Online Dating

[kvandenhaak]

Hindi pa kami nag-away. Awayin ko kaya? Lol! He was pretty saucy yesterday. Pero, di ko pinapatulan. Umandar na naman yung pagiging understanding ko.

[angeljolie]

^How was he saucy? Anong topic? Or was he saucy the entire time?

[kvandenhaak]

I meant grumpy pala. For girls lang pala yung saucy... LOL!

I texted him kasi Friday evening asking that if he's available, he is welcome to come to our Christmas party at lunch. Before I left home I asked again because he didn't reply. I said, "Hey, weirdo! I was asking you something?" Taray ng sagot. Kagigising lang daw nya. His daughter has fever daw so he's "allowed" again to see her. Syempre daw kasi yung ex daw nya ang boss. When he has the child he is focused daw and he does not live on his phone so don't expect instant reply and was busy since he got his daughter again. Yung mga ganern ba? Sabi ko, last night ko pa sinend yung text and if he can go online, he CAN reply so don't give me that excuse. I was pretty calm though. He said sorry. Next time he text, hindi ko rin sasagutin and will give the similar response. Kung gusto nya, break up pa eh. Para namang ikamamatay ko... LOL! Ngayon pa!

[angeljolie]

^Grumpy naman ang pagkagets ko sa saucy, don't worry LOL!

Ah teka ano ba talaga kayo? Parang kayo na parang hindi.

[kvandenhaak]

^Parang ganon.. LOL! It's non - serious relationship. Nag text kagabi eh, pero sandali lang.

There's a gathering for singles and a class for single parents that I am going to attend starting January in my church. Do I ditch him now or wait if I meet someone there? I kinda gave a hint though. I said I am getting tired and I want to take a break.

[angeljolie]

^Eto ang gawin mo: mag Stresstabs ka. Lol!

Seriously, don?t do anything yet. Nagmamadali ka ba? Ayan yung sinasabi ko sa friend ko na kahit alam na natin ang takbo ng isip ng lalake at feeling natin ganun na din tayo mag isip, babalik at babalik yung pagkababae natin. Chill ka lang ulit (which doesn?t mean you have to take him for granted or leave him). Wala ka naman hinahabol na deadline di ba? Get to know him more if you think he?s worth it. Let him do it his way. Then decide later on if you?re okay with it. Sa ngayon, feeling ko lang naman, it?s too early to decide on that.

Minsan naiinip na din ako dito kay papa P pero iniisip ko na lang, hindi kasi sya desperado to be with someone. At hindi pa naman din ako desperada. Oo gusto ko mag asawa pero hindi naman din agad agad. Of course I would want to know the person well muna. And it?s true for everyone. Alam ko he wants to get to know me more too. Only time will tell kung para kami sa isa?t isa. I?m not trying to justify his unreadiness (if there?s such a term lol). Medyo nahimasmasan lang din ako na gusto ko ba talaga makapangasawa from an online dating site in a matter of a few months? Eh pano pala kung pyscho sya? Sa ngayon we?re enjoying each other?s (virtual) company. I?m glad he?s always present and he takes extra effort in making me feel secure when I?m doubting. So far pasensyoso sya sa mga hirit kong nakakairita. Sana hindi magsawa lol. At sana kasi mapigilan ko din humirit. He?s never lied so far so ewan kung bakit ako humihirit. I blame the hormones lol.

But I digress. Back to you. If you think he?s not worthy of your time, sige makipag break ka. Pero kung feeling mo may potential sya to be a good partner, siguro give yourselves time to get to know each other better. At yung pag brand ba na non-serious kayo was a mutual decision or inassume mo lang?

Anyway, let him be the man. But lower your expectations. Also, he doesn?t need to know your plans of attending the singles chuvanes. Baka isipin pa nagpapapigil ka. Umattend ka without telling him (which isn?t the same as lying about it). Kung may makilala kang iba, sorry na lang sya at petiks kasi sya.

