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mysterioza_me

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #400 on: September 26, 2017, 04:55:59 am »
^^Yes sis LDR din kami. He came home nitong 1st quarter ng taon and stayed for a month. Next year na uli balik niya.

angeljolie

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #401 on: September 26, 2017, 09:12:47 am »
^I see. Buti nga kayo 1 month magkasama hehe. So you met online too?

^^Sis chiccn714 anong upbringing nya? Arab or Spanish?

mysterioza_me

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #402 on: September 26, 2017, 12:12:28 pm »
^Neighbors kmi, 3 houses lang pagitan namin but we never really had a conversation, not even once kahit sobrang tagal na namin magkapitbahay. Tapos yun nakapag-abroad siya, nauso fb and naging friends kami sa fb pero di pa din kami naguusap. Until one day bigla siyang nagchat via messenger and the rest is history. Bago siya umuwi ng Pinas kami na. Kaya yung first meetup namin nauwi sa SEB haha.

chiccn714

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #403 on: September 26, 2017, 01:37:41 pm »
^^Both! His Dad is a Muslim, Mom naman is Christian. He practices both religion. Hiwalay ang parents nya. Dati daw if he's with his Dad, brainwash sya to live according to their religion, tapos pag nasa Mom nya, ganun rin daw. Kaya napagod sya, he lived on his own na lang.

angeljolie

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #404 on: September 26, 2017, 02:10:06 pm »
^ and ^^ good luck mga sis! Ang sarap ng kinikilig noh? LOL

chiccn714

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #405 on: September 26, 2017, 02:50:34 pm »
^Slight lang.. Haha! Ang pabebe ng sagot noh? Thanks!

Lagi akong napagsasabihan kasi I overthink a lot, don't be stupid daw. Lol! He's travelling outside the country for work in a couple of days, gusto ko ba daw sumama. Edi wow! :o

angeljolie

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #406 on: September 26, 2017, 03:10:44 pm »
^Unfortunately, women tend to overthink talaga lalo na if there is some kind of commitment in the relationship already. Minsan naiinis ako sa sarili ko kasi recently ko lang sya inadd sa social media. Ngayong connected na kami, ang tendency ko binabantayan ko yung activities nya online, which I shouldn't kasi most likely ganun na ang activities nya bago pa kami nagkakilala.

I realized hindi ko sya dapat hanapan ng mali unless nagkukulang sya saken. Ako rin naman active (mas active pa ako sa kanya) sa social media at sa chat apps pero hindi naman mga boylets ang kausap ko hehe. I'm sure he communicates with his family, friends, and coworkers too. And definitely hindi sa iisang app. So ayun, dapat iwasan ko na ang pag stalk sa kanya online. LOL

kvandenhaak

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #407 on: September 26, 2017, 09:50:53 pm »
May update ako dun sa isang American who stood me up. Sobrang nakakatawa. I called the cops last night and told me to call RCMP, which I am going to do later on. Medyo busy lang sa work.

Girltalker2

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #408 on: September 27, 2017, 07:59:47 am »
^ umabot sa Rcmp? Hehe kwento!

@angeljolie, chccn and mysteriosa_me, sometimes it is inevitable to overthink especially if you've been hurt before.

Just think na the more you see him, get involved with him, the more vulnerable you can become.

Not that I've met my partner online, coz I met him through my colleague, so siguro mas marami at stake for me Kaya I think lagi. 100x ako nag isip before sleeping with him kasi ayaw ko Mamaya pag chismisan lang ako sa office na sleeping around.

The question always boils down to... worth it ba sya ng attention mo. Is he for real, for long term? Do you really know each other that well na such that both of you are committed na?

Idk, somehow, sa early stages, it is ok to mingle, date lang ng date. But once the thought of getting serious comes in, I still feel more at ease if you 'think' of things more thoroughly rather than just going with the flow.


Girltalker2

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #409 on: September 27, 2017, 08:04:49 am »
Sorry mods, the new GT face cannot quote, or edit... I even have to do trial and error to find how to delete my message...
Sana mabalik nyo sa dati.

