do something bad that will harm her, then ano ang pinagkaiba mo sa kanya? pareho nalang kayo nun na nananakit ng kapwa - whether the other person deserves it or not. do you want to be like her sis? im sure not!

as for your hubby, obviously he doesnt care that much. im sure you know na seems for now sa inaarte niya ay wala na siyang pakialam sayo. are you going to be a loser and dwell on that? No way! pick up the pieces and start to be a better person. you dont deserve him or what he did to you. huwag kang patalo sis. you have a kid and kasama mo siya, thats enough reason to fight. hindi man literal na 'fight' but fight in a way na makakabuti sayo. find a past time - read a book, watch a series, etc. as soon as maisip mo think of something else. then you'll be surprised ikaw pa mag effort na isipin siya at nangyari. and last but most importantly - PRAY. if every min nagiisip at nalulungkot ka then pray instead. even if its every min.

[Senyorita_lakwatsera]

hi sis,

Mahirapa yugn situation mo, pero walang kang ibang choice kung endi mag move on at maging stornger kungdi man para sau para na lang sa mga tao nagmamahal sau at nasasaktn para sau

[shelby020212]

Sis bibibuy, remember "Karma's a b**** it will come around and bite them".
Magpaka strong ka na lang para sa anak mo.

Naalala ko tuloy, meron akong friend, nasa us siya before sila ikasal. She found out na nambababae yung fiance niya. So then, naghiwalay sila. Then my friend got married a year after with somebody else. And then, nabalitaan namin nanghihingi ng sorry sa kanya yung girl pati yung ex niya. They found out na nagkaron siya ng skit, few month after, nawala na siya leaving a son to her ex.

Point ko lang is, ngayon, super sakit ng nararamdaman ko. I'm sure ilang timbang luha na ang iniyak mo. Pero, tandaan mo na lang makakarma din yan. Don't do any harm to yourself. Be strong para sa anak mo. Sana malampasan mo na din yan. Kaya mo yan!

[summercharm]

Sis bibibuy, i feel your pain and kung gaano kahirap ang pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. Lalo na dahil may anak kayo na affected. You have to be strong for your child and yourself. Alam ko madami ka naiisip gawin because of that video pero just take a step back and think a thousand times before doing anything you might regret in the future. be the bigger person. ipakita mo sa kanila na hindi mo sila ka level. despite ng mga kababuyan na pinag gagawa nila, don't let them bring you down.

napag daanan ko na din yan sis. wala ka pag huhugutan ng lakas kundi ang family mo, anak mo, si God and mga taong nagmamahal sayo. it took me 2 years bago ako naka recover. he was my bf for 5 years and we were married for 1 year. he cheated on me with several girls, hindi lang 1. i couldn't believe it coz never sya nag cheat sa akin nung bf ko palang sya. it came to a point na sinisisi ko yung sarili ko dahil i'm not good enough as a wife. pero mali yon. wag mo sisisihin sarili mo kung bakit nagawa yon ng asawa mo dahil meron sya sariling pagiisip and desisyon.

and you don't have to deal with the other girl dahil matutuwa yon lalo pag nakikita ka na sstress. the best revenge is to be happy with your life. ang mga kabit, ayaw nila nakikitang masaya at maganda ang buhay ng mga asawa ng kinakasama nila. i'm sure that girl will also live in shame and hindi sya magiging masaya dahil kabit lang sya, and that's all she will ever be.

chin up sis bibibuy, be a better person than your husband and his mistress. if you want to do something about the video, mas maganda kung idadaan sa tamang legal process. alagaan mo sarili mo, dapat beautiful palagi. *hugs*

[vain_kixie]

sis wag mo ikalat yung video. Pero keep a duplicate copy. Alam mo yun just in case, kasi you can
use that as evidence against your husband and the kabiatch.

I'm really sorry for what happen. During this time, you really have to assess, until saan ang capacity
mo to forgive and to accept.

Yung fact kasi na ng i love you yung asawa mo sa kabit means its more than just sex. I could not
live my entire life having that video play in my head worrying kung gagawin ba ulit pag pinatawad
ko na.  That's me. You and I are different. Pray and ask for guidance.

