All About Insecurities & Being Confident

[yha_chun24]

i feel the same way 

i know it ain't right na mainsecure sa iba kasi iba sya, iba ako. i was created this way, pero di ko alam kung bakit these past few days, sobrang insecure ako sa ex-gf ng ex-bf ko na.. kahit anong convince ko sa sarili ko na kelangan ko lang tanggapin di ko pa rin maiwasan.. siguro kelangan ko lang ulit ulitin hanggang unti unti maabsorb ng mind ko at makuntento ako sa kung ano ang binigay saken 

[clownpanget]

madalas kasi, kapag kasama ko bf ko, naiinsecure ako sa mga girls na chiks kpag nakakasalubong namin okaya naman nakakasakay lang sa jeep, parang ang sakit kasi wagas siya makatingin sa mga ganun, kunwari na lang hindi ko siya nakikita, pero deep inside, nasasaktan na ako  eh ang sabi niya sakin, pinili niya ako dahil simple lang ako, hindi nag mmake up, hindi maarte pero bakit ganun. 

[x-y]

Dati insecure ako sa mga ex nya kase masmagaganda sila sa akin. Tapos feeling ko may comparison and all. Now, I feel confident sa dami ng pinagdaanan ko. I don't care if I am not super sexy or if I don't have flawless skin. Alam ko kase na di lang naman physical aspect ang nagmamatter e

[mikoarai]

Everyone has their own insecurities kahit na super ganda mo or guwapo mo pa. Minsan pa nga sila pa yung maraming insecurties kasi they are more conscious and pressure to always look good. So what's really important is how you feel about yourself. You need to learn to love youself first before everyone else can start loving you, or else walang katapusan na insecurities talaga ang mangyayari sayo.

I think being confident is the sexiest trait someone can have than just having a pretty face. Iba daw talaga ang aura pag confident yung girl and I'm not saying mayabang okay? haha A girl is confident pag she will stop comparing herself to others and know exactly what she wants for herself. Don't live your life pleasing other people's eyes. Pero siyempre kung talagang insecure ka sa physical appearance mo try your best to make yourself look good. For example, trying out new styles of clothes, make-ups or even change your hair. Don't hesitate to seek advice from people you know they could help you.

Being prettty is both a hard work on your physical appearance and your inner personality 

[snix]

i have many insecurities and because my bf works in a hotel where girls are required to be beautiful all the time, i can't help but compare my self.. There would come a time that I would ask tell myself that Kaya lang niya ko niligawan kasi last choice niya ko..I'm also insecure about the fact that i don't have any achievements. self-fulfillment kung baga..

But I don't want to e stuck feeling this way which is why I'm working hard everyday to love myself more.. It's hard to battle with yourself but I think it's the only way I can be happy if i learn to love myself more and accept my flaws and imperfections

[mikoarai]

^dear snix

I know exactly how you feel about this sis, since I also experienced that with the guy I kind the dated. Yung sa kanya naman marami talaga siya na female friends tapos magaganda talaga. His ex is also super maganda at sexy kaya I felt so insecure why he chose me sa dami ng babae sa paligid niya then I started to feel insecure about myself. I felt little when I'm surrounded by his female friends that eventually really made me vulnerable and dependent on him. When it didn't work between us, nafeel ko na when he left nasama niya pati confidence ko.

Pero alam mo now, I regret it. I should have stood tall and be proud of myself kasi despite sa lahat ng babae sa paligid niya he chose to stay beside me that time and that just shows I have something that other girls don't have and not just physical appearance. Kaya siguro it didn't work between us kasi I didn't love myself enough for him to love me. I hope this won't happen to you.

and I understand loving yourself is not just one day thing to overcome so take your time. Discover everyday how you are special on your own ways and dapat mafeel mo talaga yun for yourself for your boyfriend to realize how lucky he is to have you 

[jamila_19]

insecure ako nowadays dahil siguro mataba ako at feeling ko hindi ako blooming... hehe!

[ann08]

I just remembered when I met someone from an online dating site for the first time. After we met,
he asked me what was my impression about him physically. Then he complimented the way I looked
then he asked if I am going outdoors so often. I know I should put sunblock, etc haha I he's kinda concerned or curious lang.
I know he's vain but I do not know how to handle that kind of guy na mas vain than me.

