Guys, do you feel bothered by your wife/gf's sexual past?

[ohcmon]

^ Sorry to ask, but doesn't it offend you na hindi siya naniniwala? If I were in your position, I would definitely be insulted. I can't imagine marrying a guy who doesn't believe what I say especially in a sensitive topic like this.

I'm currently unattached and no longer a virgin but this issue never got into me. Guys must realize that women have a lot to offer besides our virginity. Losing it doesn't make us less of a person, and if the guy I date seem bothered by this, then he's not someone I should be worried losing.

[Girltalker2]

So in starting this thread I wish to send a message to girls who engage in loveless sex, sana iwasan and give more value to our bodies as women kasi may effect din ito sa psych ng mga guys who will love us in the future.

Agree with this. 

What if you found the guy for you na?  What would make him more special than the rest?

[FOURever]

^^^grabe naman hubby mo. Bakit? Dahil walang blood? maraming di naman dinudugo pag first time. Proven na yun. Minsan, dahil below the belt yung iniisip nya sayo, ijoke mo sya na baka payat yung thingie nya kaya feeling nya maluwag just kidding sis. Kainis hubby mo. Sorry!

[dca201]

Agree with this. 

What if you found the guy for you na?  What would make him more special than the rest?

This is too cynical. Not all men think like this.

[jepoy22]

^^^grabe naman hubby mo. Bakit? Dahil walang blood? maraming di naman dinudugo pag first time. Proven na yun. Minsan, dahil below the belt yung iniisip nya sayo, ijoke mo sya na baka payat yung thingie nya kaya feeling nya maluwag just kidding sis. Kainis hubby mo. Sorry!

i don't think it's about blood..considering the hubby was the first bf, i'm guessing she lost it to him..it's just that, the guy doesn't seem to trust her that she did not do it with anyone else. i don't understand why, coz it doesn't make sense, unless there were some behaviour displayed that she might have other experiences... (ex: other positions, or foreplay..however, if the wife loves him, she could also research on her own without actually experiencing them... or maybe size comparing? i have no idea)

Agree with this. 

What if you found the guy for you na?  What would make him more special than the rest?

what would make it special? get married. that's what you've been waiting for diba? but if you can't wait, that's a different story.
well, the common issue with waiting, is to actually waiting until getting married...and not knowing 'the one'.. (afterall, 'the one' is only official, once you tie the knot, and actually be one )

[Moriarty]

Guy here.

Alright ang tagal ko nang lurker dito sa girl talk. Nag-register na din ako 

When I was younger, I was bothered whenever I ask my exes or if they tell me about their past sex (mis)adventures. It really affected me(not always negatively though...competitive kasi ako) and eventually magiisip ko 'siya ba para sa akin talaga?' I mean, I'm relatively conservative kasi kaya medyo mahirap tanggapin sa akin noon. Pride, ego, insecurity and all that.


Now? I'm older and wiser and more mature - if I do say so myself - so I just assume na basta nagka-BF na, may experience na. It doesn't really bother me at all now. Hindi ko narin naiisip yan tbh. Basta minahal niya yung ex niya and naging faithful naman siya, ok lang. Case in pont - yung kay Maricar Reyes. I actually admired her more kasi yung vid(yes napanood ko) niya, it showed na passionate lover siya and sinong lalake ang ayaw nun?

(ok except of course kung prosti pala siya dati or something...siguro mapapraning ako)

[ohcmon]

What if you found the guy for you na?  What would make him more special than the rest?

Treating him way better than those guys you have had sex without love with, or as what jepoy22 has mentioned, get married.

Hindi naman por que nakipagsex ka na sa ibang lalaki na hindi mo mahal, e wala ka nang pwedeng i-offer na something else "special" dun sa lalaking mahal mo na. I'm not saying that we girls should have sex with whomever we want, pero parang hindi naman yata tama 'yung thinking na por que nakipagsex na tayo sa iba, wala na tayo pwedeng ibigay pa na mas special sa lalaking mahal natin.

