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h_mische

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How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« on: March 20, 2012, 04:08:04 am »
1. Increases Jealousy: Facebook breeds
jealousy in more ways than one. From
old flames writing on your bf or gf's
wall, accepting friends of the opposite
sex that you don't know or "liking"
someone's status one too many times
is enough to drive some partners
crazy. Jealousy stems from your own
insecurities about your relationship,
but turning to Facebook is only going
to make it worse when you see
something you don't approve of.

2. Your Relationship Status: From
"single," "in a relationship," to "it's
complicated," Facebook is all about
people's statuses. Some couples argue
over the relationship status, or lack
thereof, because it is a stepping stone
in the relationship and it shows you're
cool with publically announcing your
love. If one person is hesitant to be
Facebook official and the other isn't, it
may be enough to make or break the
relationship.

3. Photos from the Past (or Present):
Photos are definitely the most popular
feature of Facebook. If you're a
habitual detagger or never post
pictures, you may not have to worry
about photos with exes. However, for
the other millions of people who have
no shame in their past may keep their
photos up. Seeing a current bf or gf
with their old love may not bother
some and drive others up the wall. If
you're a guy with lots of lady friends or
vice versa and you like to take pictures
with them, it may spark unnecessary
jealousy from your partner.

4. It's Addictive: You probably already
know this, but Facebook is highly
addictive. If you're a daily Facebooker
who's also in a relationship, you may
run into some problems every time
you sign on. Couples can become
addicted to spying on their partner's
Facebook profile, especially when they
spot something they don't like on
there. This kind of addiction feeds petty
jealousy that is not particularly healthy
for a relationship.

5. Friends with Exes: Without fail, exes
manage to become an issue on
Facebook. Whether you are Facebook
friends with your exes, communicate
via wall post or message one another,
jealousy and fights are sure to follow. It
may be completely innocent and not
hidden from your boyfriend or
girlfriend, but that doesn't mean your
significant other isn't going to have
something to say about it.

6. It's Too Easy to Snoop: It's not
impossible to crack into your significant
other's Facebook, or sneak a peek at
their messages when they leave the
room. Of course, if you're doing this
with or without permission, you may
have a bigger concern than just being
nosy. Snooping on your significant
other's Facebook to find dirt is a red
flag in a relationship.

7. Showing No Online Love: PDA is no
longer reserved for in person only.
More than ever, Facebook has become
the place to sweet talk your sweetheart
for the whole world to see. Showing
online affection is a big deal to some
couples, but not everyone is a fan of
the gushy love notes. This public
display of affection is done for many
reasons- for public attention, to
appease your significant other or you
just can't help but shout it from your
computer chair. Showing online
affection is usually never a problem
until one of the partners doesn't
respond, hides or deletes the
comment or doesn't say "I love you"
enough on Facebook.


-Super AGREE!
« Last Edit: March 20, 2012, 04:09:42 am by h_mische »

h_mische

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #1 on: March 20, 2012, 10:47:35 am »
haist lalo na pag naparami yung likes nya sa girl nyang friend. tsaka kapag hindi agad nagrereply sa PM, hala bubuksan ko account nya. nababasa ko mga chat nya minsan on the spot. stalker much. hehe buti na lang wala akong nakikitang hindi ko nagugustuhan. :)

simplecathy143

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2012, 10:54:16 am »
haha, grabe ah.. magkapareho tayo sis.. gawain ko din yan dati.. ngayon di na masyado eh :)

h_mische

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #3 on: March 20, 2012, 12:34:46 pm »
nahuli na kasi dati kaya nadala na siguro. hehe. :D

simplecathy143

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #4 on: March 20, 2012, 01:16:38 pm »
haha, tamaaa :) tska di ndn siya masyado nag oopen para wala na daw pag awayan pa  ;D
super selosa kasi ako eeh..

Beng01

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #5 on: March 20, 2012, 05:03:09 pm »
Awww, I know somebody na naging sila, at never pa silang nagkikita. Guy is working abroad, while girl is here sa Pinas. They would often display their affections sa fb - tags, shares, comments, likes, they even changed their accounts to timeline form. Araw araw silang nag chachat and check to each others status, saying I love yous, displaying affections, until naging source ng awayan, selosan (lalo na si girl super selosa and insecure!), tampuhan etc. The girl who is my friend, says, nasasakal na daw sa kanya, to the point na may tampuhan na at hanggang sa nagbreak sila this month lang.

I am glad my bf and I are not like them. We'll be one year na sa April.  ;D

h_mische

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #6 on: March 20, 2012, 06:00:52 pm »
^ wow. ano exact date baka sabay tayo. hehe.

kami rin ni bf lagi namin pinag aawayn fb lalo na nung bago pa lang kami. mahilig kasi ako makisawsaw sa mga comments, green jokes pa minsan haha. di sya natuwa. pati yung mga guy friends ko na nagcocomment, lagi tinatanong. ang ginawa nya, dinelete nya account nya para hindi nya makita. ayun, wala na kaming pinag aawayan.

nung umalis sya para mgwork, ng fb uli sya kasi LDR kami, i did quit my job kasi maselan ako maglihi so inip ako to the max. pinaglihian ko yata sya as in dumating ako sa point na parang nakatutok na lang ako fb pag alam kong out na sya. naghihintay na i PM nyako. kaloka magbuntis. hehe kapag nakita kong nakapagcomment sya sa iba tapos walang PM sakin, hala. away na.

pero ngayon hindi na. focus nako kay baby kasi. :-)

simplecathy143

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #7 on: March 20, 2012, 06:19:40 pm »
april din pla mga anniv nio sis.? april din ako eh.. haha..  ;D

ang laki talaga ng nagagawa at nagiging epekto ng social networking site..
« Last Edit: March 20, 2012, 06:25:16 pm by simplecathy143 »

Beng01

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #8 on: March 21, 2012, 12:54:21 pm »
hi sis h_mische, I hope you are enjoying motherhood :-)
Korek ganyan din ako dati selosa, pero nagbasa ako ng mga self help books, wala naman talaga dapat ikaselos so naging okay kame.