[snowflakes]

dati wala akong insecurities. pero ngayon meron na kase kakapanganak ko pa lang... feeling ko di na ko makakapag two piece sa summer. ang taba taba ko. ang panget panget ko. siguro postpartum depression to. kaya minsan di ako nakain para lang bumalik sa dati kong weight. i know its not right pero im so scared maging mataba. i hate my tummy! grrrrrr

[snix]

@sis jarmi33- hi sis ngayon ko lang nakita reply mo..thanks for sharing your story..may i also add that insecurity causes me to be clingy and praning all the time which i really hate..

his lola hates me even said na muka akong yagit..sino ba naman ang hindu maiinsecure niyan..

i think the first step is accepting that you have a problem.. ako dati dinedeny ko na insecure ako pero inaddress ko na yung problema because i felt so miserable everyday..anong klaseng relasyon to kung lagi na lang ganun mararamdaman ko..

now i'm working to better myself.. it takes lots of really hardwork and a lifetime commitment.. shutting down your world to what others think and say about you is also something i have to master..

i'm doing this for myself and not for him.. loving myself will allow me to be whole again and be able to love him more and be secure in our relationship..

[angelzero]

i've learned to be less insecure over the years. i've been insecure since i was a kid since i'm a tall girl. when i was in grade 1, a friend even told me "madami sana magkaka crush sayo kung di ka matangkad." ouch! all these years hindi ko pa rin sya maalis sa isip ko. kaya din siguro ako naging mahiyain. fast forward to my early 20's: dating. hayyyy!! i agree to blind dates only to find out that these guys have a problem with my height. yung iba naman na hindi nadyadyahe sa height ko, they find me too shy or not "flirty enough." now i even joke my bf pa nga na baka pagpalit nya ko sa girl na petite, maputi, chinita and loves to wear short shorts (everything i'm not LOL). it's a half meant joke kasi insecure talaga ako sa mga ganung itsura.

right now i'm still kinda insecure cuz of body type issues but i'm not fat naman, medium built lang. i'm just a typical girl with typical body insecurities. pero i'm now definitely proud of my height. i also find my general appearance very unique plus i feel way way better cuz i get to dress up the way i want to be. i feel like a very cool chick. what makes me feel confident is that i know i'm different from everybody else. ironically, being different was what made me insecure when i was a kid. hehe! so just embrace your uniqueness with confidence and hopefully people will take notice (in a good way). 

[hanson15]

I started my insecurity since year 2008.  When i have my first official bf now my fiance since 2007. Ok pa ako noon eh. Pero when my bf started his first job. May nakekwento siya sakin na may lumalapit sa kanya. Not only one but mga 3 na sila. Then i realized na gwapo pala bf ko.  Parang dati wala kasi ako pakelam.

Then one day may date kami kaso sa sobrang busy niya nakalimutan niya na on that same day ininvite siya ng kaofismate niyang guy. So i have no choice sinama ako ng bf ko sa party.

Hetong isang babae na papansin. Napansin ko rin siya kasi magaslaw kumilos. Napatingin kami pareho ng bf ko. Lalo na yung bf ko nahuli ko talaga siya nakatingin sa kanya. Nung Before kami kumain. kasi magaslaw yung kilos ng girl at malakas ang boses..

After namin kumain naginuman sa labas ng bahay. Then napansin ko na maganda pala yung girl since katabi ko siya. Pero pag tinitigan mo mukang katulong. Pero may appeal eh.

Heto nananaman yung babae uminom ng alak tapos after one sip. Binigay niya sa bf ko. kuya ayoko na sayo nalang. heto naman bf ko tinaggap.

Di lang ako makapagsungit noon dahil party ng friend niya eh pinakain kami.

One day mga 1 month after random question i ask my bf kung meron siyang crush sa ofis nila. I always do that since nung nagkaroon siya ng work. Sabi niya lang dati marami maganda sa marketing. Then sinabi niya aawayin ko raw pag nalaman ko. then i said no. Ayun inamin niya na crush niya yung girl. I was hurt sobra. though crush lang yun. Pero kasi nakita kung ano nangyari.

after so many years. I always got jealous until now. And 6yrs after my bf is in other country na. Nagkataon pa na yung husband nung girl is andun din same place where he is in.

Nalaman ko nalang na yun yung girl because i have to get some pasalubong from  my bf and kukunin ko sa house nung girl. Nakita ko sa personal ang pangit pala.  ang itim pa. I am always asking myself habang andun bakit siya nagustuhan.

Then i was looking at her fb. Maganda siya sa picture. Picture lang siguro dahil pala makeup. Sino bang babae ang hindi maganda when makeup on?

Till now ganito pa rin ako its been 6 yrs already and having lots of issues like big arms, big face and overweight. Pero i dont know im just 110 pounds with 5'2"" height. Others think its not overweight.