Basta, slow down lang muna. You might be going too fast. Wag naman break agad. Ang bilis mo naman mapagod hehe.

[kvandenhaak]

^Thanks, Sis! Siguro nainis lang ako sa ka-chorvahan nya kahapon. To be honest, I don't think we will really end up with each other. But then we don't really know, right? Dami ko kayang sinabi dati na kinain ko rin later. Is he worth it? I don't know yet. We are still in a getting-to-know-each-other stage. He is clear from the beginning naman that at that point, when we met, he wasn't looking for something too serious. But he is open to the idea that if we connect mentally, it can become serious. And I wasn't either. So no, that's not an assumption. It's clear even before we met because I asked.   I "allocated" 2017 for my fun time. Kaya nga nagkaron ng Eric, your boy, di ba? LOL! And I had fun and I am having fun. The athlete and I are getting along well naman. We have fun when we see each other.  Ako nga lang ginagawang shock absorber sa frustrations nya sa ex nya...lol! But I am aware though that he still logs on to the site where we met. I mean, I do sometimes too. But I asked if he is dating or seeing someone else and said he isn't. I mean, technically, we still can "shop" around because we're not in a committed relationship yet.

You're right, I have to lower my expectations. Mababa naman talaga so pag di sya nagti-text, keber di ako...lol! One month ngang wala communication di ba? This was meant to be something fun and if I overthink, then I won't be anymore. Besides, one thing he likes about me, he said, is that I am not clingy. Chill lang kumbaga.

Now, I don't know if I will meet someone in that class. Baka naman puro kami single moms...lol! But if given the opportunity, I will date someone from church. So yeah, sorry na lang sya if ever...lol!

Okay, back to chill mode ulit.

[angeljolie]

^Lol how?s my boy Eric???😂

Nakakainis naman talaga yung katarayan ni athlete pero bawal sabayan! Ayan sige panindigan ang chill mode ha. Pag naiinis ka na, itago mo muna phone mo. Ako dati ang ginagawa ko nimu-mute ko yung chat namin para kahit mag message sya di ko malalaman agad. Hintay ko muna lumamig ulo ko hehe.

At since wala pa naman pala kayo sa serious mode, di ka pa pwede maging demanding. Mag concentrate ka na lang muna on being someone he would date seriously. Don?t turn into being the annoying one. Kung buraot sya sa buhay nya, be his happy place. Which means bawal ka muna mag maldita lol! Enjoy ka lang din.

[kvandenhaak]

^Eric's doing very well except parating sawi ang puso....hahaha! We were texting last week lang. He told me his plans of getting another property. Nakalimutan ko palang batiin ng Merry Christmas. Hopefully, he is out of town with friends to chill a little bit. He's a perfect example of a hard worker.

Well, next time he text deadmahin ko muna ng couple of days. Two weeks akong off but each day this week is pretty much booked and I want to finish what I put in my planner. After that na lang. He said he will take me out next time for some awesome Pho. Nung dumating kasi sya last time 11:30pm na. He was working late tapos mukhang naligo muna kasi fresh na fresh ang mokong but he was hungry. Eh ayaw nya ng instant food. Gusto nya ipagluto ko daw sya next time. Eh kaya ako nga nainis kasi manong sumagot agad para alam ko if I need to cook the food I bought or what? Tapos out of town pala tapos magsusungit pa sya ng mga lagay na yon. Yun kasi pinakaayaw ko sa kanya, as in. Kasi ako organized lahat, pati schedule. I have a planner and I plan a week in advance. Sya hindi, kung ano maisipan. Madali akong ma-stress sa mga biglaan at hindi planado. Nalalaglag talaga ang halo ko minsan....lol!

[angeljolie]

^Aww hugs to Eric!

Well you both need to adjust to each other. Wala naman sigurong couple na swak na swak sa una. Pero alam mo, minsan masaya din yung spontaneous. Basta ang motto ko, ok lang as long as it would not kill me or anyone. Lol! Hindi mo kaya i-control ang ibang tao so kung ang plano mo includes other people, dalawa lang yan: be ready to adjust or get disappointed. I always go for the least stressful.