Anyway @chccn - kakakilig naman going on a getaway for the first time. Sounds thrilling. But just be careful. Is he for long term na ba? Kasi if you're not yet committed with each other, baka mag end up kayo as fwb if you agree to accompany him sa trip nya without any promises/commitment from him.

chiccn714

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #410 on: September 27, 2017, 01:35:21 pm »
^Wala akong plano sumama sa kanya sis, may trabaho ako and I can't go on leave anytime.  ;)

Anyway, update lang. May nangyari na the other night, they day after parang iba na ang timpla. Clearly, alam na natin kung ano lang talaga ang habol. Lol! It's okay, he wanted, I wanted it, it's a win-win situation. Yun lang, I'm slowly detaching myself na.  ::)

mysterioza_me

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #411 on: September 28, 2017, 07:43:18 am »

@angeljolie, chccn and mysteriosa_me, sometimes it is inevitable to overthink especially if you've been hurt before.

True yan sis. Sobrang dami kong worries before na dumating na ko sa point  na ini-stalk ko socmed and messenger niya. Pero nung tumagal tumigil na din ako. Natutunan ko din na pagtiwalaan siya kasi wala naman akong nakita na kalokohan niya or pwede kong paghinalaan. Kung ano  siya before ganun pa din, mas sweet pa nga siya lalo after namin magmeet.

kvandenhaak

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #412 on: September 28, 2017, 01:12:45 pm »
Okay, mega Chika. Eto eh overlapping stories ng guy who stood me up, the guy I am currently seeing and the two bagets...hahaha!

So, si athlete muna. Kasi, like I said, in the other thread. He's having some issues with his ex na nanay ng anak nya. Since they have a child, he doesn't have a choice. He needed to get in touch with her on a regular basis. Now, the problem is palagi silang nag-aaway. I don't know the whole story but since I only heard partly his side, I won't crucify the ex yet. When it happens, hindi binibigay ang anak sa kanya which stresses him out too much. Two weeks ago or so, daldal ako ng daldal sa text tapos biglang di na sya sumagot. Eh ako pag ganon, di na rin ako nagti-text and even before ganon talaga sya. It never bothered me at all, kung kelan sya mag-reply saka lang din ako sasagot. Anyway, Tuesday to Saturday hindi nagti-text si mokong. Sunday, nagsalita na ako. I said, "Why are you such a friggin weirdo?"....in a joking manner.  He replied that he thought I was ranting. Kasi nililinaw ko lang na wala na talaga sila ni ex dahil ako kung meron pa sila, eh exit na ako. Ayokong maging kabit kahit di pa sila kasal...lol! Eh me away na pala sila ni ex that day. Overwhelming daw and he needed to hide from life...lol! One week na daw at that time na di binibigay sa kanya ang anak nya. So, he said if we could take it down a notch for now dahil wala daw sya sa proper mental state. I asked kung he meant  we're over. That's not what he meant daw, he just needed to calm down daw. So, okay lang sa akin. I mean, I am not bothered by it. I am more concerned about his stress than anything. Kalma lang ako sa aking turf ika nga.

Now, remember there's an American guy who stood me up before? Well, a couple of days ago I was cleaning my messages and like in Badoo kasi nga sobrang tambak na eh. Di ko na mabasa yung iba. Napansin ko, me thread of messages nga pala kami. I messaged him at nang-asar. What happened to him kako, namatay ba sya? LOL! Pero okay lang kako kasi I found a guy naman na. At saka prefer ko kasi ang locals talaga kasi ayoko namang mag-move out of the country, if ever. I wish him the best kako and all the chorvakels. Sarcastic ang reply. He said, "Seems legit. yet you log on here several times of the day. 20 minutes isn't  local?" which I replied, "Local means from here...Canadian. You're from Trumpland, isn't that what you told me?" Aba, nagalit. Racist daw ako. Ironic daw for someone who is an immigrant. Then he threatened me that I have extremist tendencies. He works as Border security personnel in the US side sa airport namin (diumano, but he sounds legit). No one says trumpland without repercussion and stuff like that. He will report me daw sa CBSA and will send my packet to homeland security. I said, I don't care because I know I am not a terrorist. He will add daw my name on the travel ban list...chuva eklavu. I said, "I have a niece that is an RCMP intern. I will ask her about our laws in online threats. He can find you no problem because I am sure there's not very may Americans, I assume that lives in that city who works as Border security staff." Hindi na sya sumagot after that...LMAO! g**o ba sya eh, citizen ako ng country na to. He is here on a working visa and that can easily be revoked once they found out that he is using his position to intimidate people.

