SILENT FEELINGS TO YOUR PARENTS

[carlijn]

Mama,

All my life I have done everything you have asked me to do, even if it has hurt me a number of times.  I tried to understand you, your pains and experiences, you have never heard me object even if you have blatantly did things that I disapprove of.  I tried tried to be a good daughter, even if you would constantly say nasty comments regarding my dad and his family, you have isolated me from all my relatives from his side... you have constantly belittled me when you feel like I was a disappointment, you tell me I am stupid, ugly, traitor, ingrate and beat me up but I never answered you back because I respected you.  Not even when you forced me to have an abortion and beat gme afterwards, I never fought back.  I grew up being very afraid of you... I am not even my real self whenever I am around you.  You expect too much from me, I am not perfect.  You never heard me  complain when you got married so soon after my father died, or when you brought different men at home one after the other... I tried to understand because I did not want you to be alone.  You never heard me accuse you of being unfaithful when I saw you kissing another man when my dad was still alive... I kept it to myself... 

A lot of times I cannot understand you and your cruel actions, but as a daughter I never left you, I still tried to understand even if I can't.  You keep repeating to me on how hard your childhood was, and yet you never realized that you have been emotionally and physically also abusing me as I was growing up... I felt like I had to pay for the pain other people had caused you... I was your shock absorber... and I still prayed for the day to come when you would see the error in your ways.

Now I have my own family, I do not want my children to experience the same pain you have caused me.  Yes you have given me my life, but you also took it away when you forced me to have my baby aborted.  How can you allow me to go through such pain, even justifying your action that you were doing what you thought was best for me.  I am scarred for life, no one can ever fill the hole left it my heart for losing my child.  I will forever mourn my loss, I do not know if I can ever forgive myself for it.  You have no idea how lonely and painful it is to bear this alone... I have sleepless nights whenever I remember my child or try to imagine him or her... i cry silently in pain.

Please do not destroy the family I am trying to build... my husband and I may have our issues but we are trying to deal with it like mature individuals.  I chose this life and I am prepared to deal with it and all the issues that may come.  Please do not rob me of a happy life just because you cannot let go of all the negativities in yours.  Just because you kept claiming that my father never made you happy doesn't mean I will have the same path as yours.  You chose the road you travelled on so please do not make me responsible for whatever outcome it had on your life.  No matter how hard life is, the world does not stop revolving for one person.  Happiness is a choice.

[EllaBratin]

Natutuwa akong makita na habang tumatanda kayo, lalo kayong nagiging sweet. Thank you daddy at nag-aral kang magmotor para masamahan si mommy sa pagsimba niya. Thank you mommy sa pag-insist kay daddy na kumain kayo sa labas ng paborito ninyong pansit. Ngayong malalaki na kami at may kanya-kanya ng buhay, ang sarap tingnan na nagkaroon na kayo ng time para sa isa't isa. 

[angelzero]

dear mama,

ikaw na ang pinakamabait na tao na nakilala ko at swerte ako mama kita. sorry kung minsan nasasagot kita. pinagsisisihan ko naman 3 seconds after kita masagot pero minsan lang ako mag sorry. so, i'm sorry. kahit favorite mo si utol alam ko naman you try your best na pantay pantay yung treatment mo sa min. madami ka din naman natulong sa kin kahit tapos na obligasyon mo sa kin. thanks for being the most generous person in the world. sana maging tulad kita pag nagka anak nako.

dear papa,

kahit NR ka palagi alam ko naman na concerned ka sa kin. sorry kung wala tayo masyadong mapag usapan, or kung minsan parang naiirita ka sa kin kahit humihinga lang ako. siguro naiinis ka sa kin kasi hindi ako naglilinis ng kwarto ko or dahil talagang may nakasulat na "middle child" sa noo ko. don't worry malapit-lapit na rin siguro yung araw na aalis nako sa puder nyo. ang sikip sikip na natin sa bahay at nakatingin kayo sa kin lahat hoping na ako yung umalis. anyways, thanks for taking care of a 29-year old kid. it's been long overdue.

[slickchick]

dear dad, masyado ka ata nawili sa hair dye at tuluyan mo nang tinalikuran ang salt & pepper hair for a more groovy dark brown look. hindi naman sa pangit, pero nakakapanibago lang na makita kang wala nang puting buhok. wag ka sana mapikon or mainis sa amin tuwing napapa-smile kami kapag nakikita ka at ang newly-colored hair mo. naninibago lang talaga kami. gusto ko na tuloy magpa-retouch ng hair color ko.. baka mas madami na akong puting buhok ngayon... hahaha!     

[Beng01]

Dear daddy and mommy,

Yung napanigipan ko kagabi na pinagtatawanan nyo si hubby dahil sa mga ways and gestures niya, sana hindi totoo. Hindi man siya kasing galing ni bro-in law, sana pantay pantay ang tingin nyo sa lahat ng mga son-in-laws niyo. Yun lang namimiss ko na kayo...