It's unfair how one-sided this issue is. Girls' promiscuity are being questioned pero sexual past ng lalaki, for sure never (or very seldom) nagiging issue 'yan. If a guy has had different sexual partners in the past, what right does he have to question mine?

[hot_chili]

My bf-now hubby wasnt my first. I lost my V sa boyfriend ko before him. Nung bf-gf days pa namin ni hubby, before we did it I told him frankly na Im not a V anymore. He only answered "it doesnt matter, di naman yun nangyari nung tayo na" - thats why I married him 

[jepoy22]

"it doesnt matter, di naman yun nangyari nung tayo na"

i actually didn't get this statement? does this mean that losing V a different guy is ok for him? (but i guess, it's more of, "there's nothing that can we do about that")

[hot_chili]

^ yeah its basically "there's nothing that can we do about that" just sugar coated 

[tawnylee]

i actually didn't get this statement? does this mean that losing V a different guy is ok for him? (but i guess, it's more of, "there's nothing that can we do about that")

I also think it means that Hindi naman sinex yung guy nung tayo na. Am I right, sis hot chili?

[jepoy22]

^ yeah, that made sense

and again, sabi nga ni TS:

So in starting this thread I wish to send a message to girls who engage in loveless sex, sana iwasan and give more value to our bodies as women kasi may effect din ito sa psych ng mga guys who will love us in the future.

and for those who don't have that past, don't be pressured to engage in sex.. but rather, let the both of you wait.. it's not bad at all... plus, no worries about sexual diseases/getting preggy/etc at the wrong time..

best time = already married

[xenos54]

"Kung alam kong may mga one-night stand ang babae, then hindi na darating sa point na mai-in love ako sa kanya, baka i-enjoy ko lang sya pansamantala pero hindi para pakasalan. Kasi kung binibigay nya sarili nya sa taong hindi nya mahal, anong panghahawakan ko na hindi nya yun gagawin habang GF o asawa ko sya? Hindi nya bina-base sa feelings eh, ano sya lalake?

gusto ko lang po mag-react dito sa sagot ng guy.. lumalabas talaga ang pagka-double standard ng mga lalake.. lalo na sa statement na "hindi nya bina-base sa feelings eh, ano sya lalake?"
so meaning po ba nun.. pag lalake.. hindi bina-base sa feelings.. at kung kani-kanino na lang din.. at ok lang yun? i just find it weird that they think this way.. na sa lalake ok lang.. at sa babae hindi..

pag ang guys nagenjoy lang sa sex ok lang.. at pag ang babae gumawa nun.. malaswa at mababang uri na siya ng tao.. hays..

parang unfair naman kung sa past ng girl naging wild child siya.. pero nag change na siya.. at tumino.. tapos ganun.. di na siya seseryosohin kahit kelan.. sana di naman ganito thinking ng lahat ng boys.. 

[Girltalker2]

^ may mga guys kasi na hindi nag-o-ONS, so hindi mo sila masisisi if they prefer partners na wala din ganung experience.

but then again, you are right, napaka unfair. lalo na sa mga lalaki na nag-o-ONS, tapos sila pa yung maraming kyeme eh ganun din naman sila.

[ohcmon]

^ Kaya nga 'yung mga guys na nag-eengage sa ONS at fubus, walang karapatan mabother sa sexual past ng mga wives at girlfriends nila dahil sila mismo, ganun naman.

"Before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean." - Bob Marley

[jojo2978]

^^^Guytalker here... Relax sis.

VIRGINITY METER -  is a device developed to determine if a girl or a guy is still a VIRGIN.  As the name suggest, it is used to measure the past experiences in sexual point of view of both guys and girls.  This device is supposedly believed to work wonders. 

The right thumb when placed inside the machine's panel will generate information on how many SEXUAL PARTNERS an individual fortunately or unfortunately had in the past.  On the other hand, when left thumb is placed inside the machine, printout will be generated instantly which list how many SEXUAL PARTNERS an individual had with emotional involvement. 