Now, the two bagets. I still continue communication with Lucas.
Yung promdi na 26-year old. He's been asking me to hook-up with him kaso ayoko nga. Sabi ko, pag-iisipan ko (kunyari). Anyway, mature etong batang to eh. He is now studying to be a cop. Pinagalitan pa ako when I told him about the story. We were both betting idiots. BAkit ko pa daw kasi minessage so manigas daw ako. Reap what I sow daw but he said, the guy can't do what he was threatening me of. He was gonna get in trouble than anything else. I said he's right I should have not but sometimes, I am stubborn at mahilig mang-asar. Tigil tigilan ko na daw...LOL! Natutuwa ako though sa kanya, parang tatay kung makapagsalita....hahaha!

Now, etong MOMOL-mate kong si Eric. Nagkita kami kanina....lol! Biglang nag-text and asked if we can meet for a drive. Eh wala naman akong ginagawa so di okay lang. Tutal yung si athlete eh gustong magmukmok eh alanangan naman magmukmok din ako.? Tutal friendly date lang naman. At wala naman akong balak makipag-sex dun sa bagets. Nagpaalam though if he can get a kiss...which I gave. Cheater na ba ako ng lagay na yon? I mean, Gabriel and I are not really official yet. At least he hasn't really stated that we are. I just call him BF. Anyway, it was a lovely night. Nag-update ng mga pangyayari about our personal lives and stuff. Tawa ng tawa about dun sa American. And he gave me the advice na just give Gabriel the space he needed for now. Minsan daw talaga, silang mga lalake kelangan ng break from everything. Di daw kasi sila katulad ng mga babae na pwedeng i-take lahat. I was glad though I accepted the invitation. He looks kinda tired though. He works long hours kasi, para na nga raw syang zombie.  Tapos kinalong nya yung legs ko habang nagkuwentuhan. Kung di lang maaga ang pasok nya bukas baka ginabi pa kami. Kaso pinauwi ko na....LOL!

Shadow Angel

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #413 on: September 29, 2017, 07:48:36 am »
^wow ang colorful ng dating moments mo. Enjoy lang pag nakita mo na ang the one mo iba level din abg saya.

kvandenhaak

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #414 on: September 29, 2017, 11:20:54 pm »
^It's just interesting, di pa yan masyadong makulay...lol! But I am happy that I came to a comfortable state. Dati kasi, I take things a bit too serious. I learned and I enjoy it more.

Anyways, I said before that I will post the pics of some of the guys I met. So, I will  let you take a peek.

Vaughn - 43 years old, 6'2, 200 lbs. The guy I dated last year na babaero.
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Eric - 27 years old, 6'0, 190 lbs. My MOMOL-mate:
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Garret - 36 years old ,6'0 feet,198 lbs. Sya yung American. Note though that I did not meet him personally so who knows, if he is a catfish. But that's the picture in his profile.
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The current, Gabriel. Pag-iisipan ko muna. Pinay kasi ex eh. Baka subscriber dito...lol!

« Last Edit: October 01, 2017, 06:15:21 am by kvandenhaak »

mysterioza_me

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #415 on: September 30, 2017, 08:20:18 am »
^Ay infairness dun sa American, mukhang mesherep  ;D

amethyst028

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #416 on: September 30, 2017, 09:02:16 am »
^^enjoy ang online dating pag mga ganyan ang kausap.

Yun talaga ang key sa online dating, don?t take it seriously until you are sure na serious rin yung guy.

