All About ADOPTION

[neraks]

Hi mga sis,naku ako may bagong experience dito. May nakausap kami yun nga magpapaadopt ng anak nya buntis pa siya,usapan namin sagot ko na paanak nya and humirit siya ng 20k kasi may babayaran daw siya sabi ko di ko kaya kasi yung babayaran pa sa lying inn. Pero still nagkasundo kami 15k na lang daw so ako sumige na rin ako. Nagka sarado na kami ang sabi nya tatawag siya pag malapit na manganak,pero ang siste nawala na siya at nalaman na lang namin na may ibang kumuha sa bata mas mataas yung binigay. Grabe ginawang negosyo yung bata tapos pinaasa lang kami.

[riaenvodka]

mga sis, remember if you are planning to adopt, make it legal. wag yung ilalagay lang sa birth certificate na parang ikaw yung mga magulang (that is against our law). at pag napatunayan pa, malalagot ka sa batas at mababale wala yung relationship mo  anak mo. in short, hindi rin sya marerecognize as legitimate. so please make it legal mga sisses ha.

ang dami ng nagpa advise sakin nyan at ngayon, panay sakit ng ulo na sila.

adoption process is tough but it is all worth it naman basta ang importante maging legitimate na mga babies nyo.

[mojitayanipot]

^ Thanks for the tip sis. May friend ako na nag-advice na ganun ang gawin (pagkapanganak, surname na namin agad ang ipalagay namin sa birth certificate). Good thing nabasa ko yung post mo. Didn't know that was illegal...

Sis chelgeneroso, grabe, naiyak ako sa kinwento mo sis... Pero I'm so happy that you got your miracle.

My hubby and I have been married for five years na this coming January 26. No baby parin hanggang ngayon. All's normal with me, pero mejo kulang daw ang count ni hubby. Add to that, he's super busy and stressed pa lagi sa work nya. We've been praying for a baby since we got married, and late last year lang namin na-realize na maybe God will give us our angel through adoption. So last year, we started praying for our angel a little differently.

This year sana namin balak mag-adopt kasi we started construction na of our house (we're still living with my hubby's parents). Kaya lang mejo kinulang sa funds so malabong matapos this year yung house namin. We might wait until we have our own house before we actually adopt. Feeling ko kasi, my MIL and I will clash sa pagpapalaki ng bata...

Curious question mga sis, how long does it usually take to process adoption papers?

[riaenvodka]

Sis moji, yung tagal ng process, depende kung saan mo ififile na court. May mga courts kasi na sa sobrang dami ng kaso, it will take you more than a year at meron naman na less than one year sis

[mojitayanipot]

^ Wow, it takes quite a while pala. Thanks sis! I'll tell my hubby about it.

[imalittleteapot]

mas ok sa DSWD. madaming tatrabahuhin at gastos pero pipili sila ng kamuka nyo. and then malilipat sa pangalan nyo yung baby.i know sasabihin nyo makikipag-usap na lang kayo sa buntis na nanay then sa inyo ipapangalan pagka-anak blah blah blah (naisip ko na yan dati at maraming manloloko) kapag kase nagbayad ka lang sa nanay to adopt her baby, child trafficking yun plus may habol sya sa bata kahit after 25 years pa yan. pero kapag dumaan sa DSWD. as in wala kahit saang korte pa sya magpunta. anak mo sya. period. wala pwede umagaw.

pwede kayo magsabi ng age, una sasabihin nila 6 mos lang ang youngest na kaya nila ibigay but i'm telling you kapag pumasa kayo sa screening, sa sobrang dami ng bata sa DSWD na hindi naampon kahit 1 week old baby, mabibigay nila sa inyo. yun yung mga iniiwan sa shoe box epek.

mine took a year kase specific ako sa gender and age pero if not, 4 mos to process everything meron na available na baby to adopt.

note: 2-3 yrs daw yung pag-aayos ng papers.

Good luck! more babies!

