LDR dillema...

[xenos54]

ayoko na rin LDR. natutukso ako. huhu

sis sana di ka bumigay sa tukso.. 

[xenos54]

My boyfriend and I broke up two weeks ago just because he's secretly planning to go abroad. I got really mad when I discovered it & I felt betrayed  Okay fine, he's going abroad even if it means losing me kaya ipagpapalit ko na siya   

baka naman sis nag re-ready lang siya for your future.. sana you gave him chance to explain naman..
bakit naman pala going abroad = losing you agad? diba pwede i work out naman?

[featlylady]

baka naman sis nag re-ready lang siya for your future.. sana you gave him chance to explain naman..
bakit naman pala going abroad = losing you agad? diba pwede i work out naman?

oo nga sis yun naman talaga ang parati niyang sinasabi sa akin na para daw sa future namin etc... dumating kasi sa point na pinapili ko siya kung "abroad o ako" lol. and he still chose to go abroad secretly kahit parati niyang sinasabi na ako ang pinipili niya 

nakita ko na ngayon ang larger picture, super childish ko nga. but nagkabalikan na rin kami mga two days ago lang, usapang masinsinan talaga ang nangyari. lol. we both decided to work it out kahit saan pa siya madestino. di na nga siya mag-aabroad pero malaki naman ang chance na sa batangas or bohol siya mapupunta. basta magrerequest siya na dito na lang sa Pilipinas siya idestino para raw sa akin. I dunno kung dapat ko yun ikasaya kasi LDR parin naman ang magging kahahantungan nito not unless sa Roosevelt or Commonwealth siya i-assign and the chance is very slim  . But at least we're both willing to work for our relationship, so there's hope. thanks sis lahat ng friends ko ganyan din ang sinabi, to "work it out"... and now i'm convinced 

[xenos54]

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sis.. im happy that you worked it out.. kasi sis.. if you really love him sis.. you'd let him make you the foundation of his dreams.. ikaw yung magbibigay sa kanya ng will to survive kung nasan man siya.. kasi i-assure mo siya that home is where you are.. yung ganung tipo.. para lage siya may energy.. at may hope na may babalikan siya.. diba? hehe..

basta set niyo lang properly ang expectations.. and try to meet (if not exceed) it.. trust is very important.. good luck sis.. 

[det060403]

aww... ako din, hindi ko kaya LDR... I need someone tangible! Nakakalungkot kapag malayo.

[featlylady]

^^
sis.. im happy that you worked it out.. kasi sis.. if you really love him sis.. you'd let him make you the foundation of his dreams.. ikaw yung magbibigay sa kanya ng will to survive kung nasan man siya.. kasi i-assure mo siya that home is where you are.. yung ganung tipo.. para lage siya may energy.. at may hope na may babalikan siya.. diba? hehe..

basta set niyo lang properly ang expectations.. and try to meet (if not exceed) it.. trust is very important.. good luck sis.. 

very encouraging sis, salamat.  may bago na naman akong natutunang pananaw re. this LDR-s***. lol. isang factor na rin siguro yung pagkakaiba namin ng stage sa buhay, I'm currently on my fifth year in college habang siya more than 2yrs nang working. Ang hirap specially nung nsa adjustment stage pa lang siya napakastressful and rocky talaga ng relationship namin compared nung undergrad pa siya. I feel so left out since we were really growing apart na. At feeling ko lagi lugi ako kasi maraming opportunities ang nasasayang dahil siya na lang lagi ang inaantay ko. LOL.

PS: nung nabasa ko yung "home is where you are" isa lang kagad ang pumasok sa isip ko, HOME RADIO.

[featlylady]

aww... ako din, hindi ko kaya LDR... I need someone tangible! Nakakalungkot kapag malayo.

I feel you sis 

[geekybride]

sises... this thread reminds me of my LDR, some eons ago!  it lasted barely 1.5 years.  there may be couples out there who can sustain LDRs (i salute them!), pero grabe, it's really not for everyone. certainly not for me. it takes a lot of maturity, trust and self-control to sustain it.

on the other hand, there are some things in LDRs that makes it so worth it!  yung overwhelming joy pag nagkita na kayo ulit!  parang everything else fades into the background?  haay...    hehe.

i guess, like everything else in life, we take the bad with the good. 

[xenos54]

At feeling ko lagi lugi ako kasi maraming opportunities ang nasasayang dahil siya na lang lagi ang inaantay ko. LOL.

PS: nung nabasa ko yung "home is where you are" isa lang kagad ang pumasok sa isip ko, HOME RADIO.

sis baket you feel lugi? inaantay mo siya? eh diba siya yung ahead sayo kasi work na siya.. ikaw school pa?

hehe.. di ko lam yung sa home radio ah.. hehe.. mapakinggan nga yan..