[dashgirl]

I know you have taken good care of us magkakapatipid, pero sana naisipan nyong hindi na kami bata, we have a mind of our own, accept our views and differences and huwag nyong sabihin 'anak ka lang' don't treat us as inferiors, but rather your equal. Don't force me into your ways, i have my own thoughts. When i become a parent, i want to take care of my kids like you did to us, but i would also let them decide on their own, be their friend, not someone with authority who demands respect. And i hate that you are being judgmental when i don't follow and you being old school. Als, please stop comparing your kids to each other. It is bad parenting and hurts them. Hindi nyo lang narealize because you never hear us out, dapat lagi kayo ang nasusunod at laging tama.


Haaaay

[Marin]

Naka-graduate na ako. Hindi pa ba enough yun? Hindi man iyon ang course na gusto ninyo e sana maisip ninyo na nasasaktan din ako kapag kinukwento ninyo na si ganyan ay doktor o abogado na. Bakit hindi si bunso ang pilitin ninyo na mag-law o  medicine?

I'm really sorry that I'm not a trophy daughter that you expected me to be. Well, ang laking konswelo naman ang naibigay ko nung elementary days sa  dami ng medals na naipon ninyo dahil sa akin. Tanggapin nating lahat na hindi na ako yung batang iyon.

[isa.v00]

dear mama,

ikaw na ang pinakamabait na tao na nakilala ko at swerte ako mama kita. sorry kung minsan nasasagot kita. pinagsisisihan ko naman 3 seconds after kita masagot pero minsan lang ako mag sorry. so, i'm sorry. kahit favorite mo si utol alam ko naman you try your best na pantay pantay yung treatment mo sa min. madami ka din naman natulong sa kin kahit tapos na obligasyon mo sa kin. thanks for being the most generous person in the world. sana maging tulad kita pag nagka anak nako.

dear papa,

kahit NR ka palagi alam ko naman na concerned ka sa kin. sorry kung wala tayo masyadong mapag usapan, or kung minsan parang naiirita ka sa kin kahit humihinga lang ako. siguro naiinis ka sa kin kasi hindi ako naglilinis ng kwarto ko or dahil talagang may nakasulat na "middle child" sa noo ko. don't worry malapit-lapit na rin siguro yung araw na aalis nako sa puder nyo. ang sikip sikip na natin sa bahay at nakatingin kayo sa kin lahat hoping na ako yung umalis. anyways, thanks for taking care of a 29-year old kid. it's been long overdue.

Sobrang sweet nito. I have the same sentiments when it comes to my parents. I recently watched a video na sobrang natouch ako. It's about parents (dads, mostly kasi it has something to do with Fathers Day). Anyway, natutuwa ako pag ganitong may mga sweet pa rin sa parents nila eh. I'll try to look for the video again and show it to all you guys here in this thread. It's really nice.

[angelzero]

^thanks! actually hindi naman talaga ako sweet as a daughter but I always try my best to be a good one to my parents. looking forward to that video link of yours. for sure maiiyak ako kasi kahit i don't have the "perfect" parents, they're the best parents in the world. 

[isa.v00]

^thanks! actually hindi naman talaga ako sweet as a daughter but I always try my best to be a good one to my parents. looking forward to that video link of yours. for sure maiiyak ako kasi kahit i don't have the "perfect" parents, they're the best parents in the world. 

I'm trying my best rin to show them I love them, pero, same here, medyo nahihiya-hiya rin. ^_^ Will look for that video. Also check this out, I'm planning to show this to my dad later. Para ma-touch din sya. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jzGgZj6hjw&feature=youtu.be

I guess, even if nothing is perfect in this world, having an awesome family (esp. parents) can somehow make us forget all imperfections in life. Hahahaha deep... but sincere.

[ysa.belle]

mommy and papa,

thank you for everything. actually yung thank you alam kong kulang na kulang sa lahat ng tulong at support niyo sa amin. i am so sorry if wala akong ginawang tama... if lagi nalang consomisyon ang dala ko sa pamilya. totoo man, hiyang hiya na ako sa inyo... im sorry sa lahat... nagpapasalamat ako sa pag protect niyo sa akin lagi...

i love you so much... di ko man sinasabi lagi pero mahal na mahal ko kayo.

[angelzero]

I'm trying my best rin to show them I love them, pero, same here, medyo nahihiya-hiya rin. ^_^ Will look for that video. Also check this out, I'm planning to show this to my dad later. Para ma-touch din sya. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jzGgZj6hjw&feature=youtu.be

I guess, even if nothing is perfect in this world, having an awesome family (esp. parents) can somehow make us forget all imperfections in life. Hahahaha deep... but sincere.

that was a nice vid sis. and i agree that having great parents, though sometimes we take them for granted, is something to be thankful and proud about. i believe that i am the person that i am today cuz my parents taught me well.

[jeune]

Ma,

How could you? Why do you have to do this when you're already old? Why do you have to lie to us? All we wanted was for you to tell us the truth because we deserve to know! I'm ashamed of what you have become.  I can't bear the fact that the mom I love and respect so much is the one who's going to destroy her family. I don't even know what to feel towards you, but I know you're still my mother and I pray you come to your senses before it's too late.