[sprinkles.mcwoozey]

Sisters, share ko sa inyo ang aking story. It's just my humble opinion and I don't want to offend anyone's view.

When my ovaries were taken out, and I accepted the fact that there is almost zero chance for a biological baby, dumaan ako sa depression na pagkalalim lalim.

Yung hubby ko, then boyfriend, wanted to adopt a child nalang for us to raise. I know his intentions are good and pure and just wants my mind to rest from depression. Ang problema, di ko masabi sabi sa kanyan a mas nasasaktan pa ako sa ginagawa niya. For someone who  is battling through infertility, adopting a child is a personal insult to my disability. Lagi kong sinasabi, career woman ako, super okay sa finances, super okay sa family members, then bakit ganun, wala akong baby? Hindi ako magkakababy?

Matagal naming pinag awayan ang issue ng adoption na yan at maraming nagsasabi sa akin na he goes to DSWD shelters to look for the "baby". He even went to the point na nagpromise na siyang i-aadopt niya yung unwanted child ng neighbor namin. Sabi ko if he will do that, he will lose me.

Ewan ko, siguro difficult person lang talaga ako. Ayaw ko lang i-give up yung possibility na sana, one day, magkaron kami ng sarili. Ayaw ko na nga ring umattend ng reunions, kasi nakakapagod na ring magexplain sa taong bayan kung bakit walang baby.

I realized na di ko rin naman kayang mawala siya sa buhay ko. Kaya I opened up to him about my real feelings toward adoption. I'm lucky he tried to understand and reached out. So nagcompromised na kami sa aming views. We adopted dogs instead.

After 12 months, pure joy ang binigay ng dogs sa amin. Nakabuo kami.

[imalittleteapot]

^
sis,

you're super lucky to have your hubby in many ways!

[byutijunkie]

It is really heart-warming to hear about your adoption stories.  I, myself, have an adopted sister who's turning 23 this year.  She is really God's gift to my family that is why someday when i have the finances, i will also adopt a baby.   

[SCOTTISHFOLD20]

Ako adopted ako, I'm turning 33 this year yikes pero ni minsan hindi nila ni open yun adoption. I mean no body told me. Nalaman ko na lang sa ibang tao.

When I was younger I felt miserable and did a lot of bad things.

Ngayon I'm older ngayon ko sobrang naappreciate ang mga nangyari sa buhay ko.

Sobrang thankful ako sa pag adopt nila sa akin at sa pag papaaral ni la sa akin.
[textspeak!] kung hindi nangyari I won't be where I am today.

I would say I am very successful and living a good life.

Kaya ako ayaw ko mag anak, gusto ko rin mag adopt to pay it forward.

Adoption is such a very good thing. I wish more people did it.

The only different thing I would do is I will tell my son or daughter na adopted sya bata pa lang para wala ng trust issues.

Kung me questions sya I will answer for her.

Salamat sa mga nag iisep mag adopt. Sobrang angels kayo.

[lirpa]

mga sis, remember if you are planning to adopt, make it legal. wag yung ilalagay lang sa birth certificate na parang ikaw yung mga magulang (that is against our law). at pag napatunayan pa, malalagot ka sa batas at mababale wala yung relationship mo  anak mo. in short, hindi rin sya marerecognize as legitimate. so please make it legal mga sisses ha.

ang dami ng nagpa advise sakin nyan at ngayon, panay sakit ng ulo na sila.

adoption process is tough but it is all worth it naman basta ang importante maging legitimate na mga babies nyo.

Sis, need your enlightenment...paano naging illegal yung hindi mo anak pero ikaw ang nilagay na magulang sa birth certificate? ano ang term na yun legally? same din ba sa lalaking umako sa bata at nilagay nyang sya ang ama sa birth certificate kahit hindi sya ang biological father?