I did a lot of online dating for many years, even the father of my son i met him online.  Pero for me ( based on my experience)  mas ok pa din for me kung na meet yung guy not through online. Kasi pag sa online parang hindi sila matiyaga dahil alam nila if it didn?t work out they can always go back online to look for the next one. Even me nagkaroon na rin ako ng ganitong mentality. Na pag may ayaw ako dun sa tao or may ginawa na di ko gusto i dispose him na, then next guy na ulit coz in my mind ang dami pang iba diyan. And also mapapa isip ka since you met online na baka kahit kayo na he is still checking out and talking to other people online. I repeat this is just me based on experience.

Yung hindi ko na meet online sila yung talagang matiyaga. They will stop at nothing mapa sagot ka lang ng yes. Then pag kayo na he will stick with you like super glue. Kahit anong away or threat mo na makipag break di siya pumapayag. Talagang tiyagain niyang ayusin niyo whatever issues you have. Sorry may pinag da-daanan lang ako ngayon. Hehe!






kvandenhaak

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #417 on: September 30, 2017, 09:24:22 am »
^Ay infairness dun sa American, mukhang mesherep  ;D

But the temper is really scary though. Buti na lang di ko sya na-meet in person nor he knows where I live.

chiccn714

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #418 on: September 30, 2017, 04:30:54 pm »
^^^ Infairness kay Eric sis, gwapo! At may beard. ;)

Anyway, update lang. Last kwento ko dito is I'm slowly detaching myself since parang naiba na timpla niya ever since the night we had. Nabawasan kasi ang pagtext ni Kuya, di na rin nagsweet talk and parang back to buddy2 na. The other day tinanong ko na siyang diretso if FWB ba kami. He said he doesn't see us like that, and it's too early for us to have labels. Ako naman I'm not after the label, gusto ko lang malaman hanggang saan lang kami. I told him na I feel like he's been treating me differently ever since that night. Nag explain siya na he's been very busy with work kasi nga magttravel siya and he tries to talk to me every chance that he gets, wala naman daw nag iba sa pakikitungo nya sa akin. I'm overthinking na naman daw and I should grow up. Then he asked me if I'm looking to be in a relationship, sabi ko hindi. not now cause I'm a mess. Sabi niya.. 'Exactly. And I'm a mess and I know myself. But I'm on that level where something happened between us. I'm not gonna be seeing other girls nor will I be having s*x with others.'
Di ko alam if chika niya lang. Basta parang we came to an agreement na we won't be seeing other people. Di ko alam, naguguluhan rin ako.

A friend told me I should really stop overthinking kasi mas nagiging magulo. Also I should take into consideration na hindi siya pinoy, so their way of dating is different. Maybe si Koya is just taking it slow. Yun lang mga sis! Update soon. ;D

Girltalker2

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Re: Online Dating
« Reply #419 on: September 30, 2017, 06:58:06 pm »
@kvandehaak - Yung American naman for me parang may tinatago. Tama Lang Na Maging forgettable sya sa List mo.

@ chiccn, you're right also in detaching yourself from this guy. Seems he is just the typical guy *censored*.
Like normal dating, ang payo ko lagi sa online dating, eh Mas maging makilatis, especially if your emotions are getting involved Na, Kali pa if may intimacy Na.
With your personality, mukhang Hirap ka I-detach sleeping with no attachments. Kaya best not to sleep with anyone especially if wala pang commitment, at wala kang nakikitang future na 'kayo' Long term.
As a sister, usually sa mga dating - payo ko lagi - never assume, don't expect and don't sleep with him muna - that is, if you don't Want to be disapppointed.

Kapag wala syang Sinabi Na he loves you, he wants you to be his ONLY girlfriend long term, at walang agreement sa inyo, then by default, you're just Friends. No need to get confused. No need to ask. If nabawasan man ang messages nya sayo, that's how it is. Cannot expect more from him. Iyan sya. If disappointing, just move on at wala ka Na maasahan from him, unless he wants another session with you.

If you want to detach from him, best way is to date other men (but Not repeating these incidents - sleeping and asking status), and just ignore this guy.
If possible, teach him a lesson hehe. Ok din i-lead mo sya but never agree, mambitin ba? Buti nga sa kanya, let him chase you. The same way na pinaasa ka.

 

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