Naging kami nga pala ni bf April 14, 2011. :-)

^ wow. ano exact date baka sabay tayo. hehe.

kami rin ni bf lagi namin pinag aawayn fb lalo na nung bago pa lang kami. mahilig kasi ako makisawsaw sa mga comments, green jokes pa minsan haha. di sya natuwa. pati yung mga guy friends ko na nagcocomment, lagi tinatanong. ang ginawa nya, dinelete nya account nya para hindi nya makita. ayun, wala na kaming pinag aawayan.

nung umalis sya para mgwork, ng fb uli sya kasi LDR kami, i did quit my job kasi maselan ako maglihi so inip ako to the max. pinaglihian ko yata sya as in dumating ako sa point na parang nakatutok na lang ako fb pag alam kong out na sya. naghihintay na i PM nyako. kaloka magbuntis. hehe kapag nakita kong nakapagcomment sya sa iba tapos walang PM sakin, hala. away na.

pero ngayon hindi na. focus nako kay baby kasi. :-)

h_mische

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #9 on: March 21, 2012, 01:09:20 pm »
April 18 naman kami :)

yup i'm enjoying motherhood pero mahirap din. hehe rumaraket ako ng iba iba online. hehe para may extra income. hehe. mahal kasi gatas. hehe


simplecathy143

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #10 on: March 21, 2012, 04:03:13 pm »
april 27 naman kme :)

rheinfall18

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #11 on: April 27, 2012, 06:25:24 pm »
hi, share ko lang experience ko since nakaka-relate naman..i already posted this on other thread..

nagkaroon kasi kami ng argument ni bf regarding sa fb account nya. there is this time na hiniram ng boss nya yung account nya to sneak on to someone's page. actually co-worker nila yun at type ng boss nya. (married na si boss but super duper babaero!) when i found out nagalit ako. but then nagalit si bf sakin dahil sa naging reaction ko.

i pointed out to him that it is a personal and private account so kahit boss nya yun dapat hindi nya pinapahiram. i don't know what he does not understand on my part pero i'm really mad at that instance.

now, i'm worried dahil baka isipin ng girl type sya ni bf ko and you know what happens next..

h_mische

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #12 on: April 27, 2012, 06:32:24 pm »
hmmm... kung ako si bf magagalit din ako. hehe peace! :) kasi parang hindi naman sya ganun ka big deal. pano malalaman nung girl na may tumitingin sa account nya? hindi naman makikita sa FB kung sino nagview diba? unlike friendster.

Tsaka as long as walang contact, i mean PM, wall posts or comments na involved between your BF's account at sa girl, i think you have nothing to worry about. :)

Serena.

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #13 on: April 29, 2012, 05:23:59 pm »
IMHO, Hindi big deal para sakin to. ;) Honest naman kaya tiwala ako. :D


xo

JHAZbewithyou

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #14 on: May 29, 2012, 12:34:28 pm »
I agree. :)

simplyme

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #15 on: June 06, 2012, 01:09:10 pm »
Based on my experience, nakaka-ruin ng relationship ang FB kapag nagiging mag-friend ang mag-EX! Umpisa sa kamustahan, then chat, PM, tapos si BF like pa sa mga wall posts at photos ni EX nya. Example lang naman yan ...

simplecathy143

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #16 on: June 06, 2012, 02:14:00 pm »
nakaka-ruin ng relationship ang FB kapag nagiging mag-friend ang mag-EX! Umpisa sa kamustahan, then chat, PM, tapos si BF like pa sa mga wall posts at photos ni EX nya.

I agree with you sis.. in my case nman si ex itong nagcocomment at post sa wall ni bf.. Inadd nga din ako ng ex nia eh, then every wallpost or sweet comment nmen sa isat isa nililike nung girl..

h_mische

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #17 on: June 06, 2012, 06:56:19 pm »
I agree with you sis.. in my case nman si ex itong nagcocomment at post sa wall ni bf.. Inadd nga din ako ng ex nia eh, then every wallpost or sweet comment nmen sa isat isa nililike nung girl..

ako nga kinukuhang ninang sa binyag ng anak nya eh. hehe!

simplecathy143

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #18 on: June 07, 2012, 12:58:32 pm »
ako nga kinukuhang ninang sa binyag ng anak nya eh. hehe!

hahaha, really.? sakin naman sis, siya ang nagpprisintang ninang  ;D

simplyme

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Re: How Facebook Ruins a Relationship
« Reply #19 on: June 08, 2012, 11:35:49 am »
I agree with you sis.. in my case nman si ex itong nagcocomment at post sa wall ni bf.. Inadd nga din ako ng ex nia eh, then every wallpost or sweet comment nmen sa isat isa nililike nung girl..

nakiki-close? haha!

 

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