Pero back reading.. Girl, hindi pa pala kayo kasal! Thank heavens. Hiwalayan mo na!

[justin3]

bibibuy, i don't want to hug you, si baby Draco na lang... how is he by the way?

you're not married, right? kung married ka, i'll convince you to give "A" another chance. malamang once nya pa lang nagawa yon. simpleng kahayukan lang sa laman. nakatikim ng ibang putahe at napasarap lang. it's not something na ibinahay nya ang gurl at ibinuhos ang sweldo nya sa kanya instead sa inyong mag-ina. but since di naman kayo kasal, aba! sisantihin mo na. wala nang bawian.

gusto mo makaganti kay model-gf? really?... bigay mo sa akin ang video, ako ang kakalat but maybe after weeks/months o a year ko pa ilabas. palabasin nating naakyat-bahay ka at nalimas ang mga gadgets mo. let's make it realistic pa, with detailed Barangay/Police blotter pa. that way, labas ka na sa ano mang asunto.
(unlike sa fiscal-lawyer sex video na si wifey mismo ang kumalat, kaya ayon, binalikan sya ni fiscal)

hey, cheer-up! consider it as a blessing na habang maaga pa, nadiskubre mo ang kahinaan nya.
so what if you're an only child? you have "totoong" beautiful cyber sisters (and a handsome brother) here in GT. you have pretty friends like "S". you have a goodlooking son, a stable job.
hey! ang dami mong blessings kay Lord na hindi kayang agawin ng China... eh, nakapag-pasalamat ka na ba sa Poong Maykapal?
your God loves you so much kaya ayaw Ka nyang mapahamak. and maybe it was His way for you to discover yung panloloko sa yo.

oist! pag-isipan mong mabuti bago gawing art canvass yang epidermis mo ha? kaaya-aya pa kaya tingnan yan after 10-20yrs? ano ipaukit mo dyan, "BANDIDA"? pantapat sa "bandido"? 

[kabes]

When wives want their marriages to last, they attack the girl; when they don’t mind their marriages ending, they attack their husband.- l.lapuz

[gab54]

^ I just read an article with Dra Margie Holmes mentioning Lapuz' quote...

To all wives who are experiencing kabit issues with ur hubby, I think u should read this...
http://www.rappler.com/life-and-style/21382-two-pronged-my-husband-is-having-an-office-affair

[vanj19]

justin3, i couldnt agree more!  kung ako yan naku matagal na lumabas yan!   and correct din si sis vain_kixie, keep a duplicate or more copies para may ebidensya ka.

sis bibibuy, think about yourself and your child.  wala kang mali.  sila ang may mali.  kaya i hate keridas talaga.
sila pa ang matatapang!

set ur  mind na ur still lucky that you found this out this early.  and just pray for the right one to come along the way.
malalagpasan mo yan...  think "this too shall pass".   move on wag paghinayangan ang nakaraan just learn from it.
smile and be happy from now on!  tc!

[vanj19]

When wives want their marriages to last, they attack the girl; when they don’t mind their marriages ending, they attack their husband.- l.lapuz

ako, i will attach both of them!

[bibibuy]

thanks mga sis! im now on the process of healing.   

[maiandra]

ano na bang ganap dun sa partner mo sis bibibuy?

[bibibuy]

he's kinda " at LOST" right now. problemado sa pera kasi apektado trabaho nya. though were both trying to fix it since we have a kid. he said sorry and wanted to fix the relationship that he "broke". he said that he did it out of "stupidity" and that he already ended the relationship with the other girl.  hindi ko alam pano magtitiwala ulit but sa sobrang mahal ko i might give in. sabi nga nila kung ang dyos daw marunong magpatawad, ako pa kaya. i have been praying to god to give me guidance on how to handle the situation. and feeling ko naman i am guided kasi hindi na ako naiiyak, nakakaya ko na lumabas ulit, motivated nako ibalik katawan ko dati which is from 170lbs, im now at 150 in 2 weeks of heartbreak. goal ko is 110. inilalabas ko nalang sa pag papayat lahat ng sama ng loob ko. lahat na ng karma yata dinadala na ngyon ni hubby. gusto lagi nag iinom.