[featlylady]

^ I feel lugi kasi there are better opportunities for me, haha feelingeree ko LOL. Though temping, of course I have to admit that I'm taken already. And sometimes there's regret for choosing this guy who's not even there for me whenever I needed him 

Plenty of times BEFORE I didn't feel his care and concern anymore to the extent that I wonder whether or not I really do have a boyfriend ---or someone who's just my textmate/callmate/chatmate. I don't know if (emotionally) high maintenance lang talaga ako.  Anyway, that was BEFORE. Sabi nga nila love is sweeter the second time around, and I doubt if that's true though. LOL. Sana tuloy-tuloy na to 

[xenos54]

^ I feel lugi kasi there are better opportunities for me, haha feelingeree ko LOL. Though temping, of course I have to admit that I'm taken already. And sometimes there's regret for choosing this guy who's not even there for me whenever I needed him 

Plenty of times BEFORE I didn't feel his care and concern anymore to the extent that I wonder whether or not I really do have a boyfriend ---or someone who's just my textmate/callmate/chatmate. I don't know if (emotionally) high maintenance lang talaga ako.  Anyway, that was BEFORE. Sabi nga nila love is sweeter the second time around, and I doubt if that's true though. LOL. Sana tuloy-tuloy na to 

sis nabasa mo ba yung 80/20 rule daw?
that 80% of what you will need from your partner makukuha mo na sa current partner mo..
and there's this 20% na makukuha mo sa ibang tao..
ang question daw ay ipapag-palit mo ba yung 80% na meron ka na ngayon for the 20% that you are hoping to get from the other person..

kung tutuusin sis.. there are A LOT more person better than your current partner..
that is the truth.. same as the truth that there are a lot more better person than you are..
pero if you'll come to think of it.. maybe.. just maybe.. you already have exactly what you need..
it comes down to commitment and contentment from what you already have.. 

[jamberryknots]

i am also currently in a LDR..mahirap talaga..
like sis ldrwifey ako din i made my own decision to sort of go into seclusion..alam ko kasi na prone ako sa temptations..
i guess communication is a big part to make it work and patience..

[featlylady]

sis nabasa mo ba yung 80/20 rule daw?
that 80% of what you will need from your partner makukuha mo na sa current partner mo..
and there's this 20% na makukuha mo sa ibang tao..
ang question daw ay ipapag-palit mo ba yung 80% na meron ka na ngayon for the 20% that you are hoping to get from the other person..

kung tutuusin sis.. there are A LOT more person better than your current partner..
that is the truth.. same as the truth that there are a lot more better person than you are..
pero if you'll come to think of it.. maybe.. just maybe.. you already have exactly what you need..
it comes down to commitment and contentment from what you already have.. 

sis parang 20% lang 'ata ang kay boyfie tapos yung 80% nasa ibang tao na malapit sa akin. lol. but well said, I cannot disagree  maybe my love tank isn't empty after all, maybe it's just all in my mind. contentment... wala 'ata ako nun 

[_ania_]

mga sis ano mafifeel nyo kung makita [textspeak!] un pic ng bf mo sa fb na may angkas sa motor na girl? because i think that was one of their trips. motorcycling. di sya naginform san un lakad nila and even turned off his cp. his claiming that the one who took the pictures was mismong bf nung angkas nya. from morning til sunset d sya nagparamdam not until night. for me, nung nakita ko un pic sa friend nya sobrang mega text ako about that. hay, so insensitive.

[dherish09]

Ang hirap talaga ng LDR kahit ako nahirapan ako Im in a relationship for 4 years at LDR kami ng 3 years tapos dami ko nababalitaan sa mga friend ko na may iba siya tapos one time may nag text sakin na sila daw nung partner ko. Hirap magtiwala pero nakaya ko naman at ngayon nagbago na siya. Magtiwala ka lang sa BF mo. Pero kung hindi kana masaya iwan mo nalang siya kesa pataggalin mo pa.

[mitchal18]

sis sana di ka bumigay sa tukso.. 

nakakatukso talaga. Kahit na mahal mo yung ka LDR mo, [textspeak!] physical needs [textspeak!] kelangan ma satiate, kahit [textspeak!] kang emotional connection sa kalaguyo mo.

[dherish09]

hahaha madali lang aman hindi matukso basta mahal mo yung mahal mu

[featlylady]

mga sis ano mafifeel nyo kung makita [textspeak!] un pic ng bf mo sa fb na may angkas sa motor na girl? because i think that was one of their trips. motorcycling. di sya naginform san un lakad nila and even turned off his cp. his claiming that the one who took the pictures was mismong bf nung angkas nya. from morning til sunset d sya nagparamdam not until night. for me, nung nakita ko un pic sa friend nya sobrang mega text ako about that. hay, so insensitive.

ersh. kung ako nasa kalagayan mo sis, red flag yan. 

nakakatukso talaga. Kahit na mahal mo yung ka LDR mo, [textspeak!] physical needs [textspeak!] kelangan ma satiate, kahit [textspeak!] kang emotional connection sa kalaguyo mo.

I feel that way too. Pero ako naman I'm craving for attention, affection and physical presence ni boyfie. Since wala naman siya at lagi raw siyang "busy" and he doesn't give a damn about me, natetempt talaga ako na sa ibang guys na lang kunin yung tatlong pangangailangan ko na yun tutal naman maraming better opportunities for me, LOL. sobrang deprived talaga ako, for me our relationship doesn't serve its purpose anymore. 

[dherish09]

Ako kasi hindi ko pa nararanasan na fall sa iba kahit LDR ako dati

[shyreen]

6 years na kmi ni bf at this november plang namin mararanasan ang ldr :-( ayoko sana umalis pero kailangan sa work.. tiis tiis lang muna 8 months lang naman.. sana makasurvive kami