[kvandenhaak]

^Yeah, but I gotta say something. Otherwise, he will think it's okay. Ayaw pa ring umurong ng sungay ko so I don't know what's gonna happen...lol!  Update ko kayo sa mangyayari.

[angeljolie]

^If you think it?s for the better, go! Abangers ako sa updates lol!

[kvandenhaak]

Hindi pa rin ako chill paggising ko. I was really turned off. I am probably gonna drop the bomb anytime today and in the coming days. Start na lang ulit ng fresh for 2018. Perfect time to do that.

[angeljolie]

^Aww. Follow your heart! If it's telling you to let go, then do.

[kvandenhaak]

^I texted him mid morning saying, "Text me when you read this!". Di naman nagtagal, sumagot agad ng, "Hey, what's up?" (walang idea sa mangyayari...lol!). I backed off a little bit dahil mahirap magsalita pag inis. I said, "Let me get back to you when I settle down. I will text you later!" which he said, "Ok!" Around 5pm na ulit ako nag-text saying, "Just text when you are not that busy. Coz the last thing I want is saucy replies." He is out of town again and I am not sure what he is doing in Calgary again. Something is off about that guy's lifestyle. I mean, I understand that's his mom and sister (divorced kasi ang parents nya) but sometimes he travels 300 kms each way couple of times a week. Imma find that out. I know he has a son in that city too but it's kind of not normal. Unless it's job related.

I just found out nga pala that he has another son from another girl, who is now 6 years old. Pinay din ang mom...lol! He doesn't see the boy because they live in Winnipeg. Medyo lukaret din daw pero hindi kasing lala nitong last. So,  tatlo anak nya from 3 different mothers. Pinay ang una tapos Chinese then Pinay ulit. At mahilig pala talaga sya sa panget...lol! Nakikita ko kasi yung mga FB accounts ng mga Pinay na na-link sa kanya. Yung nanay ng daughter nya, panget din. I mean, hindi rin naman ako head turner...lol! Mas magaling nga lang ako sa kanila....hahaha!

[Apple1230]

^based sa kwento mo sis hindi pa naman kayo serious so i guess he doesn?t think he is doing anything wrong.

I met a guy thru an online dating app. We went out twice. He texts me everyday usually good morning lang.  We met dec. 23 and 26. After our second date the next day he texted me ?i miss you?. I didn?t reply coz i don?t know how to respond to that. Less than 30mins. Later he texted again saying ?sabi ko na nga dapat hindi ko na tinext yun. ?  i replied saying sorry i was busy need to finish my work.
 
It happened yesterday and today he didn?t text. I was thinking is he kinda needy or he is just not that confident with himself? It seemed like he is looking for validation. Any thoughts? Thanks in advance.

[kvandenhaak]

^He knew that I was offended by what he said.

Ay ganon, ang bilis naman nya...lol! Maybe he really likes you that much. Maybe he is already assuming na kayo na? Depende sa takbo ng nangyari sa inyo.

[angeljolie]

^Yikes! I know his past shouldn?t define him pero kung pati present nya ay malaking misteryo, hala run away fast!!! At lahat na lang ng na date nya ay lukring according to him??? Wow.

Bakit nga ba hindi na lang si Eric? Lol!

[angeljolie]

Sis Apple1230, gano na kayo katagal magkausap before you decided to meet in person? Kung sandali pa lang (like a week), contrary to what you think, he might actually be over confident. Baka inassume nya na you seem to like him naman so you can take it the next level na.

[kvandenhaak]

^Yung Chinese kasundo naman nya. Yung mga Pinay lang ang hindi and he didn't say all he dated, yung mga nanay lang ng anak nya. He said, he wished they were the good ones he missed out.

I know, right? Ang bata kasi ni Eric. Text ko nga.