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pink_stardust

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Meeting THE parents: how to deal
« on: March 14, 2012, 09:37:59 pm »
mods, please merge kung may similar thread na. i searched, and only this came up: http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,248362.0.html

kaso it's more of a thread kung when, walang tips on how to dress and act. but if pwede sila pagsamahin, feel free to merge po :)

anyway, here goes:

Hi mga sis! ilang months na kami ni bf, pero I haven't established connections with his parents yet. Noon pa nya ako gusto ipakilala sa family nya, pero since di ako sanay na napapalibutan ng madamingtao (big family sila, super close sa aunts and uncles), I told him na parang di ako prepared. I want na mapalapit sa family nya, pero pag iniisip ko I feel anxious, na baka di nila ako magustuhan (although they are very nice people, according to his stories naman).

He has met my parents na and they like him naman, no problem. His parents have met me na din, pero di pa kami nakakapagusap talaga. Sa school lang and sa mall, nung nakasalubong nila kami.

I know na sooner or later, kailangan ko na talaga magpakilala nang maayos sa parents/family nya. Any tips na pwede magpabawas ng anxiety ko? Nerbyosang tao din kasi ako haha

I hope this thread will be useful din to fellow GTers na socially awkward like me =p

janix athena

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Re: Meeting THE parents: how to deal
« Reply #1 on: March 24, 2012, 01:43:05 pm »
Hi sis. I've searched this topic sa wikihow and doon naman western culture yung pinagbasehan. Mejo funny yung ibang suggestions like magpasalubong daw ng bottle of wine or a pot of plant. Ngiii! Hehe. I guess if your (possibly) future in-laws like it pwede mo siguro i-consider. :)

Pero based on what I've experienced so far, eto ang mga masu-suggest ko sayo.
1. Dress modestly. Wag revealing ang outfit or too skintight. Dapat classy yung fashion sense mo (kahit on that day lang), simple, pero elegant naman at di mukhang manang.

2. Wear minimum make-up. Para sa akin ang minimum ay: neutral lipstick, foundation that matches your skin tone (dapat hindi makapal, mukhang natural lang), mascara, subtle blush on. Pwede ka rin mag-apply minimum na eye-shadow (basta neutral shades lang and barely-there as in manipis lang) and very thin eye-liner.

3. Be yourself. Wag masyado magpa-impress. Anyone can sense if di nagpapakatotoo ang tao. Instead, be interested in them. Compliment their house, the food they served, o anything na worth complimenting. Ask them too about themselves. Wag masyado mahiya, it shows you are interested and an engaging guest. Basta hindi lang personal mga tanong or masyado nosy ang dating. Mga neutral lang na tanong. Or be playful and ask kung paano ba ugali ni bf nung bata sya. This can open  them up to tell you funny stories about your bf's childhood.

4. If they're serving you dinner/lunch, pwede mo ask si bf if you can bring desserts or fruits. Basta keep your hosts in mind. If diabetic sila or bawal ang matamis syempre avoid mo na magdala ng anything they won't enjoy. Kaya dapat mo muna ask si bf so he can give you ideas on what you can bring.

5. If you can avoid it, don't spend the night sa bahay nila. Even if the parents offered it. Kasi malamang they're just being polite. Mas may delikadeza pa rin kasi kapag di ka mag-overnight sa bahay ni bf.

6. Kahit pa-joke wag lalaitin si bf sa harap nila. Minsan kasi we think it's cute to make fun of our bf's, pero parents won't like to hear it.

7. They would probably interview you and ask you questions about your family. Wag muna mag-open up about negative issues or sob stories ng pamilya mo. There will be a better time for that, and it's definitely not the first time you meet them.

Ayun na lang muna for now. Keep us posted. Good luck. Smile, keep your chin up, sit up straight, wag mag-slouch. Go girl! :)

Serena.

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Re: Meeting THE parents: how to deal
« Reply #2 on: April 29, 2012, 06:48:55 pm »
Ganyan din ako dati. Kaya nga napakilala lang ako nung 1 year na kami. same situation talaga tayo sis.
Tips i can give you are:

-magbihis ng maayos, never ever magsshorts or maiikling damit para hindi nila isipin na liberated ang personality mo at pangseryosohan ka
-always SMILE, para hindi nila isiping maldita o supladita ka
-always talk with PO and OPO, magiging bastos at walang galang ang image mo kung andapong ka sumagot
-Try mo din naman makipagclose sa mga kapatid nya, pero wag yung OA na nagmumuka ka ng plastic
-Tapos bless agad pagkita mo kasi talagang yan agad ang titignan sayo.

HTH! GOODLUCK SIS! ;)



xo

 

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