[girl24]

ma, i know we sometimes clash and you hate it when i clam up and bottle everything up. as you always say "magkakacancer ka sa pagtitiis"... eh wala tayo magagawa this is the hand i was dealt with. i'm not as lucky as you and lola who had good husbands. minalas ma... thank you for taking care of the kids! kahit naiinis ka, nagagalit ka, napapagod ka, napapagasta ka alam ko naman na mahal na mahal mo mga apo mo at kahit lagi kita inaasar dahil favorite ko si kuya eh lambing na lang yun na me touch of sarcasm...  wag na magalit inday, maririnig ni clau --- nagmamahal gretch...  ayan, magagalit ka na.. joke lang! unlike inday, you hugged me naman when i was younger... 

pa, i miss you so much!!! wala na ang aking defender of the universe. kung si kuya ang clau ni mama ako naman ang clau mo. as i always tell kuya when inaasar ako, isusumbong ko siya sayo at wag siya matutulog kasi mumultuhin mo siya 

[ivy u.]

ma, take care always po. lagi po ako nag-aalala sayo, lalo na pag-gabi na at wala ka pa sa bahay. mahal ka po namin.

[trendy]

DeAr mama,

Mahal na mahal kita sobra, nahihiya lang akong magsabi pero ikaw ang pinakaimportanteng tao sa buhay ko! Parang ayoko na magasawa , gusto ko lang kasi makatulong sayo at maalagaan ka pagtanda mo. Di ko kayang magabroad at magaya sa mga tito ko na walang nagawa o di makauwi pah may nangyayaring di maganda kay lola. Sobrang love kita mama!

your mom is so blessed to have you, sis. she raised you well indeed. God bless you both.

[twelvth_goddess]

I dont know sometimes kung makakayanan pa kita. Please tell me nga kung anong klaseng nanay naman ako kung kukunin ko ulit yung yaya ko dati na nanankit sa anak ko just because desperate ako sa maid ngayon? Palibhasa kase mas iniisip mo sarili mo na nahihirapan ka na walang maid sa bahay. Eh kung kumukuha ka kase ulit ng sarili mong maid and hinde mo inaasa saken ehdi hinde ka nahihirapan. Grabe ka naman, mas iisipin mo yung mas convenient sayo kesa sa safety ng anak ko??!

Kung gusto mo kunin yung yaya ko d, kunin mo wala kong pakelam. Pero sinasabe ko sayo pag lumapit sa anak ko yan, bubuhusan ko ng kumukulong tubig yan. OA ka naman sa pagka-desperate sa maid.

[sxy_shandy]

Why do you not seem to want to let your daughters learn to be independent? Why do you smother and coddle? My 24-year-old sister should be able to get to her work by herself, not be driven hatid sundo, like I did at my first job, where I couldn't stay late for OT because I had to ride with you. My 19-year-old sister should be able to watch a movie by herself or with her friends -- which she's never done, commute to UST or CCP by herself. She should be able to bring herself to school (by car or by commute) - and not need you or our cousin to drive her or our aunt to ride the tricycle with her. I don't think it's helpful to impose your own opinion versus teaching us the framework than letting us think on our own.

[little_princess]

i hate you, hate is not even a strong enough word to describe how i feel about you.

[AnJelatine]

Mommy (Nanay) and Mama (Lola),

Maraming nangyari sa buhay ko na wala sa plano. Ang taas ng expectations niyo sa akin, at alam ko na-disappoint ko kayo. Sorry po

Gusto ko lang po sana irequest na wag niyo po sana ako/kame i-pressure sa mga dapat namin gawin or gusto niyo gawin namin ng Partner ko. Yung mga gusto niyo, yun din naman po ang gusto at mga plano namin. Pero sana po, hayaan niyo po kame ang mag decide para sa amin at sa family namin.

Feeling ko kase, kayo dapat ang masunod

Binyag. Gusto naman po namin mabinyagan ang anak namin (Sino bang ayaw?), pero nag-iipon pa po kami Mahirap ma-short on the spot. Simple lang naman din po ang gusto namin, pero maganda pa din. Ayaw naman po namin na parang basta-basta na lang.

Kasal Gusto din naman po namin i-kasal Pero sana po, hayaan niyo na kami po ang mag plano at mag decide kung kelan and kung paano i-celebrate. Gusto niyo ng simple, Civil. Pero paano kung hindi yun ang gustong kasal na ibigay sa akin ng Partner ko?

Gusto ko po sabihin yan sa inyo sa totoong buhay, pero hahanap pa po ako ng chempo at kailangan ko pa po ng bwelo Wag niyo po sana ako mamisinterpret. Mahalaga pa din po ang opinion, suggestion, and guidance niyo. Pero nasa amin po ang final decision.

Mahal na Mahal na Mahal ko po kayo!

Love,
AJ