[meimei]

^sis, i believe it's called "Simulation of Birth". illegal siya kasi kaya nga "BIRTH certificate", that legal document is supposed to indicate your biological parents. at kung tinakwil man ng ama or ina at may ibang gustong umako, there is a separate legal process for that, which is the adoption process. so dapat dumaan sa tamang proseso.

""Simulation of birth" is the tampering of the civil registry making it appear in the birth records that a certain child was born to a person who is not his/her biological mother, causing such child to lose his/her true identity and status."

Reference: http://www.lawphil.net/statutes/repacts/ra1998/ra_8552_1998.html

[lirpa]

^sis, i believe it's called "Simulation of Birth". illegal siya kasi kaya nga "BIRTH certificate", that legal document is supposed to indicate your biological parents. at kung tinakwil man ng ama or ina at may ibang gustong umako, there is a separate legal process for that, which is the adoption process. so dapat dumaan sa tamang proseso.

""Simulation of birth" is the tampering of the civil registry making it appear in the birth records that a certain child was born to a person who is not his/her biological mother, causing such child to lose his/her true identity and status."

Reference: http://www.lawphil.net/statutes/repacts/ra1998/ra_8552_1998.html

ganun pala yun sis. Buti nabasa ko ito kasi I thought OK lang yung ganun.

[Celerina]

hi imalittleteapot .. sis reading from your posts, it is my understanding that you adopt thru dswd? if you did, just want to know where you and your hubby had psycho evaluation? Thanks.

[simplepink]

hello! ask ko lang, malaki ba magagastos kung mag-aadopt sa dswd? separated kasi ako at gusto ko mag-ampon na lang ng baby. im 33 yrs old na din kasi and sabi nila mahirap na din magbuntis pa.

[Pepicles]

Hi

I'm 33 years old and just ended a 10 year relationship.  I wanted to adopt and sabi nila mahirap daw mag-adopt kapag single ka.  I'm in the process of completing requirements para maging foster parent muna then pwede mo na adopt yung baby pagtagal ng panahon thru DSWD din.

Ang fear ko lang ngayon baka hindi ako ma-approve kasi we have 6 small dogs at home. Single ako pero may work naman na ok and may sarili naman na kaming house.  Fear ko lang talaga baka hindi nila ako bigyan or i-license

Thanks

[Pepicles]

@simplepink I suggest you coordinate with a foundation na lang muna.  That's what i'm doing right now, I applied for a foster parent license then kapag nabigyan ka na ng baby pwede mo naman sya i-adopt kung gusto mo.  The Parenting Foundation yung name nung naghehelp sakin. 

[brendzy]

Hi mga sis! My husband and I have been TTC for 3 years now going 4, yet wala pa din. Adoption is one of our option in case. Yung gusto kasi naming in case is my niece, anak sya ng kapatid ko who is single parent. Paano yung process pag ganun? Clueless lang... TIA

[Pepicles]

Hi Sissies

Update lang! my application for Foster Parent License is approved na.  Waiting na lang ako ng placement ng foster child medyo specific kasi ako sa gusto ko. Girl sana na 0-6 months kasi plan ko din sya i-adopt.  Last week lang nastress ako kasi tinawagan ako ng social worker ko sabi may baby na daw pero boy tapos 3 months lang as in temporary care lang kasi yung mom daw nasa kulungan.  Hay naku pray ako ng pray everyday na sana tumawag na sila to tell me  na nandun na baby girl for me. 

I asked help from the Parenting Foundation super bait nila and accommodating.  Helpful din sila when it comes to questions during my requirement completion phase.  Super love ko yung social worker ko kahit super kulit ko sagot sya ng sagot sa text as in minsan nahihiya na akong magtanong pero kulit padin ako. 

[101095]

hello. goodafternoon  mag-aadopt po ba kayo ng baby? i am 7months pregnant willing po akong ipaampon nalang dahil hindi ko naman sya kayang palakihin. please tulungan niyo po ako baby boy po sya sa june na po kasi ang due date ko. pls contact me 09206188756