Unfortunately this amazing device is withheld for public use since this may infringe the person's right to privacy.  Clearly, the use of this machine is afforded as a privilege as the right to privacy is presumed to be higher that anyone's personal interest.

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Just a thought about this thread:  No one can predetermine whom he/she will meet in this lifetime.  At times, even if we carefully plan what path to take there are things beyond our control.  When we happen to know or fancy someone in a romantic level, normally, we don't include sex as an immediate priority.  We intend to get to know them, and emotions generally becomes stronger through time.  At this point, only our feeling for that person is important.  The intensity of love and the intentions will come into play. 

Past may be an issue but the maturity of the person will eventually precede that.  Pwede a month to three months your partner may dwell on what you did on your past, but that's it.  Kung mahal ka niyan, andiyan yan regardless.  In fact, we have testimonies from another thread here that before marriage, they started as FUBU's or FWB or anything we might call it.

If you genuinely love the person, I don't think the past can pull it down.

Note:  I would like to say sorry to our sis and bros here because I'm not really sure if may 'virginity meter.'  It's just a product of my imagination. No bad intentions kaya nga naging open ako beforehand.  He he.  If they really love you for who you are regardless of what have you done before, the issue will die down.  Peace and God bless!

[curlyhair]

^ Sorry to ask, but doesn't it offend you na hindi siya naniniwala? If I were in your position, I would definitely be insulted. I can't imagine marrying a guy who doesn't believe what I say especially in a sensitive topic like this.

I'm currently unattached and no longer a virgin but this issue never got into me. Guys must realize that women have a lot to offer besides our virginity. Losing it doesn't make us less of a person, and if the guy I date seem bothered by this, then he's not someone I should be worried losing.

yah, okay lang na di siya maniwala, as long as i knew the truth na wala talaga, from the start siya lang. and we never end of arguing naman because of that. and hindi ko stressin ang sarili ko kung iyon ang thinking niya....hahaha!

[Naughty^GuRu]

No, not even a bit.

Kaya nga past na eh, the person now wont be the same kung hindi nya napagdaanan kung ano mang bagay sa PAST nya. You love her for who she is now, you just have to deal and accept whatever past she had. hindi importante [textspeak!] nakauna, mas importante na ikaw yung huli at ikaw nalang. 

P.S. Virginity is over-rated nowadays. (no offense to the virgins)

[xenos54]

i haven't had an experience with someone that i didnt have feelings for..
i only have 3 official X.. and only 1 previous experience..
i am friends with my gf prior our relationship..
though she know almost everything that happened between me and X..
im glad.. that did not include the sexual experiences..

so i dont think she's bothered.. but minsan.. may mga selos factor pa din naman..
pero hindi siya nagbabanggit bout sa sexual past.. 

[Naughty^GuRu]

i don't shares stories about my exes with my current partner. 3 lang naging bf ko and dun sa 2nd bf ko i never tell him about my 1st and same with my current bf, di ako nagkukwento talaga.

although i like to ask them about their past ako naman bihira mag open about it. luckily my bf now doesn't pry on my sexual past. seloso daw kasi siya and baka ma imagine niya habang nagku-kwento ako kaya huwag na lang. kahit nga may ma-mention lang ako about my ex nag se-selos na siya.

my reason for not sharing is ayoko kasi ma bring up iyon during an argument. most guys kasi pag galit sila inuungkat nila yung past. hahanap sila ng pwedeng isumbat kaya quiet lang ako para wala silang magsabi pag nag away kame.

buti pa dito sa GT nashashare mo  but yeah, it's better na hindi alam ng current BF/GF mo yung sexual Past mo. And dapat din don't ask na about your partner's past lalo na kung seloso ka. So "apir" to your BF na hindi na niya tinatanong.

Regarding guys who brings up past experiences pag may arguments, that's really immature. Lalo na kung hindi naman tungkol dun yung current issue niyo. If I were a girl, i'd be really really offended pag ginawa sakin yun.