Guys, do you feel bothered by your wife/gf's sexual past?

[Girltalker2]

On the otherhand, sa generation ngayon, i dont think uso pa ngayon ang mga lalaking ganito. Si bf nga, sobra makaimbento ng mga sexual past ko, e wala naman talaga. Madami ako ex pero hanggang kiss lang noon, i dont think its considered sexual past naman din.. i dont know why he's being so imaginative.

di ba nakaka insulto, sis?  he doesn't trust if you are telling the truth?

I find it awkward kapag after namin mag do, he would ask questions like "am i bigger/better?" "does your ex do this/that to you?" "does he satisfy you more than I do?" yung mga ganun...nakakaasar lang.

ang hirap pala pag napaka insecure ng partner. 

buti na lang talaga wala kaming tanungan ni SO bout sexual past..
kasi yun nga lang ex-crush niya eh pinagseselosan ko.. (pero in lambing mode lang naman) what more kung yung past sexual experience pa..
and im glad na di niya din ako tinatanong bout sa past ko..

I always believe kasi, if I want a relationship with someone, I have to know him well.  In the same way, he has to know me very well. Parang ang hirap din if you don't know him inside out. Tapos may malalaman ka later nalang kung kelan nahulog na loob mo totally or kasal na kayo. Pati sya. Labas nyan away. Problem baka magtanim pa ang isa. 

[janix athena]

I always believe kasi, if I want a relationship with someone, I have to know him well.  In the same way, he has to know me very well. Parang ang hirap din if you don't know him inside out. Tapos may malalaman ka later nalang kung kelan nahulog na loob mo totally or kasal na kayo. Pati sya. Labas nyan away. Problem baka magtanim pa ang isa. 

My point exactly.

[catalina_tina]

for me case to case basis ang sexperince. nagmahal lang naman tayo. kung talagang mahal ka ni guy iaccept nya past mo. my bf ask me once about my past then hindi na sya nagtanong ulit. in the first place sinabi co naman sakanya yung past ko kahit nung nanliligaw pa lang sya, wala naman aco nilihim sakanya. luckily wala naman kaming nagiging problem bout my past. He told me rin kase na naging womanizer sya before and because of me inayos nya daw ang buhay nya. aco naman ang nabobothered sa past nya hindi ko maiwasang maisip yung past nya. gosh i love him iniignore ko na nga lang pagpumapasok sa isip co yung past nya e.

[donzski_doinks]

dapat pag sexual past na pinag-uusapan, be honest nalang. Kasi merön yung nagbabawas nang kuwento tapos sa katagalan pag tinan0ng mo ulit iba na yung sagot. Nagiging cause lang nang pag aaway.

[cosmochick]

sis, matanong lang kita. is your current husband pinoy?  nacurious lang ako kasi you are lucky to have such an open-minded husband.

Yes,sis..my hubby is 100% pinoy! Guess, i'm just lucky.

[Mr.Punch]

If it was kept a secret, then yes, it would bother me.

But if I knew of it beforehand and I find it bothersome, then it would be idiotic to still enter into a relationship with her.

[Mommy•Shey]

Sa hubby ko, inunahan ko na agad eh. Mas maganda na yung sinabi mo na agad para merong kang peace of mind. 

[r3n3gad3]

hi,

most guys siguro bothered because of ego specially kung masyadong visual sila before like mahilig sa mga movies with sex in it, there are some na by using the info provided by the partner they assume na mahigitan yung naging experience before ng partner lalo na kung medyo active pareho ang past lifestyles nila. meron naman na ginagamit dahil sa pagiging seloso nila which is nakikita kong sobrang mali sa ibang guys. i married my wife not because of the past kahit alam kong active kami before ng mga teens pa kami... i married her because of being responsible as a wife and lalo na ngayon as a mother.

bout dun sa mga sis na may problem sa bf kung ibibigay nya V nya she can do something else to satisfy the urges ng partner nya without giving it all.

sorry if i offended someone with this post.. just my opinion.

[pretty.is.me]

Sana maintindihan din ng iba na halos lahat naman ng babae ginusto na maging karapat dapat sa lalakeng mahal nila, nagkataon lang na nagmahal sila at naniwala sa mga nagmamalinis na lalake...mga lalakeng ang galing mag define what purity is,..choosey..pero sila pang dahilan kung bakit maraming babaeng nagiging hopeless na meron pang seseryoso sa kanila..

I have a friend who'd been with her bf for more than 5 years. She gave everything, as in! (love, money, virginity!)..and she didn't ask anything from the guy. They were actually planning to get married last year, but everything went wrong. The guy dumped her for another woman. See that!..