Basta i feel ugly as ever. I want to learn makeup so i did workshop 3 times na. Nag one on one makeup pako. Wala nangyari.

Sorry ang haba sis

[Shadow Angel]

For me normal lang magkaroon ng insecurities lahat naman tayo may kanya kanyang insecurities, pag over nga lang hindi na maganda, ako since nagka break out ang skin ko sa face lalo ako nagkaroon ako ng insecurities dami pa... Yun iba na oover come ko yun iba nandito pa rin...

[molybdenumstudios]

Yay! Fit in ako dito...

I actually feel insecure on my:

Hands and feet
Skin color
Teeth Color
Hair type

That's it.

That's because of my first serious crush since Grade Six... huhuhu. Chos!

[molybdenumstudios]

insecure ako pero hindi ko sinasabi sa ibang tao.  a secret i've been keeping to myself as a child.
elementary days until high school and college people would always say "why are you so pretty?" pero sa loob-loob ko i never ever see myself that way. i see myself ugly all the time. kaya pag sinasabihan ako ng maganda feeling ko they're just being polite or kind. i feel really bad.

what i do when i feel like this? i focus on other things. it's hard actually but i try.

siguro kasi when i was a child my siblings always poke fun at me. so when i'm outside and strangers and schoolmates tell me i'm pretty i never believe them.

so to girls who are already mothers please never ever let your child be insulted kahit na pabiro. tumatatak sa utak ng bata yon hanggang tumanda na siya. kahit joke.

Wow ah. Kahit ako ganun rin. I never believed those people when they always tell me that I'm pretty because actually marami rin akong flaws. Inggit ako sa mga mapuputi't straight ang hair, lalo na when the person is around 5'5" or taller pero ang hands and feet are too small (yeah it's much cuter talaga tingnan for me ah) and when the person is also fair-skinned tapos maputi at straight talaga ang ngipin.

Dati I super dislike my thick eyebrows pero na-realize ko na it adds more emphasis to my "beauty" har har. So yeah, I appreciate it more

[imyourangel]

Insecure din ako! Nakakainis. Feeling ko, he will always look at other girls. Though feeling lang naman yun diba... Hay. This is so unhealthy.

[molybdenumstudios]

Super inggit ako sa mga taller girls with smaller hands than mine. Actually, both my parents have huge hands and curly hair, which is something I'm very ashamed of. It's really a bad thing that I inherited all the UGLY features (read: UGLY) based on beauty standards imposed in a shallow and in a hypocritical manner by Western and Filipino standards. Yep, super mismatched lahat ang nasa katawan ko. Mixed of ugly + unattractive but maybe it's just me haha.

[snix]

@sis hanson15-sis relate ako! as in ganyan din dahilan bakit ako naiinsecure.. wala ako pake dati kaya lang knkwento niya na ang dami daw nagkakacrush sa kanya which is true dahil knwkwento ng office mates niya.. ngayon ko narealize gwapo pala bf ko..i didn't care about looks kasi when it comes to relationships..

tapos ang aganda pa ng mga babae sa hotel..expected ko na marami siya crush then i'd often find myself comparing myself to those girls he mentioned.. ang common denominator: maputi at chinota.. things i'm not and will never be..

ayun pakiramdam ko sobrang pangit ko kahit anong ayos ang gawin ko.. sana makagetover ako

[hanson15]

Apir Sis! Same tayo until now i don't giveup of loosing weight. mga 100 pounds sana yung mukang kalansay.  Since yun naman ang uso ngayon yung mukang kalansay at mukang bakla. Hahaha pag nakakakita ako ng bakla ang sexy ng tingin ko sa kanila. Kasi yun na ang modern look ngayon.

Your bf is just saying the truth. Lagi nagkkwento sakin ang bf ko kasi ayaw niya na naglilihim siya. His mom have green eyes. Si bf naman light brown ang weird lang.


Oh well back to exercise and diet. At maghahanap ako makeup class again.

[simangski]

Naiinsecure din ako ngayon. Inadd kase ako sa FB nung ex ni bf. Grabe ang puti nya at gumanda sya infairness ha tapos nakabrace pa sya. Nakakainsecure lang. At heto ako nadedepress sa pimples and pimple marks.

Tapos one time nasabi ko kay bf. "Ganda nung ex mo no? " Tapos sabi nya, "di kaya, mas maganda ka pa dun e." Buti na lang love ako ni bf kahit ganto pingdadaanan ko ngayon. Tinatanggap ko naman na. Kaso natetempt ako na iunfriend yung girl!haha Para di ko na makita mukha nya. )