I'm just happy now seeing my friend trying to put up the broken pieces. She just flew for SG yesterday to look for a job... 

[Alucard]

No.. Past naman yun.

[franc1sgmp]

eh, basta hindi pa sya nakakalantiri sa pwet, I can deal with a woman's sexual past.

or if she's had an abortion, I may not deal with her. I try to be a devout if sometimes hypocritical catholic.

[pinkadelic]

instead of getting bothered, make us forget na lang hehe

[Advice_seeker]

maganda po yung mga past reply ng girls,

at first isasagot ko talga na mabobother ako kapag ganun. ni ex-bf pa lan tas kaclose mo mabobother nako lalo pa kaya kapag me sex encounter ka, pero habang binabasa ko mga ibang rep narealize ko na lahat tayo kapag nasa relationship "we want this to work out well" and if sex is necessary to help so be it. pero para sakin gusto ko pa rin malaman yung sexual past nyo sa mga ex nyo at kung ano nafefeel nyo kasi nagbibigay siya ng hints kung ano yung Do's and Dont's na dapat namin gawin tska pangit naman kung sa ibang tao pa nmin malaman.

about naman sa sexual past na mga 1 [textspeak!] stand, sinabihan na din ako dati ng ex ko bout sa 1 [textspeak!] stand nya, naintindihan ko nman siya in time kasi siguro sa personality nya rin na may pagkaliberated and curious at [textspeak!] naman pag me opportunity din daw sakin na dumating na feel mo kumokonect ka dun sa isang tao e magagawa ko din daw yun tas sinabi nya pa 1 beses lang daw kaya di nman na ako nabother at that time kasi naisip ko din na para siyang serious about leaving it behind. dam naiinis tuloy ako sa kanya ngaun, dinaig pako. arrrgh. payo ko lang if ever sabihin nyo about sexual past na 1 [textspeak!] stand sa bf o asawa nyo make sure na maiexplain nyo sa aming mga guy kung bakit nyo nagawa at dapat out of your life nyo na yun. sana it helps...

[Observer54]

No I dont..she should be bothered with my past! 

[ice angel]

Maybe guys will, kasi Ayaw nila macompare.

[fidz]

not really.... as long as feel ko pa din yung love ng asawa ko.

[romanticure]

Hindi. hindi ko rin kinahihiya ang mga dati kong kasintahan na nag karoon ng mga masasamang experience sa mga kalalakihang bumastos ng pagkatao nila. some of my exes told me their stories habang kinikilala ko pa lang sila. some of them was brutally gang rape by their college friends, abused by their co workers, molested by their dad and beat them like a sex slave. di ko nga alam kung coincidence lang ito o kapalaran ko ng mag karoon ng mga inabusong kababaihan, buti na lang bago kami isa isang nagkahiwa-hiwalay, nakalimutan na nila masasakit na nakaraan nila at napalitan ng magagandang alaala sa kin maski di na kami.    after 5 to 10years, nakita ko ulit sila, much happier with their families now, kesa nung mga panahong bago pa lang kami at guho ang mundo nila sa mga taong hayop.

[JakeTheDog]

Not really, why should it if you love the person.

One of my favourite song lines:

I've asked about you and they told me things
But my mind didn't change and I still feel the same
What's a life with no fun? Please, don't be so ashamed
I've had mine, you've had yours, we both know.. we know

I'll be there for you, I will will care for you
I keep thinking you just don't know
Tryna run from that, say you done with that
On your face, girl, it just don't show
When you're ready, just say you're ready
When all the baggage just ain't as heavy
When the party's over, just don't forget me
We'll change the pace and we'll just go slow
You won't ever have to worry, you won't ever have to hide
You've seen all my mistakes so look me in my eyes"

[marxist]

some things are best kept quiet and other need to be revealed only when the need arises i.e. if marriage is in the pipeline.

If your bf/gf just want to know your past for knowing sake then how is that going to add to the relationship and then if things dont work out, the whole world ends up knowing all your intimate secrets especially if it is a bad break up.

so better talaga, wag na lang..

kung bf/gf lang, i think no need pang mang ungkat ng past. pero kung mag asawa na kayo at hindi honest and transparent sa dark past nyo, and that dark past reaches to you in the present, your spouse will surely feel betrayed. 

i think sa mga couple, important and openness and transparency sa past adventures, because past stories and people involved have the habits of crossing your paths in the present.

had you told your spouse, baka maintindihan pa nya at mas lalo ka suportahan.  at lest pag may kwento tungkol sa past mo, your spouse can say na alam na nya yan at tanggap nya ang nakaraan mo.

di ba...   

[Popo_Potato]

Nope, I am more concerned if she is currently sleeping around, hahaha